Why do you have a submissive character, and how is the submissive character developed?

Everyone's personality is related to the environment in which they grew up, all people have a sound personality when they are young, if they grow up in an inclusive environment, he can want to grow up to**grow to** very individual, but if he lives under high pressure, he is constantly trying to break through this shackle, but because he is too small, he has no ability at all, and he is like a long time. The flowers that grow in the glass jar are the same, after all, they can't grow out no matter how long they are, and they are limited to a very small situation, and after a long time, they will become a submissive character, this kind of character is good or bad, it all depends on what kind of person he meets in the future, and if he meets someone who can tolerate him, that is his creation.

The character of being obedient may be the one she has cultivated in the family environment since she was a child, just like this.

Why do you have a submissive personality? Because the submissive character is generally created and cultivated in the environment in which it was raised. The environment is the one who determines the character.

Some people have been deeply affected by the fact that they have no opinions, no ideas of their own.

Why do you have a submissive character, most of these people are relatively cowardly, and there are many tens, he is unwilling to fight, unwilling to go to acne and the like, and then likes to endure everything.

For the person I like, I always hope to torture the other person. Well, I think many people may have such a mentality, hoping that the other party will care about themselves.

There is that one who is obedient, and this character may have been cultivated from an early age.

The reason why there is a submissive character, that is, this person is very cowardly.

If the family education is too lax, teenagers will tend to be introverted, and they will be submissive, always avoiding things and lacking assertiveness! I hope it can help you, if you want to change, you need to slowly adjust yourself, type on your phone, and hope to adopt.

Saying no words when someone gives an order (whether right or wrong) naturally becomes a habit after a long time. But be careful, and stop the practice as soon as you find that you have become an ideal character, otherwise it is easy to backfire.

In my opinion, this question is a bit of a one-shot suspicion. I am a post-90s generation, and my parents' generation is indeed the mainstream of submissive character, and perhaps the education of that era was mainly influenced by the Confucian culture that has been passed down from generation to generation. The post-90s and post-00s have more diversified ways to obtain information, and I think it is precisely because many people lack the "bearing" to be submissive, and they make a lot of noise at every turn, play tricks with their parents, and tear up with their classmates.

There are indeed problems in China's education, I have seen many, many problems after four years of bachelor's degree in education and three years of master's degree in education, but China's education problems cannot be changed overnight, and there are too many social problems involved.

I feel that some of the answers are not what I asked, in short, there are children all over the world, which is due to various factors, not the basin that Chinese education should be on top.

Welcome to adopt, thank you!

Want to change. First of all, be sure to change your habits of thought. Don't always think about it, it's not a big deal, forget it, and patience will pass.

Do you think of yourself as a saint? Remember, you live in this world to be happy, not to be bullied, as long as it involves your little interests, you must fight for it on the basis of reason and do not give in. Don't let anyone influence you a bit.

You don't have to be afraid of him, everyone is the same, the more you bully you, the more you can get on, or you will have to be bullied for the rest of your life.

Secondly, be sure to improve your presentation skills.

When you encounter something angry, you must argue or quarrel with others, you are stupid and your ability to express is not strong, you will appear weak, if you are reasonable, you can break it out of one, two, three, others will also know that you are not easy to provoke.

Also, you have to curse when it's time to curse.

When you meet someone who doesn't make sense with him, don't talk so much nonsense, just scold him directly, and scold his crime with dirty words from beginning to end, if you usually look particularly quiet and cowardly, he will definitely be shocked at this time, but he may scold back. At this time, you must not hear him scolding you, you are weak again, you must not show weakness, honesty is honesty, but you are not afraid of him. Then scold him, don't stop, it's best not to give her a handle, and you can make him half angry.

Remember, when you scold, you must repeat his crimes, because there will be people watching the battle and watching you. You have to be reasonable, and don't show weakness, so that the onlookers will stand on your side, and the bullying and afraid of the hard will definitely not dare to provoke you when they see you like this.

The submissive personality is really a headache sometimes, because you are used to such a setting, that is, what others say, I try my best to meet other people's requirements, and then no matter how unreasonable others' requests are, you will still meet her. After forming a habit like this for a long time, when you reject someone once, others will think that they will say that they have changed, how can you be like this, that is, they will think that it is a mistake for you not to help him, but it is not a matter of course for you to help him. He won't be grateful, so I think it's very good that you have the awareness to change.

The second is to have your own opinions, after you learn to say no, you have to learn to have your own opinions, you have to learn to analyze this matter, and should I do these things? Why? He is not in line with my own requirements.

Then if you don't have an opinion yourself, then maybe this person can't make sense, and the next time someone else says it, you still have to accept it, so it's still very important to change the character of the uncle's submissiveness, you must stick to your own opinion, if you think it's right, then you insist.

It will be relatively simple and easy to change at the beginning, but once you form a habit, you want to change, you want to change completely, you want to change without being lazy, and it is very difficult to change this habit! If you make up your mind to change or not shift to the goal, you can always change

If I have this problem of going against the grain, as soon as my friends around me remind me, I will pay attention to it in my heart, pay attention to it in action (a little difficult), and not be said by friends casually (not easy to change my original intention because of my friend), no matter how much she says, I will listen but will not easily shake my original intention, damage my own interests to meet my friend's requirements (start to pay attention to it), try to distinguish her intentions when my friend speaks, and strive to protect the interests I should enjoy.

