When others talk about things, listen to things, and listen to chaos, they don t understand the mean

What do you do when you hear something that doesn't sound good? Talking back to each other and getting it back? Or endure it and don't bother with him?

Perhaps, this is not the best way to cope.

In Insight, the author describes his own way of coping: Even if you hear something that doesn't make sense, find out what makes sense of it.

There are three meanings in this.

1. Empathy.

It's as simple as putting yourself in the speaker's shoes and seeing why he says that.

2. Think twice about everything.

If someone tells you something, you think he's talking nonsense. But don't Yingqin forget to come back and think a second time, whether I was wrong, he was right; Remember, this time you think, you must assume that you are wrong. If he still feels that he is right, he is wrong; Please think about it a third time, is it because I am not in a good enough realm to understand him?

If you want to progress, you must make a difference with someone who is stronger than yourself, in this case, it is likely that your own realm is not enough, you can't understand others, at this time, you should further in-depth communication, understand the reason why the other party said so. Doing this often can prevent habitual failures.

3. Even if the other party is talking nonsense, think about why he said it and find out the reasonableness.

For example: Suddenly someone scolds you. What would you do?

1. Scold back? 2. Avoid him? 3. Think about why he scolds himself. It turned out that there was a reason, and that is the justification of this reason. In doing so, I not only understood his problem, but also improved my own humanity.

This may seem like a difficult thing to do, but it's actually a simple one: every time you encounter someone else who has a different opinion from you, you immediately turn on the switch to find the reasonableness of the other party until you find the reasonableness of the other party.

Find rationality from the words you don't listen to, not only make rapid progress, but also have a much higher vision and bearing than ordinary people.

Listening to people is affected by their facial expressions? When you communicate with people, you look at other people's faces? It's very simple that you don't listen to others, or you are very defensive about people, and you keep observing others, so you don't hear what people say.

I can't listen to others or I don't know how to respond and I don't understand anything" symptom is like aphasia, but you just stuff other things in your head, and you ignore and omit key words in the other person's language and words, so you can't understand it.

Your solution is very simple, don't be shy when talking to people, stuff a bunch of messy things in your head, listen carefully to what others are saying, write down every sentence, and figure it out in your heart according to the surrounding situation.

If you still don't have the courage, you just learn to be a chatter, one person also talks, two people keep talking, the best way is to tell a friend and ask for help to improve.