Tell us how people who have experienced despair come out?

How to get out of despair, we still have to see the seeds of hope, we still have to use war to move the desperate heart, use love to touch the wounded heart, and use responsibility to stir up the flame of despair.

Many people feel that time will dilute everything, but this is really just a word of comfort from the comforter to the hopeless. It is undeniable that people are as small as dust in the long river of time, and one day they will be submerged by time. But what!

If you hope that despair will be diluted by time, will your short life of a few decades withstand the washing of time?

It is a waste of life for a person who has experienced despair to count on time to dilute it. What people who have experienced despair need is to rekindle new hope and accept new hope. This actually requires an epiphany.

Epiphany has the meaning of penetration. That is what the Sixth Ancestor Hui Neng said, 'clear mind', and the meaning of quick comprehension. Desperate people can only come out of despair when they understand it.

Everyone will have unsatisfactory and painful experiences in life, difficulties and setbacks, and blows and injuries. As long as our hearts are full of hope, love, and courage, any unsatisfactory things will be solved one by one.

In life, no matter what we are doing, what we are thinking, and what we are experiencing. We must know how to have good thoughts, learn to adapt to the surrounding environment and meet all kinds of people and hearts. Hopefully, everyone will have it, and that's okay.

The hope of beauty is also what we have been pursuing and chasing, everything is going well, and it is good that it will come naturally. A little bit of obstruction and stumbling, often at this time there are two different trajectories and options. ‍‍

Your heart is not really hopeless. The so-called life is in constant despair again and again, breakthroughs, and maturity again and again, there is a word called "Phoenix Nirvana", our maturity, open-mindedness, and all the so-called successful people's character and quality, are all grown up in the "Nirvana" again and again, constantly destroying, and constantly being reborn.

Succeeded, we don't say anything. It is the best choice to wait and see what happens, and follow the general trend. But what if it fails?

You know, failure and success are very incomprehensible, and they are also two interconnected relationships. Like the day and night we experience every day, he will be everywhere and ready to take orders.

In fact, failure is despair. Everyone is doing one thing, even normal communication between two people, the process that is happening to the result, will give you a slap in the face when you are overwhelmed. At this time, the changes in complex emotions will manifest themselves externally with the churning of the heart.

Some people will go all the way down, and only a few people will get the truth from it, find the way to salvation, and fight to get up, to step on the level, to crush him.

Hopeless, not terrible. The terrible thing is that he knows how to defeat and eliminate him, but he is so discouraged that he doesn't even have the courage to face him......

As a bystander, in the face of despair, find a way to make him have an epiphany. As a person who has experienced despair, meditate calmly, do not mess up, sort out the past, and look for gains and losses. In thinking, we should see through the beautiful and the ugly, the good and the evil, the right and the wrong, the right and the wrong, the good and the bad.

Maybe one day, a small external cause touches your heart, and you have an epiphany, like a detonator that detonates a ** bomb.

Kidney stone. I remember that it was noon one day, I was having dinner with a few colleagues and asked for a bowl of noodles. The noodles haven't come up yet, and I feel some pain in the right lower abdomen, thinking it is a simple stomach pain, because I love diarrhea, so I didn't pay attention and went to the toilet.

After coming back, it still hurts, so I went to the toilet again. At this point, the pain wasn't too bad. After about 5 minutes, the noodles just came up and I was about to eat the noodles, when suddenly the pain came up and I couldn't help it. I felt that something was not quite right, and told my colleague to accompany me to the hospital.

My colleague went to drive my car, and I walked to the parking place, and I couldn't straighten up in pain before I walked halfway through. Forcibly enduring the pain, he pressed his hand on his lower abdomen and walked forward.

I got in the car and went to a small hospital nearby. The doctor listened to me describe the symptoms and directly said that you are most likely to have kidney stones. After giving me a urine test, I was directly referred to a hospital that focuses on lithotripsy.

After arriving at this hospital, I took a **, and sure enough, it was a kidney stone. Start being ready at any time. At this point, I was in so much pain that I couldn't stand. But if you want to have a lithotripsy, you have to have urine in your bladder, and you just went to the toilet twice and tested your urine, and it was already empty.

The doctor said that you can choose to drink water and hold urine, or you can take a diuretic injection for 10 yuan, the urine comes relatively quickly, and I decisively choose to take the injection.

But no matter how fast it is, it will take half an hour. I was so sick that the doctor said it was normal and vomited several times. That kind of pain is really, never before, life is like death, I want someone to knock me out with a stick.

Half an hour later, I finally urinated, and began to rubble, about 20 minutes, and gradually relieved the pain to no pain at all. I prescribed medicine, covered my stomach and left, and saw other stone patients in the corridor, I really prayed for them.

After this time, I really have lingering palpitations. The causes of stones are not drinking water, eating salty, and not exercising. I took all three.

After a while, the pain level of kidney stones can reach 11, which is even more painful than childbirth.

Those two hours made me feel like a real warrior.

Now I have begun to pay attention to my diet, mainly light, drink more water, exercise more, the probability of stones is very high, I don't want to hurt anymore.

I advise everyone to drink plenty of water, don't eat too salty, and develop a healthy body.

I feel like my life is wandering, I don't have a purpose in life, I don't have a direction in my life, and I don't see any signs of improvement.

The first is to see clearly and accept the reality of the moment. All changes and growth must begin by seeing and accepting the current reality, and many people are easy to escape from reality once they fall into a trough and are hopeless and helpless. They feel that they don't have to face this reality, as if there is not so much pain, and the problem is gone.

In fact, this is not the case at all, the more a person is unable to see and accept the current reality, the more he will not be able to get out of it. So at this moment, the first thing we have to do is to see what the current reality is, to see what happened to me, what the current background is, what I am facing, you see these clearly, and accept it calmly, you know what you can do next. Escaping is simply the absence of pain in the moment, but in the long run it will only create more suffering.

The second is to form a clear understanding of yourself. The more you fall into the trough, the more you have to see yourself. That is, you have to ask yourself, what abilities you have, what your talent is, what you are good at, and what is the scope of your circle of competence.

It is at this time that the more you have to understand yourself objectively, in addition to reflecting on your past experiences, you can also rely on some external help. Only when you see yourself clearly will you know where you are going next, what you want to do, and what you can do. As we old saying, those who know themselves know that there are many disadvantages if a person lacks enough understanding of himself.

What to do when you are confused, what to do when you are desperate?

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Life. Method steps.

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Don't forget the original intention, you have to always.

Analysis: People will always forget, will always lie to themselves, when disappointed, they will not find the direction, they will be confused, but people will always tend to comfort themselves, but often miss the correct answer.

When I am confused, I will think about what I am here for, whether it is to survive, or for someone, or because life is compelled by life.

What is the purpose, the purpose is one's original intention, the original purpose. We tend to get lost, and what do we do when we get lost, whether to choose to walk back or go all the way to the dark. I believe that most people will choose to walk back because we don't know what will happen in the future and what the dangers are.

Walking back, it's as simple as that, but how to walk back. There is no direction anymore, this is, it depends on the philosophy of the mysterious. As the saying goes, the old horse knows the way, and there will always be a memory of the road he has walked, and he should still be able to go back.

But there are always good horses, and there are bad horses, and this is back to the original problem. How can you go back, in a word, rely on yourself, if you can't go back, don't blame others, blame yourself. Fate will always favor those who work hard, hard work may not be rewarded, but if you don't work hard, there will be no gain, you say yes, I don't know if it's or not, but God is watching.

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