When you were a child, your parents quarreled and fought, what impact did it have on you?

When the child is young, everything in this world is completely new to him, and he will embrace the world with his whole heart. If the child can feel the love and harmony of the family, he will also be gentle with the world when he grows up. If his parents often fight, in his young mind, he will be insecure.

There will be distrust and suspicion of the world and of parents. His personality will be very contradictory. It will always haunt him as he grows up. It can lead to violent tendencies in the child.

It can also be the opposite, introverted and shy, lacking self-confidence. A good family environment is especially important for a child's development.

To be precise, it shouldn't be a quarrel, because in most cases, the father curses the mother, and although the number of times he does it to the mother is not particularly much, there are a few serious cases. The impact on me and my brother is huge, and our respective partners say it's huge. My brother and I still retain the way of doing things now: "escape", "endure indefinitely", and "be irritable".

In short, it was a huge impact, I had a miscarriage today, and at home, even though it had been so many years, my father coughed, and I was still scared to wake up from the pain. And I still call him father, because he really pays for this family. Character really determines fate, even if he is such a good person, he can only be left here, in the dark, abandoned by everyone.

People like me should work hard to change and give their children a warm home.

Parental quarrels, especially the well-known ones, will make children feel inferior and submissive from an early age, and this will slowly hone a strong and withdrawn character. So I don't really believe in the so-called love, and I always keep this vigilance and distance from others.

I don't want to get married, I don't want children, I'm worried that my carelessness and bad temper will also affect him, I don't want to get married, it's more accurate to dare not get married, I'm afraid that my future life will be dark, for lovers, I'm also dispensable, and sometimes I even feel more comfortable alone.

Grumpy, I remember when I was a child, my parents were a little quarrel every two days, a big quarrel every five days, when I was in elementary school, my personality was a little more irritable than other children, and when I was in junior high school and high school, I had a more obvious consciousness, I wanted to change, but I couldn't control myself.

My husband and I are in such a family. The impact is that we are well aware of the psychological shadow area of parents' quarrels on children, so we agreed not to quarrel in front of our children, and we have gradually developed a set of effective communication and problem solving methods. When there is a conflict, it is not to vent emotions, not to blame each other, but to find the best way to solve it.

Because we have all been hurt, we don't want our children to go through it again. This is the greatest tenderness we give to our children.

I'm scared of conflict scenes, whether I'm a party or not. Therefore, he often avoids conflicts, and even does not dare to argue with others. Suffering from gains and losses, I always feel that I have done something wrong and whether the other party is angry. Longing for love, but afraid of intimacy.

Parents often quarrel and fight in front of their children, which will make children more and more timid, and children will not feel the love from the family, and they will become more and more inferior. A survey has found that most of those optimistic and cheerful children come from harmonious families, while those who grow up mentally unhealthy are mostly affected by the childhood growth environment. Some people say that a good childhood can be **a lifetime**, and an unhappy childhood needs a lifetime**.

The relationship between parents in some families is particularly good, and children can grow up carefree, and the children raised by such families are positive, while the parents often quarrel with families, and the children who come out are somewhat gloomy in character, and the relationship between parents will directly affect the child's personality and psychology, and this impact is irreversible.

Children are part of the family, parents often quarrel will make children feel scared, some parents will drop things when they quarrel, and even fight, children's psychological age is not mature, this kind of scene is fearful for them. Therefore, parents often quarrel, and children will become more and more timid, which will cause social barriers.

Parents often quarrel and let their children blame themselves for the quarrel, and they will feel that they have caused trouble for their parents, so that their parents quarrel endlessly. Such thoughts are very scary, and will make children feel more and more inferior, whether at home or at school, children will feel that they can't hold their heads up, and this inferiority complex may accompany children for a lifetime.

In a family where parents often quarrel, children do not feel loved and loved, they will feel that all families are like this, and they may even not want to start a family because of this. Many children who have had similar experiences grow up afraid to socialize with others, afraid to get married, and they are even more afraid that their parents' lives will play out again in their own marriages.

It will make the child have psychological transformation, it will also make the child inferior, it will make the child have violent tendencies, or let the child rebel, which will have an impact on the child's life and will also affect the child's mentality.

Affect the child's personality, make the child become inferior, the child will be very timid, hate to get along with parents, and the child may have problems in his heart.

The child will learn from his parents, treat his friends and classmates, and whether it is good for his socialization, so that the child will be short-tempered, easy to have low self-esteem, and go to extremes, and the child will become more and more dislike to talk, and the relationship with his parents is not good.

It will have a subtle impact on the child and will lead to some violent tendencies in the child. It can also lead to children being influenced by their family of origin and distrusting feelings. The human interaction of small children can also lead to the development of the child's personality.

In some families, parents quarrel and fight all day long, which will also have a negative impact on children.

People live in the environment and are always influenced by their surroundings. A person's childhood, especially the family of origin, plays a decisive role in the individual's personality, behavior, and psychology, and will always have a profound impact on the later growth process. A discordant original family will bring these 4 influences to children, don't take it lightly.

1.There are character flaws.

If the home is like a battlefield, parents will often break out into fierce quarrels, even verbal abuse, fights before the child shouts, and the children who grow up in such a family have low self-esteem, some sensitivity, and some are easily irritable, in short, the child's character will be flawed. A friend told me that every minute of his parents' quarrel was a torment for him, and he wished to disappear into the house and never come back. I can't feel the warmth and love of home, I only want to escape, the farther away the better, and at the same time I am very indifferent to other people's feelings, I don't socialize with my peers, I don't associate with relatives, and I don't have any friends around.

