Should boys be poor or rich? Are there any pros and cons?

In fact, it is better for boys to be poor, the first point is that poor children must be independent, such children grow up more promisingly, and the second point, if it is a rich child, such children are pampered and grow up, and they will not have any great ambitions, so they should be let be poor.

I think boys should be poor, so that children can develop a sense of independence, and they will also be very smart, if the children are rich, there will be some dependence, not too ambitious and self-motivated.

Choose according to the conditions of your own family, and you don't have to deliberately go to the poor or the rich. If you deliberately raise your child poorly, it is likely to cause your child's low self-esteem. And deliberate enrichment may also cause children to love vanity.

I think boys should also be rich, not to spend a lot of money on boys, but to take boys out to play often, so that they can broaden their horizons, make children curious about the outside world, and they will study hard, but it is likely that children will not cherish money.

I think that not to accompany the boy should mean not to do everything for the child, but to give him freedom and independence. Many people think that raising a boy "poor" means controlling the child's expenses and not giving him too much enjoyment, so as not to spoil him. This understanding is relatively one-sided, and there is a certain difference from what we call "poor" raising.

We believe that the more important significance of raising a boy in "poverty" lies in the value of tempering, exercising and cultivating children's will, quality, character and mentality through the personal feeling of "poverty" and "hardship".

To sum up, we can mainly understand and grasp the following aspects of "poor" boys:

1.Let the boy live a "hard life".

When the economic conditions are good, parents with bulging pockets spend their money on raising their children, which is understandable. Parents can create good learning conditions and environment for them, but they must not give them too extravagant material comforts.

Otherwise, save the money and give it to him when your son grows up and has a normal view of money.

For the sake of his son's positive progress, for his son to develop the virtue of diligence and thrift, and for his son to not be full of warmth and think badly, it is better to let him live a "poor life".

2.Let the boy experience frustration.

The flowers in the greenhouse can't withstand the storm. The concept of Aizi, which is afraid of melting in his mouth and afraid of pain in his hand, will prompt the boy to be not strong-willed, have poor psychological endurance, and go to extremes when he encounters a slight disappointment or setback.

Setbacks inspire a boy to be brave and courageous in the face of the difficulties he encounters. As a parent, you must allow your son to experience a "setback" and encourage him to overcome it and overcome it.

3.Let the boy learn to live independently.

Clothes come to stretch out their hands, food comes to open their mouths", "everything is done" This is a taboo for educating people. It's unbelievable that many college students can't cook, do laundry, or fold quilts. Can such a man take on the challenges of society? Can you be creative?

4.Let the boy be properly wronged.

Boys have to learn to be strong. If you are properly wronged, you will have a deeper understanding of life. If the son does something wrong, it is necessary for the parents to give appropriate criticism and punishment, even if he is a little wronged, it is not lacking in a strategy to educate people.

Such children, after experiencing a variety of emotional experiences, have less rebellious psychology, strong psychological endurance, and mental health, and are prone to become big things.

5.Let boys learn to take responsibility.

Responsibility is a "badge" on a man's shoulders. Dare to take responsibility and not shirk responsibility, which makes men more attractive. Therefore, parents should educate boys about their sense of responsibility from an early age, so that they can take on the dual responsibilities of family and society in the future, and become a man who stands up to the sky.

6.Let the boy be more optimistic and loving.

Optimism and kindness are essential qualities for a mature and excellent man. Parents should guide their children through different ways and methods, wipe off the dirt in their children's hearts, eliminate the selfishness in their children's hearts, and let their children grow into an optimistic, cheerful, kind and sincere person.

Is the child poor or rich?

There used to be a book, "Boys want to be poor, girls want to be rich", many people misunderstood, thinking that poverty is hardship, wealth is to spend money on children, a young couple, ordinary salary, gave birth to a girl, they feel that they have to raise, if they have money, they will spend on their children, when the child is one year old, they spent more than 20,000 yuan to take pictures, and other places spend money can be imagined, but their income is limited after all.

