The severance of diplomatic relations between relatives in rural areas is being staged, and every

With the development of society, the relationship between relatives in rural areas has become weaker and weaker, which is actually normal. Why? There are two reasons for this.

1.Relatives don't need to rely on each other anymore

Because the current society is developing very rapidly, the social form is changing very quickly, in the past, everyone needed to help each other, help each other to find a job, generally it is difficult for a person to live independently outside, but now the society is as long as you have skills, willing to endure hardships, willing to work, you can quickly find a job, can get benefits, so relatives do not need each other to help, I can survive independently. So comparatively speaking, there will be less movement between each other, because no longer relying on each other will not pay more for the relationship.

2.I have been working outside for a long time and are not familiar with each other

Another reason is that many people work outside for a long time, rarely go back to their hometown, even if they return to their hometown on vacation, the time at home is very short, in addition to the distance on the road, the time at home may only be about two or three days, in this short period of time, everyone wants to have a good rest, even if they meet each other, they do not pay a lot of feelings to maintain a relationship with each other, understand each other, and care about each other. Because I don't know each other, and I don't have time to move around with each other, I gradually have no feelings, and over time, of course, the relationship between relatives will become weaker and weaker.

Whether it is the relationship between relatives in the countryside, or between friends, all the relationships between lovers need to be emotional, cultivated, and maintained. If you don't move around for a long time, you will slowly break off the relationship.

The "severance of diplomatic relations" between relatives in rural areas is being staged, and every year some relatives no longer move around each other, what's going on?

Now many times the family affection has changed, and there is no strong feeling of affection before, always saying that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, there is also a certain truth, not to mention that now close neighbors are not necessarily easy to use.

The gap between the rich and the poor in the rural areas is gradually widening, and the number of rural people who go out to earn money is generally increasing, and some people who have made money have returned to their hometowns, and the psychology of disliking the poor and loving the rich is becoming more and more serious, and some people also like to care about the things in front of them after making money, and even measure the degree of relationship between relatives by the weight of gifts. Only then will there be the phenomenon of relatives breaking off relations.

If there is something, contact it, and if you don't communicate with each other, it is the beginning of breaking off diplomatic relations. Rural life is relatively far away, and young people are out, it is inconvenient to contact, and it is easy to be estranged from feelings, so I slowly stop moving.

The most important thing is that now rural people are also busy, many people go to work in other places, there are fewer contacts between relatives, family affection is weakened, and even some relatives do not come to each other, and they have broken off relations.

I have a deep understanding of this.

My hometown is in a small town in the east of Heilongjiang, although it is a small town, but it is not big, and many residents in the town are farmers and have arable land, so it is not an exaggeration to say that our town is a big rural area.

I miss being a kid and I spent my golden childhood in this town and made a lot of great memories that I will never forget. In my memory, although the material was relatively poor at that time, the folk customs were simple, whether it was between neighbors or relatives, they moved around frequently, and the human touch was strong.

Now more than 30 years have passed, my hometown has been a thing, many older generations have passed away one after another, and the remaining relatives of the same generation are basically not in touch, although there are also opportunities to meet, such as who is happy and happy, as relatives to be present. <>

But when we met, we were polite, and there was no deep friendship, and we became familiar strangers.

Why is this happening, I think the main reason is the change of the times.

In the previous era, because there was no Internet, it was relatively closed, and people in rural areas lived in a small world, and the pace of life was slow, so neighbors and relatives became everyone's main social relationship.

At that time, in addition to close neighbors, the main thing that maintained social relations in the countryside was blood ties, and relatives moved frequently and helped each other.

However, now it is different from the past, with the Internet, everyone's vision is broader, especially after the advent of smart phones, many people do not leave their mobile phones, and the virtual world has become an important part of social life. <>

In addition, many rural people have now moved to the city, some have bought houses in the town, and some have bought houses in the county seat. Nowadays, the college entrance examination admission rate is very high, and children in rural areas, who are admitted to university and rarely return to their hometowns after graduation, have basically taken root in other cities.

All of this has disrupted traditional neighborly and kinship relationships, and people are scattered, and the old kind of living together in peace and intimacy has become a good memory.

Therefore, it is not difficult to understand that the relationship between relatives is not as familiar as before, everyone lives in time and space, and they have to adapt to the changes of the times.

Of course, now that the commodity economy has been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, it is impossible to do anything without money, and many people are afraid that their relatives will come to borrow money and automatically alienate them, which is also a reason.

The fast-paced city life makes everyone physically and mentally exhausted, and they close the door to live their own lives and do not socialize with relatives in their hometown, which is a phenomenon that occurs in many young people.

I really don't know what to say about this. We can't blindly denigrate the degeneration of the times, we can only say that this is the inevitable *** brought about by the urbanization process.

