How do I make a choice How do I make my choice?

As the saying goes: you can't have both fish and bear's paws.

Friend: Whenever you face a difficult situation, you start by writing the problem down on a piece of paper. Then pay attention to analyze the strengths and weaknesses of each.

For example, if I choose to work in Beijing and Nanjing.

The advantages are: 1. I can have a good job and development prospects.

2. You can also sit in the industry I like and strive for your goals.

3. And so on. Analyze it yourself).

The disadvantages are: 1. I want to break up with my girlfriend.

2. The above is just an example, after you have analyzed all these problems, you are making a decision, so that even if it is a wrong decision, you will not regret it.

Let me briefly talk about the problems that need to be analyzed and the things that need to be paid attention to.

1. What are the advantages of going to a certain city?

2. What kind of jobs can I find after I go, and what are the development prospects?

3. Is this job a job that you are willing to dedicate your life to and your girlfriend? Why?

4. Do you get the job really well? Why?

Fifth, whether your social relations can achieve what you say. What should you do if you go and don't meet your requirements or fall short?

6. Are you willing to give up your feelings for the sake of your career? Will it affect your enthusiasm and quality of work? Why?

7. Are you a person with various careers or feelings?

8. What is your relationship with your girlfriend? What would you do if he advised you to give up your business (or a promising job)?

9. How much of a place does it occupy in your mind?

10. Can your girlfriend help you in your career, where, how much, and why?

Ten. 1. What is your family's opinion and your wife's opinion?

Friend: After analyzing all these issues, and then you synthesize them, I think it will help you in your choice.

There may be issues that I left out, which must be carefully analyzed. Be honest with yourself and don't be influenced by feelings and circumstances. Only in this way will yours have reference value.

How do you know where to go without trying?

Fear... If you're afraid, you can't do anything.

It is inevitable that there will be some setbacks in life...

Failure is success ...

DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ... There's nothing to think about ...

Be bold and do it ... Or you'll regret it.

Recognize yourself and keep your feet on the ground.

First of all, his own conditions are not very good, why make special requirements for others and be dissatisfied with him, which is unfair to others; On the other hand, if you find a particularly good one, but that person may divorce you one day, you should not regret it and hate the heavens, because you are not worthy of it; If your conditions are good enough, you can find a good person casually, and you don't have to worry about it, just leave the other party and find a better person. Many times, when looking for a partner in life and matching people, at least you must have a fair mentality.

Secondly, if you and the object are not tall and live together, and later have children and cultivate your own children, in fact, the appearance of the child is secondary, and you should strengthen your inner cultivation from scratch; For example, Pan Changjiang said that "what is condensed is the essence", and many short people can also be very talented, including Napoleon in France.

It is the essence of life to take one step at a time, start in a down-to-earth manner, and transform life from one's own hands to become better.

If you feel that making this choice is difficult for you, follow your preferred choice. Because since you are making a choice, make the choice you like, at least choose what you like.

Generally, no.

In our daily lives and careers, we need to make choices from time to time. Here are some common ways to make your choice:

1.Be clear about your goals and priorities, and evaluate whether each option meets your needs.

2.Evaluate the advantages and disadvantages of each option, and analyze the impact of each option on yourself, your family, society, and the environment.

3.Consider real-world conditions and risk factors such as budget, time constraints, teamwork, and more.

5.Think calmly, don't be too impulsive or distracted by others, and work out the best time and place to make decisions.

There are many considerations to make a choice, and they generally depend on your personal judgment and experience. And most importantly, when making decisions, we need to think about an important question: Is this choice part of the best plan for our life?

Life is made up of choices one after another. How can we make the best choice?

001 raises the bar.

To make the best choice, you need to raise your standards for yourself.

Imagine that during the eleventh holiday, you travel to a place that you have never been to before. I just arrived at the hotel and went out to forage for food. Now there are four ABCD restaurants near and far, if your request is just to fill your stomach, then you can go to A and you can go in and eat.

