The personality has become very melancholy, pessimistic and unconfident

Why commit suicide at a young age Don't be so pessimistic Your parents like you so much and love you so much Your younger brothers and sisters are still young, of course, mom and dad have to take care of them more You are 16 years old You can take care of yourself You can go out for a walk and make more friends Learn more about your own favorite things It's not the age to talk about marriage It's too old to talk about marriage Learn to be tolerant Be generous Learn more Read books It's good for you and harmless Happy every day A bright future will be waiting for you!

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Actually, no, it's just that his values are more sad. Instill other values in him, instill in him desires, and instill in him a fast-paced way of thinking. Let him have more thoughts of being prepared for excitement, and he won't always be biased towards sadness.

First of all, one should understand what a pessimist is. Pessimist: Generally refers to a person who is pessimistic and disappointed about the universe, society, and life.

The pessimist does not believe that he has enough behavioral ability to bear and weaken the negative value and the adverse impact on himself, nor does he believe that he can make the positive value play a greater positive effect, he believes that the negative impact of mutual value on self-elimination will be huge, and the positive effect of positive value on himself is very limited, therefore, he only cares about the negative value of things, and does not care about the positive value of things. And the evasion of the maximum negative value is taken as the selection criterion of its behavior plan.

So it's not that pessimists tend to be unconfident.

1.When something bad happens, we need to attribute it objectively, and we must distinguish between God's business, our own business, and other people's business. We need to focus our attention and energy on what we can control and change, and increase our sense of efficacy and self-confidence.

2.It is necessary to get rid of the thinking of partial generalizations, some aspects are not good, do not over-deduce, feel that everything is bad.

Let go of partial generalizations and learn to think concretely.

For example, I haven't met someone I love yet, but that doesn't mean my life is a mess!

3.If you want to consciously attribute bad things to temporary, such as: I'm still single, but that doesn't mean I'll be single for the rest of my life.

5.We need to change ourselves, we need to let go of comparing ourselves to other people, we need to let go of comparing ourselves to our own highlights.

We need to compare ourselves to ourselves, to our most difficult moments, and through this conscious practice, you will feel a change in mindset. The more positive emotions and confidence you will feel, the more energy you will have to create the life you want with your actions.

However, freezing three feet is not a day's cold. The formation of our personality patterns takes a long time. Therefore, before there is no change, learn to face your true self, learn to accept yourself, learn to discover your strengths, love yourself with an unconditional positive and concerned attitude, start with a small breakthrough, and let yourself experience a sense of accomplishment one by one!

Self-identity. No matter what kind of person you are, there is only one you in the world, and you are the only one. The world needs you, although the world is very big, we are like a drop of water in the sea, but without a drop of water, where does the sea come from, existence is valuable, and your existence is meaningful to others.

Self-encouragement. Some introverts may have a sense of inferiority complex, inferiority is not terrible, since they can feel inferiority, it also means that they recognize their shortcomings, so we can choose to develop our strengths and avoid weaknesses, to find our own strengths and cover our shortcomings, of course, if you can, it is best to correct your shortcomings.

Self-criticism. Some introverts will be narcissistic on the contrary, that is, stinky beauty, and narcissism that does not show it is actually very scary, and if it is not corrected in time, it may slowly form a pathological psychology. However, after realizing this, you can turn narcissism into self-confidence, and extract some exaggerated elements of narcissism to become self-confidence.

Let go of yourself. Introverts are often a qualified listener but also on the word, often can not let go of themselves in interpersonal communication, since a person silently listens, this can be slowly changed, habitual things are indeed a little difficult to change, but I believe that dripping water through stones, there is always a successful day.

Hereditary temperament. People with a depressed temperament are always cautious and overthink. It shows the characteristics of withdrawn and unsociable behavior, and the personality will be more introverted.

Improper upbringing. Excessive spoiling will make it difficult for children to have the ability to handle things independently, and when they enter society, they will feel panicked, pessimistic and helpless.

Psychological trauma. In particular, the psychological trauma in childhood will reduce people's self-confidence, and it is easy to think in a pessimistic direction when encountering bad things, and even cause depression, which is often serious.

What about a pessimistic personality?

Learn to know yourself.

There is no superiority or inferiority in character, the key is whether you can face up to your personality and take positive actions to resolve the dilemma of pessimism.

Focus yourself on concrete actions.

Don't think about things that won't happen in the short term.

Assertive. Only by believing in yourself can you have a sense of steadiness.

Be open to change.

For pessimistic people, change means an unpredictable future, and there are hidden dangers that cannot be grasped. Tell yourself that there are so many earth-shattering things in life, as long as you calm down and do your best, it's OK.

Don't be sad, you have to know that no matter what you go through, you are growing. Less thought, more action.

Learn to cherish the people around you and give them more tenderness, because you never know which will come first, tomorrow or the unexpected.

There is one person who will never turn his back on you, and that person is yourself. When you are at the lowest point in your life, it is just a buffer, a place that you have to pass through to reach the highest point.

Spend more time with people and make more friends. Make positive friends. Listen to songs and watch movies.

Find a way to transform this character. Always remember this phrase. Less than the top is more than the bottom.

Every day I think about how many are not as good as mine. How many years are so young. Life is gone.

As long as you live, you have to be happy. Change the environment, or go out to travel and wait for the epidemic to pass.

In this case, you should pay attention, usually watch TV series, movies, have time to participate in more outdoor sports, group activities, it is best to participate in a group, let the people around you influence you, you can infect you, improve your mood, climb the mountain and swim, can make you feel comfortable, physical and mental pleasure.

If you want to open some, you can get by no matter what, as long as you have food and drink, you can go to Lali lively, and live one day at a time.

