How do you get along with a nervous mother in law?

Updated on society 2024-03-08
38 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Since you are married to your husband, you are a family, judging from your mother-in-law's behavior, she does not regard you as a family member, and your husband does not take care of your feelings, and chooses to help his mother, although filial piety is the first, but it is not blindly to help parents make mistakes, you are talking about his mother's treasure man, that is, this person is very weak, and there is no way to help you in your difficulties, from the above problems, you already have children, it is not recommended that you divorce, so you should move out to live, since you can't afford to provoke, Then stay out of the way.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to deal with, and the husband needs to reconcile in the middle. Whether you can reconcile well depends on your husband's emotional intelligence.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    How to get along with a nervous mother-in-law, well, want to be nervous. Mother-in-law should be careful when getting along, and keep a distance Well, don't say what you shouldn't say, well, it's better to do what you can do yourself.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It is not recommended to get along directly, and if you can live together, you will not live together. If you have to get along, just like a normal person, of course you have to be tolerant. Don't look for a husband if you can solve it yourself, and your husband who can't solve it by yourself shouldn't be able to solve it either.

    In short, don't pull your husband in, otherwise the conflict will escalate.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    My mother-in-law is also a psychopath, every day to serve her feces, urine, bath, cook and have to endure her bad words, I never dare to let my parents come to my house, I am afraid that they can't stand it, whose daughter is so wronged and her parents can't stand it, if her husband can understand and comfort more, it will be better, otherwise I really can't go on!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You, since you know that your mother-in-law is sick, you can only treat her as a child, don't worry about anything with her, let her go with everything, you just need to give your bedroom door to your favor. Generally, if she has this disease, her family will still not be willing to send her to the hospital, if it is too outrageous, she still minds sending her. You go to see her often.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Why are there so many neuropathic mothers-in-law, they are all **, you must have known the truth after marriage.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    If your mother-in-law were your own mother, how would you treat her, so that you can think differently and see if it is different.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Ask the doctor to see your mother-in-law, cure the disease, and everyone get along.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    My mother-in-law also can't get along and is a little mentally ill. Frequent swearing.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    You don't have to treat her as a human being. Treat yourself as crazy.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Chapter 33 The hands and feet are small, the lips and tongues are small, and all kinds of big promises are tart, and the 34th episode is in love, because of the emotional sister, and the wrong brother is persuaded by mistake.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Care more, take care of her more, talk to her more, say more considerate words, and accompany her with your heart!

    In short, you treat her as your real mother, everything is relieved, and you know what to do!

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    I'm in the same situation as you now My mother-in-law is sick and comes to live It's really terrible You serve her well but you come out of nothing every day to mess with our lives Now our originally happy family is about to divorce I have suffered too many grievances My husband is stupid and filial and never protects me I'm tired.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    You take care of it more carefully, some depression is often caused by closing your heart, if you have time, take her to the park for a walk, you should learn to understand her more, you shouldn't complain, you have to believe and believe that love can be good for her!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    If you are sick, treat it quickly.

    This will make a good home yellow.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    What is your husband's attitude.

    Why did your mother-in-law move in with you?

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    To be honest, your friend's in-laws treat her like that, and if her husband really treats her like that, then I think their relationship as husband and wife is beyond necessity. As a husband, you should be considerate of your wife and love your children, if he doesn't understand you, take care of you, or even abandon you when you are pregnant with his child, then I think this person is very derelict in his duty, or inhumane, unworthy of being a husband and even less worthy of being a father.

    You should persuade her that if her husband keeps treating her like this, it is best to divorce as soon as possible, beat the child, and leave the child only to remind herself of the pain of the past, which can only be sad! It's not easy to find a partner to get married in the future, in addition, you worked hard to raise him, not to mention tired, in the future, you will have to sue him for raising the child or something, you have been entangled, how painful, even if you don't need him to raise you, one day the husband may come to recognize the child on a whim, then the child you raised with hard work has become your enemy, how much hate? So it's better not to do it, why drag yourself down, you have been miserable before, and you should learn to be happy in the future.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Measures to improve the "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship".

    1. Change of cognition: A good "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship" is related to three people - mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, and son, and it takes the efforts of three parties to manage a harmonious family relationship. Taking the "mother-in-law relationship" as a reference, the key to the quality of the "mother-in-law relationship" is generally better than that of the "mother-in-law relationship".