Looking at the current situation of children, there are indeed many questions and problems, such as many have no sense of responsibility, no awe, no gratitude, can not endure hardships, poor will quality, can't stick to things, don't know how to change the wisdom of thinking, do not cherish the labor of their parents, poor academic performance, easy to get tired of school, this is caused by Bi Burying can't figure out whether to be poor or rich.

Whether it is a boy or a girl, they should be poor in life, meet the basic food and clothing, no matter how rich they are, they can't be satisfied at will, otherwise children don't know how to cherish, we see a lot of children from ordinary families, spending money lavishly, to the outside than broad, the famous writer Zhang Tianyi's ** "Bao Father and Son", has long explained this phenomenon.

But in terms of spiritual enrichment, that is, in the growth of children, as parents, do not spare their own encouragement, find the advantages of children to recognize and affirm, and encourage children to continue to do, children will slowly develop a sense of responsibility, self-confidence, in order to overcome difficulties.

Now the biggest problem, whether it is poor or rich, many families do the opposite, in terms of life, feel that the conditions can be met, should meet the requirements of the child, whether reasonable or unreasonable, resulting in many children do not cherish, just want to take, do not want to pay, no bottom line of doting, resulting in a lot of bad problems for children.

On the other hand, in terms of spirituality, learning is an unscrupulous blow, criticizing a little mistake, without mercy, the child has progressed, and it is not encouraged, the reason is that the child is afraid of pride, afraid of cocking the tail.

Whether poor or rich, it is not positively correlated with economic conditions, many children from very poor families raise a lot of young masters and eldest ladies, and rich people like Li Ka-shing are very successful in educating children, and they cultivate their children's frugality, and the concept is very important.

There is an old Chinese saying that the poor raise their children and the rich raise their daughters, but when parents educate their children, they must pay attention to the so-called poor support is not starving their body and skin, and this kind of poor support is completely a kind of poor support that puts the cart before the horse. Of course, the so-called wealth does not meet all the requirements of the child, because such wealth is likely to lead to all kinds of problems for the child. All in all, it is not particularly important whether the boy is poor or rich, as long as the parents can find the right education policy.

Some parents feel that their children should be poor, so they hide the economic conditions of their children's families, and tell their children that the family does not have too much money, and educate their children to be economical and economical. Mom and Dad's education method may be to develop the child's thrifty character, but Mom and Dad have not thought that if the child really believes it, then it is very likely that there will be some inferiority complex in the future, so Mom and Dad must understand the importance of educating their children.

Parents can be poor for a child, but they must not be overly poor, and excessive poverty is also a way of education that puts the cart before the horse. Therefore, parents must grasp the degree when educating their children, do not do something that hurts their children's self-esteem, and do not let their children have low self-esteem, otherwise it will become very difficult to solve it in the future. Parents should know how to educate their children accurately, and do not be completely poor or completely rich.

Being too rich is also a very bad state for children, because overly rich children will have some personality problems, and may be raised with some princess diseases or young master diseases, which are very unfavorable trends for the development of children, so parents should try not to reach such extremes. Parents should try to adopt a compromise approach to educate their children, to provide sufficient guarantees for the child's material level, but to provide rich support for the child's spiritual world.

Boys should be poor. Because in this way, boys can be responsible, children can continue to work hard, and children can cultivate the spirit of hardship and hard work.

In fact, there is no such thing as rich and poor, I think all children should be spiritually rich and materially poor, because this is the best, so that every child can be given.

I think we should be poor. Because boys will have to endure hardships in the future, and boys must be strong, and boys must support their families in the future, so they must understand the hardships of life.

I don't think the poor and the rich have anything to do with boys and girls. I agree with the psychological and social distinction between men and women, but there are some good qualities, such as grandeur, non-kitsch, hard work, etc., that belong to both men and women.

