Ask about the understanding of parallel conflict experience in psychology

"Parallel conflict experience" refers to the psychological experience of a person experiencing two conflicts at the same time. Specifically, this conflicting experience occurs when a person's behavioral goals cannot be achieved synchronously. For example, a person who wants to enjoy a good meal and maintain a healthy diet at the same time creates a parallel conflict experience.

This experience of conflict can lead to feelings of conflict, confusion, and difficulty in making decisions, and may affect personal emotions and behaviors through repression, compromise, etc. Psychology believes that understanding and recognizing parallel conflict experiences can help people better cope with complex decision-making situations and deal with emotional stress.

There are four types of conflicts faced by individuals: (1) dual-trend conflicts; (2) double-avoidance conflict; (3) conflict avoidance; (4) Double-avoidance conflict. The meaning of conflict is to release pressure, so that the individual can better adapt to reality, accept himself, and make his mind freer.

If there is a conflict, there will be a contradiction, and to resolve the conflict, it is necessary to find the two sides of the contradiction, the focus of the contradiction, and break it down one by one.

People's response to conflict is mainly the generation of self-defense mechanisms, that is, when people encounter things that can make them anxious and guilty, a series of defense mechanisms produced by people in an unconscious state and relieve anxiety and other uncomfortable symptoms in a way that distorts the facts. There is mainly denial.

Belongs to the self-protection psychology of ordinary people, many people have a strong self-concept, and the objective evaluation ability is very low (in fact, it is also related to their own academic accomplishment, the quality is low, the ability to distinguish things is low, even if it is objectively true that his understanding is wrong, he himself can not understand, so he is still stubborn, this is a kind of, and there is another kind of knowing that he is wrong, but admitting that he is wrong seems to be weaker than the other party, so he uses this way to "resist"). If you want to reduce the frequency of such things, it is better to discuss the problem in a calm and deliberative tone, rather than using absolutely certain words. If that person is like that, it would be more difficult for you to convince him at the time, and you don't need to convince him, and if you are right, why should you impose this concept on others?

This is actually a psychological advantage to force the other party. It's like some people think that they should be married after xx, and some people think that it is okay before marriage, how can you convince one of them? Even if it is an objective truth, there is no need for the other party to recognize their mistakes, just know them.

This person's personality does not like to be in the middle of a heated argument between the two sides, has a "peacemaker" side, and wants to stop arguing here; However, there is also a side that is not to be outdone, and wants the other party to know that "I hang up the free battle card" is not admitting defeat, but just not wanting to argue, so it is also a little weird. The other side is eloquent, strong and unyielding, and if the two sides are like this, they will argue endlessly. What if you win?

There will be no more meat, not a penny more, but less friends. For different opinions, it is not necessary to agree on them immediately, it takes time to understand the different ideas of the other party. It's better to look at the problem from a different angle.

Take a step back and open the sky.

As the saying goes. Dead nature does not change. Hypocritical. Oral dissatisfaction.

It's a sign of character. Or a habitual manifestation of character.

This kind of thing happened. When you encounter this kind of problem. It depends on the environment and the cause. Circumstance. The mentality of the other party. to make a conclusion.

If the other side is idle and chattering, then go to both sides to argue with each other. When the other party is unreasonable, he will answer casually.

If the other party has something to ask the other party for. When the other party is unreasonable. before answering. will be convinced.

If the other party is an ignorant clip stupid blunt. When it comes to being unreasonable. He wouldn't be convinced.

Your question. It should be, look at the person. It depends. Look at the cause. Dependent.

This person should belong to people who are more sensitive, good-looking, have strong self-esteem, and also have some inferiority complex. Because he does not talk about the essence of the problem, his sensitivity and inferiority complex will make him feel guilty and blame himself, blame himself for his mistakes, and be unwilling to admit it verbally because of his high self-esteem, and at this time he should be complaining about his own incompetence. At this time, what is needed is the encouragement and comfort of the other party, on the contrary, the other person only thinks of reasoning, expressing opinions on things and reality.

This will make the first person feel that he is targeting himself, because he attributes the failure of things completely to himself, and does not distinguish between things and his own flaws, and naturally there will be instinctive self-protection to prevent himself from being hurt. Just speculation, FYI.

Xiao Ren, assistant counselor of Haiming.

Some people, who are not interested in discussing a matter, will be perfunctory, "Desperately say: Yes yes, yes, you are right, what you say makes sense!" >>

Or, not liking the attitude of the opponent, the same.

He thinks he is right, he is too lazy to pay attention to you, he thinks you are self-righteous, he is not convinced, he always thinks that he is right, the most difficult thing for people to change is the way of thinking, so tell you a wisdom in life, avoid arguments, even if he is wrong, don't say that you are wrong, etc., even if you are a team, there is no need to be emotional.

I want to make the other person feel like I'm being sarcastic.

It never translates into a situation where the other person thinks he is right.

