Why is it that people get too close to each other, and there will be problems?

Distance produces beauty. I've heard of it.

The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship of villains is indifferent; Be. The gentleman confessed, and the villain readily refused. The meaning of this sentence is that true friendship is as light and clear as water, and is not mixed with any interests.

Villains are usually interactions between friends, seem hot at first, and are often associated with interests. True friends seem to be light, but the so-called friends who have long valued interests are often interests gathered, and interests are quickly dispersed. There is a historical story of a gentleman's friendship as light as water.

During the Zhenguan period of the Tang Dynasty, Xue Rengui, a famous general of the Tang Dynasty, lived in an old kiln with his wife before becoming the captain, and his life was very difficult, often grabbing his elbows. Xue Rengui's friends, Wang Musheng and his wife, often went to help them and got along well with each other. Why is it said that "the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water", and people should not be too close to each other?

Since then, Xue Rengui's army has been following Li Shimin to fight everywhere, and when he sympathized, he made great contributions and was named "King of Pingyao". Once a prominent person, there were many people who came to celebrate the gifts of the Quanfu Club, but they were all rejected by Xue Rengui, and only a piece of clear water sent by the queen mother and his wife remained. Xue Rengui ordered to drink three bowls of water in front of the civil and military officials.

It was even said to be very pleasant.

Confused, he said, "In the past, when I was in distress, I relied on the help of the Wang brothers and his wife, and without them, I would not be rich today." Now I don't ask for good wine, I don't accept generous gifts, but I have to accept the big gift from Brother Wang.

Brother Wang is very poor, but clear water is his beautiful meaning. The so-called gentleman's friendship is as light as water! Since then, Xue Rengui and the Queen Mother have been in close contact with each other, and the good saying "The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water" has been handed down.

The so-called "gentlemen's friendship is as light as water" means that friends should keep a certain distance from each other, indifferent and long-lasting, and it is easy to distinguish. In the recent impetuous society, the so-called friends who fight with you as soon as they meet are often here for profit.

What looks like passion on the surface can turn into a heartless relationship later. On the contrary, it is a real friend who enters your heart, usually busy with each other, with few contacts, always taking the lead when there is something, and it is difficult to find a soulmate. Don't get too close to each other, it's a disaster to get too close.

Disaster means not only not going back to the past, but also turning it upside down. To get someone, you can approach him. If you want to lose him quickly, you have to get infinitely close to him.

The advantage of proximity is that you get to know him well. The downside of being too close is that you'll get used to it too much.

Because if a person is very close to a person, then the two people will not have any strangeness. On the contrary, sometimes the other party will hurt himself by doing something.

It's because walking too close can make people feel very uncomfortable, and nowadays people pay attention to their personal privacy and don't want others to get too close to themselves.

Mainly because if you get too close, your weaknesses will be exposed, so that you can easily be attacked by others.

The so-called distance produces beauty, and the estimation of walking between people is prone to contradictions. The reason why this is so is because people are close to each other, and it is easy to interfere in each other's lives, and after getting to know each other, it is easy to make too many demands on each other.

1. When people are too close, it is easy to have contradictions, because if they are too close, it is easy to make demands on each other. When we first meet a person, we usually treat each other politely, and don't dare to ask too much of each other when we don't know each other. But when we get acquainted with the other person and understand his personality, we may ask too much of each other.

For example, when we are familiar with each other, when we encounter difficulties, we may borrow money from the other party, but if the other party does not borrow, then then the conflict arises. But if you are not familiar with the other party, and you don't dare to borrow money from the other party so easily, these contradictions will not exist.

Second, it is easy to have conflicts when people get too close to each other, because if they get too close, it is easy to interfere in each other's lives. Another reason why it is easy to have contradictions when you get too close is because if you get too close, it is easy to point fingers at each other's lives and make comments on each other. When we don't know each other, we don't dare to judge a person at will, and we don't dare to dictate other people's lives.

But after getting to know each other, we don't have so much encouragement, we dare to evaluate others at will, interfere in other people's lives, and break into other people's lives, and contradictions will arise.

For example, when you are not familiar, you dare not let others help you watch the child, but when you get closer, you may let your child often go to other people's homes, and others mind but dare not speak, and then the conflict arises.

3. When people get too close, it is easy to have conflicts because they will not be too polite to each other if they get too close. When people get too close, they will treat each other as close people, which will inadvertently say unhindered words, and will also take the other party's contribution for granted, which will cause conflicts.

Because the closer you go, the more you will find all kinds of shortcomings in each other, and if you walk too close, two people can't avoid it, and there will be friction, such as different views, there will be disagreements when solving some problems, and it is easy to produce contradictions, so people must keep a distance between people, and only distance can produce beauty.

The closer you go, the more you get to know each other, and the more contradictions you will have, so keep your distance from each other.

Because if you get too close, you will find that the other party has a lot of shortcomings, which you have not found before, and of course there will be contradictions.

Because if you get too close, some of the shortcomings of the other party will be infinitely magnified, and you will feel that the other party is different from the person you imagined, and of course there will be contradictions.

Because two people will always meet when they are too close, there will be conflicts because of some small things, and it is different to keep a certain distance, and occasionally they will feel very cordial when they meet, and there will be no contradictions.

