How to help your child overcome his fears

1. First of all, build your child's self-confidence.

Parents can accompany their children to carry out an activity, in this process, try to let the child complete it independently, give positive comments on the child's achievements, and encourage the child; You can also run more with your child through exercise, set a certain distance, run together, encourage more when you finish, and gradually increase the distance, not only exercise, but also strengthen self-confidence.

2. Secondly, relaxed and happy.

Parents' expressions and attitudes, don't be like teachers who are critical of students. You are facing your own children, facing your own lovely children, parents must accept everything, appreciate everything, your expression should be natural, relaxed and happy, and you must be able to bring joy to your children. You know, children are the ones who are the best at reading the expressions of adults.

3. Finally, children are cultivated independently.

Try to let your child deal with the problem on his own, and don't help him or her too much. Even if the child is doing something wrong, encourage it instead of pointing out the mistake directly. As long as you start small and cultivate independence, and stick to it, your child will slowly form a habit.

In addition: 1. Parents should always contact teachers to understand their children's learning situation. When your child does encounter difficulties in learning, discuss with the teacher how to deal with it.

It is best to reduce the difficulty of learning at that time, and wait for the child's self-confidence to recover, and then increase the difficulty and intensity of learning.

2. Take your children to see relevant exhibitions, performances, and competitions, and often tell your children stories about how artists and athletes learned and practiced hard when they were young, or buy some such books for children to read. In this way, it can not only cultivate the child's aesthetic taste, but also let him know that success is the harvest after hard work.

3. Give your child the opportunity to show themselves. For talented children, family performances can be held, and children's work walls can be set up at home, and children can be encouraged to perform in various occasions such as school and community. Give more praise to children during the activity, so that children can experience the joy of success.

4. If the child is psychologically injured because of problems encountered in learning, parents should give appropriate comfort and caressing, and encourage the child to face it bravely.

It is normal for children to be afraid of difficulties in learning, and parents should treat them rationally, help them find ways to overcome obstacles, and grow up with their children in difficulties.

Some children are afraid of difficulties in learning, as long as they encounter difficult topics or do not know how to do, they do not want to write at all.

How can we help our children overcome this fear?

Start by giving your child the opportunity to experience difficulties or failures.

Every successful person, like Ma Huateng, Ren Zhengfei, Zuckerberg, etc., has experienced many difficulties, but why are they not afraid of difficulties and dare to transcend difficulties?

That's because they've experienced a lot of failures or difficulties.

Therefore, we need to give our children the opportunity to experience the difficulties of life, such as taking them on a hike and overcoming the difficulties of climbing a mountain together.

In this way, the child will be able to get used to the difficulties that appear in front of him, including learning difficulties.

Second, analyze the difficult assignments with your child.

Some children are more dependent, and let him write his homework alone, he will find it difficult, at this time, you may wish to help the child analyze his so-called difficult homework. For example, many children think that application problems are the most difficult problems in mathematics, so when the child encounters homework with application problems, we will work with him in the mathematics textbook to see how this kind of application problems are solved, through the analysis of the problem, as well as the substitution of relevant formulas and theorems, let the child experience from analysis to simple feelings, when he finds that he can quickly solve the problem, his fear of difficulty will be greatly reduced.

When a child wants to give up when he encounters a problem, his mother will guide him and tell him that the problem is not that difficult. And find a similar problem in the book or done before with the child, analyze what should be done in the first step, let the child write correctly and then do the second step, and wait for the child to do the second step correctly, and then do the third step, and finally the child finds that it is not difficult to solve this problem at all.

When a child can complete a problem through his own efforts, he feels that he is really not a bad learner, and he can be very confident to do other problems, and he will silently think: I am also capable of completing homework.

This experience of success, this wonderful feeling, is very meaningful, and it will inspire the child to experience the next success. Many children are afraid of learning because he has never had a successful experience, so he thinks in his heart that he can't complete it.

Let children overcome their fear of difficulties, start from the small things in life and learning, and help children accumulate successful experiences. The more successful the experience, the more confident the child will be, and the confident child will not give up on a difficult problem casually.

It is necessary to communicate with the child in a chat-like way, let the child relax, and then tell the child a short story, which can move the child more, let the positive or the child's mood ease, and give her more examples to reason so that he understands that the mentality must be bright, no matter what he does.

Individual children will be very frustrated and afraid when they see difficulties, at this time, I have long lost which adults should help children to complete this together, when the child is fully adapted, you can let the child try alone, we need to be patient as parents.

I think you have to help your child get something done, and then let your child do something on their own and be a supporter behind the scenes.

Relieve your child's anxiety and fears.

The reason why children have this state of mind is that they are worried that they can't do it or can't do it, and they are worried that they will completely deny themselves before things start, which will inevitably make children anxious and worried, and have a negative impact on children's emotions and psychology. We can tell our children not to worry, everyone will be afraid of difficulties, even if they are afraid of making mistakes, it doesn't matter if they are wrong, they can change again, or try a few more times, and the future will get better and better.

Give your child a space for trial and error to feel safe.

When the child is afraid of difficulties, parents should not immediately start blaming him and forcing the child to "do well". We must try to understand the child, establish a safe family atmosphere, let the child also feel the support of his parents, let him know that mistakes are not terrible, and parents are there to help him and face them together.

Parents can also give more examples of this.

For example, parents can tell their children about their childhood, and children are often curious about their parents' childhood. We might as well take this opportunity to tell our children what their parents thought and did when they faced problems when they were young, so that they can have a sense of substitution, which will also increase their energy and self-confidence when facing problems in the future.

Take your children to outdoor activities, etc. , through physical strength to exercise their ability to resist frustration.

If a child wants to escape when he encounters a problem, it also means that he is not able to resist frustration. Therefore, in life, we might as well take our children to participate in some physical exercises and outdoor development. Through these activities, children can experience setbacks, hone their will, develop the ability to resist setbacks, and increase their self-confidence.

Guide your child to find the key points to solve the problem.

In the process of learning, children will inevitably encounter various problems. Some problems may be solved by the child through his own efforts, but some problems are really too difficult for the child, and the child may simply give up because it is too difficult. The correct way for parents to do this is to guide their children to think from a different perspective, such as starting with other points of the topic.

Maybe they can find a solution by changing their mindset.

Be sure to give your child a certain amount of confidence. Teach children to be brave in life's difficulties. There are definitely a lot of setbacks in life.

As parents, we should help children establish good communication skills in a timely manner, so that children can quit social phobia.