What are the contradictions in the psychological characteristics of adolescence?

The contradiction between good wishes and psychological preparation, almost every middle school student has good wishes, full of longing and yearning for the future. They fantasize about being a learned and respected writer, engineer, doctor, entrepreneur, leading cadre, and so on, but in fact some of them do not study very hard, and they live one day at a time, although their aspirations are beautiful, but all they pursue is all kinds of honors and enjoyments after realizing their ideals, and they need to start from now on to realize their ideals, and they need to pay hard work, but they don't think much about it and don't do enough, forming a contradiction that is out of touch between good wishes and psychological preparations. An effective way to resolve this contradiction is to educate students to properly handle the relationship between ideals and reality, so that they can understand that beautiful ideals can only be realized through arduous struggle.

The heart is full of contradictions, which is a manifestation of adolescent children and needs to be enlightened by parents.

First of all, in terms of social relationships, adolescents want to have a sense of belonging, but they also want to be independent. This creates a contradiction, he wants to be different, to make people feel that he is different from others, and he needs the approval of the public. The problem of performance is a social and interpersonal problem, everyone has a problem, as far as I am fine, you are not worthy of being my friend, but this kind of person is very lonely, and he wants to find recognition in the crowd, and his own behavior is hindering his recognition and acceptance, which causes great distress.

The second is the physical maturity that makes him feel like he has become an adult, but in practice, what he learns, their direct and indirect experiences, make him inadequate to deal with the challenges of life. This is a contradiction, which can easily make teenagers feel anxious.

Third, excessive concern about the contradiction between oneself and the evaluation of others. The problem of performance is also a social problem, why am I so bad, why can't I talk to others, why don't I know what to say to others, others are isolating me, laughing at me, all carrying me, I can't do anything, I'm so good to others, why don't others be nice to me? In fact, this still contains a kind of self-centeredness, which does not take objectivity as the standard, and judges things entirely by one's inner imagination and feelings.

The more such people are, the more unwilling they are to communicate their experiences and feelings with others, and the more they refuse to communicate, the stronger the sense of inner closure and the stronger the tendency to be autistic.

The contradiction between self-independence and dependence, the contradiction between competitive character and emotional fragility, and the contradiction between lack of ideals and intellectual ability.

The contradiction between the rapid development of the physiology and the relatively slow development of one's own psychological development is particularly serious, especially in many cases when the mind is particularly immature.

Adolescence is especially easy to rebel, but the heart wants not to go on like this, which is a kind of ambivalence.

I want to play games, watch the Internet**, and the contradiction between learning.