When a loved one dies, how to adjust psychologically?

1. Firmly believe that you have the willpower to overcome difficulties.

Even if you are carrying physical and mental pain, even if it is temporarily difficult to move an inch, you must maintain the confidence to overcome difficulties and stick to the willingness to work hard. Sudden changes can catch people off guard, disrupt people's life plans, and destroy people's sense of security.

and a sense of meaning. After a big pain, take your time.

Think about the difficulties you have successfully overcome along the way in your life, and as long as your will is not extinguished and your hope remains, people will behave positively.

2. Take the initiative to obtain medical resources.

Life should go on, actively obtain medical resources through various online and offline channels, assess your current situation, and determine your physical condition. Whether it's in quarantine or **, tell the doctor about the difficulties you are facing, the loss of your experience, and form an alliance with the doctor to fight the virus together.

3. Take care of your emotions.

There may not be much emotion at this time, just chaos; Or there are a lot of strong emotions, such as sadness, self-blame, guilt, anger, allow these states to exist, but don't punish and blame yourself. In the face of such a catastrophe, there is no magic to be cast, and he is already a victim.

4. Get continuous psychological support and companionship.

Find someone who can listen to you and talk about what is pressed in your heart; Find an outlet for repressed emotions. Whether it is the thoughts of relatives or their own feelings, they must be fully expressed.

It may not be so easy at first, so try a few more times. If someone around you can't understand you, try calling a psychological service** to build a long-lasting, stable counseling relationship. Sometimes you may want to be alone, but don't isolate yourself from the world and accept the company and care from others.

5. Deal with your own grief.

The grief of a loved one's death may last for months or more, so assess your status every few days: Are you calmer than you were a few days ago? Is there a recovery in energy?

Has sleep quality improved? Is life closer to getting closer to the right track?

Usually, a person is able to gradually come out of their grief and settle into a normal life. If you find that your situation continues to change, actively seek professional psychology**.

with consultation.

You know, when you come, you will die. As soon as people are born, the countdown begins, and there are no young and old on the loess road. By understanding these truths, it is not difficult to adjust the grief caused by the loss of a loved one.

Think about it from another angle, don't your relatives in heaven also want you to live a happy and happy life? I don't know if saying this can help you, I wish you to come out of the shadows as soon as possible and smile at life.

This is just a saying from others, the feeling of the death of a loved one is certainly uncomfortable, but you have to think with another mentality, since the deceased relatives love you so much, they don't want to see you grieve because of their departure, you should be tenacious, but I suggest that you might as well light three pillars of incense on their memorial day or birthday to commemorate and remember them, and recall your good times. You silently remember them all the way, and they silently bless you with a safe life, treat it with a normal heart!

It takes 4 stages for a person to accept the reality of death: rejection, irritability, calmness, acceptance, time can heal the dents in the human heart, I hope you can be happy, I wish you all the best :)

Is it true that when a person dies, there is no more? No, this is wrong, if you are really sad, look up at the stars every night, maybe she (he) is one of the stars you count.

In the first stage, all mental activity is focused on the newly deceased. Many people are so grieved that they can't die, crying all day long, and even refusing to be cremated or buried.

The second stage is anger or hostility towards the deceased and others. At this time, the deceased has left his side, and the survivor will often sulk at him (her) in **, and become angry with others, and it is easy to quarrel with others for no reason.

The third stage is to ask for the support and help of others. As a result of the loss of a spouse, the old attachment relationship is no longer there, and grief begins to vent on others. They often tell everyone about their misfortunes, hoping to get sympathy and help from others, regardless of whether others want to listen or not.

In the fourth stage, they have clearly realized that their spouse has been lost forever, that their normal life has been completely disrupted, and that their whole hearts are occupied by despair.

In the fifth stage, they begin to retreat from despair, yearn for a normal life and begin to reorganize a new life. At this stage, they transfer their emotions to other people or other things, actively suppress their grief, and on the surface, their emotions are completely restored.

People will disappear from their own world one day, but he will leave memories for the people around him, although some people have passed away, but they will still have people who often miss them. We cannot but accept this fact calmly and mourn and change our ways.

In the case of the death of a loved one, there are actually many ways to adjust your mentality, mainly the following:

Clause. 1. Appropriateness can divert your attention.

I think if a person leaves himself, especially his close people leave him, his heart is very painful, I have experienced this kind of thing myself, I think the best way is to divert your attention, don't let yourself always immerse yourself in this matter, once you always let your attention on the death of this loved one.

You won't be able to get out for a long time, and you'll be crying or uncomfortable all the time, and you'll be immersed in this sad emotion, so one of the best ways is to distract yourself from it, stop thinking about it, and let it pass.

Clause. Second, let time rule the first sail and heal everything.

I found out that this thing is right, time can really ** everything when my relatives just left my sedan chair, I was very painful in my heart, I really can't figure out why they separated so quickly, I can't figure it out at all, and I look at everything pessimistic, but when time passes little by little, when time becomes slowly longer, when time is getting farther and farther away from the day of death, I find that this matter is really slowly passing.

If your mentality is not very good, you have to know not to think about some bad things, you just live your life slowly, and life will slowly get better.

Clause. 3. Confide in your relatives and friends about your feelings.

What's the best thing to do when you're grieving? It is your relatives or your friends who are with you to cry and laugh with you, and when there is someone with you, you will not feel so lonely, and you will not be too sad about this matter.

