The master of educating children came in to help

We will all encounter children's education problems in our lives, whether it is a bystander or our own personal experience, the following is how to educate children correctly.

How to educate children? What to look out for?

Change your own education methods You can't get used to your children Give your children the ability to survive in society in advance and excellent overall quality If you get used to him a little bit today, no one in the society will get used to him in the future, then he will be finished.

First of all, you have to let your child know that it is not that you can't play with your mobile phone, but you can't play with your mobile phone without moderation, you parents should be serious and serious to tell your child about the harm of playing with mobile phones, but it's not that you can't play, you can make an agreement with your child, such as finishing your homework, of course, it's the kind that you complete seriously, you can reward him for playing with his mobile phone for an hour, or the second kind of you can buy him a thing he wants or a place he wants to go if he doesn't play with his mobile phone for three days.

If a child is addicted to mobile phones for a long time, it will not only affect learning, but more importantly, in the long run, children's interpersonal communication, language, expression and other aspects of ability will be affected. Of course, parents should accompany their children more, take their children to participate in a variety of activities, experience various hobbies and specialties, find other things of interest in addition to playing with mobile phones, parents should work together to abide by some of the children's principles such as the rules and regulations, not give up halfway, and not open the back door, including other elders.

Be his friend, spend more time with him, and listen to your child more. Less blame, more abuse and beating, more caring, encouragement.

My son is 15 years old. Tell me about my personal feelings and thoughts, there are things I have done, and there are things that I have not done but regret not doing.

1. Parental education. The teaching of parents is not to preach and lecrate, which is the business of real teachers, but to teach by word and deed, and to lead by example, which is to say, parents are the first teachers of children. Raising is to raise, let the child grow up healthy and healthy, let the child develop a good habit, don't overdo it.

As the old saying goes: the poor raise their children, and the rich raise their daughters.

2. Treat children correctly. Encouragement is the main thing, 90%, and criticism is supplemented, 10% (this proportion is my principle, for reference). Encouragement and affirmation, of course, is the right thing for the child to do, which requires parents to pay attention to the child and dig out the good aspects of the child, which helps the child choose the right path.

Criticism is also essential. A child must be a child after all, and there will always be times when he does something wrong, and at this time, he must be criticized. When criticizing, you must pay attention to one point, be serious, don't talk about it in passing, be sure to explain the reason, so that the child knows clearly.

When criticizing, if the child is too stubborn and refuses to listen, then he must let him know that he is uncomfortable, of course, not beating and scolding, but to deal with it coldly, such as ignoring him, he wants adults to do it, adults do not give satisfaction, and so on. Also, don't be afraid of your child crying, because it is better to cry for a while by criticizing your child now or making her uncomfortable appropriately than to spoil your child now and cry with an adult in the future.

3. Do a good job of coordination. Parents should do a good job of the elderly on both sides, when criticizing and educating the children, the elderly must be heartbroken and protective, but they must not give the child this feeling, even if I do something wrong, it doesn't matter, you can't do anything to me, because there are grandparents or grandparents covering me. If the grandparents or grandparents do not listen, then the parents should not relax at this time (when criticizing and educating the children), and even if they offend the elderly, they must also be disciplined.

In this way, the child's impression will be deeper.

4. Handling of theft incidents. It is recommended to treat it coldly, that is, the child should criticize and criticize harshly; Parents go and apologize to each other's parents (I believe this should be a good solution, because it must be the child); Ask the teacher and the other parent to help keep it confidential and not publicize it; Teachers should pay attention to their children's movements in this regard, and parents should always check their children's bags, whether there are any unfamiliar items to bring home, where they came from, and so on.

FYI.

I don't think it's a very good idea.

It will cause psychological shadows to children.

The child is too spoiled, and it is not enough to let the child change through such a lesson, the real change is to let the relatives around the child.

Don't spoil children so much.

If you don't have an idea, you should write a review, but after you write it, let him keep it in the room by himself as a reminder. Privately, you should apologize to the stolen classmates, so that he knows that he is wrong and should be held responsible. It is necessary to communicate with the child to reach a consensus, so that he understands that not to disclose is not the right thing, but I hope that he will not be burdened with the burden of being ridiculed for "stealing" for a lifetime and not being able to raise his head and be a human being because of his past mistakes.

It's only the fourth grade, life is just beginning, I don't know much about things, as a relative, I have to lead by example, and slowly guide him to re-learn from now on, (there is nothing difficult in the world, only afraid of people with hearts) I believe that in the end your efforts will not be in vain.

If there are relatives in the countryside! I think sending children to the countryside for a while will definitely change!

Make a rule, like Xiaoxin's mother.

It's a bit ruthless indeed. Settle it with that family in private. Then it's better to boot it slowly.

There is a price to pay for doing wrong things, and there are mistakes to be corrected, and the landlord is right in these views.

However, in terms of method, it does not need to be so public, and it should not be labeled as "stealing" or "being a thief".

Don't apologize in front of the whole class, but you can use the teacher to make a ritual in the presence of both parents to let your little nephew learn a lesson (and suggest that the stolen classmate should not be present, after all, it is to educate the nephew, not to publicize the matter).

I don't think this is going to work, I have to let him remember it for a long time, otherwise he will do it again next time.

There is also a fundamental solution, don't spoil your children too much, or educate them well, otherwise you won't be able to grow up...

