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In fact, everyone is willing to have someone to talk to you with, spend an ordinary day, see all the scenery in the world, eat a lot of food, and watch the children grow up together, how good it is, this is the life that everyone looks forward to.
But this is not the case, a girl who witnessed the situation after her cousin got married, said the reason why she did not want to get married:
If you don't get married, you will be charged with not getting married: if you are so old, you will not get married.
It's nothing more than being urged by parents and relatives to say that they are not married when they are so old, they are not filial, and they can't worry about their parents, at most, you go back and introduce you to various blind dates, even if you are not around, you can also bombard you with WeChat, so that you don't have a quiet day.
But as long as you deal with it a few times, or they see that you really don't listen, or the blind date is not successful, they can't help it, at most they will say a few words.
And you? Listen to it and it's over, if you don't want to listen to it, stay away, it's not a big deal.
Crimes after marriage: I can't make money, my body is out of shape, I can't take care of my children well, and my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't handle it well.
But seeing her cousin's life after marriage, she felt that getting married was not a crime, but a thousand crimes: not running a house, loving to spend money, not being able to cook and do housework, not wanting to have children, not being able to take care of children, and not being filial to her in-laws.
My cousin goes to work with the children, and my mother-in-law takes them during the day, but my mother-in-law has a bad habit of taking children during the day, and in the end, my cousin-in-law said that you see how you take the children, and they are not as good as my mother.
My cousin's salary is not low, but to buy a few clothes for myself, he said to save a little, now the expenses are large, and the children will have more money in the future, in fact, who is not for the family, but don't count on you, you can buy a little occasionally.
The original beautiful cousin couldn't stand it anymore after marriage, and there are really too many examples like this to count, anyway, everything bad after marriage is yours, and the good ones are someone else's.
In the past, marriage was to face a hard life together and resist risks, but now women are beginning to have economic strength, and if you don't experience strength yourself, you won't be happy even if you enter marriage, but if you don't have the strength, you will throw yourself into the fire pit.
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Marriage is not the result, it is the beginning of a new challenge.
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Because the divorce rate is too high now, many girls are worried about meeting a scumbag and worrying that their marriage will be unhappy, so now more and more girls don't want to get married and dare not get married.
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The reason for this situation is that in real life, many girls see that the people around them who are married are not particularly happy, and they dare not get married because they are afraid.
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Mainly because the divorce rate is a bit too high now, and girls nowadays are afraid that their marriage will become like that in the end, so they would rather not start than be hurt themselves.
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Because today's girls feel that there are too many scumbags, if they meet someone who is unladylike, they may be doomed, so they don't want to get married or dare not get married.
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Nowadays, more and more girls do not want to get married, dare not get married, and women are more cautious about the choice of marriage and their other half than boys. If they don't meet the right Prince Charming, they won't want to get married.
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The reason why many girls are reluctant to get married today is because they dare not face marriage, and married life is relatively complicated, and they feel that married life cannot bring happiness to themselves.
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Because girls nowadays have the ability to support themselves, they think that there will be a lot of pressure after getting married, and there will be a lot of unpleasant things in life, so they dare not get married.
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The reason why more and more girls don't want to get married and don't dare to get married is because of the pressure of life and the pressure of family. There is also the pressure of having children, and I feel that the day of marriage is very sad now. So they all had fear on their faces.
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Because girls can't find a sense of security, they always feel that marrying a man will constrain them, and they may lose a lot of valuable things, such as their career.
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Perhaps with the continuous reporting of a lot of negative news, some female compatriots have a kind of resistance to marriage, which will make them feel that they can take care of themselves, and marriage has become an unsafe hidden danger, so more often most women choose not to get married, let alone dare to get married.
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I think the main reason why more and more girls don't want to get married is that they don't find a suitable partner for themselves, so it's not necessary to get married just then, and then there are family problems after marriage, financial pressure, and having children, which can make people very anxious, and I don't want to get married when I think of these things.
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Because the divorce rate in today's society is higher than the marriage rate, many girls are influenced by the people around them and dare not believe in marriage anymore, so they dare not get married.
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The longer you are single, the less accustomed you will be, and it will not be suitable for you to fall in love. People instinctively choose the most comfortable lifestyle, whenever there is a choice. When there is no choice, one will again instinctively try to adapt to this state.
Perhaps those who have been single for a long time tend to be accustomed to one person physically and mentally, and the second person can neither walk in nor go out themselves. One person is full, the whole family is not hungry, and there are many reasons for being single, but the most important reason is emotional problems and economic strength.
There are tens of millions of male compatriots in China who are determined to be single, and the remaining women are not high and low, and it is difficult to ride a tiger, and if they can't find true love, they are basically determined to be single, and they are bitten by snakes after divorce, and they are afraid of the mentality of the well rope for ten years, most of them have chosen to be single, and some widowed old people will not remarry, and the team of single groups will only get bigger and bigger like a snowball.
How to correctly view and understand the trend of singleness is a new situation in society, singles can't rub sand in their eyes, and single people also have their own helplessness and suffering, but they are definitely not a weak group, and ordinary people can't afford to provoke them. The lack of correct understanding of feelings from childhood to adulthood makes contemporary young people not even know how to fall in love.
The game is very sharp, the house is beautiful, and there are so many happy and spicy singles, and people certainly don't want to waste time in love with people who don't feel happy.
Life is very stressful, everyone is tired and not easy, and no one wants to tolerate and accommodate others. Even if he is willing to give, he only wants to give according to his own ideas, rather than truly understanding the needs of the other party.
Crispy notes. People are becoming more and more independent and prefer to be more pleased with themselves than to spend a lot of time getting to know another person. Inferiority, even if you like it, you won't take the initiative, because the person I like must be very good, but I don't have the confidence to stand with it at all, and I can't help but compare all the gaps with each other.
