Seek help!!! My marriage was on the verge of breaking down, and I didn t know what to do. 30

Just fake it, go to court, and you will be treated fairly. But then again, divorce is the stupidest way to get noticed.

After 8 years of love, you still can't figure out his character?

After 11 years of marriage, you still don't know what he wants?

You should have done it early, before there was a rift in your marriage.

At this point, you can only prescribe the right medicine, find a way to find out if he has someone else, if so, persuade you to let go, you will definitely have no skills.

If not, just communicate well, and maybe there is a glimmer of life.

I wish you happiness.

There are many ways to get the attention of your lover, you are wrong to use divorce as a threat, you are wrong to ask for divorce later, you have been in the whirlpool of mistakes. The best way is to face him face to face and tell your truth, and at the same time sincerely confess to him, admit your mistakes and ask him for forgiveness, hoping that your marriage will be bright and prosperous.

Even if you don't get divorced, you will live a very painful life, and if you leave, you will be very helpless to your children and yourself! Both are not ideal, depending on your own situation and ideas! I suggest that you still leave, that kind of life is better than death, no smile, no face!

Let's find your own direction after leaving

I also think that the fault lies with you first, and filing for divorce is not a way to get the other party's attention. Now that things have come to this point, if you really don't want to get divorced, stick to your position, don't rush to reply, leave or not.

Time can solve a lot of problems, it is useless for him to verbally propose a divorce, you don't have to pay attention to it, unless he goes to the court, but the court has to go through the mediation step, if you are not at fault, and you insist that you do not want to divorce, the court will not grant divorce.

In the process of holding the position, please think about your problem in the end, I don't think it will be as simple as you said, first look at the problem from your own body, improve yourself. After that, it is to deal with the relationship between you and your mother-in-law, so that your mother-in-law is on your side, sympathizes with you, cares about you, and is also the key to solving the problem. In addition, children are a lubricant, you can ask your child to ask his father to do activities with the three of you, which can alleviate some of the conflicts.

For example, your child calls his father, saying that you miss him at home, or that your mother thinks you want to cry, and so on. Time will solve many problems, take a step back, calm down and then seek a solution, don't rush to find a way to solve it, then the effect will be worse.

The foundation of marriage is based on love, and a marriage without love will not be happy even if two people are barely together, and this is not necessarily good for the growth of children. From your description above, you can see that you still have love for your husband and that you don't want to end your marriage. So, the crux of the matter is in the relationship between you and your husband.

I don't know what your husband thinks, more than ten years of relationship, how to say that it's gone. I don't know if it's really no love, or if there's someone out there. So you have to figure out first, what exactly is your problem?

If the relationship is estranged because of a long-term separation, then you can re-establish the estranged relationship by caring for your husband and communicating more. If you can fall in love more than ten years ago, why can't you fall in love again after more than ten years? Let your husband fall in love with you all over again.

Of course it may take a while, but it's better than doing nothing at all. But if it's your husband who has someone else outside, then the problem is troublesome. There are only two ways in front of you, either to rob your husband from a third party, or to let go and fulfill your husband.

So, it's up to you to decide what you're going to do in the end, after all, your path is up to you. If you still don't know how to do it or are confused, send your situation to me.

Mail: I think he can give you better advice.

Good luck!

I believe that he must have a third party, and the lack of affection between husband and wife together will also have a negative impact on children's education. I would also support you going to court if you can, but I wonder why the child would be with you, and he doesn't want children.

A complete family needs to be run by both husband and wife. One is a heart-wrenching horse, the other is a "shaved head - hot", you want to use your own efforts to keep your lover (this way is the stupidest!). However, the unforgiving reality always makes you so helpless!

You can stay for a while, but you can't stay for a lifetime, her heart is long gone, what's the use of keeping her! Bear with it, buddy!

If you want to repair your marriage, you can't let yourself doubt it infinitely.

Why is marriage like this? A good marriage has to be managed.

Don't bother with your wife and her family now Your wife and her family I think they only recognize money I suggest you have the opportunity to do a paternity test with your children You can do whatever you have to do now You can also try to find a female confidant Besides, I don't think your wife loves you at all If he loves you and the children have all the bride price, such a woman, such a family, this kind of marriage is not okay.

Her family did this for a simple reason: you give money.

Have your wife and you registered their marriage with the Civil Affairs Bureau? If she has already registered, she cannot marry again, otherwise she will be suspected of bigamy.

Of course, her family can't sell your child, and if you do so, it will constitute the crime of abducting and trafficking women and children, and the sentence will be very heavy.

If you file for divorce, you want to collect the disagreement between the husband and wife and reach the standard of a fundamental breakdown, from this case, you are more of a conflict with your wife's parents, but it is unknown whether the wife instructed her parents to do so.

Without divorce, your wife's marriage is bigamy and a crime;

Selling your child is a crime, so it is unlikely;

If you want to divorce, negotiate first, and if the negotiation fails, sue your wife for divorce in the local court.

Now it's he who wants you back, and you want to go back.

But you have to negotiate terms with him first, and then go back half-way.

1. Mistakes must be admitted to you.

2. It must be guaranteed that it will not be repeated in the future. What if I reoffend? There should be some specific conditions and punishments.

