Let s talk about it, how can a marriage last long?

Learning to empathize, self-centeredness is always the biggest obstacle in the relationship between husband and wife, and it can be said that everyone lives in their own dominant world, and it is easy for us to give the other person what he thinks he wants but not what he really wants. But saving trouble does not mean effective, and the result of saving trouble is often to do bad things with good intentions and errands. Running a marriage requires both people in the marriage to step out of their own worlds to empathize with what the other person really wants, and then give the other person what they want rather than what they think.

Admire each other with perfect eyes! Marriage is not about looking for a perfect person to grow old together, but about appreciating an imperfect person with perfect eyes. Perfection is not a quantitative standard, but a degree of contentment.

It is to give praise and affirmation to each other's achievements. Use a perfect eye to discover the strengths and embrace the weaknesses. There is no perfection in life, and marriage needs to appreciate each other, magnify each other's strengths, and affirm each other's values.

Resonance and resonance can last a long time.

Communicating with each other is a key element of running a marriage. Don't hold back what you have to say, communicate more with the other party, and let the other party know more about yourself, so as to avoid many unnecessary misunderstandings and contradictions. Communication is also very important to the marital relationship, and the quality of the marital relationship is directly proportional to the quality of communication.

In real life, we may often see that the relationship between husband and wife has a good emotional foundation, but there are some problems in mutual communication and communication, which affects each other's relationship. This shows that a happy marriage requires good communication.

Learn to create romance, many introverts complain that they don't know how to be romantic, in fact, personality does not determine whether you are romantic or not, as long as you use a little heart, anyone can find romance. Learn to create romance by asking the other person what is romantic and then creating something like that. Sometimes it's not that we lack romance, but that we lack the courage to be romantic.

Whether it is after seven years, ten years, or twenty years old, when your partner returns home, stop what you are doing, shift your attention to the other person, give your lover a big hug, and give love in the details, which can make the other person more intimate and warm.

We usually see those loving and enviable couples are not for no reason, you must know that behind these happy marriages, both husband and wife know how to manage their marriage, everyone wants to be happy, everyone wants to have a perfect marriage, I tell you, there is a secret to getting a happy marriage, no matter how long you get married, don't forget to praise each other, many couples will always ignore the shining points of their partners because they have been together for too long, and see each other's shortcomings more, and even infinitely magnify, however, This affects the relationship between husband and wife, no matter how long you have been married, don't forget to find each other's strengths, and praise, even if it is a small thing, you also need to give each other affirmation, let the other party feel your love and care, which will be more valuable than small surprises and small gifts.

Listen and communicate! The farthest distance in marriage is to eat, live and sleep together, but you don't know each other's true intentions and thoughts. This is where high-quality and effective communication is crucial.

Listen carefully to the other party's views and ideas, and give full affirmation and necessary respect to good proposals. While listening, explain your own opinions, find a balance in the process of listening, communicating and understanding, resolve each other's contradictions, and let love be free and harmonious, so that your heart can be at peace.

Know how to show weakness, dare to admit mistakes, marriage is not a battlefield, win quarrels and lose feelings. Dare to admit mistakes and know how to show weakness is not to do nothing and lose face, but to win the hearts of the other party. knows how to do something and not to do something, and knows that it is easy to fall in love and difficult to stay together.

If a person is not a sage, he can make no mistakes, and if he knows his mistakes, he will improve greatly.

Be tolerant of each other, don't deliberately change for the sake of change, in life, we are used to being adapted to us. In the same way, Biren also wants others to adapt to themselves, and in our marriage, the south side will have conflicts because of some things, different opinions, different ideas. We may always tell each other, you should think like this, you see, this is how you should handle this matter.

Why should this be? It's because we want to graft our thoughts onto his thoughts, and we always want to change each other and make each other more harmonious, but is this really love? To love someone, we must love her all, not because we only love her strengths.

I think when the other person is in a bad mood, no matter what he says, he is right. Use body language to warm him. After calming down, be reasonable.

In the marriage continue to change themselves, make themselves better, but also for the other party to make appropriate changes and compromises, in order to make each other's love more long, not long after marriage to conceive a baby, due to malnutrition, but also because I don't know how to cook, my husband has no time to take care of me, so I can only go to my mother-in-law for a while to go to my mother's house, at that time I feel that I and my husband slowly began to appear estranged, I told him many times, his mother is not my mother, It is impossible to treat me like my mother, but he doesn't listen, he always says that his parents are very good, how is it, but when I arrived at my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law played mahjong every day, and the cooking was not on time, and my father-in-law smoked at home every day, and it was useless to say, and at this time he always said that I was not sensible and so on, and slowly found that I was unwilling to call him ** to say these things.

Second, later I went back to my parents' house, and my mother took care of me, she had a lot of things to do, but she was also dedicated to taking care of me, because I was pregnant and vomited too much, my appetite was really not good, and I was very picky, so I could feel the distress of My parents, and then after giving birth, my in-laws did not say to help take care of the confinement, nor did they say to help take care of the child, in short, my confinement was taken care of by my mother, and he felt that his mother's waist was not good, and I had to understand if he couldn't come.

Third, then we and I can't take the baby with a thrilling shirt, and it is true that a person will not take care of it, so I took the baby back to my parents' house, his parents ** did not hit one, at first I and he will be a day **, and then slowly I don't want to pick him up **, and I don't want to talk to him too much, we have been separated for about ten months After I went back, I felt that the two of them could not be like the feeling when they were in love, at that time we had just been married for three years, and at that time I felt that I wanted to return to a person's life. I never got tired of it and loved my home and family very much.

Think of marriage as falling in love, don't take everything for granted, and be grateful.

If you want to live a long time in marriage, it does not mean that you have to endure and change all the time, of course, two people need to understand and respect each other, but there must also be a degree, you must have your own principles and bottom line, and you can't lose yourself for the sake of marriage.

Although I am not married, many people may disagree, but if this happened to me, I would never continue. This is a new era of women's independence, not the three wives and four concubines in ancient times, and women have no status in society. In addition to family, a woman also has a career, friends, family.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said: "Marriage is a besieged city, and those outside the besieged city try their best to get in by all means, while those inside the besieged city try to get out." "If a forbearance can make a happy marriage, it must be whimsical, the best model of marriage is mutual respect, if there is not even the most basic mutual respect, then how can a relationship continue?

It's not that you can't tolerate it in marriage, but you can't keep tolerating it without going offline, if you do this, you will develop the other half's pampered behavior habits, and if you are a little careless, he will lecture you. Love is good, don't lose yourself. But no matter what, when two people come together, with a marriage, the loss of Hu code is the fate of several generations, and it must be cherished.

Marriage Management Skill 1: Give to each other.

Nowadays, some people are more selfish and selfish, constantly revealing the feelings of the other party, causing problems in marriage. You don't know that feelings are never a matter of one party, marriage must work together with each other, care for and help each other, in order to make marriage go far, after all, no one only wants to pay, and does not expect to get benefits.

Marriage Management Skill 2: Feelings are mutual.

How to run a marriage? Women sometimes blindly stipulate how their own boys see themselves, when it is too late, people have to look back and think about how they see their own love for their families, real love is mutual, you have the attention and love of the other party At that time, the other party must also pay attention to and cherish, no one only wants to give, not expecting to get benefits.

Marriage management tip 3: Chat with your significant other more.

From nothing to relative silence, how many marital crises have started with nothing to say. Many of the middle-aged men I know are very weird, humorous and high-minded outside, and colleagues and friends often have endless conversations, but once they return home, they suddenly become more and more silent when they deal with their wives who have been married for many years.