What is the root cause of young people s increasing fear of marriage and love?

This is not your fear of marriage, but a lack of confidence in yourself, and another is that you don't love her enough, so that you don't have the determination to give her a sense of security and happiness now, which is why you retreat, if you are really not ready, then you can't move forward, don't mislead others and yourself! What I am afraid of is not getting married, but not being able to marry the person I love. Marrying someone you love has been rare since ancient times, but now we have more ability to struggle.

A threat from the family of origin. It is said that no one can get rid of the influence of the original family, and when looking for that person, they will inadvertently let the same characters in different families have some of the same characteristics, so that the other half of the future will be the same as the one they have seen, poor and sour, self-righteous, relying on the old and selling the old, and finally from the social tide. The cost of running a family and raising children is getting higher and higher, and being single can maximize your happiness.

More and more independent, not relying on each other, family, self-sufficiency at the same time as if you can do anything, find a way to overcome difficulties, do not like to dream, clearly know the skills that you must have if you want to survive in this society, over time. What is a man? Why do you need men?

To have a baby? Now the technology can be used as a test tube.

The essence of man is to protect himself. Loneliness is the norm of life. Social connections depend on human affection.

Ask three questions: Can you protect yourself from mental, physical, and material harm? That is, an independent spirit, maintaining a healthy body, and being able to make money independently.

Can you accept the reality of society? That is, man is inherently lonely. Social connection is based on personality charm and the exchange of desires and desires, do you have such a thing?

If you have both, then you don't need to be in love to grow, but this is also the time when you should be in love. Because at this time, you can not care about the outside world, be yourself, meet a kind guy who also recognizes who you are, and establish a healthy and lovely relationship. It's just that most people deceive each other, keep projecting psychologically, and don't want to grow themselves.

For me, it comes from a distrust of my own strength. I'm afraid that I don't have enough skills to coordinate more and more complex relationships in the future, I'm afraid that I don't have enough economic strength to compete with each other, I'm afraid that I'll become a mother-in-law and mother in an idle and boring life.

People's ability to resist pressure is much stronger than they imagined, everyone is a trick, and being scared by risks is more than worth the loss, and the things you think about may not necessarily happen. Chat with your parents more, maybe there will be unexpected gains. As for the common fear of marriage among young people, it is not common in my life.

I'm afraid of marriage, because I don't think marriage is necessarily happy, I've seen too many people who are anxious every day after getting married, and I've also seen people who can live well if they are single, so I prefer to be single.

The cost of getting married now is too high, you have to have a car and a house, and you have the inner determination to resist the novelty, and you also have the ability to deal with the trivial matters of two families, so it is too difficult to get married.

I don't want to get married, because I don't want to take on some of the responsibilities after marriage, marriage is a matter for two people, and it's completely different from one person.

When you are alone, you may be a little more relaxed, and you can take charge of your own life. But when you become two people, you have to face him and take on some of his responsibilities, and such days are too tiring.

Another thing is that I can't get involved in a long-term interdependent relationship right now, maybe I'm too independent, maybe I'm too insecure, I always want to protect myself and I don't want others to protect me.

So I'm afraid of marriage, I'm afraid to deal with some things after marriage, and I'm too lazy to deal with them.

But I still want to be loved, although it's not bad to be single, but I also want the warmth and care of two people, if only I could be in love all the time.

Now more and more years.

Light people begin to fear marriage, and when it comes to marriage, some young people feel scared and have fear. Nowadays, more and more young people are becoming afraid of marriage, and when it comes to marriage, some young people feel scared and have fear. Because these children have been cared for by their parents for a long time, they have developed a sense of not being able to do housework, lack self-care ability, have a strong sense of selfishness, do not know how to care about others, and will only enjoy the care from others.

It is precisely because of the lack of sense of responsibility that I am afraid of hardship. So now more and more young people are afraid of marriage. It is precisely because of the lack of sense of responsibility that I am afraid of hardship.

