I broke up with my boyfriend, how can I get it back

I broke up, how should I get it back?

In love, we often encounter such a problem: when you love someone deeply, hope that he will never leave you. But the more times this happens, the easier it is to miss them.

So when we decided to break up, how can we get it back? You must know that we will continue to be with each other after the breakup, which is why we broke up. Let's analyze what we can do to recover after a breakup.

1.Think calmly and analyze the reasons.

Breaking up is a matter of two people, and at this time, we must not speculate and blame each other, which will only lead to the loss of confidence and enthusiasm in this relationship on both sides. You should start from the other person's point of view: I think when you were together, you didn't give me enough security and happiness.

If we really don't want to be together anymore, you can try to change yourself and find out why he doesn't love you: you've been together for too long, many things can't be changed, and hopefully you can change him in more ways. If he finds the security he wants in you, satisfy him appropriately.

If there is still no foundation of love between two people, it is recommended that you can get in touch with some new areas!

2.Redemption is not a blind pursuit.

Saving a relationship is not something crazy for you to do, because such things have no effect unless you have love, feelings and expectations in your heart. And if the other person doesn't want to be with you, it won't give you a reason to continue. So let's not be too eager to try to win each other back.

What we have to do is to make the other person feel safe or find a balance between you. Don't get hit by what you did after winning the other person, it's very bad for the relationship.

3.Learn to empathize.

When you have a conflict with your boyfriend, you might as well put yourself in the shoes of yourself if you have done something wrong. If so, should we apologize to each other? You have to know that no matter how much you say, it is better to change the perspective.

If you always have a cold war with your boyfriend like this, it will not only make the relationship between you become weaker and weaker, but also make the other party feel that this woman is a "ruthless", "unreasonable", and "insecure" woman. Therefore, it is very important to learn to empathize. After a breakup, you have to learn to communicate well with your boyfriend!

4.Give the other person a little leeway.

Although the longer you are together, the more impatient the other person will be with you, but once we are not together, we will find that the other person is actually a good friend. Don't let him see that you have any contact with other members of the opposite sex. Because this will not only not help him find a new girlfriend, but will also make him feel that you don't care about him.

At the same time, don't let him feel that he has lost his value, let him think that since he has lost it, he will no longer have the idea of wanting to get back together. If there's really no way to recover, give yourself a little time to make other preparations after the breakup.

After a breakup, still be friends? What do you think this means? In fact, Yisi thinks that if a man breaks up with you, saying that he is still friends after the breakup, it is nothing more than three attitudes:

1. He is just polite and polite, in fact, I can't wait for you to contact him again. 2. He is actually reluctant to let you go, but just tests you through this euphemistic attitude. 3. He really doesn't care, he thinks it's nothing, and it may be an honor for him to put his ex together on a table of mahjong.

So, if we want to redeem him in this state of being friends after the boyfriend proposes to break up, the first thing we have to do is to distinguish what kind of mentality he has. Then decide on the means of recovery. The big advantage of your boyfriend's proposal to break up and be friends is that he doesn't actually exclude, or on the surface, he doesn't exclude you from contacting him.

As long as the connection is not severed, then there are a lot of recovery operations that are easy. Especially within three months of the breakup, your love stickiness has not been completely broken during this time, you must make good use of it!

If he just politely says that he is friends with you, and in fact it is not like you contact him, then what we need to do is to control the frequency of contact with him. How can you tell if he's just polite? When you send him a message, he always lags a long time in replying to you, and sometimes he doesn't even reply, and when he does, try to use very short language, and all replies seem rigid, polite, and distant.

At this time, we should not contact him repeatedly, which will increase his disgust.

What we can do is to know someone to the same level, and give him a thumbs up or something to his circle of friends. So how can this unfamiliar relationship be brought closer? The answer is help!

You know what he's good at, and then you have a problem with what he's good at, or create that problem yourself, and then go to him for help! Men who ask for help from women, and it happens to be what they are good at, generally will not refuse, and will be more willing to help you. Then start by asking for help, and slowly you can reconstruct your interweaving points.

If it's just a test of your attitude, you can generously say it's okay. After that, don't rush to say anything to him, just keep a normal relationship. But occasionally you can post a ** of a place you used to go to, or a ** of the food he likes to eat, saying that you saw it by chance, and suddenly remembered your past or something.

People with a normal IQ can see your temptation, if it is really reluctant to you, and you know the meaning of the strings, then you just need to give a positive response in his interaction.

The last one is more difficult, he really lets go of you or doesn't care, and it's not embarrassing for him to help you as an ordinary friend. Generally, such people have a very cheerful personality, or they are very popular, and they also have more excellent and dazzling places. The former is the past for him, and the next is his goal.

This situation will be more troublesome to play, and it will be a more protracted tug-of-war.

People say that love is poisonous and demonic, and for most girls, love is like poison, once you are caught in the whirlpool of love, it is difficult to get out. Therefore, many girls want to get their boyfriend back because they are reluctant and can't let go after breaking up with their boyfriend, let alone how to get their boyfriend back after breaking up, they become more fragile and their mood becomes changeable. Today, I will teach the majority of girls how to get their boyfriends back when they break up, and the notebook should be taken out.

