-
8 ways to develop your child's ability to resist stress.
Parents should develop courage and resilience in their children during their teenage years and even younger. People are born with the ability to recover from difficult situations, and the ability to deal with difficult problems can also be developed through learning, and these skills will undoubtedly benefit people for life. Barbara Greenberg is a clinical psychologist in the United States who has been interviewed and reported on CNN, Good Morning America, and ABC Nightly News.
He offers 8 ways for parents to develop their children's resilience in a positive way.
I talk to many parents almost every day, and I make it my mission to teach my children how to fight back against setbacks. When I was in graduate school, my teacher taught us that people are either born with the magical ability to recover from setbacks or they don't. During that time, we learned resilience, or the ability to recover from difficult situations, or even how to deal with difficult problems, which can be cultivated through learning.
Here are a few of my suggestions that parents can teach their children to be brave and resilient.
1. Tell your child that disappointment is acceptable, and that you should not only expect from your child, but also learn to deal with various disappointments in life. Disappointments and frustrations are not entirely negative thoughts, and there are things we can learn from them.
2. Remind your child that failure is normal. At this turning point in our lives, we all experience failures that teach us to be more humble, more compassionate, and how to deal with problems in the future. In other words, failure also provides an opportunity to learn.
3. Remind your child how important it is to have a personal support system that is willing to help them when they are happy or sad. It's like in a fan club, we're all doing well, right?
4. Please teach your children to maintain a lively nature, and parents should set an example by themselves. In general, parents always educate their children with a straight face, which can exacerbate their feelings of anxiety. Let the kids retain a bit of playfulness, after all, everyone needs some moments of relaxation.
5. Free your child from stress and take them on a short trip. For example, if children are feeling too stressed with a lot of homework, it is better to take them out for a walk and give them a short break.
6. Be a model for healthy eating, sleeping, and exercising. Only when we are healthy can we participate in work and life well.
7. Tell your child that they can have bad emotions in the 24 hours before taking action to deal with difficulties. After that day, they may not feel so depressed. I like this 24-hour rule because not every emotion requires you to react immediately.
8. Teach your child that asking others for help is not only acceptable, but very positive, and that there is no shame in asking others to help. Everyone needs help from others, and we can benefit from helping each other.
-
Children who are often played crazy by their fathers are more resilient to stress when they grow up.
-
What we really need in this discussion is the ability to withstand pressure.
What is anti-hood compression capability? It is the courage and belief that people are firm, persistent, confident, and fearless in the face of setbacks and difficulties.
He needs the strength of your heart to be incomparably strong. And this is what it takes to have enough love, to receive enough faith, and to have enough support to be born. He is poured out of love, not scolding, suppressing, and cheating.
Under the guise of creating frustration education for children, beating and scolding children at every turn and suppressing them cannot bear the fruit of "anti-friend trembling and pressure ability". On the contrary, it is easy to give birth to people who are timid, weak, and have extremely low self-esteem.
For example, Jia Baoyu in "Dream of Red Mansions", when facing his father, his daily cleverness was swept away, and he turned to trembling and unable to answer, which is a kind of pathological timidity, fear, fear, and extreme lack of confidence. Can such a person be nourished in his heart? Can there be stability, firm and positive emotions in the face of setbacks and difficulties?
Afraid, it's hard. Beating and scolding education is not frustration education, and no matter how good the coat is put on, no matter how beautiful the coat is, it will not change the "evil causes" created by this education method.
-
For children with poor psychological anti-depressive ability, it is generally necessary to intervene by cultivating an independent personality, giving enough confidence, and exercising appropriately. If necessary, it is necessary to go to the hospital in time for medical treatment, and professional doctors will give guidance.
1. Cultivate independent personality: let children learn to do things independently, if all the things of the child are done by the parents, they do not have the experience of facing difficulties and frustrations, and they will be overwhelmed and poor in the face of difficulties independently. Therefore, it is necessary to let children do things independently, face some difficulties as soon as possible, and solve them by themselves, so as to improve their psychological resilience;
2. Give enough confidence: Some parents will scold and blame their children when their children have problems, and they will not lack praise when their children do well. Therefore, it is important to give enough praise when your child is making progress
-
A shocking thing happened in the community.
A girl who had just entered the first year of junior high school was confiscated by her mother because she was looking at her mobile phone, and the girl walked to the kitchen without saying a word, picked up a knife and slashed her wrist three times...My mother couldn't cry by herself, and although it didn't hurt in the end, everyone was also talking about it...
