It s easy to fall in love and hard to get along with. It s hard to change people. What s next?

You don't have to have someone to love, but you have to love someone well!

When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime.

But sadly, in real life, people who truly love each other for various reasons may not be able to be together;

The one you love the most often doesn't choose you;

What loves you the most is often not what you love the most;

And the longest-lasting, it's not what you love the most, and it's not the one you love the most.

Only the person who appears at the most suitable time will really be with you forever!

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him (her), if you don't love him (her) anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him (her), you should want him (her) to live happily, hope that he (she) is with the person you really love, and will never stop it, if you prevent him (her) from getting real happiness, it means that you no longer love him (her), and if you don't love him (her), what right do you have to accuse him (her) of changing his (her) mind?

Love is not possession!

You love the stars, and it's impossible to take them down and put them in the basin, but the light of the stars can still shine into your room.

In other words, if you love someone, you can also have it in another way, so that the lover becomes an eternal memory in your life, and if you really love someone, you have to love him as he is, love his good, and love his bad:

Love his strengths and his shortcomings, and never want him to become what he wants because he loves him, and if he can't change, he won't love him.

You can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you just know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to be with you;

The real relationship is that the two can stay together in the most difficult situation, that is, without the slightest requirement.

After all, feelings must be given, not just wanted to be gained;

Separation is an inevitable test, and if your relationship is not stable enough and you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment.

When the two are in love, they like to make each other swear and make promises, why do we swear to each other, it is because we don't believe each other, we don't believe in lovers at all, and these mountain alliances and sea vows are very unrealistic.

The sea is dry and the earth is barren, but it can't change my love for you!

knowing that the sea will not wither, the stones will not rot, the earth will not grow, and the sky will not be barren;

Even if he could, he wouldn't live until then.

When making a promise, be careful, don't make promises that can be fulfilled, it is better to promise what you can't do, anyway, it doesn't matter if you can't do it, remember that "impossible promises are the most moving".

In love, one thing is said and another is done;

The speaker does not believe it, and the listener does not believe ......

Who have you met in the vast sea of people? Who met you again...

Many things are always experienced before you know that you can't afford to gain or lose. Just like feelings, after the pain, you will know how to protect yourself; If you are stupid, you will know how to persist and give up in a timely manner. Let us learn to give up, turn away before we cry, what we exchange for tears is not reliable; Let's learn to give up, bury yesterday in our hearts, and leave the best memories; Let's learn to give up so that we can all have an easier start for each other.

Holding on to it will only make you indulge in memories and pain and become sluggish. Let go of your hand and let it pass away with the wind of memory, you will find the other side of the sky, and you will revisit the fragrance of flowers in life and feel the warmth of the sun. Giving up is not evasion, not cowardice; Giving up is an open-minded attitude.

Think about it, how many people and things a person has to experience in his life, and if you don't know how to give up those things that have been lost and irretrievable, how can you grasp what really belongs to you? If you find that the only door in your world is no longer open for you, you don't have to linger in front of the door or hit your head and never wake up. Learn to give up, then turn around and look for a skylight that opens for you, where you can also see the stars.

It's easy to fall in love, it's hard to get along, it's hard to change others. It's easiest to adjust yourself.

At the beginning of love, they saw all the advantages, and each other hid their shortcomings, and the shortcomings could not be hidden over time, and the nature came out, and they wanted to change each other, but when they couldn't, it became more difficult to get along, in fact, it was even more difficult to change others, especially some educational backgrounds and family formation concepts and habits. But you can only rely on individuals to overcome it, and if others don't change, including your lover, you can't do it.

The meaning of this sentence is that it is not difficult for two people to love each other, but it is more difficult to get along with each other in life. This is because everyone has their own personality, habits, and lifestyle, and sometimes it is inevitable that there will be friction and discomfort. Even if you love each other, you need to go through a period of run-in and adaptation before you can really get along.

Loving each other is the foundation, but getting along requires more patience, understanding, and tolerance. In order to get along, both parties need to respect each other, understand each other's preferences and ideas, communicate fully, and resolve differences and contradictions. In addition, two people also need to develop some good living habits and ways of getting along together, and establish a relationship of trust and dependence between each other, so as to support each other in life and celebrate various difficulties and challenges together.

It's easy to fall in love and hard to get along with. "This quote expresses that in a love relationship, falling in love is a very easy thing to do, while getting along is an art that requires the joint efforts and understanding of both parties.

When it comes to falling in love, people tend to be attracted to each other's good qualities and ignore some details and problems in life. For example, the communication style, hobbies, living habits, values, and so on. These problems may not be exposed in the early stage of the relationship, but in the process of getting along, they will gradually surface and become a bottleneck in the relationship between the two parties.

In the process of getting along, both parties need to understand and tolerate each other, and constantly adjust and adapt in order to get through the run-in period and establish a stable relationship. This requires both parties to have enough tolerance and sincerity, continuous communication and reflection, and find the best way to solve the problem. At the same time, both sides also need to respect each other's opinions and decisions, avoid unnecessary quarrels and conflicts, and establish a good relationship of interaction and trust.

In short, falling in love and getting along are two issues, loving each other is just building a relationship, while getting along is the maintenance and development of a relationship. Only when both sides are willing to work together, understand and support each other, can we build a healthy, stable and beautiful relationship together.

It's easy to fall in love, it's hard to get along" is a phrase that aptly sums up a very important issue in relationships, that is, the difficulty of getting along. In our daily lives, we will find that even the most intimate relationships can lead to intense quarrels and conflicts. This is because each pick-up person is an individual with their own thoughts, needs, and emotions, all of which can affect how easily we get along with others.

