How to face some complex interpersonal relationships in society! ？

In the past, I always heard that "where there are people, there are contradictions, there are complex interpersonal relationships", just listen to it like this. When I was a student, I was relatively simple, and my relationship was very pure. When I went out of society, I realized that the various relationships between people are really too complicated.

For a person who is not very good at handling these relationships, I will always avoid the work of complex interpersonal relationships. So I chose the teaching profession because I felt that in the hodgepodge of society, compared to other professions, the relationship network involved in this profession is slightly simpler. At least the teachers, the most important thing is the students, and the students are very simple.

It was only when I entered this industry that I truly understood that it was not as simple as I imagined.

As a teacher, in addition to the main target audience, there is also a very important aspect, and that is the relationship with colleagues. This relationship is the most difficult to deal with.

As a teacher, you have to listen to your students. Parents have to listen to you. As for colleagues, it has to be handled delicately. Some of your colleagues are your leaders, some are year leaders, some are your class teachers, some are your partners, and some are your competitors.

You have to deal with all these relationships.

In an office, there may be teachers who come before you and are your seniors; There are teachers who come after you, but they may be better than you. The most uncomfortable thing is that most of the people in this office are local, and they speak in dialects, which I alone cannot understand, and I feel that I am being left out.

What's more, in some offices, there are small groups with relationships, which makes people very uncomfortable. It's okay to do your own thing, but once interests are involved, then distinguish them. In particular, to participate in the excellent teacher competition, the evaluation of the first, these are borrowed on the basis of the strength of the contestants.

If you are excellent, you don't have a good relationship, no one recommends, no one to revise and give advice, and it is difficult to achieve anything.

The network of relationships is really complex and delicate.

When we graduate from school, we have to enter the society and start our careers. In this process, my purest feeling is the complexity ......Whether it's work or life, it's more complicated than before. ......The reason why this is so is because of the change in the state of life, the change in the state of the relationship between people, and the change in the purpose of personal pursuit.

1. The change of life status makes one's life more complicated.

When I was in school, my life was very simple, and I could almost describe it as a simple and orderly cycle. ......The key to this is that you don't have to think about life. Living on the help of your parents was very simple and happy.

But when you enter the workplace, you need to rely on your own ability to live, and this change in state makes your life more complicated, and the simple and happy life before is gone.

2. The change in the state of the relationship between people makes everything they face more complicated.

When I was in school, my relationship with my classmates and teachers was very simple and transparent, and everything was so beautiful. ......But when I graduated from school and entered the workplace, I faced a completely different person. ......At this time, I am facing colleagues who have a competitive relationship, which makes the relationship between myself and my colleagues more complicated, and I will be very uncomfortable with this situation when I first enter the workplace, and it will take a long time to gradually become familiar with the characteristics of interpersonal interactions in the workplace.

3. The change of personal pursuit goals makes one's work status more complicated.

In school, my goal is to succeed in my studies and lay a good foundation for my future career development. ......When I graduate, I will strive for success in my career ......Compared with the two, it is obviously more complicated and difficult to develop a career in the workplace. ......Such a state will leave a very deep impression on yourself, let yourself have a deeper understanding of the workplace environment, so as to prompt yourself to redouble your efforts, adapt to the new environment, make achievements and achieve your life ideals.

The process is full of hardships, but once you succeed, you will get more joy than ever before. At that moment, you will fully feel that all the hard work is worth it.

The reason for the complexity of interpersonal relationships is the internal factors of the person, including low self-esteem, selfishness, and hypocrisy. But these three do not exist in isolation, but are organically interrelated: inferiority is the inner root of selfishness; Selfishness is an outward manifestation of low self-esteem; Hypocrisy is a fig leaf for selfishness and inferiority; The result of hypocrisy and selfishness is an even greater inferiority; And so a vicious circle.

As for the external cause of the complexity of interpersonal relationships, it is the increasing intensity of social competition. Needless to say, relationships were much simpler thirty years ago than they are now. At that time, criticism and self-criticism activities were also carried out at the party's democratic life meetings, and such criticism and self-criticism activities were remarkable!

In the Yan'an Rectification Movement of that year, criticism and self-criticism became the most effective way to unify the thinking within the party, and no matter how big it was, it was necessary to honestly listen to the criticisms of lower-level party members and the masses, and at the same time we must strive to make self-criticism that conforms to objective reality. Even in the early days of the Cultural Revolution, criticism and self-criticism were still at work. However, with the development of society to the present, who would still carry out merciless "criticism" of others at the party's democratic life meeting?

Who would engage in meaningful "self-criticism" of themselves? I am afraid that the current meeting of democratic life within the party has long since been reduced from "criticism and self-criticism" in the past to "touting and self-aggrandizement" in the present. In fact, this phenomenon is a reflection of the complication of interpersonal relations in society in party life.

In the same way, although interpersonal relations in rural areas are simpler than in cities today, interpersonal relationships in rural areas are certainly several times more complex than in the past. Although the interpersonal relationship between enterprises is simpler than that of government agencies, the current enterprises are definitely not the same as in the past! The reason is that the intensification of social competition has led to the complication of interpersonal relationships.

In short, the more the market economy develops, the more fierce the social competition will be, the more diversified people's interests will be, and the relationship between people will develop from "simple" to "subtle" and then to "complex". At the same time, in the process of realizing their own interests, due to the fierce social competition, people will produce more and more serious mental pressure, and mental pressure will prompt people to produce the characteristics of inferiority, selfishness and hypocrisy, and these characteristics will promote the development of social interpersonal relations in the direction of complication from another direction.

Society is like this, there are all kinds of people. Everyone will have people they don't like. But we all need to understand that in order to survive in society, we must deal with interpersonal relationships.

Treat those you don't like as if you don't see or hear them, but don't blame them directly, and don't cut them off completely. Because I was born to be useful, even if you don't like someone you don't like, you will need their help at times. You may have come across situations where you don't like a person and they help you when you need it.

That's when you'll feel a little guilty. Look at life as plain, but don't give up on your ideals.

1. Networking resources are a kind of strategic resources, and there must be a sense of reserve.

2. Even if you look down on someone, respect their position.

3. Kindness but not stupidity, integrity but not pedantic, persistence but not stubbornness.

4. It doesn't matter if you suffer a small loss occasionally, don't worry about everything.

5. Don't form gangs, equidistant communication is the best policy.

6. Sending charcoal in the snow is better than icing on the cake, reaching out and pulling when others are in difficulty.

Interpersonal relationships refer to the interdependent and interconnected social relations formed by interaction in a social group.