What should I do if my child is in his twenties and is introverted and reluctant to go out or commun

Updated on psychology 2024-03-16
41 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I'm also introverted, reluctant to go out, and reluctant to communicate with people.

    But you don't believe it, I'm still in sales, my performance is not bad, I can talk to customers for hours at work without stopping, I often talk about products and plans in front of a group of people, and my mouth is like a river, but I am very introverted from beginning to end, and I still like to be alone when I'm fine.

    I would say that introversion, reluctance to go out, reluctance to communicate with people, these are not disadvantages in and of themselves.

    If you take these as shortcomings and think that it is right to go out more and make more friends, it is wrong for children to do this. Communicating with your child based on this stance is bound to be ineffective, because it belongs to considering the problem from the perspective of your own values, regardless of the child's feelings and actual situation, at the age of 20, it is easy to rebel and work against you, so that your good wishes are not only disappointed, but also develop in the opposite direction. As long as you don't change your "original intention", then any method will be futile.

    Therefore, first of all, we should respect the child, and do not deny him, on this basis, there will be a healthy development.

    As the saying goes, instead of changing others, it is better to change yourself. To change your child, it is important to start from yourself, form a role model effect to exert positive guidance on your child, the so-called example is greater than words, if you yourself or your lover are also introverted, and do not want to go out, do not communicate with others, then how can your child be different?

    So you don't want to go out, you and your lover can go out often, and then invite him to go with him, if he doesn't want to go, it's okay, it's important that you stick to it yourself, and don't send him a signal that "if you don't go out, it's not good".

    He doesn't want to communicate with people, you can find more relatives and friends to come to your house and ask him to come out to chat, and in the same way, if he doesn't want to come out, don't blame him.

    Another way is to push him into a more ideal external environment, such as letting him go out to work and pick some positions that require frequent interaction with people. This changes very quickly. And don't work in the kind of job that one person can do with a dull head.

    As long as you respect your child's own personality and hobbies, you can exert more influence on him, and it will inevitably change over time.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    The child is in his twenties, unwilling to go out, and unwilling to communicate with others, this situation is actually timid and not confident and inferior, he feels that he is always inferior to others, so he is unwilling to go out to let others see him, you have to make him confident, a person only has self-confidence, he will face everything and people, he has the courage to communicate with others to make friends, speak freely, you encourage him more, let him complete some things independently, he will feel that he can also after he is done, Others can do it, he can too, the people around him give him enough encouragement and confidence, get the affirmation and praise of the people around him, he will feel that he is also great, first of all, you have to take him to encourage him to accompany him, go out more and take a look at the child, let him feel that the original walk can release pressure, relieve pressure and make his mood better, the mood is good, everything will be fine, slowly he will become more and more bold, have the confidence to dare to face the original dare not to try.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Children in their twenties are more introverted, how can they communicate with language? The first thing to do is to get your child socially active. Including some public welfare activities.

    This will increase the child's communication and communication with outsiders. There is also the need to train children to participate in more outdoor activities, recreational or tourism groups. In this way, the child's personality will slowly change.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    You need to be patient to guide him to gradually get in touch with the society, and slowly hand over things to him from small to large, and you have to praise him every time you finish it, and don't blame him for not doing it well, it's good after a long time.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It may be an autistic personality, or if you have been wronged outside and escape from painful memories, parents should not have too much pressure, and actively communicate and guide to see what the real reason is. Give help and encouragement. If you haven't had this kind of escape in your twenties before, it may be just a simple emotional frustration, and self-regulation is good.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You can take your child to see a psychiatrist, let your child open his heart, let him make more friends and travel more.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Children are introverts, and many people are introverts. However, it is still necessary to train children to go out to communicate, introversion should not affect communication, and participate in social practice.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Find a psychiatrist to take a look, don't go out and don't want to communicate with people, it's easy to have problems in your heart after a long time, communicate with him more, dredge your mind.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    For autism, you must see a psychiatrist, otherwise your life will be over.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    There's always a reason for this, isn't it that you're too busy with your children outside, and you don't feel safe, so you don't like to go out, or you feel like you're accompanied by your parents, or something.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It is better to let him live independently.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If the child is in his twenties, introverted, and reluctant to go out or communicate with others, then parents need to communicate and communicate more with their children.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    1.Today's parents want their children to live well, dress well, and eat well, maybe because their parents manage too much, so that children have a rebellious psychology, that is, they don't hate you to talk more and communicate more, but let your estrangement get deeper and deeper, and the expectations of parents are disappointed.

    2.Nowadays, the existence of life pressure has greatly affected our body and mind, due to the urging of our parents to marry, let us depressed mood, more and more by the soul torment, I have no money and no career, how can I marry a woman and go home, have children, but he dare not tell his parents his suffering, saying that he is afraid that his parents will secretly help him, he does not want such a result.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    This has to do with the family environment and with your parental personality. There is another reason why this situation has been formed, that is, the concept of difference between you, that is, the generation gap, so that he does not want to say anything to you, because you don't understand or don't understand it.

    So the first step is to understand what he thinks in his heart, what he likes, what he worries about, and speak more from his point of view.

    You can go out as a family to play and watch movies to create a pleasant family atmosphere.