First of all, people love each other in large part because they share common values, hobbies, experiences, goals, and so on. These factors make us feel understood, empathetic, and emotionally dependent on each other. However, in practice, these factors may become increasingly insignificant, as getting along itself requires more patience, attention, and understanding.

For example, we may find that our partner or friend is different from us in some way, with different emotions, behaviors, and expectations. At this time, we need to spend more time and energy to understand them, and at the same time, we need more communication and compromise.

Second, relationships are influenced not only by our own factors, but also by our surroundings. For example, in a work or study environment, we may feel more nervous, anxious, or competitive. These negative emotions can cause us to be more sensitive, emotional, and irritable in our relationships, which can make relationships more difficult.

In addition, the popularity of social networking has also made us more vulnerable to external interference, such as seeing the living conditions of others, making remarks and comments, and so on. This information may make us feel anxious, restless, or jealous, which can affect our emotions and behaviors with others.

Finally, building good relationships requires more effort and patience on our part than understanding and paying attention to the needs of others. For example, we need to constantly learn and improve our emotional intelligence, learn to manage our emotions and expressions, and respect the different opinions and behaviors of others. In addition, we also need to master more communication skills, such as active listening, expressing feelings, objective knowledge and analysis of problems, and so on.

Through these efforts, we will be able to build more stable and lasting relationships, where it is easy to love and easy to get along with each other.

To sum up, the phrase "it's easy to fall in love and hard to get along" is a very realistic and objective description. In modern society, it is indeed becoming more and more difficult for people to get along with each other due to various factors. However, as long as we keep an open and understanding mind, and work hard to learn and improve our emotional intelligence, I believe that we can definitely build better and more stable interpersonal relationships and enjoy true love and happiness.

I just saw a push article, the title of the article is "Shanghai revenge consumption is not coming, revenge divorce is coming!" 》。This is a bit of a headline party article.,I'll really want to click in and take a look.。

According to the Pengji article, there is no time to make an appointment for divorce in Shanghai.

It is not difficult to imagine how many contradictions have been brought about by the real "getting along day and night" in the past two months.

If it doesn't get to the point of divorce in time, maybe it will be breathless to be accompanied by such a close day and night.

During the lockdown, one day, someone in the group said that several of our neighbors were home alone, and they must have died of boredom for so long.

One person in the group replied "I'm not bored, I do", and then several people responded with "+1" one after another. This is "not easy to get along".

A little bit of literature and art, a little sad, thinking about this, I thought of a little poem.

I once longed for the desolation of the earth, where you and I are emotional, there are a hundred flowers blooming, but no, poetry and distance, are all drunk before the dream and clear yellow sorghum, after all, let the old rice dregs chaff".

The moment I read this poem, I felt like I was full of tears.

It's not that I'm drunk with dreams, or old rice bran. It's just that for a moment I feel that my youth and love will eventually come to an end, and then, I will enter an extremely boring state of life, and I will go on and on indefinitely.

We're all afraid of boredom, aren't we? We are even more afraid of seeing the people and relationships that were once the best, purest, and most unworldly to be placed on become real, complex, and full of bits and pieces after intimacy. The only meaning of this process may be to let us know that love is so beautiful because it is short!

It seems that there are many books, articles, or emotional experts who tell us that "you have to be a better version of yourself before you can have a better intimate relationship". Don't focus on your other half in life, be financially independent, give each other space, and have your own social, hobbies, and ......To put it bluntly, it is to learn to be "alone" first, and then learn to continue to be "alone" in marriage.

I've seen a lot of people around me who have mastered this skill. In modern society, even househusbands and housewives have their own life circles. Then keep just the right distance from your family. Suddenly, the safe distance is broken, and they have to be forced together, there will definitely be many, many problems! ～

Sometimes I often think that it is too difficult to get along. To be honest, I often don't get along well with myself, I will have repeated emotions, and I will watch takeaway apps while thinking about **; Will stay up late to make plans for tomorrow's early wake-up; I also eat ice cream when I have a stomach ache and then look for medicine everywhere. Knowing that these are things that are not good for you, your body will still do it.

You want me to think about everyone else, and I have to do it, um......I probably can't really do it. I love you, but I can't do it all. In other words, others do the same to you.

Wouldn't it be better if you thought about it this way?

Getting along is a difficult thing for Yihui to do, not for you or for him.

Focus on how to get along with others, it is better to try to learn how to get along with yourself, for example: if you have a stomachache, you will never eat ice cream.

Thinking about it this way, it doesn't matter so much if you don't get divorced or not! ～

It's not easy to fall in love! Who can be so promiscuous.

In our lifetime, we will meet the person you love the most, the person who loves you the most, and the person you spend your life with. First of all, you will meet the person you love the most, and then you will experience the feeling of love; Because you understand what it feels like to be loved, you can discover the people who love you the most; When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime. But sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person; The one you love the most often doesn't choose you; What loves you the most is often not what you love the most; And the longest, it's not the person you love the most or love you the most, it's just the person who appears at the right time.

How many people will you be in someone else's life? No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you; In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you. When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him, and if you don't love him anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem; If you still love him, you should want him to be happy, you want him to be with the person you really love, and you will never stop him, if you prevent him from getting real happiness, it means that you don't love him anymore, and if you don't love him, what right do you have to accuse him of changing his mind?

Love is not possession, you can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you just know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to be with you; The real relationship is that the two can stay together in the most difficult situation, that is, without the slightest requirement. After all, feelings must be given, not just wanted to be gained; Separation is an inevitable test, and if your relationship is not stable enough and you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment. So in the end, it is necessary to choose which one to believe in fate and let everything be.