How to comfort a 16 17 year old girl whose parents are divorced

Divorce is a serious challenge for children, who are prone to interpersonal problems and learning problems. However, children are different, and children who are adaptable and flexible are relatively better able to face this challenge. In addition, parental divorce has a more severe negative impact on boys than girls, and a greater negative impact on older boys than on younger boys.

Some young children feel guilty that they are dragging their parents down. They may behave in a well-behaved manner, or they may behave in a way that is contrary to their original intentions, and when they try to share the pressure of the supporter but can't, they will become even more dissatisfied with themselves and angry. Divorced families can mitigate the negative impact on their children if they pay attention to the following points.

1.Parents need to stabilize their emotions as much as possible. Although divorced parents have many emotional problems themselves, if parents can appear emotionally stable and confident in front of their children, the negative impact on their children will be smaller.

Generally, parents need a one-year adjustment period, and most children tend to stabilize from the second year.

2.It is necessary to let the non-child-raising party have the opportunity to care for the child as much as possible and participate in the child's school life. Tell your child that the divorce of their parents is their own business, not their fault.

3.As much as possible, there is another family member or enthusiastic friend who the child is familiar with, and compensate for the position of the non-adoptive parent, such as caring for the child's homework, taking the child to the library, playing on the computer, climbing, swimming, etc., to make up for the child's lack of father's or mother's love.

4.Within one or two years of divorce, especially when the child's mood is not stable, it is best not to move or transfer schools, as multiple changes will make the child feel more stressed and at a loss.

Our parents gave us a warm home, and with their love, we will grow up happily. However, there are some things that we have no control. When suddenly a once warm home is gone, you will definitely feel helpless, miserable, and worry about everything for your future.

However, in the face of your powerlessness, nothing can be changed. We must be strong in the face and bravely bear everything we should bear. Although your parents will be separated in the future, they will continue to be burdened with your life, and their love for you will not change.

No matter who you live with, learn to take care of yourself and give yourself the courage and ability to be independent. Study hard, don't be low, you should be full of youthful vitality in the flower season, let your day be full of sunshine, and happiness will always belong to you!

It is important to be strong, and to tell her clearly that it is her own who can help her now, others can't do anything, and the divorce of her parents must have hit her hard, but it is irreparable, face the reality, she still has a long way to go, don't give up easily because of this matter, your own pursuit, you have to be brave to face the road ahead, I wish her a good and stable journey.