How to mediate conflicts between children

Ask clearly the cause of the conflict, and let whoever is wrong correct it.

It is best to pay attention to the development of the situation between the children, do not interfere too much, and let the children solve it by themselves. After all, parents are afraid that the danger of turning small things into big things will affect the stability of the friendship boat between children.

First: Give the child the right leadership and clear the mind.

Second: Educate them to know how to care for and be calm with others, and be a good child who is sensible.

Children are gradually sensible, and dealing with conflicts with children can also be regarded as a sign that they are growing up, and early intervention by parents is not conducive to the deepening of children's friendship, so as parents, we still put the first first. Once it is found that the situation is uncontrollable and the war may escalate, parents need to intervene to stop the war in time, turn hostility into peace, and educate their children to get along with each other.

Let whoever is wrong admit and apologize, and then let the child shake hands and make peace, and then let them go and play together.

Teach children the ability to judge right and wrong, explain the reason clearly, and then reward and punish clearly.

I once encountered such a thing, after two children had a dispute, both parents came to school and even fought. And when the parents on both sides fought inextricably and their heads were bleeding. I saw the two children running together again and playing games.

This image is worth reflecting on for parents. Due to the young age of the child, the conflict is only temporary. Whether it is a junior high school student or an elementary school student, they still care about the feelings of their classmates. ‍‍

In the process of living or studying, there are some other small contradictions. Personally, I think that in study and life, if there is a conflict between two classmates. As a parent, you must first believe in your child and believe that the teacher can handle the conflict between the two children. ‍‍

Many times parents will say that their children's affairs should be solved by themselves, and parents should not interfere easily. In fact, this matter depends on the situation, and it stands to reason that parents will settle down for their children, and do not quarrel or fight with classmates.

I think that the contradictions between children, parents should deal with them calmly and rationally, and should deal with them from the perspective of cultivating a healthy personality of children, no matter who is right and who is wrong, they should take the method of encouraging and scolding their children, if their children are not right, they can not be biased, let alone scolding roughly, but should criticize education, let children realize their mistakes, and apologize, and educate children to be a good child who is united and friendly, polite, brave to take responsibility, and knows that mistakes can be corrected; If your child has been wronged, you should also seriously analyze the facts, and parents should affirm the child's behavior: "You are right, you are civilized and reasonable, you have done better than him, I am proud of you, although he beat you, he also regrets it, the teacher also criticized him, we are not angry and forgive him." "Parents' affirmation can make children lose their grievances and generate pride.

This sense of pride is even more important for children who are cowardly and timid.

When parents are desperate to resolve conflicts between their children, they don't know that we are depriving children of their socialization functions. When children solve problems in their own way, they will better facilitate their interactions with each other, and their social skills and personal skills will be greatly improved, allowing them to learn to understand, negotiate, compromise and cooperate.

Children who are already in school have their own thinking, and when there is a conflict between them, they should have their own standards to negotiate and finally find the right solution. As parents, we need to pay attention to the direction of the situation, so that parents on both sides start to be anxious and worried before the children have a conflict.

When a child makes a mistake, parents can help him buy some candy and snacks and let the child apologize, which works very well, and I have tried it many times.

Conflict handling between children can be handled by following these steps:

1.Supervise and understand the situation: As parents or teachers, we need to monitor and understand the conflicts between children, including the specific content of conflicts, the personality of the children involved, and the patterns of conflicts that often occur.

2.Encourage communication: Promote communication between children so that children can communicate with each other in an equal and friendly way.

3.Teach children how to solve conflicts: Children can be taught how to solve problems through simulations and case studies, such as guiding children to understand each other's opinions and feelings, express their thoughts and feelings, and find solutions to solve problems.

4.Give positive feedback: Giving affirmation and encouragement when your child shows positive communication and problem-solving can help strengthen your child's confidence and motivation.

5.Intervention and mediation: If the conflict between children affects the order of the school or family harmony, parents or teachers need to intervene in time to actively help the children solve the problem.

Dealing with conflicts between children requires patience, listening, and care. Through appropriate methods and mediation, children can be promoted to live in harmony with each other, and at the same time, children can learn to solve problems on their own.

In the face of ordinary conflicts between children, it is still necessary to have specific problems and specific analysis, and cannot be generalized. First of all, parents should understand the reasons for the conflict, and if the matter is not serious, encourage the child to solve it by himself or guide the child to solve it, such as asking them to use their own rules to apologize or be humble to resolve the conflict. Children grow up in the process of occurring and resolving conflicts, and parents should not intervene in everything, so that it is easy for children to feel that adults can solve them, but he can't.

In the face of "fights" and "disputes" when children play, parents must treat them reasonably, "maneuver" correctly, and try to do the following:

1. Children's behavior often lacks proportion and strength, parents should educate their children not to hit people at will, do not hurt people with sharp weapons, do education in front, and prevent it from happening, so as not to cause a tragedy.

2. Regardless of whether the child is beaten or beaten, parents should carefully find out the cause and then deal with it separately. Don't just watch your child do it, just talk about it. It is also possible that the child was bullied by others first, and then he succeeded.

3. When you understand that your child is at fault, you should educate your child to be brave enough to take on the mistake, apologize to others, and strive for forgiveness.

4. Parents must remain calm, even if the child is the bullied party, they should not attack savagely. Because the child is watching you from the sidelines, what you do at this time will affect his behavior in the world, and some will even affect the child's future future.

5. Don't interfere too much in the affairs between children, if the things between children are not very serious, they should still be solved by themselves. Parents can show him the way and tell him the pros and cons, but as for how the child does it, it is up to him.

