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Anonymous users2024-02-06My friend's child, Dongdong, is in the first grade of primary school this year. Other people's headaches are that children look around when they do their homework, but their friends' troubles are completely different: Dongdong is too serious about homework.
Dongdong is very focused when he writes his homework, but he always writes while holding an eraser to erase the words he has just written. At first, my parents thought that Dongdong had answered the question incorrectly, but later found out that it was not the reason.
Mom asked Dongdong:"Isn't that pretty well written? Why wipe it off? "Dongdong:"It's not good, this one is out of the grid, they should all be in the grid. "
Originally, my friend still thought that it was a good thing for the child to be so serious about his homework and pursue perfection, and he didn't have to worry about his child's study in the future. But when the teacher came to the door to communicate, he felt that something was wrong.
It turned out that Dongdong was not only doing homework, but also very serious when participating in various activities, and if some classmates did not do what he thought was right, he would lose his temper, which made other classmates reluctant to play with him.
A child's pursuit of perfection may be"Rubber syndrome"Some people call this phenomenon of Dongdong behavior"Rubber syndrome", in fact, is what psychology says"Obsessive-compulsive disorder"。
On the surface, children study hard and demand too much from themselves, and are easily praised by parents, teachers, and people around them, and envied by classmates. But a careful analysis will find that the overly serious pursuit of perfection is actually a manifestation of an anxious state of mind.
The reason for this is that parents are too strict and demanding of their children. Such children often have low self-esteem, will have the idea of pleasing their parents, and are very concerned about their own behavior. When you think that what you are doing is not perfect, you will feel guilty, fearful, and afraid.
Like Dongdong's parents, it seems that they are not very strict with their children, but some subtle actions in life will still imperceptibly make children very concerned about the correctness of their words and deeds, and thus develop a compulsive mentality.
3 ways to alleviate children's anxiety and treat children"Eraser Synthesis"Parents must not blindly think that it is an advantage, too much encouragement and praise will aggravate the child"It must be done better"Anxious state of mind.
Parents should maintain a calm mind, chat with their children frequently, understand their thoughts, and slowly help them resolve their anxiety.
1.Allow your child to have their own ideas.
Treat the child as an individual with an independent personality, encourage the child to express his or her own will, and allow different ideas to exist.
2.Do your best in everything.
Parents must first of all be not harsh on their children and dare to admit their mistakes in front of their children, so that children can understand that even adults cannot always be perfect.
(3) Cultivating an independent personality.
Children who strive for perfection excessively may have a weaker sense of self. Parents should emphasize their children's strengths and praise their strengths and strengths to help build their self-confidence.
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Anonymous users2024-02-05Children who are too serious about their homework are not necessarily rubber syndrome, which may be related to the child's personality, and some children are naturally very rigorous and cautious, which is an advantage.
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Anonymous users2024-02-04I don't think it's necessarily rubber syndrome, it may be that the child is very attentive when doing homework, and doing homework can also make him feel very happy.
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Anonymous users2024-02-03The child may have rubber syndrome, and parents should let the child play more games at this time, so that the child will be more flexible.
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Anonymous users2024-02-02This possibility is very small, and it may also be the child's personality that will cause the child to be too serious, so don't worry too much.
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Anonymous users2024-02-01I don't think it's possible. Being very serious shows that he is very responsible, and it shows that he loves to learn.
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