If your criterion is to find a clean restaurant, you may be able to fill your stomach by the time you walk to C. But if your requirement is to find an authentic and delicious restaurant, you may need to search for popular food on the Internet, comprehensively review it, and find a number of restaurants such as EFG, and finally choose one among them.

So, in order to make the best choice, you should raise the bar and first have a heart that wants to get the best choice.

002 Expand the target option.

If you've never stepped out of the city you live in, how do you know which city you want to live in the most? Only by experiencing and trying more, you will have more choices, and then choose the best one.

For young people, it is not to stick to the old ways, to rest on their laurels, to go out and walk more, to try more new things, and to give themselves more alternatives, so that the chance of getting the best choice will be greater.

003 is unlimited.

Some people like to label and always put me on the lips which one I don't fit for this and which one I don't like. As time passed, the things he talked about really became more and more unsuitable for him. And some people around you will always think that they are good for you and give you a lot of advice, you are a girl, not suitable for this job, people of your age, should be like this.

Interference from the outside will bring a lot of limitations to our choices.

However, in your life, only you can take responsibility for your own choices. Therefore, we don't have to limit ourselves too much, we don't have to pay too much attention to the external influences, we should pay more attention to our own real needs.

A life without limits will be more perfect.

004 to make comparisons.

After the above three steps, we may get many alternatives, so how do we choose the best one among these alternatives?

We can list the factors that we care about the most in these choices and assign values to each option according to its own characteristics.

Just like when looking for a job, we may look at factors such as: salary, leisure time, personal development, work environment, and so on. We can score each option according to these dimensions, and finally comprehensively evaluate the score of each option.

005 Corrected in selection.

Every choice does not completely overturn the previous one, every choice in your life is a part of you, and they make you who you are.

Is every choice a final word? Of course not, even if you fail the college entrance examination and enter a third-rate university, you can still continue to revise your life path and succeed through one choice after another in the future.

The ultimate direction of a person's life is determined by choices again and again, from the choice of university, the choice of major, the choice of the city of employment, the choice of work, and then to the choice of spouse, every major choice determines our future direction.

When it comes to making a choice, many people don't know what they really want. For example, when choosing to buy a car, some people did not think clearly in advance what their real needs for buying a car were, because they listened to the sales of the advocacy of car configuration, and finally bought a car that could not be used for most functions, and usually had to buy a large displacement for commuting, a family of three had to buy a seven-seat SUV, and what was even more terrible was that they chose a price car beyond their ability, obviously only 100,000 yuan in their pockets, and they had to buy a car with a mortgage of 200,000 yuan. These irrational choices will only put their future in trouble.

Why do people make these irrational choices? Why is there a choice problem? All these reasons are because of the lack of clarity in their own values, not thinking about what they really want, and not knowing what is the most important thing!

Before we make any choice, we must first think clearly about what we really want, what is the most important thing, and everything else is unnecessary without this focus. Take buying a car as an example, as an ordinary office worker to buy a car, the most important thing is that it can be convenient to commute to work, usually at most a family of three to ride, with these needs we can get important conditions: budget of about 100,000, five-seater car, small displacement.

Then, through these conditions, you can choose the most suitable car for you!

Many people are at a loss in the face of choice, on the one hand, because they regret that they do not have clear values, and on the other hand, because they are unwilling to bear the consequences of the choice, and this fear will give the choice to others, and they lose the opportunity to exercise their ability to choose, so this vicious circle begins.

Our values will affect the necessary conditions for us to choose yes, and the results of our choices through these conditions will affect our values, which is a cyclical process, and what we need to do is to keep it in a positive cycle, so that we can make progress in our ability to choose!

The easiest way is to record the process of our choice, whether the conditions for thinking are necessary for each choice, because only in this way can we find out where the mistake occurred in the choice, and then correct the mistake and strengthen our ability to choose. As long as there is a record, you can review, you can reflect, you can refine, and you can improve your value system through continuous carving!