How should parents deal with conflicts between children?

1. Calm down emotions and encourage children to solve problems by themselves Many times, when there are conflicts between children, especially when they feel that their children are being bullied, parents are easy to lose control of their emotions, so it is difficult to think calmly, let alone solve problems. Therefore, when parents encounter such problems, they must first calm down their emotions, and in addition, they should also calm their children's emotions, and figure out the ins and outs of things through children's telling or other means, and think rationally.

In addition, parents should play the role of a guide, not a judge, in the process of solving such problems, and guide their children to solve problems on their own, otherwise they will only make children more and more dependent on themselves.

Therefore, after understanding the truth of the matter, parents should guide their children to find out the reasons for the conflicts between them and their respective responsibilities, and then encourage the children to think about ways to solve the problem on their own.

Second, if parents need to communicate calmly, there are some contradictions or problems, which may be beyond the scope of what children can solve on their own, and communication between parents is needed at this time.

At this time, parents need to pay attention to their words and deeds and avoid causing new conflicts. Moreover, parents on both sides should not have the psychology of favoring their children, let alone listen to their children's one-sided words, but should resolve the contradictions between their children from an objective and fair perspective.

In addition, if parents need to communicate, they should do so in private, and should not make public theories and quarrels in the class group, otherwise it will only cause greater adverse effects, and even intensify conflicts, and will also cause difficulties for their children to integrate into the new group in the future.

3. Teach children some communication skills, the main reason for conflicts between children is that some communication skills cannot be mastered well, as parents should strengthen their children's ability in this regard. Parents should always educate their children: to maintain friendship with other friends, don't be self-centered in everything, after all, it is necessary to often study and play with these friends, and dealing with these relationships can make children more physically and mentally happy.

In addition, parents should also set some rules for their children in ordinary times, such as being polite when talking to their friends, not messing with other people's things, and treating their friends sincerely.

Fourth, we must learn to look at problems from the perspective of children Children's thinking is still very different from that of adults, and parents should learn to look at the contradictions between them from the perspective of children.

For example, many times, the contradictions and conflicts between them seem to be very serious, and the two of them may become intimate again every other day or a while. Therefore, when there are some minor conflicts between children, parents should teach them to take the initiative to apologize and use appropriate language to resolve the conflict, and not to try to get the upper hand in everything.

It is normal for children to have conflicts with each other, and as parents, we must play the role of guides and helpers to let our children.

Dealing with conflicts between children requires certain methods and strategies. Here are some suggestions:

1.Listen and understand: As a parent, you should listen patiently to your children's conflicts and complaints, and understand their feelings and needs.

2.Equal Negotiation: Encourage children to negotiate and solve problems on an equal footing, so that they can learn to compromise and reach consensus with each other.

3.Teach conflict resolution skills: Teach children how to express their thoughts and feelings, how to listen to each other, and how to find solutions to problems together, such as through communication, negotiation, compromise, etc.

4.Guide children to recognize the feelings of others: Help children develop empathy skills, so that they can see problems from the other person's perspective and understand the other person's feelings.

5.Encourage good behavior and cooperation: Give children timely positive feedback on cooperation and problem-solving, and encourage them to develop cooperation and team spirit.

6.Charge and guidance: If the conflict escalates, parents can appropriately intervene and guide them separately, but do not favor either side.

7.Provide appropriate rules and structure: Develop some age-appropriate rules and rules to help children establish order and discipline and reduce the chance of conflict.

8.Develop problem-solving skills: Teach children how to face problems and find solutions, develop their independent thinking and problem-solving skills.

9.Enrich children's hobbies and learning: focus on more meaningful and beneficial activities, and reduce unnecessary conflicts and quarrels.

10.Lead by example: Parents should set a good example for their children through their own behavior and the way they deal with conflicts.

Through the above methods, it can help children understand and resolve conflicts, cultivate their sense of cooperation and problem-solving skills, and promote their good interpersonal relationships and development.

1. Try to stay sane.

When there are some small conflicts between children, parents should remain rational and find ways to help their children solve the problem, rather than escalating the problem.

If the child is bullied, parents can not blindly blame each other, but to find the reason for the child's conflict, rationally negotiate with the other party's parents, and do not miss the problem to do something, not only can not solve the problem, but also add new problems.

2. Try to leave it to the children to handle it themselves.

If it is your child's fault, guide the child to apologize; If it's another child's fault, let the child talk to his classmates and let the child solve it himself.

If the conversation between the children is unsuccessful, the parents will negotiate privately. If parents can't negotiate with each other, ask the teacher to mediate. In fact, there are many solutions, instead of group fights, meet and fight Taisho.

3. Do not make concessions on issues of principle.

Once your child is bullied, it is a matter of principle, and the child's safety and physical and mental health are threatened. Parents should contact the school teachers in time to avoid physical, mental and spiritual harm to their children.

How do parents deal with conflicts between children?

1. Parents should not be emotionally substituted.

There is a story about a child having a conflict, and the parents began to scold each other after the emotional substitution, but when they looked back, the child had already reconciled, and invited each other to play at home as a good friend.

Indeed, children are simple-minded, do things in trouble, will not have other thoughts, laugh when they grab toys, cry when they can't grab them, and continue to play with their friends after crying. So when there is a conflict between children, parents should be calm, not impulsive, and do not stimulate conflicts.

2. Parents should not intervene at will.

Children are very powerful psychologists, very good at observing words and feelings, and parental intervention will disrupt the order and rules between children. Many children have performed in the case of parental intervention, and parents can give encouragement and guidance when they remain calm.