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Don't criticize, don't blame others, don't complain, don't complain. In fact, complaining and blaming are bad emotions, and they are contagious. People with high emotional intelligence only do meaningful things and don't do meaningless things.
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Good at communication, good at communicating, and honest, sincere and polite. Communication and exchange is a skill that needs to be learned, and constantly summarized and explored in practice.
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Tolerance, broad-mindedness, how big your heart is, how big your vision is, how big your stage is. People with high emotional intelligence are not careful, and have a tolerant and tolerant heart.
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They don't let their negativity affect them, they actively look for the reasons why they are unhappy, and most importantly, they find ways to make themselves happy.
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Being able to face the past calmly, people with high emotional intelligence simply have no time to regret it. They let go of the past and look to the present. Because they know that this is the only way to progress.
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They are mature listeners, and "hearing" and "listening" are two very different concepts. They will repeat what others have said in the form of questions to make sure they haven't missed any information.
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People with high emotional intelligence know that the biggest flaws don't tell you about your weak side, while your biggest strengths can show your strong side. They will give full play to their best strengths to make up for their own shortcomings.
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Being able to live in the present moment and experience every moment of the present will actively experience the delicacy and subtlety of every moment of every day.
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Comfortable. When talking about business and cooperation with people with high emotional intelligence, you can always find the most appropriate value anchor; He knows what you need, and you don't have to be embarrassed to bring it up. He will take care of what is worth it for both parties, he will first consider your comfort zone for you, then choose his own comfort zone, and then, will find the best balance.
When communicating with people with high emotional intelligence, you can not only give up your guard, but also give up your calculations, because people with high emotional intelligence will not calculate you; Outside of the gentleman's care, he only seeks what he deserves.
Evolve. People with high emotional intelligence are characterized by thoughtfulness and consideration, and this quality requires life accumulation and wisdom. People with high emotional intelligence will also have a wide range of social interactions, therefore, his knowledge, insight, and depth of insight will surpass ordinary people, therefore, with people with high emotional intelligence, he will definitely be able to learn things, and they must all be positive energy.
Appropriate, different scenes, different people, and different words are different. In the face of familiar people, you can say a lot, but you also have to pay attention to proportion. Don't keep mentioning the other person's sore spots, especially when there are many people.
For people who are not familiar with each other, we should pay more attention to proportion, be polite, do not intrude on other people's privacy, do not joke casually, and do not point fingers at other people's work.
People with high emotional intelligence are more considerate of other people's feelings, and they speak in a very appropriate manner, and you will feel comfortable with this person among your friends. If he is a competitor, it will be a headache, because his words are almost inconspicuous, which makes people wonder about it, and often makes people feel that he is too polite, and it is easy to make people feel that the city is deep. Therefore, it is happiness to have a friend with high emotional intelligence, and if there is an opponent with high emotional intelligence, you must study the way of speaking and the way of dealing with the world.
You will have no pressure to talk to someone with strong emotional intelligence, his ease will naturally make you feel like a spring breeze, even if he is an intellectual, he will not make you feel humbled, if you meet such a person, he must be a person with strong emotional intelligence. People with high emotional intelligence are generally versatile, hardworking, positive, and very modest and amiable, high-profile and low-key, in short, it makes people feel very comfortable associating with this kind of person.
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It is a very good experience, because chatting with people with high emotional intelligence will make you feel very comfortable, very comfortable, very relaxed, and then there will be a lot of topics, so you can have a very good experience.
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It's a very relaxing experience because I feel like the other person will understand whatever I say, and the other person will understand my thoughts and opinions and will be very clear and super understanding.
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It is a very comfortable experience because their emotional intelligence is relatively high, they can make us feel very comfortable and can do things according to our ideas.
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There is always no shortage of friends with high emotional intelligence around us, they are always able to talk eloquently, they are knowledgeable, and they are very easy and pleasant to interact with. People with high emotional intelligence always take into account the feelings of others when they speak, and when they are not speaking, they often have the following behaviors.
