What is it like to work with someone who is self centered?

Truth be told, dealing with self-centered people is a particularly tiring thing. Everyone has their own way of thinking, and naturally they will have different feelings when dealing with different things.

What's more, a large part of the reason why people can get along well with each other is that they can consider each other for each other, and there is that tolerance and understanding to maintain and continue this relationship, otherwise, if no one is willing to compromise, or they are self-centered and do not consider the feelings of others, after a long time, there will inevitably be some contradictions. In my opinion, there are several experiences of being with self-centered people:

First: I can't say it. Under normal circumstances, a self-centered person, his own subjective consciousness is very strong, when he has a certain view of a certain matter, whether it is right or wrong, he will insist on his own view, completely belongs to the kind of person who does not hit the south wall and does not look back, and at the end of every matter, even if it turns out that what she thinks is wrong, we don't know what he thinks in his heart, but his surface will never show his wrong expression, but show a kind of indifference, Even a disdainful expression.

And you can't say he's wrong yet, otherwise, it's easy for him to turn against you. <>

Second: a self-centered person, you can't say that his ideas are wrong, but he will be obsessed with persuading you, and will try to prove to you that your ideas are wrong and his is right. When you don't agree with him, he will sometimes vent his frustration with anger.

In my opinion, in the process of getting along with others, no one owes anyone, you can disagree with others, but you can't force others to agree with you.

There are still a lot of such people around us, and I have to admit that almost all of us have some selfish little problems, but some people are more serious.

For example, when I was in college, I met someone who was very egote. What do such people say? That is, no matter what happens, you will first consider whether you have any damage and what impact you have on yourself.

It's like if someone drives a car on the street and hits someone, its first thought is not to see if the person who was knocked down has any injuries and call for help, but to see if his car is scratched for the first time, and then complain that the person has nothing to do.

The man I know hasn't gotten mad enough to that point, but he's pretty much there. He likes to walk with others every time he goes to class, but he doesn't want to wait for anyone, and every time he goes to someone else's dormitory, he keeps urging him, and he is annoyed. And let him go alone, but he didn't want to, and then continued to nag there.

Once when others waited for him, they couldn't help but complain, but he blew up on the spot, saying that he had waited so many times and it didn't matter, so he waited for him to complain like this, which led to no one wanting to come near him in the future.

The strangest thing is that he told me again that he fell in love with a girl and wanted to chase him, and because I had always been calm-tempered, I didn't sarcastically mock him, so I encouraged him to chase him. As a result, he said that he was afraid that he would be distracted by chasing girls, so that he would not be able to settle down and study.

At that time, I concluded that he would definitely fail, he chased others, and he was afraid that he would affect himself before the other party said anything, and this kind of selfish person can also chase his girlfriend? Sure enough, his first love ended in failure before it even began.

Dealing with this kind of person is really head-scratching, and everything is self-centered, which is really respectful.

Really sometimes I feel that everything in the world is really amazing, there are some things we don't understand how it came about, as if we never know what will happen to us in the next second, we show up in **, what we will encounter, these are things that we can't predict. Not only is the world changeable, but so are people's personalities.

So let's talk about it today, what is a self-centered person like? What kind of experience do we have with them? Speaking of which, there is someone around me who fits the topic of our discussion today, and this person is my college roommate, and she is a self-centered person, what kind of self-centeredness?

is to do something that always only thinks about whether she is happy or not, and will not consider others, for example, listening to a song in the dormitory with a loud voice, she will not think about whether this will affect others, and other people's things will not work, and her own nest can be messy.

These are all small things, as the saying goes, rely on your parents at home and rely on friends when you go out, and it is precisely because of a dormitory that many things are too lazy to worry about her, let her, but she is good, and she has to inch in, I think I am afraid of her.

Today I forgot to take out the garbage after eating, and then I went to work on something else, she saw it and kept saying there, and then we quarreled a few words, I said that you yourself are dirty like a garbage station, why don't you say, and I'm embarrassed to come and say that I, in fact, she is not bad, but she is too self-centered in everything she does.

She always feels that he is the best, and what others do is not good, so no matter what others do, she has to say a few words, she is high, we are inferior, we are a daughter at home, we are not obliged to be angry with you outside, sometimes it is very tiring to be with this kind of person, which makes people feel very annoying.

Can't communicate, thoughts aren't on the same channel, tired!

When you meet such a person, first of all, don't make your own decisions, and you must discuss, you must tolerate each other more, and you can slowly influence each other, such people are actually very kind, and you must get along with these people patiently.

Don't listen to him about everything, because he will become more and more rampant, just do your own thing.

You must not be too serious, you must reason with the other party, at this time, you must calm your mind, don't be too depressed, and don't be too persistent.

When you meet a self-centered person, you should say more compliments to him, praise him more, and talk more about his merits.

You should get along with such people in a reasonable way, and you should try to avoid conflicts with these people.

After understanding him, slowly tolerate his ego, give him a little excuse and steps, and open his heart when he feels safe! things, it's more difficult to get along with, it's more difficult to communicate. If it is not necessary, try to stay away to avoid unnecessary conflicts and unpleasantness.

However, in order to work, we must also take into account the overall situation, cooperate with each other, coordinate with each other, and be broad-minded.

<> this kind of villain still respectfully said, xx and xx (the two who started chatting) seem to be always chatting here, don't they have nothing to do? I feel like it's okay to talk once in a while, but it's always like this that affects the good of the distance. The so-called non-toxic husband, as a more rational man, every time he is self-centered, he is aimed at real interests or benefits.