What happened to the children now?
It's not good to eat and wear one by one, it's really hard to bring?
One by one, can't it all collapse?
One by one, the ability to resist pressure is too weak.
Especially now, for children, the ability to resist frustration is generally weak, although the most important thing for children now is how to face pressure.
The ability to resist pressure, which is related to a person's psychological quality, some people have strong ability to resist pressure, and some people have weak ability to resist pressure.
The strength of the ability to withstand pressure will affect a person's work and life, and the most important thing for teenagers in the future is their ability to adapt to this society. That is to say, the child's ability to resist pressure in all aspects, so it is incumbent and necessary to improve the ability to resist pressure.
1. Let children do what they like, do what they are good at, find self-confidence, and find motivation and direction to move forward.
Second, let children do more outdoor sports, this spring can take children to fly kites, feel nature, embrace nature, and integrate into nature.
3. Encourage children to develop the habit of keeping a diary. There is a ** house in the book, and there is Yan Ruyu in the book, so that the children can write down the bits and pieces of life. Sublimate his heart.
Fourth, as a family member, you should chat with your children more, communicate more, enhance your feelings, and be aware of problems and solve them at any time.
Fifth, let children study hard, find the joy of learning, continue to improve, improve their own academic performance, read more relevant books in combination with their own interests, and plan their majors.
6. Let children read more books that they are interested in, broaden their horizons, increase their knowledge and enrich their knowledge.
7. Let children have a specialty, such as practicing calligraphy, dancing, painting, piano, and other musical instruments, cultivating sentiment and increasing temperament.
8. Let children do housework appropriately.
9. Don't blindly praise children, although there is a saying that good children are praised, saying that you are so good, you are awesome. To improve your child's ability to cope with stress. Still use"Slap a candy in the face"way of education.
What kind of exercise can help improve your child's ability to cope with stress?
Improving stress tolerance allows children to vent when they do their favorite sports.
Jogging. Running can exercise the body, and exercise improves one's will and endurance.
Walk. Walking can be a relaxing and enjoyable experience.
Playing basketball. When playing basketball, you need to cooperate with others to enhance team awareness and collective awareness.
Every step of life is full of opportunities and challenges, and it is important to integrate this in the education of children.
There are parents who have"During the validity period, the education of the ability to resist pressure is related to the child's life, so that the child can be a strong person, as a parent, it is the responsibility of the child....
Here are a few of my suggestions that parents can teach their children to be brave and resilient. >>>More
Everyone has the possibility of success, the question is whether there is a real heart to do things in reality, in the process of doing things to sum up the experience of success and the lessons of failure, big success is the accumulation of small successes, to do a small thing well and to understand why you can do a good job This is more meaningful than being able to do a small thing, the lack of successful friends then learn from successful people, but in your words I feel that you have given success to successful friends to complete, I think it is not right, It is difficult for people who earn 100,000 a year and 1 million a year to be in a circle, so the problems have to be asked by themselves to find answers and solve them, among which learning is a very important thing, always 0 mentality, always open and accepting mentality, learn to think independently, in fact, doing things is the best learning, do things well step by step is not far from success, courage and ability are in the reality of doing things (do things well) refined, don't think about who to call to help you, What can really help yourself is your own ambition, your own thinking, your courage and perseverance to dare to fight against your stupidity and laziness, and the awakening of your own soul, when you can help others, it is not far from success, if you feel that you are not successful, then go to a successful person or a successful company to work and study, learn their good things and refine them into your own things, you can do a good job and make a big deal of what others give you, you will ask others to do your things well and make them bigger. After learning in real practice, learning book theory, thinking and refining reality and book things into your own things in your own mind, you will gradually become stronger. To improve the ability to identify people, first of all, you must have a wealth of knowledge and experience as the foundation, that is, your own appreciation must be superb to be able to appreciate things, just like appreciating works of art, you can take a look at Liu Shao's *Character Chronicles*, learn from *Enneagram* Zeng Guofan's *Bingjian* Read more history, history is a history of management, see how ancient kings knew people and managed people, I wish you success!
Hello, let me tell you: What is management ability: The manager's management ability is fundamentally the ability to improve the efficiency of the organization. >>>More
These three sentences cultivate children's anti-frustration quotient.
Hehe, they're annoying.
You memorize the comments of the previous winners of "Moving China", and use some "connecting words" to connect the material with the topic during the exam. >>>More