The parenting style is completely different, why is it better to bring the child by yourself when co

The parenting style is completely different, why is it better to bring the child by yourself when conditions permit?

After all, the elderly don't have to work now, don't have to worry about things at work, and don't have the troubles that come with mood when work is not going well, which can create a good and peaceful psychological environment for children.

The disadvantages of giving children to elders are:

1.Educational philosophy is not used.

b Now there are a rich variety of parenting books, bringing parents many scientific and new-age parenting concepts. For example, when coaxing a child, grandparents think that holding the child upside down, you can fall asleep, and the parents of the new era will read some parenting books and find that this is "upside down" is not conducive to the development of the child's brain, so that the child's brain is constantly violently or continuously shaken or up and down, which will lead to hemorrhage inside the brain, or the nerve connection in the brain is broken and the eye bleeding condition, the baby will lose appetite, trance, sluggishness, convulsions and other symptoms, the consequences are unimaginable.

2.Generational pampering.

Parents will make some rules for their children, and grandparents feel sorry for their children, maybe the focus is on the children, so they are extraordinarily arrogant to the children, most grandparents are what the children want, regardless of whether the children abide by the rules or not, in life is also a lot of grandparents arranged, so that children lack a lot of self-care ability.

3.There is a feeling of abandonment.

Parents are busy with work and give their children to their grandparents, and over time, children will feel that they have been abandoned by their parents, and become timid and insecure, and at this time, if the grandparents are very spoiled to the children, the children will be timid and insecure on the one hand, and send this willfulness to the grandparents, which is very unfavorable to the formation of the child's sound personality.

cFor the sake of the child, bring it by yourself if you can, and don't ignore it if you have to. Because of the neglect of parents, children lack self-efficacy, and they have to lag behind others a lot in many things, such as playing games and not being confident in social interactions.

Because if the child brings it by himself, the first thing is to give the child high-quality companionship and make his child feel more secure. In addition, if you bring it yourself, you can let your child communicate and communicate better with yourself, so that each other can better understand everyone's ideas.

If conditions permit, of course, it is better for the mother to take the baby by herself. Mothers with babies will not only make the baby feel more secure, but also better educate the baby.

Because the older generation of people can no longer keep up with modern social thoughts, they take children. You won't be able to keep up with the trend of society, so if you can bring it yourself, you can bring it yourself.

The cleaner the child, the better, which is not the case, because some bacteria are good for the child. Taking medicine can make your child get better faster, and there are many factors in medicine that are not conducive to your child's growth. Being sick means that the child is not in good health.

For example, chewing things and giving them to your child, giving them salted food too early, giving them coffee and carbonated drinks, and keeping them up late.

Many parents are worried that their children will catch a cold, so they let their children wear a lot of clothes, which will make them sweat easily, but more likely to catch a cold.

We have a different concept of parenting from parents, we should take our own children, and we feel that we can bring them by ourselves, and we can choose to let our parents bring them, and the specific situation can vary from person to person.

You're welcome. The main task of raising children is still to be handed over to themselves, the influence of parents on children is very far-reaching, and all the concepts of their parents are different from their own children, which is also easy to cause conflicts, or they should try to take care of their children.

Personally, I think you should still communicate well with your parents, after all, you still have your own job, and you definitely need to take care of the children together.