First, people with high emotional intelligence will not break the iron pot and ask to the end. People with high emotional intelligence know how to respect the privacy of others, and in the process of conversation, if they encounter problems that are difficult for the other party to talk about, they will laugh it off and will not continue**. Unlike some people, who specialize in inquiring about other people's privacy as a pleasure, relatively speaking, people with high emotional intelligence are smarter, they can find each other under the stairs, and they can also enhance their feelings for each other.
Second, speak easily and humorously, and can make the other party smile. People with high emotional intelligence always have a pleasant atmosphere during the conversation, and they will use all kinds of jokes to make the other person laugh. They also don't like to be rigid and conservative, and when they speak, their thoughts can keep pace with the times and spread something positive to us.
In short, talking to people with high emotional intelligence can increase knowledge and laughter.
Third, be able to adapt to situations without embarrassing the other party. People with high emotional intelligence know how to read words and feelings, and if they accidentally anger the other person while chatting, they will immediately change the topic and use their emotional intelligence to make the other person happy. They know how to reflect on themselves, constantly create topics in the process of chatting, and chat gradually according to each other's mood, they take care of each other's mood and will not embarrass each other.
It's a pleasure to talk to people with high emotional intelligence, who are smart, but not arrogant, erudite, but not open-mouthed. In the process of interacting with others, they always focus on each other, giving people a sense of relaxation and pleasure.
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High emotional intelligence is to have others in your heart and always stand in the position of others to take care of others.
Feelings, say warm words. Give others inner care and dignity.
Heavy, you can often get the respect of others. People with high emotional intelligence speak very sincerely, and their words reflect their concern and consideration for others everywhere, and they are always welcomed by others everywhere, giving people a feeling of spring breeze.
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It is to stand in the shoes of others and take care of other people's feelings, give others care and respect, and speak very sincerely.
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A person with high emotional intelligence will care about the other person's feelings and make the other person feel comfortable chatting with him.
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In the process of chatting, you care about the other person's feelings, you are not self-centered, and you can say whatever you want.
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When talking to each other, you should be polite, but you will keep a certain distance and not appear too intimate.
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People with high emotional intelligence like to say things that make the other person happy, and never say things that embarrass the other person.
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Emotional quotient (emotional quotient) usually refers to the number of emotional quotients, abbreviated as EQ, which mainly refers to people's emotions and intentions
Qualities such as zhi, resistance to frustration, etc., including zhi guide quotient (lq) and so on. In general, there is no obvious innate difference in emotional intelligence between people, and it is more closely related to the cultivation of nurture.
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Changed sorry I'm late to thank you for being willing to wait for me.
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Able to chat, high emotional intelligence is the key.
Let's start with a small incident from my high school days. Once, during recess, I was at the same table talking to the boys sitting behind her, and I sat in my seat and listened to them. They talked about cleanliness, I said at the same table, she has a roommate, cleanliness is particularly serious, if the bedroom is not clean, she can't sleep at night, often get up in the middle of the night to clean the dormitory, and if other people don't pay attention to hygiene, she is also very uncomfortable, so often even the roommate's table, bed, or something to make up together.
At this time, I teased, I said, then will she get up in the middle of the night to get a towel to wipe your head? As soon as she finished saying this, her face immediately changed, and the boy she was chatting with was also embarrassed, she felt like she was suppressing her anger and said, I wash my hair very diligently, okay! Because we often change tables in high school, and we have only been sitting at the same table for a few days, so we don't have a lot of close relationships.
Obviously, it was very inappropriate for me to say that to a classmate with whom I didn't have a good relationship, even though I was just joking and didn't mean anything else. During the lesson, I could clearly feel that the atmosphere between us was oppressive and awkward. I really didn't want to go, so I handed her a note, and I said, I was just joking, nothing else, I'm sorry, don't mind.
She only replied to me with five words, it's okay, that's it. Obviously, she didn't quite accept my apology, and obviously wouldn't mind. Since then, our relationship has been lukewarm, and we have not become very good friends.
Although it was just a small thing, I remember it until now, and I regret it very much, this is a typical manifestation of low emotional intelligence and not being able to speak, and if it happened again, I would definitely not interject that sentence at that time.