At this stage, the education of the child's parents is crucial, the child becomes such that the parents are responsible for the greatest responsibility, and the mistakes made by the children are actually the mistakes made by the parents, and in this way to punish or educate the children, it is also for the parents. It is absolutely not advisable to be unwise. With the right guidance, who will go the wrong way, punishment is the last way to do it, there is less good and more harm.

You can't check in front of your classmates, if he's older, it's okay, it's still too little, it will make him feel that he can't hold his head up in front of his classmates, and educating the child should still focus on persuasion, as long as he realizes his mistakes, it can't be too much!! Parents should communicate more with their children, which is the fundamental ......

I don't think this way works, do you think if it were you, would you accept it? Will the child be isolated in the future? After all, China is not a foreign country, and the ideas are different, so the method can be used for reference, but it cannot be copied.

Since no one knows, settle it privately. It's okay to write an inspection, then apologize in front of the teacher and the other party, and write a letter of guarantee that will not be like that in the future. Scolding is definitely not good, and it is not suitable for today's children.

The child's rebellious psychology is very serious, and it is recommended to use educational methods to teach him to be a man, teach him to be honest and trustworthy, and teach him to be friendly. You must be well educated for a long time, and you can't get used to it anymore! Parents should also set a good example, they can't follow their children in everything, and they must respect and treat him like an adult.

Don't always treat him as a child who can forgive everything, let him take responsibility for what he does.

1. Teachers and students should be equal.

The child is handed over to the teacher, which constitutes the teacher-student relationship, and the teacher-student relationship is an equal relationship, and the teacher provides the student with education in knowledge, psychology, health, and behavioral habits. First of all, students should respect teachers, students should learn all aspects of knowledge from teachers, and also rely on the training of teachers, students do not respect teachers, then parents should find a teacher worthy of students' respect, find a school with such a teacher to receive education. At the same time, teachers should respect students and not discriminate against them.

Second, parents say such things not to let teachers really hit their children.

When parents say this, they just show an attitude, a kind of trust in the teacher, and a kind of respect for the teacher. It is also a kind of relationship with the teacher, if the child makes a mistake and believes in the teacher's handling, the parent will stand on the same position as the teacher.

3. Teachers are not allowed to hit children.

When parents say this, how do teachers respond? I think what parents want to hear most is not "Don't worry, I will discipline your child well, if the jade is not cut, the child will not be able to teach, if it is good to say no, I will repair him"; What parents want to hear may be, "Parents, please rest assured, we will not beat your children, your children are very good, after school education, they will be able to become useful materials in the future, please communicate with teachers more, we will work together to educate children into the pillars of the country."

4. What should I do if my child makes a mistake?

We have all been children, and we have all made mistakes, and as teachers, as parents, we cannot beat and scold children. We should find out the motivation of the child's mistakes, figure out the situation at the time, analyze the reasons, according to the characteristics of the child, find the most conducive to the growth of the child, the least blow to the child to solve, to let the child realize that he is wrong, parents should be more careful in this regard, a class of 60 students, there are teaching tasks in class, teachers may not be able to find every child's problems in time, of course, in the classroom, except for what happens in self-study, back home, just a child, Parents can quickly find out what is wrong with their children, ask about the situation, communicate with the teacher in time, and solve it in time.

When asked if she and her husband had any disagreements on the issue of raising children, Helen told me decisively: "There are no disagreements. "It's great for the child, because the child doesn't have to struggle between the two views of education, and at the same time, the child has no loopholes to exploit.

But it's hard to do without disagreement. On the issue of the generation gap, Helen believes that there is no generation gap between them and their children, except for the difference in the choice of playing computer games, there is no generation gap. It's just that the children's grandmothers don't particularly understand some of the behaviors they educate their children, but Helen thinks that this is not a generation gap, but just a different way of looking at the problem.

For example, my grandmother advocated sending her children to private schools, but she and her father agreed that public schools were good, and that the key was to learn good things, not what kind of school they were. Grades, hobbies and expectations Helen still pays more attention to her children's test scores because "it also reflects the child's mastery of knowledge." If my child does not have a satisfactory test score, I will work with my child to find out the reason, and if necessary, I will also contact the school to find out the reason for the unsatisfactory score.

As for the cultivation of children's hobbies, she said that she basically does not interfere with them. The eldest son, Tom, is quieter and likes to draw on the computer, and does not like to play outside. The youngest son, Alex, just likes to play, playing outside and going to his classmates, so I can't see what hobbies he has.

She didn't deliberately cultivate children's hobbies, since it was a hobby, as long as there was no harm, as long as they liked it, they would be fine. Helen thought for a moment about what he hoped for the future, and then said, "The eldest son would love to be an artist, but maybe he will change his mind later; My youngest son is still too young for me to think about his future, and I just hope they can do better in school.

What parents expect from their children, Helen said: "I hope that their future career is not the kind of career that just makes a lot of money, but I want them to enjoy their work and do it successfully." If they don't know what is better for them, then after school, they can take a break and think about what to do.

But no matter what they do in the future, it is important for the present to teach children good behavior and manners. What every parent needs to do As a mother of two, what does Helen herself think is the most successful in educating her children? Helen said

My success is to encourage the children, to listen to them, to know what they are thinking, and to make time for them. Finally, as a parent, always make sure your child is on the right track! View the original post

I have a lot in common with my noisy approach to education and theirs! In terms of scores, hobbies and expectations, and what every parent needs to do, and disagreements, and generation gaps, there are basically no of these three aspects, and my approach is the same as what Helen did, and I think the same! Since my child is still young, I haven't figured out how to educate him about sex education and the Internet!

There will be no problem when I think of everyone in the cheat to help! View the original post