Tell us about any times when your life is very confused?

The most confused time is when I am looking for a job, when I wander around the major job fairs, I just can't find the job I want, and I don't know what I want to do.

I was confused for a whole year, I didn't know what to do next, what to go, how to go in the future, and I was particularly painful when I was confused, and I felt that there was no hope in life.

After finishing high school, I came out to work despite the opposition of my family, and I always felt very lost, with no academic qualifications, no specialties, and I felt that my life was bleak.

Of course there is, especially when I just graduated, I don't know my future goals and directions, and I am very confused.

At present, I am confused, and now I feel tormented, like duckweed in the water, swaying, no down-to-earth feeling, the whole person is muddy, my heart is racing, I can't sink my heart, I feel like I am on the chain bridge, I have lost my direction.

I lost my job for the first time, and although I quit my job, I felt very lost. I don't know what to do about the road ahead.

There are too many, I don't know what kind of work I am suitable for, and I don't know if I should find someone to rely on.

When my parents divorced, they asked me who I was with, and then I didn't follow anyone, and I followed my grandparents. I feel really lost.

Coming out of a small city like me, the primary school is in the village, the junior high school is in the town, the high school is in the county, and the university is in the city, and now it is thousands of miles away.

When I first came to Beijing, I was really at a loss in my mind, and I didn't know why I came here.

In general, after something is over, there will be a long time when you will feel in a panic, feeling empty and lost.

Because the old life has passed, and the new life has not yet arrived, this vacuum period is called the confusion period.

The reason is actually very simple, all the confusion stems from the lack of a sense of meaning, and the sense of meaning is very important for everyone.

Although we don't often think about the meaning of doing things, in fact, in the subconscious, our actions are driven by meaning, that is, value.

Very few people will do things that are not valuable to them, and it is also human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, so when the sense of meaning is missing, we will feel empty and bored, and we will become more and more confused.

You want to make yourself more than 10,000 a month, and your salary is only 5,000.

If you set that goal, you'll figure it out.

Whether it's through the work itself to increase your income, or through your spare time, you'll take action.

If you don't have a goal, you go to work every day and look forward to getting off work, count your days as a day, and turn your work and life into a job, at this time, people will become empty, and they will naturally feel lost.

If your boss values you, your colleagues like you, and your family cares about you, you will have a strong sense of meaning.

Because in the eyes of others, you are very important, and this feeling of being needed is the embodiment of self-worth, and you will not feel lost in such a life.

On the contrary, if we always feel very lonely, and the people around us ignore your existence, and even in our own hearts, we don't know who cares about me and who I care, we will inevitably feel that life is meaningless, and thus lost.

Because when you feel lost, it means that you are thinking, and during this period, we can reflect on the past and plan for the future.

The period of confusion is a very important period for everyone, the old meaning is slowly being cleared, and the new meaning is still in the bud.

This process of metamorphosis, just like when we are sick and feverish, is for the sake of the body's self**.

After experiencing the confusion, we will become clear again, and at this time you will find that you have reached another level.

The reason why we feel lost in life is because we are all ordinary people, we are all ordinary people, our abilities are limited, our creations are limited, but what we want is more and more.

Therefore, when our eyesight is higher than our ability, our life will feel confused, just like when a student goes to school, his academic performance is relatively low, then he does not know whether he can be admitted to his favorite school, whether he can successfully enter a higher school, he will feel confused, because he knows what kind of grade is called a good grade, what kind of grade is called ability, what kind of student is called an excellent student.

Therefore, feeling lost is something that can be encountered at every stage of life, because the goal we want to achieve in each stage of life is different, and it can also be said that we all have the same, that is, we want to be the person we want to be. There is no conflict between you having goals and you being confused.

For example, many, many people, their goal is to become a rich person, although they say that they beautify their ideals, some people say they want to live the life they want to live, some people say they want to have no worries about food and clothing, and some people say they want to buy what they want, but all in all, they always have to have enough financial ability to support their lives, otherwise what is the difference with a homeless person, unless your goal is a homeless person, and there is no higher pursuit, But the goal of the homeless is to go to more places, more worlds to see, of course, I don't mean anything else, but a more literary and artistic homeless man, that is, we don't need too much quality of life, but we really want to see the world.

It may be a personality problem, or it may be that you don't have a clear goal, so you feel this way. It is recommended that you find the cause, and then adjust the symptoms, so that you can live a more fulfilling and directional life.

How to determine the goal

Clause. First, according to personal development, formulate a task that can be completed as long as you work hard, for example, if he makes 100,000 yuan a year, this task can be achieved, for example, before he worked as an assembly line worker in a factory in Guizhou, he can go south to work in the first-tier cities of Guangzhou and Shenzhen in the new year, so the salary level is high, maybe five or six thousand a month, and then add fuel a year to achieve an income of 100,000 yuan.

Clause. Second, according to the past situation, carry out small goal superposition, for example, some business owners do not know how to set the overall goal, what should I do? Split the goals into separate settings.

I'll give you a simple example, for example, based on the previous year's revenue and the overall profit of each month, when designing a goal, set a target based on the situation of each month, and then set an overall goal cumulatively.