The main thing is to balance the idea that there is no victory in one's heart with an ironic attitude.

You just haven't met your opponent, and the opponent's theory may not be able to play according to your routine. You can literally tell your character,

Human behavior has its own internal psychological mechanism, which is his psychological defense mechanism. Let him understand what can he do. If there is an inner conflict, the way of defense will continue to appear again and again.

From an interpretive point of view, it may change for him to understand the real reasons for this practice, and then to make him aware of it, and then to rise from the subconscious to the conscious level.

A typical rebellious mentality, to convince people to be euphemistic, you can first follow his (her) words, let him (she) himself realize that something is wrong.

It should be an escape because he doesn't want to argue with you, but he is very helpless, he obviously feels that what you said is wrong, but he doesn't want to argue with you, he feels very boring, or he just can't say that you can't admit defeat, but he doesn't want to admit defeat yet, so that's it.

Narrow-minded jealousy. If you like to convince a narrow-minded person, then you are undoubtedly asking for trouble!

This is a kind of "hysterical" behavior, that is, the inability to control the behavior intellectually. Do you want to convince him? You can't convince him, because he already knows that he is wrong, and he is just playing a scoundrel and dying to save face.

In fact, as a friend, what you want is not to "convince" him, but to find a step for him to go down. Another point, you say that he is not convinced, yes, he is not convinced, but not that he is not convinced by your "truth", but that he is not convinced by you. If you are good friends, you should tolerate each other.

These little things can be forgotten in the blink of an eye, can't they?

If you see through it or not, you will always be friends. Why should life be so serious, and it is not up to you to decide which is right and which is which. Learn to be an owl、You'll have a good time.。

It is often the subconscious that acts.

Just look at the history of psychology textbooks, which are clearly written.

Vanity, someone asking for help means that they are better than others, and vanity is more willing to let others ask or ask for help.

Respect? Trust? Vanity? A sense of accomplishment?

This phenomenon is called 'cognitive dissonance' in the psychology of human personality. What is cognitive dissonance? For example, people will hate a person even more after they have just hurt that person.

In the same way, we will prefer the people we have helped. Cognitive Dissonance Theory: A person feels uncomfortable when their behavior and self-concept are inconsistent.

In order to reduce this inner conflict, they will find reasons for their 'irrational' behavior and align it with their self-concept. So we're going to like the people we're helping, so we're going to hate the people we've just hurt even more. The reason is to find reasons for one's own 'irrational' behavior and to keep one's self-concept consistent.

Psychology lovers stay.

Motherhood (this is a girl helping a boy), a boy helping a boy is impossible.

Who did the research?

Is this research complicating simple things in the same way that economists are complicating simple things in the same way that economists regard "why do modern people sit in coffee shops to rest?"

You can start by flipping through the physiology books or the history of human evolution on your own – and then you can ask yourself how humans evolved! And then you have this so-called problem on.

There are several reasons for this:

One is that everyone wants to be respected, and when others ask for help, he can get a kind of satisfaction of being respected or feeling that he is valuable, and the help given to him by the person who helps himself may be far less than his own satisfaction of helping others, and on the other hand, he also feels that he owes others a favor to a certain extent.

The second is that giving is a happy process, and many people will find that in fact, giving is far happier than getting. Then people will choose to be with people who will make them happier.

Don't be bored with life all the time, be full of positivity.

The past has an impact on a person's life, and our brains are like computers, where what we have experienced in the past is always stored. Whether you've experienced something pleasant or unpleasant, it's not forgotten, it's just that the things that are important to you at the moment are more likely to be awakened. We have the misconception that time can heal, but the truth is that if we don't go through the psychological process, the scars of the past will always exist and affect our daily behavior in different ways.

The longer it goes, the bigger the impact, so don't delay.

You've been nostalgic for the past and don't know what you're missing, but that's okay, what you need is mental**. The meaning of psychology is to help you re-recognize the past (because there may be wrong perceptions of what happened at that time and are vaguely stored in the brain), re-establish cognition (reformat, give it new meaning), so that the past does not affect your present and future functioning.

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To study psychology, you must first learn general psychology, which is an introductory subject. Next, I will study educational psychology, which can be used to guide self-learning and self-education with the knowledge learned in educational psychology. Educational psychology often gives people the misconception that it is only used by educators.

In fact, educational psychology is centered on the psychology of learning, that is, this discipline mentions a lot of laws of learning. Like learning theory, behaviorist learning theory, humanistic student-centered learning theory, cognitive learning theory. It also mentions learning strategies, how to study effectively, how to learn at first glance, etc.

The significance of studying educational psychology is not only to teach others, but also to teach oneself. You can use what you learn right away.

You must be mentally mature, if you are mentally immature. Life. Life.

The understanding is not deep enough. I can't even see it clearly. How to see through others.

Look at more theories of mind. A book of techniques. It's the same as not watching.

It's just a kid with a heavy knife. Swing still. You can only crush yourself to death.

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