Don t talk so much, what should you do?

There must be such a person around us, who always agrees to other people's requests, and others wait for the result over and over again, but what they wait for is not completed. This kind of person also likes to put forward his own positive and noncommittal views on various issues, as if he is very sure of any problem. This kind of person thinks he is very capable, but in fact he is just a short man in action.

We all know that a full glass of water can easily overflow, while half a glass of water is not easy to overflow. It's the same with talking and doing things, mature people don't easily talk too much, they like to leave space for themselves and let themselves advance and retreat freely. This is true wisdom.

In our life and work, don't make promises lightly. But as long as you promise others something, you must do your best to do it. Therefore, when we reply to other people's requests or requirements, try not to use "certain", "certain", "no problem", "must" such absolute words, this kind of vocabulary will often be too full of words, leaving no space at all, in case things are not done, the final situation will only be embarrassing, and it will also leave people with the impression of loving to talk big and take care of everything, and even if they try their best to do it, they still leave people with the complaint of "don't do it if you don't have the ability".

However, some people with high emotional intelligence speak, if you are a careful person, you will find that many people tend to use such words when they speak, such as: maybe, as much as possible, maybe, research, consider, evaluate, consult all parties, etc., these are some words that are not very certain. The reason why they are like this is to leave room for themselves to accommodate the "unexpected"; Otherwise, if you talk to death all at once, and it backfires, it will be difficult to justify yourself.

It's the same with friends who have a good relationship with themselves, when your brother and girlfriend need help, you should also weigh your own strength, don't easily agree, although we want to help them, but if we talk too much, in the end we may hurt the friendship. We can sincerely say "I will do my best to help you".

Being a person and doing things are the same, we must seek truth from facts. Don't say anything that has no factual basis, and don't pack a ticket for something that you are not absolutely sure of. It's not just about leaving room for others, it's about leaving room for yourself.

When we find that someone else's claim is wrong, we also need to resist the urge to refute it immediately, and save face for the other person, we can say that the situation you are saying is true in a particular situation, and then imply that the current situation may be different. This kind of conversation will reduce the resistance of the other person and make the conversation more pleasant.

This sentence is true, full is overflowing.

So the reply said: it makes sense, and there is no room for manoeuvre when it is full.

Of course, it is to ask the other party, no matter what time you speak, you still have to leave room for yourself, this idea is very right, after all, if you talk too much, it is also a very embarrassing thing to do.

Hello, it's just that you don't usually talk about it, and it means too absolutely. Give yourself a little back. Lest there be no way out. So don't overdo it.

I can reply to him like this, so the reason why I say so much is because I have enough confidence in myself and believe that I can do it, so I say this. You should also trust me to do what I say.

For this sentence, I think sometimes it is, for example, if someone asks you to stay in a certain place, you say don't worry, I will definitely do it for you, or find an acquaintance to definitely do it for you, and then it will not be done, so you must pay attention when you speak, you can say that I will try with you to see if this thing can be done well.

It can be said that I am sure of this, or I have done too much of this kind of thing, and I can complete it with my eyes closed.

If you can't say too much, the next sentence is too desperate to do things. Zeng Guofan.

said: "There is no room for words, there is no way to do things, and there is no afterglow for love." "If a person talks too much and does too much, when the result is ultimately unsatisfactory, he will only put himself in an embarrassing situation and have no way out.

This reminds us that we must learn to give ourselves leeway in what we say, do, or behave in the world.

The important thing is to be able to be measured, to say good things appropriately, and to say bad things.

That's just right. Express your thoughts clearly and concisely, reflect your thoughtfulness, and the words you say will carry more weight. If you speak inappropriately, speak disrespectfully, and expose other people's shortcomings casually, even if they are all true, you can disregard the face of others too much, and you will still hurt your harmony and make yourself isolated.

Attention to the way of speaking:

1.When encountering something that is not very clear, you must be cautious, do not express your opinions at will, or talk irresponsibly, you should try to figure out the ins and outs of the matter, and say it rigorously.

2.Pay attention to the humor of the language. Humorous language can make a very good impression, and people can use it to enhance each other's feelings, and sometimes make appropriate jokes to make people happy to accept what you say.

3.Don't say bragging. If someone asks you for help, you must consider whether you have the ability, if you say something big, but you can't do it back, then we will lose the trust of others, so it's important not to brag.

4.Don't rush to express it. The more you encounter something in a hurry, the more you should not be in a hurry to express it, calm yourself down, think about the seriousness of the matter, think about ways and means to deal with it, and then talk about the situation.

5.Don't talk people behind your back. No matter how close you are to someone, you must not talk about others behind your back, this will only reduce your weight in the minds of others, so you must not do such stupid things and keep more morality.

6.Don't dig out your heart easily. Some people like to see who to talk to, and always say something heart-wrenching, and it is not advisable to do so, we don't know much about other people, we don't know what the consequences will be, so it's better to say less.

Rice, not too full; Words should not be too full. The former sentence is still intended to interpret the latter sentence and serve the latter sentence. Drinking and half-drunk is demeanor, pretending to be confused; The wine is slightly drunk, the flowers are half-opened, and everything is up to seven or eight minutes before there is a good interest, then there is a great hope for the future, and there is no vitality in the future, so that it can exist in the world for a long time.

