Should such a marriage be maintained? Is it necessary to maintain such a marriage?

I think it's better not to be too impulsive, it's not easy for two people to be together, you can find a chance to have a good talk with him, say all your thoughts, and listen to him talk about his thoughts. Everything is open and easy to talk about. My parents have been quarreling all the time, and now they are just as happy.

Anyway, there are always a lot of contradictions in marriage within 10 years, so let's learn to be more tolerant and considerate of each other! In fact, there should be a lot of happiness in marriage, but it's hard to remember when you're unhappy.

Alas? Another person who is sympathetic? I'm divorced.

But I'm in a much worse condition than you. I also got married soon after I met him, and then I had children, and he and his family beat and scolded me a lot, and they were more than his own flesh and blood. I had to come out with my child, and now he doesn't pay child support.

You said that you quarreled, and he ignored you, just like me, which shows that he doesn't care about you at all, if he cares about you, how can he ignore you?

As for taking care of the children, it's like the second floor said"In real life, there are many couples who are continuing their marriage for their children, thinking that such a marriage can create something for their children, but in fact, such a noisy marriage has caused a bad impact on the children, and many children have a shadow on their souls, so that the children grow up with more extreme personalities, mental illness or embark on the road of crime. Even if the child suffers, he wrongs himself. Since you can't give your child such a home, then let go of the child and yourself, let everything start from scratch, and give the child and you a new start!

Actually, that's what I thought at the beginning, so I resolutely left the place where I couldn't give me love or love for my children. Even if I am very tired and tired, I will never let my children live in such an environment, watching my mother work hard and be tortured like that; And her own grandparents and father all discriminated against her and cursed her because she was a girl.

I'm just an opinion, and as for the final choice, it's up to you. This kind of thing must be considered clearly, whether you can withstand the changes of divorce, and if you don't leave, can you live a lifetime with him like this? I can't say anything more than silently support you!

Whichever path you choose, I understand.

You must think about it, whether it is a husband or a wife, it is the original match, and there are children, husband and wife should care about each other, not blame.

In the past, there were many parents who maintained their lives like that for the sake of their children.

What now? For the sake of the child, you should leave him. (Personal opinion).

Premise: As the first floor says, talk about it first, preferably for a long time. And then make your own decisions.

In modern society, there is no need to make a living in a marriage without feelings!!

I suggest you break up!! Better a finger off than always aching!!!

No matter how bad the first marriage is, at least don't be distracted, and the second marriage will have a selfish psychology.

Marriage also has responsibilities, go home.

If you and your husband can only talk about money and not feelings, it is like a partner, each taking what he needs. Is it necessary to maintain such a marriage?

That is, when he needs to pay in life, he will pay, and he will do what he should do. It's a bit like sharing a house to reduce the cost of living, and he won't take my feelings into account. I don't want to talk to him much, and the two of us don't talk about feelings, and sometimes I feel quite lonely.

We already have children.

A: If you use the word "maintenance" to describe your current state of marriage and future development, then I don't think you need to maintain it. But if you ask, is it necessary to improve such marriages?

I can be very sure of you: it is necessary. Because it is much easier to improve the current state of married life than to give up the new choice.

If this is indeed the state you described, then you should think carefully about when your marital status began to become like this, and what caused it? I don't believe that your marriage is in this state from the beginning, because this state cannot lead to marriage, unless your needs are not emotional, but other aspects.

Since you can ask questions, it at least shows that you have a positive mindset about solving the problem of manuscript completion, which in my opinion is very important and a very good start. Since your description is too simplistic, it is difficult to give more specific suggestions to improve your existing relationship. But improving the relationship itself is not difficult, you just need to understand the other person's needs and then meet the other person's needs.

The deeper your inner needs are, the easier it will be to improve your current relationship. Therefore, only by observing and communicating with your heart can you find out that the other party's needs are in the first place, and then it is possible to meet him. Don't feel humbled and flattered because of this, emotional relationships are always a two-way street.

A healthy relationship between the sexes can satisfy both parties at the same time, and your efforts will not only make the other person happy, but also achieve yourself. It's really not that hard.