Lack of enthusiasm, or lack of self confidence

The American psychologist Kohut believes that there are two criteria for mental health: self-esteem and enthusiasm. Everyone is energetic, it can also be said to have energy, when this energy can be completely raw energy, that is, vitality, when this energy cannot become dead energy.

So your vitality can nourish yourself, and people will become confident; Your vitality can nourish others, and people will become enthusiastic. So the standard of mental health is that you are confident and enthusiastic. I think most of us are unqualified, including teachers, and we present ourselves in a state of self-weakness, not believing that we can do good things, and that we can influence the environment and others.

So our state is begging, praying that the world will be gentle with my parents, praying that my other half can change for myself, praying that my parents can change for myself, praying that my relationship can be better, these all show our own sense of weakness, and many other half of the relationship can do whatever they want to themselves, just because they feel your weakness, so they ignore it, or let you do things that you don't like. I've heard a saying before that women are sexually harassed in the workplace, not because you are too good-looking, nor because you wear too short a skirt, but because you look too weak.

About self-confidence and enthusiasm, peace and joy - spiritual growth.

Maybe Xunhu experienced a last week's emotional turmoil, and the complete destruction of self-confidence, fell into the valley of self-denial, struggled, meditated in Hangzhou, sank to the bottom of the subconscious lake, felt the joy of peace, and also met his sister who was full of energy and happiness, and also saw that Jiachang opened his eyes to the meditation master, it turns out that people can be so peaceful and happy. With a new understanding and pursuit of spiritual growth, peace and happiness from the heart, and a peaceful and peaceful temperament, I also want to become such a calm, happy, gentle, and luminous person with a strong energy field.

Sadhguru's book needs to be read again and again.

I am grateful to have met, so I have evolved to a new level. It's about self-confidence, about charm and trembling**, about self-career pursuit.

One of the criteria for the mental health of the American psychologist Kohut is self-confidence + enthusiasm . What a contagious quality this is.

When vitality can nourish the self, it is self-confidence, and when vitality can nourish the object, it is enthusiasm.

The vitality in this, like a kind of biological energy, can really make a person look very nourished, a person with a dull face and a stiff body cannot be said to have vitality to nourish himself.

Persist in studying, the most important thing in this life.

If you don't study in the past few days, you will quickly fall into the valley of ignorance, and the combination of energy and knowledge will produce the wisdom implanted in the brain with the support of the soul.

In order to achieve the goal, we will try all kinds of ways and means to achieve it.

This is one of the biggest differences between successful people and mediocre people.

Successful people, in order to achieve a certain goal, will overcome all kinds of obstacles, difficulties, setbacks, no resources to find resources, no connections to find contacts, no opportunity to create opportunities, no methods, looking for various methods and means, while mediocre people, with goals, but no action and thinking, are full of difficulties, so a lifetime of mediocrity.

In fact, one thing I learned from Q is that in order to achieve a certain goal, she will find various methods and ways to achieve it, and this way of thinking is very worthy of learning by herself. I want to find my husband, I want to find my husband by all means, I want to be beautiful, I want to use all kinds of means to be beautiful, I want to socialize, I want to socialize by all means. This way of thinking needs to be reflected on and learned.

The value and meaning of life is given by yourself, and what anyone else imposes on you is not your life, but someone else's life, so if you want to know what life is, only ask your own heart, where your heart goes, is the direction of your life, don't use other people's standards to demand yourself, otherwise you will always be a dancer on the stage, and spend a lifetime to interpret others, which is the biggest sorrow in life! Stuffy sails.

What suits you is the best, and what can make you feel happy is what guides you in the direction of happiness.

There are three realms in life, looking at the mountains is the mountains, and seeing the bright water is the water;

Look at the mountains are not mountains, and look at the water is not water;

Look at the mountain or the mountain. Look at the water or the water.

That is to say, a person is pure and flawless at the beginning of his life, when he first knows the world, everything is fresh, what his eyes see is what he sees, and when people tell him that it is a mountain, he knows the mountain; Tell him it's water, and he knows water.

As I grew older and experienced more and more things in the world, I discovered the problems of this world. There are more and more problems in this world, more and more complex, often black and white are reversed, right and wrong are confused, unreasonable people go all over the world, it is difficult to move an inch with reason, good people have no good reward, and wicked people live for a thousand years. At this stage, people are angry, unfair, worried, questioning, vigilant, and complex.

People don't want to believe anything easily. At this time, people look at the mountains and sigh, and sigh when they see the water. Mountains are no longer simply mountains, and water is no longer simply water.

Everything is the carrier of people's subjective will, the so-called "good wind with strength, send me to the clouds". If a person stays at this stage of his life, he will suffer this life. People will look at the mountain and look at the mountain, keep climbing, be competitive, compare with others, how to be a person, how to behave in the world, rack their brains, exhaust their organs, and never end and be satisfied.

Because this world is originally a circle, there are people outside the people, there are still heavens outside the sky, the cycle goes on and on, and the green water flows forever. And human life is short and finite, can you go to the eternal and infinite?

Many people reach the end of their lives when they reach the second state of life. Pursue a lifetime of hard work, a life of arrogance, and finally find that you have not achieved your ideals, so you hold a grudge for life. However, some people, through their own practice, have finally raised themselves to the third realm of life.

The mouth suddenly opened, and it returned to nature. At this time, people will concentrate on what they should do and will not have any problems with others. Let your red dust roll, I will be clear from the breeze and the moon.

In the face of complicated and worldly things, laugh at it, and understand what's wrong, at this time, people look at mountains and mountains, and water and water. Exactly: people are human beings, and they don't have to be deliberate to be human beings; The world is the world, and there is no need to deal with the world carefully; That is the real life and life.

Aquarius is a very maverick and lonely person, but he often pays attention to the views of his close people, and he often feels lonely, so he needs to have someone to care, he is also a detail-oriented person, a little care will also be moved, as long as you are really in the brother together, try to open your heart, don't have too many secrets, you will be very happy. Hehe, come on.

— Man is not born with any purpose.

There doesn't have to be a reason for dying.

So you ......Live your life the way you want.

Do what you want to do, and don't do what you don't want to do.

Don't look at other people's faces......Be honest ......Your conscience is your own ......The path you walk is the way.

Life is a bit of a pursuit, and it is a little interesting to be obsessed with one thing. Of course, people are constantly changing, excitement is constantly changing, and all we can do is focus on our own interests.

Maybe you can listen to "change yourself", as long as your mind changes, your behavior will naturally change, as long as you make up your mind, I believe that you will soon become the person you want to become, don't care too much about other people's eyes, be casual, and live happily is the most important thing.

Believe that you are the best, find what makes you unique, look at the outside world more, and stick to a self-confidence until you stop saying to yourself that I am the best, self-confidence belongs to you.