If you are pessimistic, you must find a way to change it, maintain an optimistic attitude, face life positively, chat with friends more, and participate in various outdoor activities, so as to change your pessimistic mood.

It is best to change your mentality when you are pessimistic, think about the positive and sunny side of things, and live positively and optimistically.

Since I was a child, when I went out to party, I watched some of them talk there, but I couldn't say a word while sitting there, one was because I felt that I couldn't find what to say, and the other was that I spoke with a very strong accent, and many times I couldn't hear clearly, and I would blush if I said it again, so I simply didn't say it, and after a long time, I became even less talking.

Optimism is a state of mind, mainly you can think from the good side of things, in fact, talk to friends for 10 minutes a day, you can change your mood, you will feel a lot better, communication can always make people happy, in fact, you get up every day, you can smile at yourself in the mirror, say that you will have a good start today, self-confidence, in fact, is to believe in yourself, if you want to be confident, then you must consciously exercise your interpersonal skills, be able to communicate with strangers fluently, and expand your social circleIn fact, you always like to think on the pessimistic side, there is a reason that you don't feel that you have nothing to do all day long, you can go to make your life full, look at the classics, look at **, you can expand your knowledge and don't have to think about it all day long. Please forgive me if I am wrong. Come on, I hope you are happy every day and confident every day.

Be positive and optimistic, don't think about things that have negative effects, focus on how you deal with them, think about or do something meaningful and positive, and forget the bad things in the past.

Yes, but it's not easy.

First of all, people will be pessimistic, which has to do with the way people see problems.

Under normal rationality, people can understand the meaning of attacking as defense and defending as work.

But when it's time to do it, it's often controlled by our sensibilities, so we can only use one of them.

And then pessimism is to look at the dangerous side of the problem first.

It's a habit. Before the age of 3, people are in the stage of establishing sensibility, and from the age of 3 to 6, they are in the stage of establishing self-control, which can effectively balance the pessimism and optimism of the closed nature before the age of 3.

But if 6 onwards, the characteristics of the personality appear. Pessimistic, optimistic, and subjective. Subjective people see and do in the same way.

Therefore, if an adult wants to change, he needs to see more optimistic things, and make more decisions about himself, and this is also related to the degree of things around him, and it takes 3 years to completely become a person with strong subjective consciousness. It also needs to cooperate with the environment.

In other words, if you can succeed in 3 years, either you are not very pessimistic, or the environment is very cooperative, and you are lucky to find a good environment. (Of course, 3 years is just a strategic value, and some people may be refreshed after just experiencing one thing).

Pessimism and low self-esteem can be changed, but the process can be long and painful, first start from socializing, try to change slowly, you can communicate with others more!

Regardless of whether your opinion is right or wrong, be sure to express it!

It can be changed, but it may take a little time. The key is to boost your self-confidence. If you are a student, do you read good books? If you are an office worker, then you do your job well and do it better than others.

The moon is round, and the world is round. But it's not the family who gets their wish. At this moment, I can't help but think of my father, who works far away in Shenzhen, and it is my father and his comrades-in-arms who are loyal to their duties and defend their families and the country, so that there is this beautiful and peaceful night.

Think about the father you admire like this beautiful moon selflessly dedicating himself to his post, hehe, why not be happy? The moon is round, the cake is round, take a bite, chew it with relish, and feel very good.

The pain of the past is irreparable, what you can do is to forget the past, and forgetting the past is to face your present life with optimism and a good attitude. Make every day you live happily now, and the pain of the past will naturally shrink. And to be a sunny person is a must, smile at the people around you, and face life.

Optimism is about thinking differently, for example, when you don't have shoes to wear, some people don't even have feet. So you're already in luck.

Now that you know your situation, go to a psychiatrist. I'm afraid I don't even know my own problems.

You should try to change yourself, otherwise life will be worthless.

Try to do this, and slowly it will get better:

1. The corners of the mouth are habitually raised by 15 degrees.

2. Be good at discovering small happiness.

3. Appropriately lower the standard of living.

4. Properly forgetful mind.

5. Choose your favorite profession.

6. Pressure resistance and blow resistance.

7. Be blunt to negative emotions.

8. Vent stress anytime, anywhere.

9. Thanksgiving.

10. Relaxed rhythm of life.

11. The mentality of mutual praise.

12. Be passionate about life.

13. Discover the good side of things.

14. Good at self-deprecation.

15. Appropriate Spiritual Victory Method.

16. There is sustenance beyond eight hours.

17. Don't have much ambition.

18. Both internal and external.

First of all, you have to be confident and believe that you are an important person and a good person. Secondly, don't magnify some small things, small unhappy things, and affect your mood, it's not a big deal, the sun is still bright tomorrow. Then go out, get out of your own knots, get out of your own ego, think that there are still so many people who have not solved the problem of food and clothing, you don't have to worry about eating and drinking, what is there to be depressed.

In the end, it is to help the more pessimistic people to be happy.

Talk to him more, have more contact with the outside world, and let him know that the world has everything, so why be pessimistic? Life always has to pass, why not live happily?

Find some inspirational books to read, and read more jokes if it's okay. Communicate more with others, and the pessimistic personality can be changed.

First, take a long-term view of the problem, knowing that difficulties are only temporary, and there are always more solutions than problems.

Second, we should look at the problem in two parts, and see the negative side as well as the positive side in everything.

Third, socialize and communicate with cheerful and positive people and learn from them.

Fourth, when you encounter problems, tell them to others, and get help, enlightenment or inspiration by the way.

Fifth, appropriate outdoor activities, sports, early to bed and early to get up in good health!