I m 16 years old, why do I feel dispensable for being very cold to my family, but I m exceptionally

Hmmm......is indifferent to family affection, although I don't want to admit it, but in general, there are two reasons.

1.Too young to understand parents – I know that argument is not convincing at all, but, sometimes, it is.

2.Too small. The focus will be overshadowed by two things. 1.It's that the warmth you give in friendship is much greater than that of family. 2.In the memory left by your parents, the inferior is better than the good.

...... quarrel with your parentsIf you ask this question, it means that you regret it after the argument, doesn't it? It's not a ......When I grow up, I see more and experience more, and I can take into account more aspects, which is not a mental illness.

But ......You can't just ignore that.

1.Talk to your parents, though, ...... my age and the same problems as youIt's not possible, but it's okay to talk once in a while.

2.Look further afield, don't focus all on friendship, in this way, the world is bigger, the heart will be bigger, the beauty and sorrow that can be covered will be more, and the problem of not understanding and quarreling with parents will be solved.

This is actually not a disease, 16, when I was rebellious, although I was not 16 yet, but I am not very willing to talk to my parents now, I like to talk to my friends about everything, it may be that your family environment is not very good, but we will all find out in the end that your parents are your most solid backers, after all, blood is thicker than water No one can change the fact.

Adolescence. Now I feel that family affection is dispensable because you subconsciously feel that it will not really be gone. You'll find out when you're older.

Sometimes on the Internet, when browsing some **, you will see some people say that they are a person who has few feelings in life, feel that they are very cold-blooded in life, and they are also very cold to their family and friends, and many people will ask what to do?

Actually, I sometimes have problems with this myself, and to be honest, I think sometimes it is very tiring to get along with people. Some people you give their sincerity to him, but he may take your sincerity for granted, and gradually he dislikes getting along with others more and more, and he seems to become very cold-blooded in life, and he cares very little about the things around him, and he will also feel that he is very indifferent to the people around him, including his parents.

Sometimes I want to make a change, but in the process of change, I often encounter a lot of people who give up the idea of change, and over time they are unwilling to change, and when I encounter many things in my life, in the process of telling my family, if even my family can't understand my feelings, I will become more indifferent, and the distance from my family is getting farther and farther away.

But calm down and think about it, many times it may be that you are too sensitive to the things around you, and a sentence between family members may be infinitely amplified by yourself, so that you are in a strange circle of misunderstanding your family and cannot get out. In fact, in the final analysis, family members do certain things and say certain things for their own good, and sometimes, they really don't have to think too much, and understand their family members more. As time goes on, there are some things that we will eventually understand and understand.

I think you should exercise more, make more friends, be active in outdoor activities more, and then care more about others, get together more with relatives, and actively face life, life will not abandon you, get more care from others, warm your heart, and feel that you are not cold-blooded.

If you yourself feel very weak about your family affection, you feel very cold-blooded about your life. You should face life positively. That's how life will be meaningful.

I'm in a similar situation to you, but I'm a man. I used to think I had a mental problem, but I later. Like the spiritual life, not good at expressing inner feelings Life style: love to observe, criticize, withdraw yourself, every day.

Actually, it's not that you're cold-blooded, it's true that there are a lot of cold-blooded people in this society now, so you just learn from them, and some adults are okay, it's okay to eat cold-blooded.

That's why what is easily obtained will not be cherished, and what is obtained after a thousand twists and turns will be cherished.

Maybe other people aren't very gentle with you. Or rather, the way you are treated is not what you really want.

If that's the case, it's hard to change.

The best way is to strengthen yourself and change your fellow relatives in a gentle and subtle way.

What you said seems to be something that can only be seen in TV dramas, generally the children of rich families compete for property, and there will be such a thing, to us, the children of poor families, I don't feel it, maybe other families have our family is a harmonious family, without these intrigues.

Everyone sweeps the snow in front of the door, and no one cares about the frost on the tiles. The best relationship is no relationship.

This kind of person is generally relatively closed-minded. So he should go out and walk around a little more to increase his circle of friends. You can change that.

If you are very weak and cold-blooded, you should stay away from such a person, and he will not be special to you. Don't try to influence others, it's futile.

If you treat family affection very lightly and cold-bloodedly, you must first stimulate your compassion and understand the importance of family affection.

I think some people's personalities are like this, maybe they lacked some family affection when they were young, and it should be better to give him more family affection in the future.

The formation of this personality is related to one's own experience, and as long as it does not hurt others, it should be a normal state, and no one has the right to ask them to change.

They should be treated kindly, let them feel what warmth and enthusiasm are like, and people who treat people with weak family affection must not have experienced much family affection when they were young, so they need to influence such people.

Care a lot for such people, they grew up in a loveless family since they were young, so they will become indifferent, try to tolerate him.

Then give back to the other in his way. Treating this kind of person should let the other party also experience what it is like to be cold-blooded and have weak family affection.

I think we should return indifference to such a person, let him feel what it feels like to treat family affection, and cherish it in the future.

Some things are innate, and if you are this type of person, you don't have to force yourself, as long as you fulfill your obligations.

Let's just live like this, don't do things that hurt nature and reason, be financially independent, and have no problem living alone.

You should stay away from them, this kind of person is not even affectionate, then it will not be good to you, and maybe they will do things that hurt you.

I think such people should take the initiative to get close to their families and have reunion dinners with their families during the holidays, and I believe that the cold-blooded heart will definitely be touched by family affection.

Then give up ** and live alone from the social group. In order that your children will also learn your way, and your children will not provide for you in the future.

In life, we meet people who are very cold, and they treat their relatives as well.

Their actions and feelings hurt their loved ones greatly, which is very wrong. Don't let yourself be too tired, there will always be someone around you who can rely on you. Don't hold everything in your heart and pretend that you are strong and resistant

The people around you leave one by one, and you can come back one by one. It's not that you don't have a sense of existence, it's just that some people put you in the eyes and some people put you at ease. Since childhood, the growth environment has trained your glass heart with a layer of steel and hard appearance, so tired.

Water is just something you use to hold your sorrows, and you should be strong on your own. Open your heart and accept the people around you sincerely, so that you can live a better life.

Therefore, when we treat these people, we need to inspire them with emotion, communicate with them more, and care more about them.

Answer: Actually, it makes sense for people to say that "good horses don't eat back grass" It's not that he doesn't love you, and it's not necessarily that he's cold-blooded It's just that after reading what you wrote, I don't think you two are suitable

You want to be cared for, not to coax him in everything And he may be the kind of more introverted Maybe you love each other very much, but the people you love are not necessarily suitable for being together Love does require courage, but you should understand that the so-called courage is not desperate to love

A word to you, and to myself and all my friends who are going through emotional troubles: "What's the hardest thing in the world?" Not to pick up, but to put down