One. Reinvent your own charm and become what he needs.

If you want to be with each other again, you rely on the redemption technique of secondary attraction. The most important thing to do is to change yourself first and do a comprehensive self-charm improvement to meet the needs of the other person. Change is targeted, pay attention to what the other party is concerned about, so go to build more of your own shortcomings, when you stand in front of him again, he sees that after you have changed, his charm appreciates, and he will naturally want to get close to you again.

Two. Knowing how to be introverted and hidden.

The more rivals appear, the more you have to learn to hide deeply. Don't even let the other person know how many chips you have on you, and the other person will feel that you are unfathomable. When the other person is always curious about you, the other person will not think of you.

Once you enter the other person's heart, you will become the other person's sweetheart. The appearance of a rival in love may be to make the other person go through a struggle to make a suitable choice.

Three. Reject the old and be a new person.

When deciding to break up and get back to your boyfriend, try not to bring up the past. One is because old things can make the atmosphere awkward and the mood heavy, and the other is because what saves love is not the contradiction of the past at all, but the harmony of the future, so in order to avoid unnecessary trouble, it is better not to talk about the past.

Finally, I would like to advise my friends who have saved their marriage, when a relationship enters a state of breakup and death, please learn how to love yourself first, let love flow in yourself, and your partner will love you.

If I want to get back together with my boyfriend, and I'm embarrassed, I can entrust a mutual friend between you to intercede.

Falling in love to breaking up, but it is not a thing that both parties can accept, after all, breaking up is a failed relationship, because when you choose to fall in love, you want to have a good love experience, two people can hold hands to have ideas, hope to fall in love with each other, breaking up is not a good thing for both parties, there will be some blows and injuries, falling out of love is painful, but you should not indulge in thoughts and can't extricate yourself, just like the theme. He has a positive and enterprising mind, and he can forget about this unhappy lovelorn, the sadness and torture caused by the breakup, and constantly strive to change himself. After his change, he has become very confident.

Don't pray, don't entangle, accept the fact of breaking up, many people will repeatedly promise each other that I will change, I will change, I will change, give me another chance, okay? And these words are often said n times before the breakup, and repeating them again will only cause the other party to resent them.

Or if you feel hopeless after trying to redeem yourself, you are angry and say that you should never contact each other again, and then you can't help but contact the other party, these repeated actions are not conducive to recovery, and your image in the other party's heart will be greatly reduced.

And when a man proposes to break up, it is generally a deliberate decision, and he doesn't want to continue, for what reason? If you have the opportunity, be sure to ask the other person why they want to leave, but many times they will not tell you the real reason, you can only think about it yourself and understand.

Or you have some shortcomings that he can't bear or there are some realistic external resistances that make him have to give up, or more rationally, it is easier to give up than to continue, and you can find the answer from what he has said.

After breaking up, give yourself some time to think about the real reason why the other party wants to break up, only when you find the real reason why he wants to break up, you can be targeted when you recover.

Breaking up gives yourself a period of calm, and another advantage is to let the other party accept the fact that the breakup is that the two people who used to have the most information every day suddenly cut off contact, and it is not only you who are uncomfortable, but also him, but it is this pain that will prompt him to miss the good you used to be, and think about whether the decision to break up is right.

3. Breaking off contact and finding back to your former self is difficult for people who want to redeem their love, you may very much want to know if he still loves you, whether it is worth retrieving, and what he is doing during the breakup.

But I tell you, don't rush to contact, even if you are still in love with the other person, don't keep looking at his space and following his Weibo, because once you are overly involved, it will only increase your sense of need and make the other party more and more disgusted with you. So when facing a breakup, I must find the reason, and then establish my own image, so that I can become better and better, maybe at this time, I will be more confident to recover this relationship.

An inappropriate relationship will eventually have a time when it can't stand up, and the two can't come together, staring at Han, and finally waving goodbye. What do you do in the moments after you break up? There are a lot of memories between you, whenever you eat or go shopping, recalling the previous moments when he was by your side, it is inevitable that there will be some sadness in your heart.

And the ** in the mobile phone, that is your eternal memorial, what will you do with these ** after breaking up?

Some people will keep it as a memento, after all, they love each other, and there is grace between the two of them, and they teach each other many things and truths. If this is unacceptable for your new girlfriend, I think you should consider the possibility of you being together. If it were me, I wouldn't object to my boyfriend leaving his ex-girlfriend's **, keeping it as a souvenir and proving that you really love it.

I don't care how good your past is, I just need you to be good to me now.

Even if you tear up your ex-girlfriend's ** in front of your new girlfriend, you shouldn't secretly think of her when passing by somewhere. Nor should anything come to mind in mind. So, you might as well generously tell your new girlfriend and leave her ** as a souvenir!

Because I want to cherish you even more! In fact, everyone has a past, and a ** does not mean anything, some are just beautiful memorials. After all, it's the person you love, so be kind to someone else's.

If you don't have that memory, or if you want to start a new life, then we can respect your choice to delete **. Because it's an inevitable thing, and you don't want to stay in the shadow of the past and not be able to get out, it's all up to you. That's it, hope.