Why do so many people feel that they are not suitable for a relationship?

In fact, I think this situation is because he is more insecure, and then he is afraid of being hurt by love, so he chooses to protect himself, they actually still believe in love, only because they are afraid, so they will pretend that they don't like it and don't care. Because I know one of my own qualities very well, I feel that if I am hurt in love, there is definitely no way to accept it. Therefore, if there is a feeling, he will suppress this emotion.

There are many people who think that love is a very complicated thing, and they have to coax their boyfriend and girlfriend. Then I feel that my ability is not enough, my good body and appearance are not particularly good, and I don't have any skills and shining points that I can handle. So if you think you can't keep your lover, it's better not to start than to be like this, so you won't be hurt.

After a long time, you will slowly become less like yourself, afraid of losing, and afraid to start again, in fact, this is also a very sad thing. I used to always feel that people like me were not suitable for falling in love or getting married at all. Because my flesh heart is not particularly stable, and I am very sensitive, I think a lot, and I like to guess one of the other party's minds.

I'm not good at communication at all, I don't know how to get along with others, and I can still get along well.

So after thinking about it, I think it's better for me to live alone, at least it won't hurt others and myself. Actually, I don't really want to fall in love, but I still want it in my heart, but I am extremely unconfident in myself, and then I am afraid of being hurt accordingly, so I choose to protect myself. Rather than exposing your shortcomings in the process of falling in love, and then being disliked by others, it is better to let the other party's life leave that beautiful self.

Because once it starts, there's no way to end it well, there's no way, I don't care at all.

This is because some people feel that it is very hard to fall in love, and they don't know how to get along with the opposite sex, so they feel that they are not suitable for falling in love.

Because many people live very well on their own, and the quality of life is not bad, and their temper is quite big, they feel that they are not suitable for falling in love.

This is because they have experienced failed relationships before, and none of them have lasted until the end, and they have been hurt in their love lives.

More and more people don't want to be in a relationship, and they give the argument that they are not suitable for a relationship. So is that really the case? What's behind what they say?

Let's take a look at what kind of psychology people who say they are not suitable for falling in love, and interested friends will discuss it together.

oneFear of being hurt again.

Some people don't want to talk about it again after they have been in a relationship once, because they don't want to gain defeat and hurt from the relationship. Falling in love is indeed a very draining thing, and there are only two endings to love, either success or failure. For those who only fall in love once and don't want to try again, they may be afraid of falling in the same place twice, so there is a kind of "once bitten by a snake for ten years afraid of the well rope" mentality, such people like to refuse to fall in love with another person on the grounds that it is not suitable for love.

2. Believe that love is no longer important.

Some people, after failing to fall in love, feel that they have tried and can let go of their attachment to love. At this time, they have more important things to complete by themselves, and more important goals to achieve by themselves, in their opinion, there is no mystery in love, there is no need to pursue, so they will concentrate all their energy to do what they want to do. Such people have their own lofty ideals and goals, and in their opinion, love is no longer a necessity in life, so they directly admit that they are no longer suitable for love.

3. Out of inferiority complex.

The reason why some people think that they are not suitable for a relationship is because of their own lack of self-confidence. They once suspected that they were very average-looking, their personality was not outstanding, and their popularity was relatively poor, and no one would like them or even fall in love with them at all. So in their cognition, something as beautiful as love will not appear in them at all, so they refuse to open their hearts and lungs because they feel that they are not suitable for love at all.

Such a person has to say that if you want to really fall into a relationship, you have to build your self-confidence first.

Because I am unwilling to pay, my personal time is very short, I want to rest, I have no time to communicate, there is no time to communicate, this situation is not suitable for love.

Hello dear! I'm glad to answer for you. I hope my answer helps. If you have such thoughts, it means that you may not be able to be handy in your love life, so at this time you feel that feelings cannot bring you happiness and bring you some pressure.

If you are handy and comfortable in your love life, you may prefer to be with your partner, because you can bring you more happiness and satisfaction in the process of interacting with her, because two people are more suitable and comfortable to get along.

When we feel very tired and powerless in a relationship, it means that this relationship really makes you haggard, so there is no need to continue to insist on such a relationship, if you feel tired, then you must let go and find a suitable person for you, so that you can be with him without pressure, feel more happy, have more beautiful hope, such emotions are what you need most

Because many people feel that their personality is not particularly good, and they are not particularly good-looking, they feel that they are not suitable for falling in love.

Because there are many people who feel that falling in love is not suitable for them, and there are also many people who feel that falling in love is very troublesome, there are many people who feel that they are not suitable for falling in love.

They tell you directly: "Maybe people like me are not suitable for love." ”

In fact, people who often say that they are not suitable for falling in love mean that they are afraid that they will not be able to deal with their relationship problems.

In the final analysis, the main reason is: "fear of hurting yourself" or "fear of hurting others".

Because I am not tempted and I know my own virtues, once there is someone I like, the person who is injured must be myself, so I habitually suppress my feelings, and I start to pick thorns to suppress my good feelings. ”

People like me aren't suitable for relationships. Love awakens my possessiveness, my desire for control, my suspicions.

