What do you think about your parents, who always talk to themselves and belittle you?

Parents belittle their children, firstly to show modesty, and secondly, to distance themselves from each other. Parents don't have much in common with each other, and parents are not knowledgeable people themselves, so they will always start with what they know best. They talk endlessly about their children's laziness, gluttony, homeliness, lack of hygiene, and no object in their twenties...If it can cause laughter, they will continue to expose the child's privacy to attract each other's ears.

Because the child is not as good as expected, it should be a way to vent by always belittleing him. But when the child is improving, relatives are also quite happy and encourage him. It can only be said that the way she controls her emotions is not right.

Maybe they didn't say this on purpose to belittle the child, but used the child as an outlet.

In the eyes of parents, their children are the best now or the first in the world in the future. My parents encouraged me a lot, and they were right to criticize me, and they didn't mean to belittle. When I was belittled by my parents, it was usually because they were so angry that they couldn't bear it anymore and wanted to say something ugly.

I hate parents like that! Although I can understand that this is not really demeaning, but there are words in the words, and it feels as if I am speaking to achieve some psychological purpose. It especially affects the child's heart, and having to digest these emotions and influences on his own from an early age can make the child sensitive.

Can't these parents raise their level of cultural awareness?

Because parents think that on the one hand, it is their own child, and it is also their own child, so the child must obey the parent. On the other hand, parents think that their children are their own property and will not be touched by their children's emotions, so parents like to take out their anger on their children. If the child is praised for his very good performance, the parents will feel very respectful, but in private the parents will still belittle the child.

Because parents regard their children as an extension of themselves, when they praise their children, they are praising themselves. To belittle a child is to be humble. Being humble without directly belittling oneself, that is, making oneself appear humble by belittling another person, has become a very popular social discourse among parents.

It is we who have been taught to be humble since childhood, and who are rarely praised and encouraged by our parents, leading us to subconsciously think that this should be the case. If you don't reflect on it all the time, you're too lazy to get home and are extremely irresponsible for yourself and your baby.

The tradition of hypocrisy has been in this country for too many years, and I have found that there is something vicious that does not simply fade with the passage of time. There has to be a great man who will come out and lead the price to be corrected. And the cost is usually enormous.

This is usually because if I compliment my child on being smart, it will cause others to resent it.

Many people belittle their own children in order to elevate other people's children, and after depreciating, they add the sentence "Look at others". Then there is hatred of iron and steel, hoping that the child will catch up, but this has destroyed the child's self-confidence for a long time.