So now more and more young people are afraid of marriage.

Because if you get married, you have to buy a house and pay off the mortgage, even if two people work hard, they can only become house slaves, followed by having children, many women are afraid of marriage because having children is equivalent to stepping into the ghost gate, and they are afraid of getting married because they are afraid of having children. Then there is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many men have a headache when they think of those bad mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, and women are even more afraid of meeting an unreasonable mother-in-law, so more and more people are afraid of getting married.

Now young people are starting to "fear marriage.""It is because of the high pressure of life now, as soon as you get married, you will face many problems such as buying a house, buying a car, and your children going to school, and the cost of living is high.

Because of the pressure of life now, for example, when you get married, you have to buy a house, buy a car, a bride price, have children after marriage, take care of the elderly on both sides, and have no time to be romantic, play freely, etc., so more and more young people are afraid of marriage.

Because the cost of marriage is getting higher and higher, most young people are children of ordinary families, but when they get married, the girl's family generally has to ask the boy's family for a house and a car to ask for a bride price, and the burden is very heavy, so the boy is more afraid of this, because the newly graduated students cannot meet these conditions, so marriage will squeeze out the wealth of three generations, therefore, some boys can not get married very late, and girls are also afraid of marriage, because marriage means losing themselves, free and easy single life, to face a new family, If you want to have children, you are also very afraid that your husband will be unfaithful and do not love you, so more and more young people are afraid of marriage.

Because the material conditions for marriage are too high now, many people who do not have the material conditions dare not get married, and the divorce rate is high, and now young people have no sense of responsibility, so they don't have much confidence in the family, so most people now are afraid of marriage.

The main reason is that there are too many entertainment activities now, everyone has a mobile phone, even if there is no other half, they will not feel particularly lonely, but sometimes, because of the other half, there are a lot of troubles, and for boys, there are mortgages and car loans, which makes many people not want to get married.

Why are more and more young people now afraid of marriage? I think it should be that the current marriage is too demanding for young people. Material things have been rising, wages have not risen, and they have to get married early, and they want gift money, houses, and cars.

These questions are all too realistic. Especially when you are a little older, people will become more and more realistic. I can see a lot of things clearly, and I know that the future may not be good, so I don't want to try it easily.

Young people yearn for the moment of marriage, they are afraid of married life, trivial matters of family life, who will take care of children after marriage, housing problems, repayment of mortgages, and heavy burden of life, so now young people are afraid of marriage.

Both parties to the marriage have changed some living habits, the man has a bride price for buying a house, and the woman has to consider getting along with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because there are few who can get married naked, and marriage involves too many economic and family problems, so it is a little afraid of marriage, but as long as you encounter true love, these problems will be dealt with little by little.

I think young people nowadays.

The reason why they began to become afraid of marriage is because most young people nowadays are only children, they usually don't have much time to make friends because of work, they enjoy the single life very much, and they don't want to spend too much energy on each other, they want to get fast love.

More and more young people are becoming afraid of marriage because of the increasing development of the Internet, the dissemination of some information that makes people empathize with them after reading it, and the increasing cost of living now.

Now the pressure on young people is increasing, and they have to have a car, a house, and savings when they get married. But many of the young people are moonshine clans and don't have much savings, let alone garages. And everyone is very materialistic, there is no living security, and they can't get married in a beautiful way, and they definitely don't grieve themselves to get married.

Therefore, many young people are afraid of marriage.

More and more young people are becoming "afraid of marriage", mainly caused by the insecurity caused by the increasing cost of marriage and family life, and the economic income cannot be proportional to it.