    The mother-in-law treats her son-in-law as her own son (at least half of the son), and the daughter marries less of the loss of her daughter, but feels the intimacy and happiness of having more sons. This is a distinction from the mother-in-law's mentality. The deeper your wife's love for her husband, the more accepting her mother-in-law will be, and if she has not accepted her mother-in-law, it at least shows that your love for her husband is not mature and deep enough.

    2. Mother-in-law's mentality: treat your daughter-in-law as your own daughter, don't have the distinction of "other people's girls", get along with her with the mentality of treating your own children, and all problems will be solved.

    3. The mentality of the wife: take care of the mother-in-law as her own mother, and try to understand the character or other shortcomings of the elderly. At the same time, when there is a conflict with your mother-in-law, don't make the "low-level mistake" of "fighting for a husband" with your mother-in-law.

    No matter how much your husband loves you, you can't replace her mother's weight. Moreover, you can only be his wife, not his mother, and in that case, your marriage will be in danger.

    Fourth, the son's mentality: he is a "diplomat" who mediates the "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship". There are many "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships" caused by "stupid sons".

    If the "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship" has natural sensitive factors, then the role of the son in the relationship and the function of coordination and consultation are more and more precious.

    5. "Don't remember the overnight feud": Once there is friction between "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", it is the key to deal with it immediately, communicate directly, take real feelings as the starting point, and establish an effective conflict handling mechanism. Some "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships" started well, but later friction was hidden in the heart, forming a "cold war" between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the damage to family relations was huge.

    In a nutshell, the "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship" is not a beast, but a family relationship between two generations, which can be improved by human efforts. No matter what happens, there is no right or wrong, and there is no need to investigate right and wrong, all discordant factors are played by human psychology, and they can also be resolved by wisdom.

    For the sake of a happy home, let us all learn to be wise mothers-in-law, wives and husbands!

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Remember, you have to treat your mother-in-law as a best friend, and you have to talk to her often, and talk to her until she has a good time, and her relationship with you will be better.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Don't give birth to children!! If the child is not good in the future, how can your friend do things with peace of mind???

    Don't blame adults for being selfish, why did people come to this world? If you can't bring happiness to yourself, how can you bring pain to yourself?

    I also have a friend who is in such a dire situation right now. Her child is only 1 year and 4 months old. She thought about divorce, but when she mentioned the child, she burst into tears.

    You persuade her well. Don't do anything stupid. The kid did. Live again. Get out of that man! Who says women have to rely on men to get by?

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    The key depends on how her husband treats her, if she has no special fault, it stands to reason that her husband has no reason to kick his wife and children out of the house (unborn children are more important). So she still has to find a way to ease the relationship with her husband first, and then deal with her mother-in-law.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    This woman is too weak, right, it's all up to this, what kind of strength is there? Get rid of the baby in your belly as soon as possible, and don't get any hope.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Go to court and sue you! By the way, go to the next marriage! Don't want that kind of husband and that kind of in-laws! It's so inhuman!!

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    To be honest, if this is the case, there is no need to know how to get along with her, he doesn't love her at all, why should he be like this.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Don't have children, get divorced, the next one will be better.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Refer to "My Savage Mother-in-law" to do it.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    There are many tips for getting along with your mother-in-law. But the important point is to grasp each other's state, temperament and character, so that you can find the right way to get along.

    Then the feeling of being together will be more harmonious.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Women should learn these little skills for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along, and men should also take a look.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    Then you have to show weakness, and then be gentle and considerate, even if you are not such a character, but in front of your mother-in-law, you have to show this, and be more accommodating to her.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Mother-in-law is neither humble nor arrogant in front of her, she does not kneel and lick, but she does not think about overpowering the other party, and stands in her mother-in-law's position in everything and supports her.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Avoid its edge, strong people don't like people who are disobedient, so try not to have any arguments with her, but when you encounter problems of principle, you still have to stick to it.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    You must also have your own bottom line, and you must be strong to let your mother-in-law know this. Then I usually let my mother-in-law slightly, and set up my own prestige while coaxing.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Mother-in-law is strong and sensitive, just follow her more, after all, mother-in-law has a glass heart, and if she is not careful, she will cry and make trouble, and the family will have no peace.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    Take care of her more and buy some of her favorite food during the New Year's holidays. Be patient when talking to her, and ask her any questions.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    In the face of such a mother-in-law, she can only be obedient, she is whatever she says, don't try to provoke her, and hide from her if it's a big deal.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem for the ages, and it is not easy for a daughter-in-law to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law. When you meet a strong mother-in-law in your life, how should you get along with this strong mother-in-law as a daughter-in-law?

