I feel that my husband doesn t feel sorry for my son and wants to divorce, what should I do?

Speaking of such a time, I remembered that when I was pregnant, I went to the prenatal examination for more than 7 months, and the doctor said that the baby had frequent fetal movements and needed injections to protect the fetus and hang water. But because I had to pay cash, I didn't have enough cash on hand, so I asked him to send money to accompany me for injections. At that time, he basically didn't go to work much, and he was mostly at home, but because he had been taking a nap late that day, he didn't want to get up, and I was afraid that the prenatal doctor would take the car to go to the prenatal checkup by himself after work.

Waiting for him to send money, I can't wait, I can't wait, it's been more than an hour, and when I came later, I said that I was playing games at home, and I came over after a few games. At that time, I cried for a long time because I was wronged. . .

Thinking about this, there are so many things that make me very depressed. You don't have to wonder why I married such a person. Most of the time, I feel that my family and married life are still happy because we have to tolerate and take care of each other.

We were high school classmates, college in the same city, and we used to have a good relationship, but we got married after a while after graduation. I feel that he has no bad habits, and he is a familiar person, and his sense of responsibility to the family is still relatively strong. But once he touched on the problem of children, I wondered if it would be like this for the rest of my life.

Or is it that fathers and mothers have different ways and perspectives on educating their children?

Dear, hello, I'm happy to answer for you, my husband wants a divorce, but you are reluctant to have children, what should you do at this time? I think you should start with the following points to solve most of your problems.

First, it is important to understand that even if you are divorced, you can still fight for custody of your children.

That way you will still be able to be with your child.

Legally.

If the man is at fault in the marriage, such as the involvement of a third party, for example, there is abuse of family members, or domestic violence, or there are bad hobbies, such as gambling, these circumstances are not conducive to him fighting for child custody.

Second, to find out what is the reason for the man's divorce? If the man says that there is a third party, then let the third party exit as much as possible and make a targeted solution.

Third, strive to be financially and personally independent, so that when you win custody of your child, you can also give your child a better environment to grow up, so that you won't love your child while not being able to raise your child.

Finally, after having children, try not to get divorced. Divorce is quite harmful to children. Husbands and wives should not quarrel too often. Think calmly and deal with it.

[Legal Analysis].

You can sue the other party for divorce and fight for child custody at the same time. Custody refers to a personal right of a parent over his or her child. This right is extinguished when the child reaches the age of majority, but until the child reaches adulthood, the parent or both parties have the right to decide whether or not to live with the child, and the parent who loses custody will still have the right to visit, and may visit the child regularly for a relatively short period of time within the agreed or adjudicated period.

Divorce generally results in the loss of custody of one of the spouses. The parent who loses custody will lose the right to live with the child. However, the parent who loses custody will still have visitation rights and can visit the child regularly during the agreed or adjudicated time and spend relatively briefly with the child.

The ownership of custody in the event of divorce can be negotiated by both parties, and once the negotiation fails, the court shall make a judgment. The court's decision on the ownership of custody is generally based on the principle of being conducive to the growth of the child: the following factors are mainly considered:

Education, employment, income, age, family environment, age of both spouses, age of children, etc.

Legal basis] Civil Code of the People's Republic of China Article 1015: Natural persons shall follow their father's or mother's surname, but in any of the following circumstances, they may choose a surname other than the father's or mother's surname: (1) choosing the surname of another lineal elder blood relative; (2) The surname of the person who chooses the person who is supported by a person other than the legal person who is the person who is the person who supports them; (3) There are other legitimate reasons that do not violate public order and good customs. The surnames of natural persons belonging to ethnic minorities may be subject to the cultural traditions and customs of their own ethnic groups.

If you want to get a divorce, but you can't bear the child's solution: if the two parties can reach an agreement on child support and other matters, they can agree to divorce, and if they can't divorce by agreement, the parties can sue for divorce. Regardless of the way the parties divorce, the issue of child support needs to be properly addressed.

In addition, the relationship between parents and children is not extinguished by the divorce of the parents, and the parties may agree to take turns to directly raise the children on the premise that it is conducive to protecting the interests of the children.

Legal basis] Article 1084 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China.

The relationship between parents and children is not extinguished by the divorce of the parents. After divorce, the children are still the children of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the father or mother.

After divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise, educate and protect their children.

In the event of a divorce, children under the age of two shall be raised directly by their mothers. For children who have reached the age of two, and the parents fail to reach an agreement on the issue of child support, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of both parties and in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child. Where children have reached the age of 8, their true wishes shall be respected.

Article 48 of the Supreme People's Court's Interpretation (1) on the Application of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China on Marriage and Family.

On the premise that it is conducive to protecting the interests of the children, where both parents agree to take turns to directly raise the children, the people's courts should support it.

If you still have questions about this issue, it is recommended that you organize the relevant information and communicate with a professional in detail.

I grew up in an environment where I was reluctant to let my children get divorced and have no family taste, I didn't understand the suffering of my parents when I was a child, I was not sensible, and I didn't want them to leave, but now that I have grown up, I regret my ignorance and selfishness, kidnapped them from each other, and I don't feel that this home is warmer.

Children are too young for fear of being hurt and fear of inferiority, sustainable family discord will hurt each other more, and your sacrifices are more likely to turn into resentment in the future and turn your head to kidnap your son, so this account will never be settled!

What I want to say here is that there will always be aspects that you can't consider when you have too many distractions, so the most important thing is to cultivate yourself and take care of your own feelings, so that you can leave room to take care of others.

People say that it is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage, think about why you married him in the first place, and guide him to the right path according to your original requirements, other people's opinions are always other people's ideas, and you have to make your own decisions about this matter.

It's best not to get divorced! If you have a child, you must start from the overall situation, as a father you must take responsibility, as a husband, you must be considerate of your wife's difficulty, and treat the married wife who has spent those young years with you with a tolerant and benevolent heart!

Then don't, having a child divorce will leave him a psychological shadow, why do you have so many things, feelings can be cultivated slowly, but if you want to leave a spiritual scar on the child, it can't be repaired.

Although the relationship is not harmonious, but the key is to see if there is room for redemption As a parent, of course, they are reluctant to have children, first of all, they must also think about their children, after all, he is innocent, I have also experienced it, although I have not divorced my wife now, we are still trying to save it, because the child is only two years old, to know how much divorce will hurt her in the future! So I suggest you think about it, and if it's really irreparable, then there's no way to think of a better ending for the child!

Single-parent families or remarried families are not scary.

The terrible thing is that your husband and wife have a bad relationship.

There will be no warmth in the family that will be settled, and the bridge will be more cruel than a single parent.

For the sake of the child, think again.

It is difficult to distinguish what feelings are in life, but for children, the transformation in the future is likely to be this decision.

Your husband and his parents are femme fatales... Women should be kind to themselves! There is nothing to hide! Accumulate savings, accumulate contacts, go by yourself, and take your children away. Stay away from that brute's house!

Why should I die, I have a deep contempt and disgust for those who seek death.

People who are not afraid of death, is there anything to be afraid of? When you die, others are satisfied, they can find a new lover, live a happy life, and beat your children when they are angry.

The worst option is to take the child away and fly away. In this world, fate is indescribable. Maybe somewhere, there's someone waiting for you and your kids. He can take care of both of you and keep you safe and happy.

Leave your current environment and live in a new place.

Either you give in to him, or you just want to live a life yourself.