As the saying goes, "only three points are said when you meet people". Why? You may think that the husband is upright and open, and there is nothing that you can't say to others, so why just say three points to tell you?

It is true that the old man who is sophisticated only speaks three points. If the other party is not a person who can talk deeply, you can talk about three points, which is already a lot.

Confucius said: "If you can't say anything else, you can't say it." If the other party is not someone you know well, and you also speak freely, just want to have a good time, how will the other party react?

Are the other people willing to listen to what you say? Your relationship is shallow, and you have nothing to talk about, which makes it seem that you have no cultivation. You think you are thinking about the other person, but the other party may not accept your affection, because your relationship has not yet reached the state of talking about everything.

So don't talk full, Heng Tonghu is not not not to say, but not to say, not to say; Even if you are an acquaintance, or someone with a good relationship, you should leave room for talking. This is by no means dishonesty, nor is it distrustful of the other party, nor is it cunning. There are three kinds of limitations in speaking, one is people, but time, and the third is land.

It is not necessary to say otherwise; If it is not the right time, although it is the right person, it is needless to say; It is needless to say that it is necessary to get the right people and the right time, and it is not necessary to say that it is not the right place.

When a person is depressed or sad, he wants to have a friend to confide in his heart, vent his emotions in the confession, and resolve the depression in his heart; And I hope to be able to get the understanding of my friends. Organize your thoughts and examine your actions as you talk. If the other person is an understanding friend, who can listen to the conversation, or cast a trusting and understanding gaze, this kind of confiding will be satisfied.

If you are often interrupted by the other party in the process of confiding, or the other party is absent-minded, then there is no need to continue, indicating that the other party does not pay attention to you at all, and can only "talk more than half a sentence".

Because sometimes your words are full and may have an impact on you later.

1. So as not to have no room to maneuver when things become hollow.

2. Don't say too much, stop in moderation, and leave room for others and self-fighting.

3. Don't be reckless, don't promise others what you may not be able to do or can't do.

4. There are no absolutes in anything, don't be so sure of some uncertain things.

Leaders should pay attention to their words and deeds, and should pay attention to their words and deeds. A wise person will fully estimate the objective conditions in advance, and try not to make uncertain wishes.

Because the leader has power in his hands, there are many people who come to the door and ask the leader to solve the problem. Sometimes. For various reasons, it is difficult for leaders to refuse requests from others.

In this case, it is necessary to grasp the proportions of making a wish, and different ways and methods of making a wish should be adopted according to different situations, so as not to refute the face of others, but also to leave room for maneuver for oneself.

For things that you are sure of, you can make a definite wish. If you have an accurate grasp of the situation and estimate that the wish you made can be fulfilled, then you can simply say it to death, this kind of commitment can give people an unquestionable impression and give the other party a "reassurance" first.

You can make a flexible wish for things that you don't have a good grasp of. If you don't have a clear picture of the situation, you should be flexible and flexible. For example, use words such as "best effort" and "best effort" with more flexibility.

This kind of wish can leave a certain amount of room for maneuver, but it will generally make the other party suspicious, and the effect of gaining the trust of the other party is worse.

For things with a large time span, you can take a postponement wish. In some cases, the situation will change due to the length of time, and in this case, you can use the method of delaying the time when making a wish, that is, say that the time to realize the result of the wish is longer. Leave yourself room to create the conditions for making your wish come true.

For example, if a subordinate asks the boss to give him a raise, the boss can say something like: "If the year-end settlement is good, the company's economic benefits are good, and you can be promoted to a higher salary." The use of the phrase "year-end settlement" to indicate the delay in the realization of the wish seems to leave room for both leeway and reasonableness.

For those problems that cannot be solved on their own, they should make a wish with implicit preconditions. That is, if you make a promise that you cannot fulfill alone, but also seek the cooperation of others, then you can include certain restrictive words in your wish. For example, if you want to promise to help your subordinates with the issue of family registration, which involves the relevant policies of the public security department and the state, you might as well say this more appropriately:

If you apply for the conversion of rural to non-household registration in the future, as long as your conditions meet the relevant policies, I will definitely help. Here he not only showed his sincerity, but also spoke flexibly and measuredly, and also hinted at his difficulties to his subordinates. It's a very artistic way to make a wish.

The leader is a human being, not a god, and it is best to reject things that he is not capable of doing in a timely manner. When refusing, we should not simply say, "This is not okay", but pay attention to the way and means.

It is the best policy to refuse the other party's inappropriate request, but also not to hurt the other party's self-esteem and not to damage the relationship between the other party. In fact, many times there is no need to make promises in a hurry, and if you are a little sure, you can tell the truth and say a little, which can leave yourself enough leeway.

1. The words can't be said too much, and the next sentence can be too desperate to do things.

2. The next sentence can also be that you can't drink too much wine. In addition, it can be too high. If you do it too far, it may reach the point where it is out of control.

If you drink too much alcohol, it will not only hurt your body, but you may also miss a major incident. If you set your own tune too high, you won't be able to do a good job with others. No matter which sentence is followed by the next sentence, these words vividly say that it is clear that you can't be too extreme in dealing with people and things, and that both people and things are full of all kinds of possibilities.

3. When dealing with people, if there is room for advancement and retreat, then it will be full of various opportunities for each chain, and you can find corresponding countermeasures by using these opportunities.