Relatives in the countryside are staging a "severance of diplomatic relations", and by going out to work, farmer friends have gained more economic income; With the launch of commercial housing, farmers can settle down in the city. Every year, many relatives don't move around each other.

Because the current relatives are very powerful, befriending relatives who are doing well and looking down on poor relatives who are not doing well, both of these behaviors will be disgusting, and they will slowly stop moving.

Now I go out to work a lot, I don't often stay at home, and sometimes I can't make appointments.

With the rapid development of China's urban and rural economy, farmers have also begun to leave the land and go out to work. Some of them stayed in the city and settled, others returned to their hometowns to develop. With the widening gap between the rich and the poor, new problems have begun to emerge in the rural areas, and some people have developed the mentality of liking the poor and loving the rich, and seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages.

Especially in the past two years, the distance between rural relatives has become farther and farther away, and the phenomenon of "severing diplomatic relations" between rural relatives is being staged. So why is this phenomenon happening in rural areas? Don't people value family?

In fact, it is not because people do not value the family, but because of the following reasons:

There are many people who hate the poor and love the rich, and compare themselves with each other.

In recent years, the gap between the rich and the poor in rural areas has widened, and the number of rural people who go out to earn money has gradually increased. After some earners returned to their hometowns, their psychology also changed, and the psychology of liking the poor and loving the rich became more and more serious. During the Chinese New Year, even the degree of relationship between relatives is measured by the weight of the gift.

Relatives who don't have money will be rejected, and the latter's self-esteem will be hurt, so they won't move around more among relatives so as not to be gossiped about. Therefore, there will be a phenomenon of severing relations between relatives.

The relationship between the juniors is unfamiliar.

In my grandfather's generation, we all saw relatives to celebrate the New Year together and visited graves together. Every holiday can show family togetherness, but by the time we get to my generation, we don't move around much, especially young people, who would rather give their time to their cold phones than go out and communicate with others. Some people say that working outside the home is too stressful, and they don't want to visit relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year.

They just want to have their own "nest family" time, so they "break off friendship" with their relatives. The younger generation is already doing this. Will the next generation still be "relatives" in the true sense of the word?

There is another "circle of relatives".

For those relatives who have already married in other places, the original "circle of relatives" has become less important, because the original circle has been replaced by a new one. There is still no lack of ritual during the festival, and you can also go to relatives, but those relatives are different! After living in a new place for a long time, there may be a sense of belonging, which is why some people do not return to their hometown after going out.

Especially after having children and grandchildren, the new "circle of relatives" is heavier than the original.

To be honest, people live too selfishly, and the relationship between relatives is weak. In addition, there is a lot of liquidity right now. Most of them used to live in a village and have lived for generations.

I'm thinking about going out now. There is nothing that you have to do on your own, and you can't do it when you go back to the village several times a year. Some don't even go back once for a decade or decades.

Kiss and kiss, don't move around too often, don't kiss or kiss, slowly, don't come and go.

Now that rural relatives have broken off diplomatic relations, I think the main reason is that there is less movement due to distance, and young people nowadays don't like to move around, so it has caused rural relatives to break off diplomatic relations.

Nowadays, many rural people have gone to the city to work, and if they don't stay in the countryside long enough, it will affect their daily interactions.

Young people begin to "break off relatives" (do not go to relatives) and do not follow the money of the molecules, will some traditional culture and customs disappear in the future? What are the implications? In recent years, the phenomenon of "severing relatives" has gradually become popular among young people, which means that some traditional cultures and customs may gradually disappear.

The emergence of this phenomenon may have the following effects:

1.The loss of traditional culture and customsThe emergence of the phenomenon of "severing relatives" means that some traditional culture and customs may gradually disappear. For example, the tradition of visiting relatives and friends and paying New Year's greetings during the Spring Festival may gradually fade into envy, which will have a certain impact on the inheritance and development of traditional culture.

2.The emergence of the phenomenon of "severing relatives" in harmonious family relations may lead to the estrangement of harmonious family relations. If young people stop visiting relatives and friends and don't follow money, it may be seen as a sign of disrespect for their elders and lack of concern for their families, which will have a certain negative impact on family relationships.

3.The dilution of social relations and the emergence of the phenomenon of "severing relatives" may also lead to the dilution of social relations. If young people no longer visit relatives and friends and do not follow money, then their contact with relatives and friends may gradually decrease, which will have a certain impact on the establishment and maintenance of social relationships.

4.The emergence of the phenomenon of "severance" of individual lifestyles may also promote the diversification of individual lifestyles. If young people stop visiting friends and family and don't follow money, they may have more time and energy to pursue their interests, which will promote a diversified lifestyle.

To sum up, the emergence of the phenomenon of young people beginning to "break off relatives" may have a certain impact on traditional culture, family relationships, social relationships and personal lifestyles. Therefore, we should attach importance to the emergence of this phenomenon and actively explore new cultures and customs to adapt to the development and changes of the times.