In the face of the death of a loved one, you must tell yourself that everyone will be old, and there will always be a day when they will die. Although I was very sad at the time, but it had already happened, so I faced it bravely. If you can't accept the fact that your loved one has died, then the last thing you can do for your loved one is to look at him a few more times.

In fact, the most sad thing about the death of a loved one is that he will never be seen.

It is also a normal phenomenon for people to have life and death parting. If you can't get out of the pain of your loved one's whereabouts, then slowly put it in your heart and press it down. We must learn how to bear it, learn how to release our sad feelings.

There are some things that you can't control, and some things that you can't change by yourself. Therefore, in the face of birth, old age, sickness and death in life, we must learn how to accept it.

The parting of life and death is natural, natural, many times the inner reasons are not aware of us, and even we don't know it, but death is the beginning of life, there is no need to be afraid at any time, all the old connections are broken, maybe it is also a relief, what about living in a new life every day? If you are not afraid, nothing can make you afraid. Look at the parting of your loved one in a positive light, and if it is someone who supports you, it may be time for you to be strong in the face of yourself.

Resisting death does not make you live well today, life is precious, so the best response to seeing the death of people around you is to adjust your mentality and live each moment well, without having to be swallowed up by the fear of death.

First of all, the festival mourns and changes. The second is that when you think about him, you can cry and vent. This pain of the death of a loved one can never be erased.

Over time, there will be some lessening. You can go to certain places and ask professional masters to help you. It is also a kind of sustenance.

It would be better.

Maybe there are some more efficient ways to get in touch with optimistic and positive people, go to distant places more, and tell yourself that I can live in a different way. People live not only for themselves, the dearest relatives have left, you also have to live for yourself, for the rest of the relatives to live well, so as not to live up to those who have left but will always miss you.

Hello friends, the death of a loved one is the saddest thing in life, and I can never see my dearest person again, I am really grief-stricken. But this is the law of nature, no one can change it, how to regulate their emotions, you have to turn grief into strength, only if you live well, your relatives will rest assured, with the passage of time slowly will be good, be kind to yourself, be kind to all people, because sooner or later you will leave forever, and you will not regret it when the time comes.

You have to let go, people will eventually have a farewell, look at the open point, there is no banquet in the world that will not be dispersed, the dead rest in peace, and the living are strong.

If you want to mourn and change, people have birth, old age, sickness and death, face it naturally, otherwise, you will not be able to solve the problem in pain, and the lost relatives will not be at ease, or a positive life.

I suggest you go to see some ** about facing death ** ah, audio or book, I recommend you here that there is a random fluctuation column in the next small universe app (definitely not an advertisement), there is an issue dedicated to** rambling about death, and it is quite insightful to listen to.

Maybe you can go out with your friends for a walk, but now that the epidemic is not easy to go out, you can try to communicate with the people and friends around you as much as possible.

Everyone will experience the death of a loved one, and they will feel extremely sad, and they will be overwhelmed and even unable to extricate themselves. How much to persuade yourself, birth, old age, sickness and death are human nature. Get out and relax.

Leave it to time, this pain of losing a loved one is difficult to adjust, and it can only be handed over to time.

In the face of the death of a loved one, I feel that I should accept it calmly. Everyone has a day like this, so be sure to adjust your mindset. It's going to be very sad, but it's also going to be a good life.

When a loved one dies, I will regulate my emotions well and not make my life more uncomfortable, but if my true lover leaves me, I must be very uncomfortable, no way, good memories.

The past of last year brought a lot of sorrow, and at this time, if you want to open up the normal state of life, old age, sickness and death, cherish the present, and live a more valuable life.

Everyone will definitely face the experience of life and death of their loved ones, but you can put your mind right, after all, this is what life always has to face.

Talk to family and friends.

Psychological problems after the death of a loved one: shock, grief, recovery.

1. Shock period

This period can last from a few hours to a few days, and the fact of bereavement is often denied at this stage, which is manifested by a lack of corresponding emotional responses, and often with a sense of unreality, unable to fully accept the fact of the death of a loved one, and some bereaved people may not be able to be quiet, as if looking for a deceased relative.

2. Grief

It often lasts from a few weeks to six months, and sometimes it can be longer. The bereaved at this stage may feel extremely sad, lonely, and full of thoughts about the deceased, which is often manifested as anxiety, poor sleep, lack of appetite, etc., and some can also appear, panic attacks.

3. Recovery period

As you stop having nightmares and start adjusting to your new life, your symptoms gradually ease and your daily activities resume. Gradually accept the reality of the death of a loved one, and remember the deceased by reminiscing about the past and the good times spent with the deceased.

In the above three stages, through the grief process, the internal psychological reorganization and balance will be obtained, and then during this period, if scientific psychological counseling can be carried out, the pain of bereavement can be alleviated, and the painful period of bereavement can be passed as soon as possible, otherwise, it may develop into serious physical and psychological diseases.

Self-psychological counseling for the bereaved

Perform a large, comprehensive and thorough catharsis of pain. Speaking out loud and painful at home or in the open sky or facing the river, crying out all the pain, grievances and sadness accumulated in the heart, this can include nostalgia for the deceased, gratitude, blame for oneself, and commitment to the deceased.

Hello, in this case, it is best to communicate more with your family, and then keep yourself busy, so that you don't think about it so much, or you can go out for a trip, relax, and relax.