Because young people have not been in the society for a long time, their experience and qualifications are not enough for them to take on important positions and obtain higher incomes, and their income can only make their single lives quite good at the moment when the cost of living is increasing. Occasionally, if you are unemployed, you don't have to worry about not being able to survive because you have no income, at most, your quality of life will be reduced, and you can barely survive by frugal food and clothing. But marriage means preparing a large amount of savings, cars, houses, bride price, marriage supplies, banquets all have to be piled up with money, the budget is too small, the woman does not do it, the budget is too much, and he does not have the ability, smashing the pot and selling iron, borrowing money to do the wedding, the wedding can be regarded as a done, but the deposit has bottomed out or has a large amount of debt, the quality of life after marriage has seriously declined, and I dare not run to the hospital when I am sick or something.

The two were sweet before marriage, but the days after marriage were bitter. After getting married, the parents began to give birth to children every day, Pepsi filial piety first, there was no choice but to start preparing for pregnancy, and then from pregnancy to the nursing period to the time when the child went to school, the child's mother could only stay at home and be a full-time housewife, and the family income could only rely on the child's father. One person's income has to support a small family, and by the way, there are two elderly families, and the pressure can be imagined.

Marriage means responsibility, and although it is not necessary to make the family rich and prosperous, at least there should be no lack of food and clothing.

The increasing interest of marriage has made the divorce rate of money-based marriages higher and higher, which has also caused a deviation in young people's understanding of marriage, and the cost of marriage is too high, so it is not difficult to understand that more and more young people are "afraid of marriage".

Now young people are only children, arrogant and accustomed to being raised, without family responsibility, and dare not be responsible for the next generation, so more and more young people are afraid of marriage, and they still need their parents to take care of food and clothing, this generation is too terrible

I think the main reason why more and more young people are beginning to "fear marriage" is because people now disagree with the meaning of marriage, marriage is very beautiful for many people, especially girls, when they get married, they can wear a beautiful wedding dress to marry their beloved boy, which is indeed a very beautiful thing, but like the current society, with the change of time, like in recent years, prices and housing prices are constantly rising, which has caused marriage phobia to modern young people. On the one hand, they have to ensure that they have enough life security for girls, and it is unlikely that they will go out to play together after marriage, and girls will have children and take care of children in addition to taking care of themselves, of course, this also includes housework that girls need to do alone, so marriage means more responsibility for young people, in addition to these, the most important thing is that both boys and girls have their own marriage standards, If they don't meet someone they like, they won't get married easily, so what's the point of getting married like that? Therefore, more and more young people are now "afraid of marriage".

Now young people are just out of society, facing the pressure of cars, houses, wedding bride price, married life, etc., even if there are 72 changes, if no one helps, it is difficult to achieve the goal, and it is most afraid that it will be difficult to give the happiness of the girlfriend after marriage, and it is difficult to raise children, coupled with the high divorce rate now, and the children can not be given a complete home, a series of fears are the fuse that causes fear of marriage.

The current situation of contemporary young people is not only afraid of marriage, but also dare not even talk about love, and enjoy the life of being single, and being free alone.

If a person can't even take care of himself, how can he take care of others, if a person is happier, why find someone to make himself angry, if a person has a better quality of life, why find a person to reduce the quality of life.

If you don't meet the right person, you'd rather be single than compromise.

Second, fear of being hurt.

In this world, there is always a group of people who yearn for love, but they don't have the courage to start, even if true love comes, they would rather miss it than have the courage to take that bold step.

This group of people is afraid of being hurt, and they haven't tasted the sweetness of love, so they think about the bitterness of love.

Xiao Ming, there is a person who likes and has stockings for a long time, after the college entrance examination, she finally mustered up the courage to confess to the boy she liked, she thought that she would be greeted with sweet love, but she didn't want the boy to reject her.

As soon as the boy rejected Xiao Ming, he immediately asked his friend to introduce him to him, Xiao Ming was very heartbroken, didn't she deserve love?

Later, I met a boy who liked her, but she didn't dare to fall in love, thinking that the relationship would be abandoned in the end.

Third, in the face of love, it is important to make money.

I have heard the saying: "Love without material foundation is a plate of loose sand", because our human life needs to be established under certain material conditions, and only when we can eat and dress can we fall in love.