How to improve your child s ability to resist frustration .

These three sentences cultivate children's anti-frustration quotient.

It is normal for children to encounter setbacks in the process of growing up, and it is an important sign of mental health to be able to tolerate and eliminate setbacks and maintain a complete personality and psychological balance. However, the resilience of children who are now cautious seems to be generally poor. So how can you improve it?

1. Parents should establish a sense of frustration education and understand the importance of frustration education

Many parents believe that their children have poor psychological tolerance and should be protected. This perception has a direct impact on the child. In fact, it is very beneficial for a person to suffer a little setback, especially some setbacks in the early stage.

Parents should take the educational value of setbacks into perspective, seeing them as a good way to hone their will and improve their resilience.

2. Grasp the opportunity of frustration education and help children understand frustration correctly

Children's correct cognition and understanding of frustration is the key to frustration education, and it is the first step for us to carry out frustration education. When children are facing difficulties, parents should let them intuitively understand the process of the development of things, and gradually realize the universality and objectivity of setbacks from repeated experiences, so as to truly feel that there will be difficulties in doing anything, and the joy of success comes from the solution of problems.

3. Teach children to deal with failure correctly

In many cases, it is not the failure itself that hits the child the most, but his understanding of it. For example, if your son was not selected to represent the kindergarten at the party, he may think of the reason: "I'm not as good as other children."

But there are other reasons too, such as "they need more little girls", or "they want to sing the best songs". This is not to teach your child to avoid responsibility – sometimes it is the child's own reasons that lead to failure.

1. Seize the favorable opportunity to cultivate frustration tolerance

Resilience is not innate, but is cultivated through practical activities. For example, if your child fails in an exam, he is depressed and depressed. Parents should seize the favorable opportunity to let their children let go of their burdens and stimulate their children's self-confidence with a sincere attitude.

In the long run, children will gain strong motivation from their parents' affirmative and trusting attitude, participate in various activities with confidence, and overcome the difficulties and setbacks encountered in life and learning with strong perseverance.

2. Exercise frustration through problem-solving teaching

Primary school children are weak-willed, and their initiative, independence and persistence are poor. As children grow older, their need and thirst for knowledge increases. In this case, parents should follow the law of children's psychological development, follow the law of children's gradual knowledge, and carefully design questions in the counseling process, appropriately increase the difficulty, and guide children to explore knowledge.

Third, pay attention to the situation and enhance the ability to withstand setbacks

The divorce of parents will bring psychological trauma to children, either they will have a serious inferiority complex, and they dare not take the initiative to ask when they learn, or they will have a serious revenge mentality, and what they can't get, others can't think of it. As a parent, you should treat this kind of child with affection, know with reason, grasp the opportunity, always care about his learning and life, and use love to bridge the child's broken heart.

In the process of growing up as a child, we should let the child face some things independently, and even if the child is frustrated, we should also give encouragement instead of helping.

When a child encounters a setback, face and solve it with the child, so that the child realizes that the setback is not so dissipating and can be buried, and his ability to resist frustration will be improved.

We must let the child accept setbacks and failures, and improve the ability of God to take the child to resist pressure.