It will also seduce my narrow-mindedness, selfishness, and sensitivity. ”

People like me are not suitable for falling in love, let alone getting married, my emotions are not very stable, I am very sensitive, I think a lot, I will not be good at expression, and I will not get along with others day and night. ”

When I wasn't in love, I was very eager to be in love, but after I really fell in love, I felt very irritable.

Before the two confirm the relationship, they will feel very interested, and after confirming the relationship, they will be too serious and afraid that they can't afford to lose.

I'm not used to anything pounding, or my heart is racing, and I don't have a very strong feeling for anyone.

That's probably why I'm too suitable for being single and not suitable for a relationship.

In fact, there are no people who are not suitable for falling in love, only people who can't fall in love, and only people who can't overcome difficulties.

Many people are always in front of other people's love, and they can be emotional and rational as they should be. But when you really meet yourself, you meet someone you love and feel that it seems that you have betrayed the world for him, and his requirements are OK as long as you can. So I'm afraid that I'll lose myself, I'm afraid that I won't be able to fall in love and end up separated, I'm afraid that I'm too emotional and don't know him well enough to end up bruising all over the place, I'm afraid that I'm too forgetful and abandoned.

It's okay to put your own character shortcomings at home, and your parents can forgive you, but you don't know if he can always accept you like this, and you don't know if he can fall in love again and tolerate your many faults at the same time. Because everyone knows that time is a good medicine and a poison, it can heal your wounds and give you a heavy knife. A lifetime is so long, do you know how long he can tolerate you?

So being in love is scary, and it's better to be alone than scared.

Yes. Because I feel that I am not suitable for falling in love, I am afraid that when I fall in love, once the novelty of being with a boy is over, I don't want to deal with him, I am also afraid that he will hate me, and I also feel that I am not mature enough, so I don't think I should talk about it at this stage.

I just feel that I am not very suitable for love, I feel that love is too tiring, if I am in love, I want to die.

There are a lot of people nowadays, they are very busy, they don't have a lot of time, and they feel that falling in love is a very troublesome thing.

I think there will indeed be people who have started to feel that they are not suitable for a relationship, because they will feel that they have a big problem in the process of falling in love, which leads to the failure of the relationship.

Absolutely. These people have been hurt in their relationships and have experienced a lot of betrayal, so they feel that they are not suitable for a relationship.

In fact, there are many people who feel that they are not suitable for falling in love, that is, there are often some contradictions when they are in love, and they feel very irritable and troublesome about falling in love.

I feel like that's who I am. Because I have lived alone for a long time, I feel that I will not love anymore, I am very good alone, and I don't want to be disrupted by others. So I feel that I am becoming more and more unsuitable for a relationship.

People like me are not suitable for a relationship, because love will awaken my possessiveness, control, suspicion, seduce my narrowness, selfishness, sensitivity, and make me and the person I love miserable.

Singles can be said to be very free.

Because I think I can have a very interesting life alone, and there will be all kinds of constraints with others, and there will be very trivial and troublesome things to bother you.

For example, if you want to go to another place, you can pack your belongings and leave when you live, you won't be bound by some so-called family, life won't be too hard, you always need to be busy for others, you can do whatever you want, no one is always involved in your choices, and no one can be your bond, I think it's a very wise choice.

Singles are very common at the moment, and I think it's a very natural phenomenon, and I understand them very well, because I belong to this group myself.

Secondly, I think being single makes you more efficient in doing things, and we will not dedicate almost all of your life to yourself if you are single. The affection of children is brought into the work, so we don't have too many worries, which can also improve our work efficiency.

I feel that it is not suitable for marriage because the pace of life is becoming faster nowadays, and the traditional concept is changing step by step, so many young people think that the price of marriage is too great, and the payment and gain will not be proportional, so many people think that they are not suitable for marriage.

The marketization of love and the commodification of marriage have become a common phenomenon in China. In China, it is difficult for people who truly love each other to come together in the end, and all marriages are purposeful and conditional, and they are all products of the commodity economy, so Chinese marriages are unfortunate. We often hear people say that we need to find someone we don't love to marry, because only with someone we don't love can we do business, only with businessmen can we practice equivalent exchange, Chinese marriage is a partnership transaction that will never be profitable.

Chinese are the most suitable to live in groups, marriage used to be a custom, then became a habit, now it has evolved into a ritual, marriage fanfare is afraid that others will not know. Foreigners marry to live, have children because they are happy, Chinese marry to survive, and have children to retire. Depending on the purpose, the result will naturally vary.

Marriage is a way of life, and when it comes to Chinese, it has become a survival tool.

If there are conditions, we must go up, and if there are no conditions, we must also go up; this is what the Chinese often say, and the Chinese have always had a fine tradition of tenacious struggle, and marriage is no exception. Not to mention the outbursts, the petty bourgeoisie, and those who depend on their parents to support themselves, I think the vast majority of aspiring Chinese will rely on their own hard-working hands to create their own happy family life.

For a warm family of three, some people have paid their precious youth, some people have paid a tired life, and when they are tired to death, the only pride is their wives and children who are crying in front of the bed. Is it really something to be proud of, in fact, it's self-comforting.

To sum up, Chinese marriage does more harm than good, or in addition to reproduction, in addition to increasing the throughput of food, there is no benefit, so many people feel that marriage is not suitable at present.