I also don't like the saying that the poor and the rich are raised, which is full of deliberate feelings: obviously the family's economic conditions are not bad, but they deliberately let the children suffer the so-called hardship; Obviously, the family is not financially well-off, but they create the illusion of wealth for their children. In my opinion, if you have money, let your children enjoy the material beauty together (of course, extravagance and waste should be avoided); If you don't have money, let your child share the ups and downs.

A child who grows up in material abundance may be an atmospheric idealist, or a child or a princess who is sick; Children who grow up in conditions of material scarcity may become a hard-working and motivated rich generation, or they may have low self-esteem or self-defeating.

The more a parent thinks about the issue of poverty and wealth, the more he cares about the meaning of money. His concern for money will subtly affect the child, even if he may want to make the child clear through wealth. I know that some girls from ordinary families but grew up rich, they will always appear as rich girls, although they do look relatively tall, and maintaining this image is indispensable to the packaging of famous brands, and their material requirements can be imagined.

I also know that there are families who are well-off, but they want to be materially demanding of their sons. Boys who grow up in such families do develop a bit of hard-working qualities, but they are overly concerned about money, just like some children who grow up in really poor families. Money is both important and unimportant.

On the one hand, we don't need to train our children to be a person who doesn't understand what money does, whether it is the cultivation of fighting spirit or financial intelligence; On the other hand, we also need to let our children know that money is the means by which we achieve the meaning of life, not the meaning itself. In short, there is no contradiction between indifference to fame and fortune and hard work, it is not necessary to choose one of the two between rich and poor, rich and rich, poor and poor, and the good quality does not depend on what kind of material conditions you design for your children, but depends on the spiritual level and vision of parents.

Of course, it is better for boys to be poor, so that they can exercise their willpower, make them more independent, and have a stronger heart to face the difficulties they encounter in the future, which is very helpful to their growth.

I think boys should be poor; It is better to raise poor, so that boys will have a sense of independence and the courage to face difficulties from an early age.

Whether it is poor or rich, the ultimate goal is to establish a relatively correct value for money. And in this process of building values, it is obvious that simple poverty and wealth cannot summarize the method of education.

Many people think that girls want to be rich because they are afraid that they will be deceived by a little favor from a boy when they grow up in the future, but if a girl is too rich, she will also be lazy and hardworking, and she will become a lady who does not eat minced meat.

So, we need to know what it really means to be rich?

Girls were called daughters in ancient times, and it is estimated that the current wealth is also related to this aspect. Human appearance is born by nature, but it also needs the careful care of the day after tomorrow, and it needs to be delicately carved on weekdays. This is the same as educating children, children are born and need the acquired education of their parents to cultivate.

Girl. 1. Have your own unique taste.

When a girl reaches her twenties, she will begin to learn to manage herself with her heart, which is reflected in her appearance and self-cultivation, every girl is special and should have her own unique taste. When girls reach their twenties, they begin to slowly get in touch with society, and in the process of interacting with others, conversation and cultivation are the most able to conquer others.

2. Develop a good habit of reading.

A girl who likes to read books must be calm and have a good attitude, because in the sea of books, girls can absorb nutrients in large gulps. There is a lot of wisdom in every book, and the books that have been read will be the capital of the girl's social interaction, and I believe that no one will like to associate with a superficial girl.

Child. 3. Make friends with thoughtful people.

As the saying goes: Those who are close to Zhu are red and those who are close to ink are black, and what you do in the future depends on what kind of friends you make. Making a mentor can make a big difference in your life and make you optimistic.

When a girl reaches her twenties, she should have more friends, be selfish, that is, make more friends who are helpful to herself, you can learn from them, but if you want to make friends, you have to be sincere to them, don't just want to use them to associate with them, no one is stupid, you are good or bad to others, others can clearly see it. Use your sincerity to make friends with those thoughtful and wonderful people!

4. Learn to be patient and tolerant when dealing with people and things.

The sea is tolerant of all rivers. We can't try to change others, instead of being very angry and loudly accusing others of their behavior, it is better to give each other a smile with an understanding attitude, if you want others to respect yourself, you must first respect others, and no one will hurt a kind person.