One more thing. A girl in high school, a little fat, but she yells all day long that I want to **I want **, I must be thin like a lightning bolt. One day she said in her seat that she was going to lose weight like a lightning bolt, and our Chinese teacher happened to pass by and asked her, how many pounds do you want to lose?
She said, I'm going to lose 100 pounds! The teacher said, "You've lost too much." The girl stopped talking, and could clearly feel the awkwardness in the air.
At this time, a teacher's words came that one hundred pounds was too thin, and they were all thin and out of shape, but they were still fat and good-looking. A light sentence will immediately relieve the awkward atmosphere. I thought to myself at the time, I deserve to be a Chinese teacher, I have a really high emotional intelligence, and I can really speak.
People with high emotional intelligence, even if they accidentally say something embarrassing, they will immediately round the scene, so that both parties will not feel uncomfortable, and the awkward atmosphere will naturally disappear. In life, it is necessary to observe how those people with high emotional intelligence speak and do things, learn their chat skills, and improve their emotional intelligence. But emotional intelligence is something that can't be achieved overnight, it's slowly cultivated through training.
People with low emotional intelligence can't help but think about whether this sentence is appropriate or not before speaking. If you're hesitant and unsure if it's appropriate, don't say it, it's better not to say it than to say the wrong thing.
Therefore, if you want to improve your chatting skills, it is key to improve your emotional intelligence first.
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High emotional intelligence is to look at the person's behavior, not to speak, and now I want to make friends, and I am accumulating sugar, all of which are straight to the point, and go straight to the topic, which is reliable.
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Don't talk about income, don't ask about age, don't talk about body, don't ask about privacy.
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The level of emotional intelligence and whether or not you can speak are two different things. Emotional intelligence mainly refers to the quality of a person in terms of emotions, will, and tolerance of setbacks. And the person who speaks in power does not mean that emotional intelligence must be high.
In general, people who can talk have higher emotional intelligence; But emotional intelligence encompasses many other aspects and is synthetic.
Some people speak very well, but are easily discouraged when they encounter setbacks (work and study), then they also have low emotional intelligence.
If a person is very good at talking, can read words and feelings, is strong-willed, and has a strong ability to resist setbacks, then he must be a person with high emotional intelligence.
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For example: What are you doing instead of what you are doing? If you don't change the meal to eat together, do you want to eat Sichuan or Hunan cuisine? Put oh, hahaha, well, okay, replace it with you as it is, good thing you're here.
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It is very comfortable to chat with people with high emotional intelligence, they are kind, humorous, and gentle, in fact, it is not difficult to become such a person at all, read the following books. <>
The Weakness of Human Nature
I used to hear from my friends about this book, but I couldn't get any interest in it! I feel that I have weakness, and I know that others can't help me; A few days ago, a friend strongly recommended that I read it, so I decided to buy this book and read it! This book can really be repeated**, it can remind me of the flaws in my own character, make relationships more harmonious or move in a meaningful direction, and I can really learn a lot.
A complete set of "Three Uniques of Eloquence".
This set of books has benefited me a lot, taught me how to speak, how to do things, how to behave, the book also through vivid examples, explain how to improve our language skills, so as to achieve twice the effect with half the effort, practice eloquence is very practical, insist on learning, make a little progress every day, always move forward, is a good work worth looking at, with a lifetime of golden keys to life, quickly become a social expert. <>
<>Tsai Kangyong's Way of Speaking".
As the book says, talking is one of the most effortless but easiest ways to make yourself comfortable in this world. It's easy to read, and there are indeed a lot of small but practical skills, and you can clearly feel Mr. Kangyong's witty humor and a bit of bad taste. The text, spacing, and gaps are large, but the overall layout looks comfortable.
I like this book very much, it is a deep truth, and it makes people feel warm and powerful. <>
People with high emotional intelligence have a clear understanding of their emotions, know what emotions they are excess, and can control their emotions so that they do not disturb their work and life; People with high emotional intelligence are good at regulating their emotions and not letting their emotions go to extremes, some people say that they are very rational, which can be admitted, but many people with high emotional intelligence are also rich in inner emotions, but they are good at hiding their inner emotions.
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