2.Influence the concept of love and marriage.

People who have witnessed and experienced long-term quarrels with their parents will lose confidence in love and marriage, find it difficult to develop a sense of dependence on other people, and even distort their view of love. Because of the fear of quarreling, afraid of a quarrel like a shrew hysteria, so it will be very patient, even if it is about to drive itself crazy, never say a word; I am afraid that after getting married, I will also live this life of arguing every day, so I resist this pattern of life. Many marriage-phobic people are unable to gain a sense of security from their original family because they have seen the quarrels of their parents, and at the same time break their yearning for a better love life, and finally feel afraid of marriage.

3.Self-loathing and no self-confidence.

Some parents will say every day that I am not divorced for you (the child), but I don't know how much harm such words will cause to a child, he will feel that your quarrels are all because of him, and always think that self and minji are a wrong existence. Most parents who are prone to quarrels also lack tolerance and patience for their children, and some will even use their children as a punching bag, beating and scolding and belittling at will, which will not only cause children to lack self-confidence and optimism, but also produce a sense of self-loathing.

4.Subconsciously, repetitive imitation.

The irritable emotions and even big fights shown by parents in front of their children will be imitated by their children. Bandura, a psychopedagogue, came up with one result through experiments: children can learn complex things through intuitive observation and without the need for practice.

The original family is subtly shaping the child's personality and influencing his behavior, and subconsciously learning to be emotionally uncontrollable and quarrel with others. Even if I think about it all the time, I will never become that kind of person, but before I know it, I have learned to get along with my parents.

The impact of parental quarrels on children can be described as irreversible, and it is multifaceted. If you are still arguing in front of your child, then I hope you and your partner after watching the nursery table think about the child's feelings, and don't let him turn into a sharp and sensitive, irritable and inferior person.

I don't think this way of educating my mother is rightAs the first teacher of the child, parents will have a subtle influence on the child in all aspects, whether it is good or bad, every word and deed will affect their child.

First, my heart is full of fear of marriage.

Often facing parents quarreling and even throwing things, tearing each other apart, children see in their eyes, they will slowly be full of fear of their future marriage, will be afraid that their other half will be like this in the future, the story of parents will be repeated in themselves again, the heart will be full of fear of marriage, will be unwilling to find a partner, and even unwilling to turn out, which is also a major reason for some fear of marriage.

The second point is that character flaws cannot be avoided.

Parents quarrel in front of their children, sometimes the more noisy they are, they can't control themselves for a while, and they may even fight, which makes it easy for the child to be anxious, and the child's temper and personality will also be greatly affected, and the child will become explosive and irritable, and will not be considerate of others.

Third, the child's sense of well-being is missing.

Often witnessing parents quarreling, there will be a feeling of family unhappiness in the child's psychology, feeling that his parents are not loving enough, and he will feel that his family is broken.

Fourth, it will affect the future of work and childcare.

Children who grow up in this environment will be covered with thorns, they will use thorns to protect themselves, it will be difficult to get along with them and not be united, it is easy to distrust others in work and life, and it will be very detrimental to work. Especially if you have children in the future, it will have a great impact on educating your children, and even affect the next generation.

In front of their children, parents must pay attention to their words and deeds, control their emotions, and create a warm and beautiful environment for their children to grow up.

Parents often quarrel, couples do not get along, and for children there is a lack of security in the family. It is possible to grow up without confidence in marriage. And there is no happiness in terms of it.

A: Domestic violence can have a great impact on children!

For parents, domestic violence and quarrels, don't think that it is just a matter between husband and wife, it will hurt the child's soul and quickly bury the child's fear. acres of noisy ants.

1. In the growth of children, many stages are directly related to the family, if the parents are violent and quarrel and fight resulting in the lack of family function, it will be a huge blow to the child's various abilities.

1. The establishment of trust in infancy: those with a sense of trust have a strong future orientation, and they need the love of both parents who are extremely stable!

2. The establishment of a sense of autonomy in childhood. At this time, parents not only need to regulate the child's behavior so that it fits the rules of society, but also need to protect the child's sense of autonomy and self-control. Children affected at this stage have a hard time forming strong will.

3. The formation of initiative in the early school age. At this stage, the child needs the encouragement and guidance of his parents, which is a prerequisite for him to become a responsible, creative person. Without parental support at this stage, it is difficult for the child to have enough initiative and will tend to live in a narrow circle arranged by others.

Therefore, from infancy to childhood, the loss of family function due to parental quarrels is the most harmful to children. They grew up in a family without "sound love", and their parents gave them the impression that they were either quarreling or fighting, or even divorced. When these children grow up, they will not dare to look directly at their feelings, let alone face marriage, because they have experienced those unforgettable pictures firsthand, and the ugliest faces of their parents towards each other are deeply rooted in their hearts.

Second, the harsh family environment brought about by domestic violence can make children overly sensitive and full of fear of marriage and interpersonal connections. Living in such a situation for a long time, children will have a natural fear or preference for arguments. Some children are afraid of confrontation and do not even dare when they are justified, while others face the world with many tense spikes.

3. If domestic violence is directly directed against the child, the result will be even more serious. Children not only do not get the love of their parents, but also suffer great physical and mental harm.

Therefore, for the happiness of your family and the health of your children, we must put an end to domestic violence!