I hope that the man's family is healthy, harmonious and loving, but he is a single-parent family and likes self-motivated boys, but he is content with the status quo and does not work hard.
Resistant to blind dates, too clear and embarrassed, uncomfortable, and don't like to be asked, it may be to avoid the end of the refusal to start.
The ideal state is to laugh together, pet and worship, look forward to waiting, I hope to meet the person who goes both ways and has my eyes full of me to spend the rest of my life together, not too late I think it's because I don't think anyone is suitable for me!
Men of the same age have gone through a lot of vicissitudes, and I don't want to think about it, rich and unrich are already very sophisticated, and it's hard to have any fun.
I like the young, handsome and sunny, but I will only support my current relatives in this life, and will never support others! Without financial means, it is impossible to have appearance alone. There are those who meet all the conditions, are willing to cross regardless of age, and get along very well, but in the end, my parents think that I am old, and I am not at peace and finally break up.
After all kinds of experiences, I am still alone with my parents and family, happy and free!
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The original reason for the return is that they feel that getting married will not make them happier, but will bind them and have to bear their own responsibilities and obligations, so they do not want to get married. Because they don't get married, they can also let Duan Chai live a good life by himself.
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More and more girls don't want to get married, because they feel that marriage is not a necessity.
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1. It is the result of the imbalance between men and women and family planning. 2. The cost of marriage is high, and most girls still have to have a bride price, a house, a car, and a ticket. 3. It is the development of society and the improvement of women's ideology.
Most families are not patriarchal, and girls will also be well cultivated, in terms of studying, girls have a higher success rate than boys, so a large number of girls will leave Nongchong Village through the entrance examination, and some of them adapt to urban life by going out to work. 4. A large number of young men in rural areas work in rural areas, and their image, temperament, speech and demeanor are lacking in all aspects, and it is difficult for young women who have gone out to agree with their ideas. Personal opinions are for informational purposes only.
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01: The institution of marriage and human nature are opposites in some way.
In ancient China, polygamy was practiced, while the modern marriage system is monogamous, which strictly restricts us to abide by the principle of one life and one couple. But human nature is complex, and we essentially like the new and hate the old, so some people will still betray after getting married.
The love of the new and the dislike of the old in human nature and the monogamy of the marriage system are often antagonistic and tense, and once there is betrayal, the marriage is a failure.
So many people think that getting married is a loss of freedom, which is why people abroad hold a bachelorette party the night before marriage, as the name suggests, is the last madness before marriage, this night the husband and wife do not interfere with each other, because after marriage, they cannot have such freedom.
Many people don't choose to get married, it's just that they are not ready to restrain themselves and are ready to love only one person in their lives. But in fact, loyalty sometimes does not need a marriage certificate to bind, it relies more on self-restraint.
02: The average life expectancy of human beings has increased, and the marriage relationship has been imprisoned and free to a certain extent.
This article is based on the first one, when we feel that we will lose our freedom by choosing to marry, then the increase in life expectancy means that we will lose our freedom for a longer time.
Getting married means living with the same person for decades, and even doing about the same things every day, and many people have a hard time keeping it fresh and feeling that they don't have the freedom to be single.
In Li Yinhe's view, long-term marital disturbance and no marriage relationship are all constraints on each other. Even if we can't be sure that we will only love one person in our life, once we get married, we have to suppress ourselves.
Some people may think that this is a loss of freedom, but in my opinion, marriage gives us good boundaries. Slow acceptance.
As the saying goes, "Freshness is experiencing different things with the same person, not experiencing the same thing with different people." ”
No matter how fresh the relationship is, it will become dull after a long time. Instead of constantly consuming feelings on different people, it is better to choose one person and die old. What's more, if human nature is not constrained, society will become disorderless.
03: Women's consciousness is awakened, and marriage is no longer the only dependence.
In my country's traditional culture, women are not very respected to go out to work, thinking that women will lose face when they go out, and even if women want to make money to support themselves, there is no way.
And we are constantly pursuing equality between men and women, and the direct result of this is that women can have the same rights as men, and women have more ways to support themselves without having to rely on men to survive. They can get what they want by their own labor.
Compared with women in traditional societies, modern women have more rights to make their own choices. They no longer need to choose to marry in order to survive, but can decide whether they want to marry or not.
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After getting married, the pressure of living a hail is too great, and you have to take care of your family, and you have to take care of your children, and you are particularly tired every day, and you may get angry and quarrel, so it is better to live easily and freely alone!
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Considering the personality factors of two people, the relationship needs to be run-in.
When two people start to fall in love, they will naturally feel that everything is good for each other, and they will have the idea of wanting to be together. You Qing Jianling is that sometimes what he does for you will move you, and when your brain is hot, you regard him as your ideal partner.
The first requirement of the relationship is that each other's personalities are suitable, and if the personalities don't match, he may tolerate you at first, but after a long time, he will expose his true attitude. Your married life is prone to conflicts and quarrels, and it is difficult to maintain the sweetness of your relationship.
There are no common interests and hobbies, as well as topics.
Getting married is not a simple matter, and you have to think about your future. The days of life are very long, and if two people have no topics to talk about, they will seem very estranged, and their feelings will become weaker and weaker, and if there is a distance in their hearts, the marriage should end.
With someone who has the same hobbies as you, you can do things you like together, and you can talk together, even if two people sit there quietly, you won't feel embarrassed and can get along happily. Ask both parents for their opinions to ensure family harmony.
Marriage is completely different from falling in love, falling in love only requires two people to love each other, and marriage is not just a matter of two people, family factors are also very important. Before getting married, it is important to fully understand the thoughts of both parents and lay a foundation for family harmony.
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