How do you evaluate people who always think badly of others?

A person has been treated unjustly, excluded and suppressed, betrayed by relatives and friends, and subjected to too much ruthlessness and white eyes.

He lost trust in people, he had no confidants and friends, he couldn't understand people's inner world, so, whatever others do, he doubted their motives, he had a sharp protective shell, in fact, he was miserable and mentally dismantled all day long, he had no happiness and happiness, he was always guarding against other people's attacks and secrets, he was very pitiful, others didn't understand him, too many misfortunes crushed him, he had no self-confidence, he couldn't be strong, this is a mental illness.

I know this a lot, because one of my distant cousins is like this, he needs comfort, he needs enlightenment, he needs affection, he needs help! Only by being sincere in communication, in time, he will definitely get better!

A dark-bellied, dark, pessimistic, and negative person, what he looks like, what the world will look like in his eyes. If you have been betrayed, deceived or hurt, or if you have been negatively affected by your family or society when you were a child, you will lose trust in the world and feel warmth and love in your heart, so you will think badly about everything around you. For this kind of person, you should let them feel the warmth and love of the people around them, and get in touch with positive people.

always likes to think about others in a bad way, but in fact, he is not a good person himself, thinking that everyone in the world is as bad as him. Now it is a harmonious society, people's ideological quality is very high, and there are very few real bad people. Rest assured, China is a 5,000-year-old civilization, and the etiquette and morality of Confucius have been inherited for thousands of years.

A person who always thinks of others in a bad way is partly due to psychological problems, and partly because of a vigilant and defensive mentality, an excessive sense of self-protection. Hanks, an American psychologist, said: When encountering things, people who always think of others in a bad way are not only psychological problems, but also quality problems.

This kind of person should have been strongly hurt, leading to mental health problems, which leads to hostility towards the whole world and all people, and always thinks of people in bad terms when interacting with others, which is actually a manifestation of inner fragility, fear of being hurt, and self-defense. In life, the heart of harming others is indispensable, and the heart of preventing others is indispensable. Facing all people and things with a calm mind and thinking is the way to be a man.

It is impossible for a person to think of others as bad or useless for no reason, and this has absolutely to do with what he has experienced or the person. For example, if he has experienced betrayal after sincerity or unfairness after honesty, this can easily lead to the distortion of this person's thinking, so that he no longer believes in trust and fairness between people. There are good things happening without trusting.

This is directly related to the people or things we come into contact with on a daily basis. Imagine this: if you know friends who are all positive, they can put you on track even if you usually have a lot of negative energy.

But once a person's normal three views are destroyed, and the original positive energy is full but becomes negative energy, then the person's three views are easily distorted, and they are not so eager for life. We also know that it is very easy for a person to learn badly, so it is very difficult to correct this mindset once it is formed.

Human beings are inherently complex. When a person is doing something, his mind is not particularly pure, no matter whether the thing is good or bad, but at that time, the person's mind must be good and bad, so it is understandable that the thing is done and perceived by that person. For example, if a person makes a piece of cake, he thinks of both happy and sad things, and it is normal for you to feel sad when you eat the cake, even if the cake is a happy food.

This kind of person is just more perceptive than ordinary people, and magnified the bad things. It's not a big deal, it's just that it's hard to be really happy, unless you meet a very pure good person or a hidden better person.

It may be that he may have a misunderstanding of you, so the contradiction will inevitably happen all kinds of unpleasant things, so it is logical to think about people badly, in fact, each of us has had this kind of bad thinking about people, but later found out that it was their own experience of blaming someone, so think about the problem from the other party's point of view, try to suppress the impulsive side of their hearts, don't say anything if you don't say anything good, as long as you don't say the wrong thing, everything can be reversed, But once you say something serious or say something wrong, even if the other party knows that it is his fault, he will not apologize or admit it to you, because people have a good face.

It's a long story, so I'll just talk about it briefly. In my experience, some people always think about the worst. The first is because they think it's very bad, and they have a fixed mindset.

The second is because of their upbringing and family environment. The third is the influence of the later period, the people he comes into contact with and the things he sees. In short, after being processed by the brain, bad conclusions will be drawn that this kind of person is generally more stable, does not dare to break through, and likes a stable life, a stable life.

The reason why a friend of mine thinks about everything is bad because he has lived in his grandmother's house since he was a child, and he has suffered from his aunt's anger, as if he is surviving in the cracks, and his grandmother is always angry with his aunt. So he is sensitive and inferior, and he hasn't changed much until now, he thinks about the worst of everything, he has no friends, he can't get along with his brothers, and his life is not satisfactory.

I believe that people are inherently good, and the reason why they think of others badly is because they hurt their interests. When there is a conflict of interest, they become enemies, and good friends become enemies or enemies because of conflicts of interest.

So, between people, it's better not to have a conflict of interest, it's better not to be complicated, there is no friendship if it's complicated, because no one wants to be complicated.

