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Don't accompany you after a while.

This question probably depends on the child's situation, right? My colleague has always said that the eldest of her family is very dependent on her in her studies because of her accompanying students. So much so that when the second child was born, she didn't have so much time and energy to accompany the boss, and the boss's grades plummeted.

Therefore, she resolutely did not accompany the second child to study. However, the second child doesn't seem to have very good grades.

I think the reason why this situation is not good for accompanying and not studying is not good for studying has a lot to do with her family's learning thoughts. As a colleague of mine, she is able to delay her children's studies for some trivial things, such as when a relative gets married, she can also take two days off for her child. Therefore, if there is a strong learning atmosphere in the home, parents really value learning in their actions and are willing to make sacrifices for their children's learning.

In that case, it is estimated that whether or not to accompany the child will have little effect, right?

If the parents themselves only pay attention to learning verbally, and there is no learning atmosphere at home, even if they accompany their children to study every day, it is estimated that it is a kind of torment, and the children are painful, and the parents are also painful.

Accompanying reading is an insult to the child's personality and a failure of school education and teaching, which is a crooked trick of those who do not understand the educator, and it is absolutely not feasible. The reason for accompanying students is nothing more than that children do not listen to the teacher's lectures in class, or have weak comprehension skills, so that their academic performance is not good. Or some students are naughty and naughty, often destroying classroom discipline and affecting the teacher's teaching, please ask parents to accompany the reading, in order to show that your child is difficult to educate.

For high school, especially in the third year of high school, some schools are afraid that some students will affect the admission rate of the school and take the way to accompany them. Regardless of whether primary and secondary schools adopt the method of accompanying students, it is contrary to the laws of education and human cognition. Students' academic performance is not good, and parents can not solve the problem of improving the overall performance of the whole class or a certain subject, but it is an insult to the personality of students and parents, which is very harmful to the growth of children.

Education relies on grooming and guidance. The teacher's responsibility is to "preach, teach, and solve doubts", and the student's violation of discipline is the preaching of our class teacher, that is, the ideological work has not yet arrived, and many primary and secondary school students are still immature in their minds, as educators should try to understand as much as possible about their family situation and the surrounding environment of their home, and educate and enlighten them with affection and care for them. Children's poor academic performance is of course related to students' comprehension and learning methods, but whether our teaching methods as teachers are appropriate, whether we have thoroughly understood the knowledge points we teach, and whether we have done subtle guidance for students who are lagging behind in learning, these are whether we reflect on whether we are reflecting.

In short, no matter how young they are, they also have emotions, and whoever is good to him, he will remember it for a lifetime. In particular, some schools have adopted this method for senior high school students, which will have a negative impact on their lives.

You can't control your child's choices, let your child learn in the direction he likes, and you can't do everything except studying. Children need to gain experience through trivial things in daily life to improve their self-care skills.

When accompanying the child, you should still give the child some independent space, respect the child's ideas, let them make decisions about their own behavior, do not always interfere with the child, and let the child learn a lesson by beating and scolding.

You can't give your child a little bit of homework knowledge, and you don't know how to give a blind command. Always chattering next to the child. None of this can be done.

It's just that we can't play with our phones, and we can't get distracted, because we can't be sorry for our parents, and we can't let our parents worry.

It is reported that the third year of high school can be said to be a very critical year, because after spending this year, we are facing an important exam in our lives - the college entrance examination, although the college entrance examination cannot determine our future life, but it is a watershed in our life. Parents also attach great importance to the senior year of high school, and many parents will choose to "accompany the student" in the third year of high school for the sake of students' learning, so is this practice advisable? In fact, there are pros and cons to accompany students, and the author recommends that parents should make decisions carefully.

1.The benefits of accompanying the reading are predictable. First of all, with their parents by their side, students will definitely have a strong sense of belonging, which can reduce students' psychological pressure to a certain extent and make it easy for students to prepare for exams; Secondly, parents can help students improve their diet reasonably in the process of accompanying them to study, so that students can have balanced nutrition, which is conducive to students' physical health, so that students are full of physical strength and prepare for exams.

2.In addition, parents can avoid students' worries, help students deal with trivial matters in life, and allow students to have more time and energy to study; The most important point is that the pressure faced by students in the third year of high school is very high, and having parents by their side can be a "tree hole" for their children to help them relieve psychological pressure. This requires a lot of effort from parents, and if parents do not take the right approach, it can easily backfire and bring more pressure to candidates.

3.The disadvantages of accompanying the study are not as obvious as the benefits, but they still exist. I have to say that today's children are much more squeamish than the previous post-80s and post-90s, and a large part of the reason is that parents take meticulous care of their children, and accompanying them is also a kind of embodiment.

There are many parents who start accompanying their students when they are just starting high school, renting a house near the school and letting the students go to school. It is indeed the good intentions of parents, but this practice is not conducive to the cultivation of students' independent ability, if the student's self-care ability is too poor, after being admitted to the university, he still has to face his own life.

4.It is impossible for parents to accompany their children for a lifetime, sooner or later they have to let their children live on their own, and there are actually very few things that high school students need to deal with by themselves, and the empty shouts that parents can help share are only part of it. Parents accompanying students also invisibly bring some pressure to children, especially those parents who use accompanying to motivate their children, which will make children feel sorry for their parents if they do not study well, and it is easy to generate greater psychological pressure, which will have the opposite effect, but will lead to a decline in students' grades.

It is advantageous to accompany the book properly, but it cannot be like watching a thief.

I think it's worth it, it's not worth it, it mainly depends on the situation! Although accompanying children can solve all aspects of their life requirements, it also makes children lack a certain degree of independence and the ability to coordinate their lives in the face of pressure. During the college entrance examination, candidates will feel more and more responsible when they watch their mothers busy after school every day, and the pressure will not be released, and the learning efficiency may not be high.

On the contrary, you can discuss problems with your roommates, talk about your emotional pressure, and communicate better and relieve each other's stress. Of course, good roommates are quite important.

If you always treat your children as children, and use the means and psychology of treating children to discipline and educate, over time, children will always treat themselves as children"Kids"and keep one forever"Childlike innocence"This is the doting of children, the extreme irresponsibility of children, and the failure of parents to educate their children is highlighted!

Imagine, if the family has been guiding and educating children scientifically since childhood, the children's self-care ability will not be as strong as the current Songbian dependence, it is the parents who dare not let go, once the children leave the side to go out to study, accompanying the study is inevitable.

In fact, when the child is studying, parents can read and study in the hall or another room at the same time, so that the child can feel that his parents are learning, and there is no reason not to hurry up and do his homework. If the child needs help in the learning process, parents should give support and guidance immediately.

Parents should also find out their children's deficiencies in a timely manner, guide their children to know how to respect their parents and be considerate of their parents, after all, some tempers are difficult to change once they are formed, and no one will tolerate you like their parents and elders when they enter the society in the future.

Of course, saying these here is not to completely deny the behavior of accompanying reading, but to feel that parents must maintain rational pampering for their children, and the so-called parents' love for their children is a long-term plan, so we should actively cooperate with modern teaching concepts on the issue of educating children, and promote the all-round development of children's morality, intelligence, physical fitness, art and labor.