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Everyone is a flat boat floating on the sea of life, and family members are rudders and oars.
Everyone is a kite floating in the sky of the future, and family is a string and a rope.
Home is the starting point and destination; Family, accompany you from the beginning to the end of your life.
Family, never takes up too much of your energy, always there, no matter where you go.
Although you don't need to worry about treating your family, you can't ignore it. The attitude towards your family is your truest character.
1. Be grateful.
As the old saying goes, "the grace of a drop of water is reciprocated by a spring", for a little help from outsiders, we are still grateful, in the face of the support and help of our family day after day, how can we not always be grateful?
Life needs a grateful heart to create, and it also needs a grateful heart to nourish.
In the Book of Songs, it is said that "mourn your parents, give birth to me (qú) labor", and the grace of birth and nurturing is the greatest kindness.
Always be grateful, when your parents accidentally do something that makes you unhappy and say something that makes you unhappy, think about what your parents have done to you, and don't shout at them.
Always be grateful, don't take your wife's busy laundry and cooking for granted, and say thank you to her. Don't take it for your husband to leave early and come home late, show concern for him.
Gratitude is not a formality, not a casual talk. It can be a steaming meal, or a shout-out.
2. Say comforting words.
There are many people in life who treat outsiders with a polite attitude, but treat their loved ones with mean and harsh words.
In the Zhuangzi, it is said, "蹍 (niǎn) is the foot of the people of the city, then the resignation is to release the 骜 (ào), the brother is to 妪 (yù), and the eldest relatives are already 矣." ”
Family members should also be measured and polite when getting along. Gentle language is indispensable in the family of good people.
Treat family members gently, be friendly and polite, get along with family members, and speak comfortably.
The family is a place of peace of mind and rest, and do not vent the grievances and dissatisfaction in the society to the family members and show their faces.
Don't be too aggressive, and don't always complain about this and that.
Communicate with your family members frequently, speak well, speak calmly, and express love when you have it.
3. Do thoughtful things.
When dealing with family members, we must know how to empathize and understand that it is not easy for family members.
Husbands and wives understand each other, parents understand their children's hardships, and children must also understand their parents' difficulties.
Love is understanding and tolerance, and relatives need to be considerate.
In the world, no one's life is easy, even if it is a child who has not yet entered society.
The understanding is not completely unanimous, but that although we have different views, I support your decision.
Behind a good family style is the mutual understanding and consideration between family members.
It is not easy to learn to understand the difficulties of family members.
Parents need to understand their children's real needs and not impose their own ideas on them. Children should understand the difficulties of their parents and do not criticize and dislike their parents. Husbands and wives should also understand each other, not always make decisions based on themselves, but also consider each other's feelings and ideas.
Everything in the world can slip with legs, only family members can't. No matter where you go, your family is waiting for you behind your back.
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Because if you treat your closest people badly, you may not be able to be as good as others, so depending on a person's quality, it still depends on how he treats his closest people.
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Because if a person has a bad attitude towards his family, it means that he has a big problem with himself, and it means that he has a bad character.
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Because in front of our family, we can show our true selves, without pretending, and we can lose our temper as much as we want in front of people who are particularly close to us.
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Because your family is the person who loves you the most, and you are most familiar with it, you are outside for entertainment, for a living, for your own face, sometimes in front of friends will pretend to be some, but when you come home, it is your most relaxed place, and it is also the harbor where you work hard during the day and love to talk at night, and you know very well in your heart that your family is the person who can best tolerate your shortcomings and will not worry too much about you, so the attitude towards your family is often the most real side.
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Summary. Because, the truest character of a person is his attitude towards his family. Generally speaking, a person often has a lot of faces, if only a short contact may not be clear what kind of person he is, but look at how he treats his relatives can understand what kind of person he is.
Because, the truest character of a person is his attitude towards his family. Generally speaking, a person often has a lot of faces, if only a short contact may not be clear what kind of person he is, but look at how he treats his relatives can understand what kind of person he is.
How do you evaluate whether a child honors his parents?
This child is very filial to his parents. Wake up every morning to cook and let your parents sleep a little longer. Do your own things by yourself, such as tidying up your room, doing laundry, etc.
Knowing that it is not easy for parents to earn money, they don't talk about food and clothing, and don't want pocket money. Honor your grandparents, and if there is something delicious at home, your children will give it to them. Be polite and greet people.
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The attitude towards your parents is your truest character.
Dear, hello reply as follows: the theory is like this, a person who is not good to his parents, his character is not good, people are at different levels of society, they play different roles, and their attitudes towards their parents do not necessarily represent the real character, there is a dialectical relationship between the two, but it is not the only theory. If the parents are selfish, I believe there will be fewer people asking questions here, because the person concerned cannot exist in this world at all, it has long been destroyed, and it is still talking about selfishness!