Therefore, it is not that people's thoughts are bad or bad, they must be hurt, so they will think that person is like this, face to face and back to the other, if the interests are not harmed, how can they hate others.

Human nature is good, this is what I think, for example, I have never known you, will I think you are bad? Would I think you're bad? Probably not. It must be that after getting to know him, he found that his heart was hurt and he felt that his interests were encroached upon, so he felt that person was bad.

Therefore, generally kind people will think of people as bad, because they always sacrifice themselves, but no one is perfect, emotions are still there, and people who sacrifice themselves can be in a better mood.

Therefore, be more understanding and tolerant of others, there are no bad people in the world, they are all good people, but after getting to know each other, there is a conflict of interest, resulting in the original friendship is gone. Once you encounter a conflict of interest, your relationship is not pure, and when you first meet each other, you are all simple, and there is nothing that is not pure.

Truth be told, yes!

Because those who "always think badly of others" are not only more withdrawn, selfish, and narrow-minded, but also usually treat others the way they imagine others to treat themselves (i.e., the so-called "others treat me badly, I treat others badly"). In fact, this is a psychological distortion caused by "self-isolation".

A person who always thinks of others as particularly bad is an insecure person.

1. Thinking of others as particularly bad may be that there were bad people in the past who caused a greater psychological shadow to him.

2. It may be very naïve, I have been deceived by too many people along the way, so I don't trust others very much every time something happens, think about others in a bad way.

3. They are not malicious, but they have a strong sense of self-protection and are particularly afraid of meeting bad people.

4. For people who always think of others as badly, try to protect him, let him know that there are still many good people in the world, and there are still many people who will be very kind.

Second paragraph. There is a saying that if you think of a person very badly, it means that there are the following situations, one is because you are extremely vigilant about this society. The second is that what you think in your heart may not be particularly good, of course, the third point is that it is possible that the person is really not particularly good.

If it's the first one, I think it may be that some things I experienced when I was a child had a huge impact on my heart, or maybe it was because I was deceived by something or someone, so I have a kind of wariness of this society and other people, thinking that others have been planning something? What we should do at this time is to have a kind of goodwill towards this society, and we should learn to be tolerant of others, instead of being wary everywhere.

Actually, it's nothing? I think it's because the people I meet in my usual life circle may not be kind enough, so I will be extreme.

People who have more ideas and more experiences, and everyone who has experienced more, will think more about problems from more angles, and it is easy to think about things that are bad on the Internet.

It shows that your mental defense is relatively deep, and for strangers who cannot eliminate the danger at the first time, you will defensively evaluate this person's behavior from the negative, and after a long time of communication and observation, if you can independently judge that the danger is low or it reflects the characteristics that you can accept, you will gradually open your mind to accept this person and correct the criteria for evaluating this person.

As for your behavior of stranger A approaching acquaintance B, you will think negatively at the first time, which reflects your strong possessiveness and a psychological protective psychology for the person you recognize, this kind of psychology is more or less common people, but your emotions will be stronger.

Looking at your later description, it reflects a sympathy that is higher than the average of ordinary people, and to sum up: you are an ordinary person with a high degree of psychological defense against strangers, relatively emotional, possessive, more attached to and concerned about psychologically recognized friends and nuclides, more mental activities, and more sensitive thinking. It's right to be vigilant, but it's easier not to think too much about everything.

1. People must be kind, and the world will be beautiful.

Two: This kind of psychology is cultivated from an early age.

Three: If you always think badly of others, it has something to do with your family environment. You are a single parent and a vulnerable group, so you will feel that others are always going to bully you!

It's possible that you've been hurt before. That's why I think this way. But I think there are still a lot of good people in the world.

There are two kinds of people.

The first type is defensiveness, that is, people who have an excessive sense of self-protection. In fact, they are very fragile and afraid of being hurt. I always feel that others are not so good, and I should prepare for the worst, so as not to be more unbearable when I am hurt.

The second type of person is not high in quality cultivation, and his stomach is bad. In his eyes, there is no good person in the world. He always thinks that others are just as bad as him, and that others will only do something if they achieve their own self-interest.

Because they know how to cherish themselves and respect others (high character quality). Be considerate of his (her) people's misconduct, this kind of person is comfortable living a "peaceful life, longevity and prolongation", precisely because of a good attitude (how big a thing, ).

It is better to be deceived by others than to be deceived by others. - Ming Hong Yingming, "Caigen Tan".

Inverse: Speculation. It is better to be bullied by others than to speculate too much about other people's bad intentions. Before, I felt that this was just a weakness, because there are so many bad people now, but later I found out that this is an attitude towards the world. Because it's really tiring to think badly of others, it's a vicious cycle, and you feel like the whole world is cheating on you, and you feel like other people are so unfriendly.

In fact, sometimes this is not the case, it's just the asymmetry of information, many things are not what you think, although sometimes you may recognize one or two so-called bad people, but in the process you will lose more people who care about you, and you will not feel that life is very good. Personal real-life experiences.

That's how good, how good is optimism, that's what I thought.