    1. Don't face the strong mother-in-law.

    The mother-in-law is strong, that is, she has always been used to being the overlord in this position, if the daughter-in-law wants to shake her position, not only will it have no effect, but it will make the family restless.

    Therefore, the daughter-in-law can follow the temper of the mother-in-law when facing the strong mother-in-law, and when there is a disagreement, do not confront the mother-in-law, and do not refute her face-to-face.

    If the daughter-in-law feels that her mother-in-law's actions are indeed contrary to her own opinions, she can ask her husband to coordinate with her mother-in-law. After all, her husband is her mother-in-law's own son, and no matter how strong her mother-in-law is, she will take care of her son's face.

    2. Keep an appropriate distance from your mother-in-law and live separately.

    A strong mother-in-law always likes to dictate the life of her daughter-in-law, and if the daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law live separately, then the mother-in-law will not be able to intervene in the life of her son and daughter-in-law all the time.

    After living separately, if the strong mother-in-law remotely controls the life of her son and daughter-in-law, then as a daughter-in-law, she can listen to her mother-in-law face-to-face, but she doesn't have to do it. The mother-in-law said that hers, and the daughter-in-law does her own, so even if the mother-in-law is strong, it will not affect her life too much.

    3. Have an open and honest conversation with your mother-in-law.

    In the face of a strong mother-in-law, as a daughter-in-law, you can sit down and have an open and honest conversation with your mother-in-law.

    You can tell your mother-in-law that young people nowadays think differently from your mother-in-law, and after his son marries him, you want to have an independent space, and I hope that your mother-in-law will not interfere in your life. If the mother-in-law is a reasonable person, she will listen more or less.

    If you meet such a strong mother-in-law, how would you get along with her?

  38. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a very tricky and difficult relationship to deal with since ancient times. Especially as our modern women, we don't want to wronged ourselves, and we don't want to fall into the name of unfilial piety. And there are many daughters-in-law who have to live under the same roof as their parents-in-law.

    So, as a contemporary daughter-in-law, how to better handle the relationship with her mother-in-law.

    Be strong in your heart. From the day you walk into your in-laws' house, your identity has changed. From a willful little girl and little princess, she has become an adult daughter-in-law who can control her emotions and accept the habits or rules of her in-laws appropriately.

    In the beginning, there will definitely be a lot of unaccustomed and uncomfortable. You have to understand that these are inevitable and a necessary process, and you can only deal with them with strength.

    Learn to play dumb. How to say it, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law both love the same man at the same time, and of course they both hope that they are the woman that this man loves the most. This will inevitably lead to some jealous friction.

    Many people think that their mother-in-law has a lot of things to do, protects her son, or sometimes speaks with thorns or something. So since we know that this is a common social phenomenon and can understand this truth, we should not care so much. As long as there are no excessive or substantive contradictions, what you don't like to hear or don't like to hear should be treated as not heard or understood.

    The skin should be thick enough. That is, you don't have to be as reserved as you were in front of your parents-in-law before marriage. After all, when you enter the door, people will no longer be as warm and thoughtful to you as they were before marriage.

    This has also led to the phenomenon that many new daughters-in-law said that they could not eat well at their in-laws' house. Which meals are delicious to take care of yourself and eat more, take care of your own stomach, the current standard of living, the in-laws will not be embarrassed by eating, in case you meet the harsh lord and don't even let you eat well, the husband who loves you will definitely come out for you.

    Give full play to the value of your husband. The husband is usually the link in the family, passing the microphone, the harmonic, and the like. So if you really feel that there are some grievances, just tell your husband alone.

    Of course, it is not in the form of a complaint, you can complain, and you can clearly seek your husband's care and assistance. As the saying goes, don't look at the face of the monk and look at the face of the Buddha. With a husband reconciled from it, everyone will naturally accommodate you more.

    Children are also a key factor. The saying of next-generation relatives has been around for a long time, and many family relationships will also be melted in the arrival and growth of children. You should have children or have children, and don't try to prevent the elderly from getting close to their children.

    If there are some really inappropriate behaviors, we can bring out experts, news, and what the book says to tell the elderly, and for the sake of the children, the elderly will generally accept it. Children occupy a lot of the energy and attention of the elderly, so we are naturally much more relaxed.

    The most important thing is the cliché: start with love. Although it is basically impossible to regard the parents-in-law as their biological parents, we must all understand that without them, there would be no current husband.

    Many times, the way the elderly speak and behave is like that, and it may not be aimed at themselves. And you definitely don't want your husband to be annoyed and embarrassed all the time, so love your husband and love his parents at the same time!

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