The nurturing grace of parents is the greatest kindness in the world, without the hard work of parents, we are not even qualified to talk about it, and we pay attention to judging, isn't this the world's greatest selfishness, so selfish that we almost forget who gave birth to and raised ourselves. This is just about selfishness, and there is nothing else involved, such as parents violating the bottom line of human ethics and law, which is another matter. Whether the parent's approach is correct or not, as long as it does not touch the exceptions I mentioned above, is correct, even if the person thinks it is selfish.
Have you ever thought about the fact that when you ask this question, you prove that you are still alive in this world, and in this principle, who gave you your existence? In addition, the so-called selfish evaluation of the parties is only based on their own thinking and the social knowledge they have come into contact with, isn't this a selfish idea? The moral starting point of judging others with one's own selfishness is debatable, and what is the point of discussing it on this basis?
In the real world, there are only selfish children, no selfish parents, don't put the cart before the horse.
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If you don't talk to outsiders well, you will lose your image.
But if you don't talk well to your family, the people closest to you can still tolerate you, so there are fewer scruples and more strength, and the so-called loved ones have no fear.
In it, Shi Tiesheng mentioned one of the biggest regrets in his life, because of his moodiness, he hurt the closest person around him, his mother.
At the age of 30, Stetson was paralyzed, and since then, he has become unpredictable and emotionally capricious. It wasn't until his mother's sudden death that Shi Tiesheng woke up. In the text, he wrote:
At that time, her son was too young to think about his mother, he was stunned by fate, and thought that he was the most unfortunate one in the world, and he didn't know that his son's misfortune would always be doubled by his mother's trouble. I have read such a sentence: "Being polite to outsiders may only be tactful, and leaving a good attitude to the person you love is the upbringing that goes deep into the bone marrow."
How to understand a person's true character is very simple, it depends on his attitude towards his family. Because in front of his family, he will take off all his disguises and masks to show his true side.
A few months ago, a new colleague Xiao Zhang came, who was humble and courteous to his colleagues, patient and polite to customers, and very diligent in his work. Gradually, I gained the trust of my colleagues, and when I was too busy with a good project, I would introduce him to him. However, later some small things made everyone have a new understanding of him, and once, the company organized a dinner party, which could be attended by family members.
Xiao Zhang was also busy, helping Stupid Zhang Luo to order food for everyone, and treated everyone very warmly and carefully.
The most cruel way of education is indeed not knowing the law of growth, because many parents are pulling out seedlings to help them grow, not giving their children the opportunity to grow up on their own, and always putting pressure on the child will only make the child more and more tired.
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When I was in junior high school, I longed for the life of dropping out of school, smoking, drinking and going to nightclubs, and I always thought it was cool, so I changed from an excellent student who got a scholarship to a bad young man who was shouted and beaten by rats on the street, my father because of physical reasons on the one hand, on the other hand, I hit him with cancer, of course, I didn't understand that my father was on the verge of death, I was not admitted to high school, In order to stay away from my parents and not listen to their scolding, I chose to go to a nursing school in the field, in fact, it is nothing more than to avoid their sight, not by their side, I can skip class unscrupulously, sleep in class, do not write homework and do not study, until finally I learned nothing and let the school give my parents ** to take away and persuade me to quit, I was taken home by my mother, my father was very angry and did not give me a penny, and I had no choice but to go out to find a job, that job was to sell cosmetics in the mall, go to work at 9 o'clock in the morning and get off work at 9 o'clock in the evening, standing all day, And from home to the mall, and then from the mall home, every day 40 kilometers away I have to ride an electric car, sometimes it may suddenly rain, but also to ride home soaked in the rain, in fact, his heart is heartbroken, the job has intrigues, I often cry secretly, at that time I realized that I was really nothing without him, but I didn't dare to resign, because it was really difficult to find a job without a degree, and I didn't want to give up if I earned little money, and then my father died, Now I am also married, have children and have my own family, my mother often asks me if I regret the decision I made, I always want to make my own decisions I do not regret my life, I ask myself how can I not regret it, if I am obedient, will my father not go so early and insist on accompanying me for a few years, even if he goes to see that I am all stable, he will rest assured and happy to go, for my father this is the regret of my life, sometimes I quarrel with my husband, I will think if my father is in the case he knows will immediately rush over to protect me, Is I still a home to go back to, I'm the same as you, when my parents disciplined me during the rebellious period, I also had depression and wanted to commit suicide by taking sleeping pills, but I watched my mother anxiously send me to the hospital to shed tears for fear that I really felt very unfilial at the moment when I had an accident, I want to share my own story with you, I hope you don't have psychological pressure, there are too many unsatisfactory things in life, when it is to give yourself some challenges, so that you can meet a better self, and it is also a kind of happiness to make my parents happy, if my father is not dead, If I still have a chance, then I will definitely choose not to disappoint him.
The most cruel way to treat a person, you can't get what you want, you can't love the person you want to love, you want to live well for those who want to die, but you can't live if you want to live.