    Take your time, this doesn't change all at once.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    A child's reluctance to communicate with his or her parents is not necessarily due to personality reasons, but rather to the parent-child relationship. It is recommended that parents have the opportunity to get along with their children more, such as going out together or doing housework, which is a way to repair the parent-child relationship and facilitate communication with children.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    In his 20s, his personality has been set, but there is no way to change it, it doesn't matter if he is introverted, but he doesn't want to communicate with his parents because his parents have not educated him well since he was a child.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Introverted personality is a lack of love and lack of recognition from parents since childhood, and no matter what parents do, they are mainly criticized. I am also an introvert with low self-esteem, and I am slowly changing myself.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    If you don't communicate, don't communicate, 20 years old is already an adult, you should have your own thoughts and opinions. The main thing is that as a parent, silently supporting him to do something he wants to do is the best communication.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    If my son is in his 20s this year, he is more introverted and unwilling to communicate with his parents, the main reason is that he has not been guided and educated since he was a child, and if he is in his 20s and his personality is still more introverted, I think I can take him to see a psychiatrist.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    My son is in his twenties this year, introverted, and always reluctant to communicate with his parents, what should I do? You just have to ask him to go outside to see, work, do business, etc., and it will be easy to do.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Parents have not educated and cultivated their children well since childhood, and now they realize the harm, which is indeed a bit late. All we can do now is communicate more, encourage more, support more, and complain less.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Then parents should take the initiative to communicate with him, should care more about him, encourage him to talk to others more, if he is a student outside, he should take the initiative to socialize with his classmates and work, and socialize with colleagues, otherwise, how will he go to society in the future?

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    In fact, your child is now 20 years old and an adult, he should have his own ideas, so he thinks that there is no need to communicate with my parents about 40 parents.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    This question may be somewhat universal, and you should not be too anxious.

    If you just don't want to communicate with your parents, it's not a big problem. However, if you are reluctant to communicate with other people, it is recommended to pay attention to it, and it is best to consult a professional in a formal institution.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    If the son is in his twenties this year, has a more introverted personality, and is unwilling to communicate with his parents, the parents should find out the reason from themselves, whether they usually communicate less with their children, or are more strict in managing and controlling their children. Because from now on, communicate more with your child, start by caring for him.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    It's inherited from your genes. At the same time, in some ways he felt it, and at the same time, in some ways, he felt the strangeness of this family and society. That's why he doesn't want to communicate with you.

    It's true. OK. There are still children between husband and wife, and there is a tacit and humorous way of communication between husband and wife, and between children.

    It's a holiday, but it's not an overnight thing.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Introverted personality is natural, acquired is not easy to change, but the problem is not big, twenty-year-old boys, as for the reluctance to communicate with their parents, is a cheerful and introverted child also has a lot of reluctance to communicate with their parents, the main parents can take the initiative to communicate with him, care more about the child, let him feel the love of his parents, and slowly he is willing to take the initiative to communicate with his parents, and the relationship will be close.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    I think as a parent, you must take the initiative to approach him and talk to him about some things that are interesting to your son, you must not always nag him, but enlighten him so that he can treat you as friends. I want to tell you if there is something, he will become cheerful after a long time, remember not to be in a hurry and slowly enlighten.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Try to understand his inner world, communicate more, when he opens his heart, you will be able to see his true side, then you will be his friend, not an elder, then he will open his heart and be willing to communicate with you!

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    You should try your best to talk to her about what he likes, love what he asks to do, I believe you will compare his character to him, only if the parents pay, the child will treat you sincerely. Usually you must be a little bit of a snub to him.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Your son is in his twenties this year, introverted, introverted children are reluctant to communicate with others, as parents, to care about him, take the initiative to communicate with children, but the character that has been formed will not be easily changed, you don't want to be entangled, he is already an adult, as long as you can make him feel your care.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Although my son is in his twenties this year and is introverted, he doesn't like to talk much, if there is really something, he will definitely come to tell you, you also have to know him well, you are already so old, you should be lively, and it is easy to find the right home in the future.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Your son is in his twenties and introverted, and that's because he has a mind of his own. Reluctance to communicate with parents. It is also because of his personality that his parents should communicate with him more often and can go out for travel.

    Talk more when you're fine, and you'll open up. Communicate with your own son.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Parents should communicate with their children more, take their children out for travel, let their children have more contact with people who are willing to help their children, in short, create opportunities for children to speak.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    The child grows up and has his own circle, as long as he socializes normally and can talk to his friends, it's fine. When children grow up, they don't want to communicate with their parents, they always annoy their parents, love to nag, and they will really experience the love of their parents when they become parents. If your son doesn't want to talk to anyone, you can make an appointment with a psychiatrist to see what's going on.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    My son is in his 20s this year, introverted and always reluctant to communicate with his parents, what should I do? Your son is 20 years old this year, and he is more introverted and does not communicate with others, at most half of which is related to his growth environment, so as a parent, you should communicate with him as much as possible, let him go out to participate in 1 social activities, and don't stay at home all day, so that he is the opposite, go out and walk more, Jia, encourage him to enlighten him, so that he can slowly be outgoing.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    Take your child to social activities. Drink it more. Interact together, slowly walk into her world, so you can communicate with him.

  38. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    First of all, we must know what hobbies he has, what topics he likes, talk about the same type of topics as him, and reach a consensus language, and then enlighten him to participate in some public welfare activities, or recommend him to read some celebrity books, so as to change his views and judgments on the public. And then to integrate into the collective.

  39. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    Then you should encourage your children to become cheerful and lively, communicate with others more, and slowly improve the fun of getting along with others, and they will like to get along with others after a long time.

  40. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    You can have more contact with your peers, and you can do jobs like sales.

  41. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    In this case, the child belongs to a psychological disorder, and the best way for this psychological disorder is to pass the psychological **.

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