If people get too close to each other, there will inevitably be conflicts, so it is better to be cautious.

First of all, let's clarify a few concepts: 1. High-tech. The so-called high-tech, that is, high-tech science and technology, he has brought about the rapid development of communications, transportation and other aspects of the flying and dismantling.

Second, the distance between people, the distance between people, including the space-time distance and spiritual distance between people, and the spiritual distance includes people's emotional distance, ideological distance.

The distance between people is getting farther and farther away, and the distance between people here is getting farther and farther away, referring to the real emotional distance between individuals.

We believe that the current way of information exchange will not increase the understanding between people, because only people eat together, chat, face-to-face communication and communication will produce feelings, for example, when a person is in a bad mood, you have to comfort her and accompany her to do something happy; When you want to dismantle and sell to release your emotions, the scumbags are on the computer, and the mobile phone can't be released, only a few simple words, and sometimes the information age is also a cold world.

The benefits of debate: Enriching our understanding by presenting facts and reasoning, helping us to look at things holistically and deal with problems. Debating skills: Listen to the contradictions and loopholes in others' speeches. Seize the loopholes to refute them, and pay attention to the civilized language.

Get too close, and you're in trouble. Then there are grievances and grievances, in a family, in a unit, and even among friends. When you get better, you can wear a pair of pants together, and after you are separated, you can die without seeing each other.

The relationship between people and people is good if it is light, and such a relationship can be maintained for a long time. If it has been thick, the two are as thick as honey, and it is time to separate. As Lao Tzu said, the big is gone, the death is far away, and the distance is returned. If the relationship has been heating up, it will definitely warm up.

People should keep a distance from others, and keep a certain distance from others. There is too much talk, it's all nonsense, and it's useless. Whether it is between husband and wife or in the family, it is appropriate to keep a distance, and with distance, there is affection.

They are too close, they lack a sense of respect, and they can't see the merits of the other party. When the relationship is good, greed often arises, and this greed is the root of our hatred of each other in the future. Without love, there is no hate.

Without a sense of respect between people, it is difficult to maintain. We talk about giving both grace and power, and we need grace and virtue. That's how it can be maintained.

Getting along with people is an art. It's really not easy to learn a little better. First of all, we must have a kind of psychology of seeking filial piety, don't ask for each other, if you have no desire, you will be strong, do not ask for each other, and then do more things for each other, so that the relationship will slowly get better.

Many people's relationships are getting worse and worse because they ask for too much ingenuity from each other. That's what causes the flip.

Everyone comes to this world with one or several huge tasks. When the mission was over, he was gone. The fate of people is also a task, nothing more. A light relationship, the next life can continue well.

The law of distance, also known as the law of the hedgehog, mainly emphasizes the psychological distance effect in interpersonal communication. It comes from the experiment of hedgehogs getting close to each other for warmth in winter: when hedgehogs are warm, they get too close to each other and will prick each other; It's too far away, and it's not warm.

Only by keeping a moderate distance can you keep warm. The law of distance is applied in interpersonal relationships, that is, people should not get along too far from each other, too far away the relationship will appear unfamiliar, from the perspective of influence, it will not be able to exert influence; But it can't be too close, too close and the relationship is too close, there will inevitably be friction, boredom, and the same can not be better implemented. The secret theory of proper distance means that people should not get along too far from each other, and if they are too far away, the relationship will appear rusty, and from the perspective of influence, they will not be able to exert influence; But it can't be too close, too close and the relationship is too close, there will inevitably be friction, boredom, and the same can not be better implemented.

Lovers in love, if they usually don't see each other, then the relationship will gradually become alienated, and the relationship will become weaker, which is not conducive to further getting along; If you live together every day, there will be contradictions and disputes, which will cause cracks in the relationship. Two people who have a good relationship, if they don't interact often, will gradually forget each other; If you get too close and too intimate, there will be a separation This is true of everything in the world, and the same is true between people, and many phenomena reflect this truth to people: people must learn to maintain a moderate distance between people, so that they can maintain a stable state and be more likely to exert influence on others.

Although people have always advocated that distance produces beauty, distance here produces beauty, which means that under certain circumstances, it corresponds to time distance and spatial distance. Time can dilute everything, space can corrode everything, and then the so-called beauty will still exist?

Don't get too close to each other, otherwise it will only bring disaster!

Distance can produce beauty. You can't get too close.

Yes, after all, they are two individuals, even if they are twins.

Good evening, dear, it's an honor to be able to answer for you, if you get too close to each other, it is easy to have a dislike, and the villain will use such a gap to calculate the honest person. Yes, in real life, we often see some good friends, girlfriends, and confidants, who are often unhappy because of some trivial things, and finally slow down or complain to each other, or even fight, and then turn against each other. The reason is that because they are too close in their daily life, some of their private affairs, even their privacy, are snooped on by the other party, and then used and publicized by the other party.

In the end, it became a knife of rumors, making the parties angry and having to doubt their feelings for each other, former friends, or confidants, or even lovers and turned into passers-by. Therefore, we must keep in mind that people should not get too close to each other, and if they get too close, it will be a disaster.

I hope mine can help you and have a great day!