Clause. Third, the goal splitting method, for example, is also from the perspective of revenue to set goals. A person wants to achieve an income of 500,000 yuan a year, so how does this 500,000 come from?

Some people are young people with oblique rods and have a lot of amateur jobs, so at this time he began to calculate like this, such as how much he earns in a year from photography, how much he earns from a year's manuscript fee, how much he earns from amateur design in a year, and so on.

Only the goal will lead to motivation and make one's life more exciting. Therefore, you should start from this aspect and make a good adjustment to make your life happier.

Hello. It may be because you don't have a goal in life and don't know what drives you forward.

Confusion in life is due to the fact that there is no pursuit in life for the time being, and I can't feel the meaning of life.

Life is generally confused because of the following aspects:

1. There are too many desires and unattainable pursuits, and you need to slow down and think about it at this time.

2. If you do not find a new goal and direction, you should strengthen your learning and continuously improve your ability level.

3. Under the influence of the environment and other factors, at this time, we should boldly find someone to talk to, seek help from the outside world, and escape from this negative factor as soon as possible.

4. Self-motivation has been hit, and the spirit of hard work is insufficient. Don't complain, don't be too attached to a certain aspect, try more, and don't be afraid of failure.

When I see this question, I think of myself who was once confused. Confusion is also a human experience, when you feel lost, congratulations, you are about to grow. But when you always feel lost, that's when something goes wrong.

When you're confused, you feel like you can't do anything, but it's actually an illusion, or your subconscious tells you that you don't want to do anything, and then you feel like you can't do anything. So from now on, give yourself a positive hint like, what should I do? And if you find something, you can act quickly and set sail.

For example, learn some basic office software, don't underestimate office, after all, this is the work of Microsoft for generations, and its breadth and depth are more profound than you think.

For example, when writing articles, the Internet is so developed now, and so many platforms are available for writing. When you write well, you'll earn some money, so why not.

Resolutely do not fantasize, utopian dreams really can't produce results, and they are very consuming of people's will.

Sometimes we feel lost because we think too much and do too little, and the reason why we do so little is because we are lazy, and it is very right to be lazy. When you overcome laziness, you have taken a step forward, and at this time you should be wary of low-quality diligence, and don't move yourself with those low-quality diligence.

Confused because you don't want to act, when your ability can't support your dreams, when your strength can't support your ideal life, you will feel helpless, then you will be lost, and you don't want to move anything. Therefore, when you are confused, read books, when you have read enough books and can think, you will slowly break through the confusion, and then, you will grow.

Cultivating a skill is far more meaningful than when you are confused. So don't spend all your time confused, act quickly, fill your life with action, make life full, and believe that everything will be fine.

As we grow up and experience more and more things, it is inevitable that sometimes we will feel lost, and there are two reasons why:

First, don't know what you want?

Everyone's pursuit is different, some people pursue fame, some people pursue profit, and some people pursue happiness for the world. When a person does not know what his pursuit is, then he loses the direction of struggle, loses himself in the rolling red dust, and feels lost in his life.

Second, you know what you want, but the results are not as good as you want.

We have the goal we want, we have worked hard, we have struggled, but the final result is sometimes unsatisfactory, then some people will deny themselves, and ask themselves in their hearts, what is the use of hard work? What's the use of hard work? If the result is not treated rationally, then the person will fall into confusion.

Confusion is not terrible, what is terrible is that you can't get out of confusion, when a person is confused, there are two points to keep in mind: meditation and summary.

The purpose of meditation is to seriously think about what you want to pursue, and only by finding the goal you are pursuing, can you find hope again, guide yourself in one direction, and finally get out of the confusion.

Summing up is to learn from their own and others' experience and lessons, even if the previous results are not satisfactory, do not be discouraged, to sum up the experience and lessons from failure, only continuous summary and reflection, can make us no longer fall into confusion.

Hello, the reason why you have this state is because you don't have a plan for your life, you don't have a plan for your career, such as what kind of goals you can achieve in 5 years, so you won't feel lost if you work hard for your goals.

Because there is no ideal and no goal, you don't know what you live for, you need to carefully analyze the life in front of you, find the reason for the confusion, set a flag, and fight for it, so that you will not be confused.

In fact, when you are confused, it is when you can start a new life, at this time, you can re-recognize your own shortcomings, which direction to develop, and how to have the confidence to live.

Perhaps, you have been deceived by life, don't be sad and angry, because, it is yourself, what kind of way you have chosen, what kind of life you have obtained, perhaps, you have lived a very fulfilling life, that is also your choice, to give you a meaningful way of life, in short, no matter what, choose a positive and meaningful lifestyle, to strive to improve yourself, let yourself continue to grow, continue to progress, will not be confused, efforts will have a sense of direction.

If you are young, then your condition is just growing pains.

Actually, things are definitely not as bad as you think.

Be yourself and let your family see what you're capable of, and they'll naturally look the other way at you.

If you're grown up, go out and make your own ......Break out of your own piece of heaven and live a life with high eyebrows!