If we put up with it every time, it will only fuel his arrogance, but if we fight each other, it will only be.

People, all of them are like this, then follow people's nature, be the one who likes him, men's mental maturity is far lower than that of women, no matter how strong they are on the outside, you can always know so many men and women in their hearts, and I am the center. If the situation is mild, it is harmless. However, people who are extremely self-centered are very unpleasant.

It's all a little boy, and it's a little boy who has been neglected for legitimate needs since he was a child. They crave the approval of others even more.

With this kind of person, try not to damage his arguments at work, he has a strong ability to work at work, and will take the initiative to ask you questions when he doesn't understand them, if you don't have a work nature, you are extremely self-centered, very annoying, and easy to do extreme things. But he doesn't think about the feelings of others, he is self-respecting, and everyone must be able to see and feel it. There was such a person in my original unit, and everyone ignored him, and he slowly felt uncomfortable, so he managed to transfer away.

Do not be by his side, he does not look down on you. (I am in the factory, machinery manufacturing industry, encountered things) I don't know right.

The best way to deal with a person who is always self-centered is that you are also self-centered, and treat others in their own way, so that he can feel how bad his behavior is.

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If a person is always self-centered, then the best way to change is to listen to the positive comments of others in daily life, whether it is in life or study.

Keep in mind what you say that is right and good, take the good experience of others and don't always think that everyone else is wrong

And then if you think about it like this for a while, this kind of disadvantage will improve a lot

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The key to the question is that she didn't listen to what you said, felt that she was right, and never thought about others.

Such people are very stubborn.

You have to find one thing to prove that he will be wrong.

Ask the question: Yes. Then prove that you are right.

And then there are a few such opportunities, and you can refute him with facts.

The question made the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law very poor, the mother-in-law would not be grateful to her no matter how good she was, her husband was difficult to be a person in it, and in the end, if her husband listened to her, she didn't love him.

So you have to look for practical examples to prove that he will be wrong.

For it is true that no one is perfect.

The self-centered person should make him feel the feeling of being hit. In this way, he will be able to get rid of his self-centeredness by this feeling of blow.

At this time, don't have too much intersection with him, this is because such people are generally more selfish, and they don't consider other people's feelings when doing things.

If a self-centered person wants to deal with him, it is to ignore him, let him not find his superiority, don't let him feel that the whole world is centered on you, and it is good to suffer more setbacks.

In fact, when you meet such people, you don't have too much intersection with them, and it's better not to pay too much attention to them, as long as you don't pay much attention to each other.

It's good not to ignore him, as long as the surface is passable, just get along like that, and don't do everything too absolutely.

If he does something unfavorable to himself, he should refute him, don't let him get cheap and then sell himself, let him realize that he is powerful.

People like this should stay away from him, after all, such people are very selfish, and it is not good for them to get along with them.

You can break up with the other person, and there is no need to care about the other person, and don't make any changes for the other person, because this kind of person is not worth getting along with.

When encountering such a situation, I think we must adjust our mentality, and then we should also make it clear to the other party, and never have too much contact with the other party.

When I meet a self-centered person, I think I can tolerate her more and not have conflicts.

This kind of thing has to learn to be tolerant, people who are overly self-centered, that is, people who are seriously selfish, when you get along with them, you have to follow them in everything, otherwise there will be constant conflicts, and there will be a lot of things happening. Of course, this will make us too aggrieved. If you don't want to let yourself be wronged, then it's okay to insist on yourself, excessive grievances, I can't stand it after a long time.

Hello: When you say this, you can feel that "you are really tired". Although I don't know if you've always had people like this around you, or if they do occasionally appear?

But I guess there's a "spell" that makes it hard to break free. Hopefully, our analysis together will give you a perspective on this issue.

Analyze and understand the problem:

1. Self-centeredness, whether it is a good thing or a bad thing is difficult to say. But you dare to say that it will definitely be tiring to get along with people who are completely self-centered. Those with a little experience will know that although their personalities are very different, many of their behaviors and reactions are quite recognizable.

As soon as I heard you, this is [the talk of experience] and I am deeply troubled by it. As the name suggests, a person living in his own world may be good for him, but it is painful for the person who gets along with him, because the person who is immersed in his own world will not take into account the feelings of others, so the person who is with him will [endure] this depression all the time, and there is no way to say the suffering, because that person will not understand.

2. It's just that you are in this environment, and you can't express what you want to express, what things you have encountered, why you have such reactions and emotions to these things, etc.

If they are outsiders, they are afraid that they are by their side, and they can release that very "powerful" [negative and positive] power to collapse, and the reason why you can't express it and are difficult to resist is that they will naturally feel that "they are not wrong, whoever resists is their problem", and that invisible [moral kidnapping] is suffocating.

3. Therefore, whether it is a consultation or a so-called confiding, it is useless. You're tired, and you want to fight for a one-size-fits-all way to deal with this kind of person, and I don't know if there's one.

If counseling or confiding is not useful just for superficial communication, then we can also try to think: "Is it because we don't express, have scruples, are afraid of being hurt, etc., that we promote the [natural self-confidence] of such people?"

It's okay if the other person is just in their own world, but if the other person's behavior is in the way of you, why can't you express it? He has hurt you, at least your resistance is not to teach him to be suspicious of others, but to protect yourself. Regardless of whether they are relatives, colleagues, leaders or who, they can't hurt others unscrupulously and laugh it off.

Conclusion: I wish you happiness and happiness, and you will not be troubled by such people.