If you want to change, you have to start with the people around you, and be brave enough to make all kinds of chicken soup requests to you like that, and you should refuse directly, and don't leave room for change. Let them remember (with confidence) that you are not the one who will agree to all kinds of requests, do not try to change your mind, the first point is to prepare the plan according to the schedule, the second point is to implement it, have a sense of boundaries, and the third point is to try to decide their own things, refuse to interfere with others, and the opinions of others may only be adopted.

Fourth, it is already very good to have a plan to exercise your talents (including eloquence) in some aspects.

The fifth point is to insist on learning a thing with one mind and being proficient for a period of time, only with confidence and strength can we change our inferiority complex and change the character of going against the grain.

It's not good to be obedient to this character.,I won't talk about the shortcomings.。 How to change depends on your determination.

First of all, we need to understand the harm of this shortcoming, and accept it. Do you have to endure the pain that others give you, of course not! To be honest, I used to have this character, at that time I just thought that it was nothing more than some small things, and it was not a big deal, but usually we didn't care about it because of small things, and we would regret it when it was gradually troublesome, but it was too late by then, but fortunately I realized later that you are not necessarily willing to be good to others.

First of all, when we change, we need to start from small things, because we are all gradually getting used to small things, starting from small things to learn to be obedient, and then when things slowly become bigger, we will subconsciously feel that it is not a big deal.

So we have to learn to refuse from small things, and choose to refuse when there are some things like that in our lives, and don't put up with it anymore, don't think "what's this, it's not a big deal, why bother?" ”

But it's often like this, so that you can gradually get used to it, or say no at the beginning, don't wait and slowly not say no.

People who are submissive are usually not very good at saying no, so you have to learn to say no, Deng. Of course, it's not a blind refusal, some unreasonable requests are not good for you, and you will refuse until you get used to rejecting those things in the house. After the unreasonable thing, you are almost ready to get rid of this problem.

Of course, you can't give up easily in the future, there is one thing we need to understand, no one will sympathize with your concessions, they will only cruelly trample you under your feet, and even without any pity in their eyes.

Born in the countryside, I received the most education from a young age to be honest, and my parents also inherited the honest character of me, so when I treat others, I always treat people with the greatest kindness, and rarely speculate on others with malice. But when I entered the society, I found that not everyone will be sincere, and often when I tolerate it, others will gain an inch.

Of course, our duty to be honest is a very fine tradition, we don't need to throw it away, some people are honest since childhood, but after some blows, often the temperament changes, which should not be, what we also do is to learn to be flexible on the basis of honesty, don't be too honest in the face of things, otherwise that is weak, when you need to be tough, sometimes tolerate others as a good bullying object.

First of all, we must learn to refuse, honest people often do not know how to refuse others, when others make unreasonable requests, because of character and face, they may also agree to each other, in fact, this is not advisable. Learning to refuse is an exercise we must go through, when I was in the university dormitory, my roommates always asked me to help, and then they took my help for granted, if you don't help once in a while, it will make them have opinions, in the face of this situation, I gradually learned to refuse, when you refuse more, others are embarrassed to always trouble you.

Secondly, we have to become more confident, honest people always lack a little self-confidence, when facing others, they always hold the idea that more is better than less, many times because of lack of self-confidence, what others say should be done. When we become confident, we will be more confident when facing things, and we will dare to express our own opinions, rather than blindly following the opinions of others.

I've heard people say that I'm a bit submissive, soft persimmon.

This character flaw is, at best, casual, and can afford to let go, but at worst, he is a master who has no personality, no opinions, and resigns himself to fate.

Accustomed to compromise, accustomed to being rotten and classifying himself among the disadvantaged, holding the obsession that his arms will eventually not be able to twist his thighs anyway, he still tilted to the side that avoided the risks of repentance on the balance of pros and cons.

As an example, let's take some of the recent graduation-related events to ramble ......On what it's like to have a domineering mentor!

In today's society, everyone has their own ruler in their hearts, and the dimensions of measurement are different, and the direction of control is different. In the 10s of the 21st century, utilitarian values were so rampant, who still lacked that courage when walking the rivers and lakes? It's just that I don't want to cause trouble for myself anymore, this is an era that relies on strength to speak.

is like a sentence that Xiao Hong said in "The Biography of the Hulan River":

Those who came against the grain accepted it.

Things that come by the way, but never in a lifetime.

This is the helplessness of all the people at the bottom.

The character of cowardice and groveling should never be drawn on the horn of hunger. There is nothing wrong with people who are obedient when they encounter things, and they are always eager to protect themselves and look forward to eternal peace, and there is nothing wrong with that, and the difference in the way of doing things will definitely create a differentiated world. Cowardice is a sufficient condition for the formation of weakness, not a necessary condition.

You can say that a person is submissive, but you can't qualify that she is a cowardly character.

So, isn't it necessarily bad to go along with it?

In popular values, submissiveness always seems to be labeled as a derogatory term. In my eyes, I prefer to think of it as a neutral word. The importance of timing to a person's growth is always self-evident, and acting in a spirit may be the only way to survive in this world.

Writing this casually just makes excuse for my weakness.

You see, I'm resigned to it.