3. In the future, the economic power must be in your hands, and his income must be handed over to you and arranged by you.

This is also for the sake of the future, no matter what, you still have most of the money in your hands, and there are also expenses for raising children.

Why did you have a child in the first place? It's okay to throw it to him, now you have to pay child support, and if you don't give it, see you in court.

I have a virtue with my sister, and I have been divided and combined several times, and finally I say goodbye! I also said that I want to change, the dog can't change the, there is a first time and a second time I advise you not to go back, everyone is lukewarm to you Why do you want to go back.

As a bystander, I don't think it's very likely that your ex-husband will get better, he is so ruthless to his children, and he doesn't pay child support, I really don't know how he can still be called a person. And your in-laws don't seem to care about you very much, married life is not just a matter of two people, if you have a bad relationship with your in-laws, it is difficult to be happy. But if it were my turn, I don't know if I would say it.

After all, other people's opinions are other people's, and it is you who make the final decision. Wishing you happiness.

Why should you give yourself the same hardships in the same place? I think you should go out to work, and the child can be taken by your mother for the time being, so that you can establish your own circle and have the opportunity to meet the people you love.

Change, it's hard to say, if you're willing to take the risk, you can do it. But you don't see in your statement where a father's responsibility lies. If he really changed, then why didn't he pay child support?

If you don't change, you don't change.

Pull oneself up by one’s bootstraps!! ...It's better not to be with him! ...

It's better to find a new one than if you go back to your ex-husband! I still haven't had a good time going back!

It can be appealed and enforced by the court.

1 all"She is paranoid and introverted and does not like to talk. I'm an extrovert and very talkative, so we met for 4 months and got pregnant. I also got a marriage certificate. "- This is the root of all calamities, for you as well as for her.

From your narrative, I guess that you are a person who does not like to use your brain to think deeply when encountering problems, and does not take into account the feelings of others when communicating with others. All your descriptions are how you are, why and why, and you look at the problem subjectively and simply. What you show is completely unaware of what she is thinking and is a clear indication of your extreme lack of communication and understanding.

Just because you're a good communicator doesn't mean you're a good communicator, maybe it's the opposite – your constant talk hinders her ability to express herself when she's not good at words. At the same time, judging by the process of your union, it is difficult to say that you are a responsible man. If you are still so impulsive and reckless about marriage, then it is really difficult to tell how many facts can be restored by listening to your one-sided words about these life contradictions you express.

I want to say a lot, but typing is too troublesome, so I won't say it. Anyway, I think divorce is good for both of you.

I think you're both loving each other in your own way, but it's not what the other person wants, and you can see that you're also a reasonable person, but your wife is more likely to be the kind of person you have to guess with your own heart. It's just that you may be getting impatient to guess

But if both of them feel pain, they have also been compromised after countless times of communication. Divorce is also the only option, and renunciation is also a kind of wisdom.

What can hurt you is what you love. So since you still love, don't give up easily. If you have a child, you have to stick to it for the sake of your child.

Introverts will have a lot of shackles, you have to love according to the method, hehe, I don't support breaking up. Take your time to find a way, you will succeed, come on, and don't let yourself regret it later because of a momentary impulse.

Rather than a painful hard end, it is better to end happily. According to my current state, my current thoughts are to pity the newborn baby. If her family is full of such temperament and character, it is not conducive to the development of character for children to grow up in this environment.

Do you have marital problems? 60% of couples have problems in their marriage.

You get rid of the urgency in your heart.

You'll be in for a problem.

What's the hurry, what's the hurry.

You have to take your time in a hurry.

Think calmly. Handle it intelligently.

The original marriage can be repaired as much as possible!

As the saying goes, a day husband and wife 100 days, 100 days husband and wife are like the sea deep, marriage can not be child's play, the two people must understand each other, there must always be a concession, take a step back, let the three minds be calm, there is no flame mountain that can not pass, if you don't make concessions, only divorce, it is not easy to combine a family, it is even more difficult to run a family, and everything is prosperous.

1. On the conditions for divorce.

According to the provisions of the Marriage Law, if the relationship between the husband and wife has indeed broken down, a divorce may be granted.

2. About child support and child support.

For the issue of child support, it is necessary to carefully confirm the circumstances of both parties from the perspective of being conducive to the child's growth, but the child during the breastfeeding period is generally awarded to the woman for support, if it is not a lactation period, it is necessary to see that party is more suitable for the child's growth and solicit the child's own opinion. The parent who does not support the child should pay monthly maintenance until the child reaches the age of 18, and the standard of maintenance is generally between 20 and 30% of the annual income. If one party is not suitable to raise the child during the future maintenance period, the other party can go to court to file a new lawsuit to change the custody of the child.

3. On the division of common property.

The property acquired by one party during the marriage is the joint property of the husband and wife, and the joint property and debts of the husband and wife are jointly owned and borne by the husband and wife, and are generally half of the same person. If one party is at fault, the division of property can be divided with less or no share, and the specific share will be determined by the court. In general, after marriage, the prenuptial bride price is treated as joint property and cannot be refunded, and if there is no marriage, the other party can be asked to return the bride price.

4. About the divorce procedure, required documents and fees.

In the case of divorce by agreement, after negotiation between the two parties, they should go through the divorce formalities at the original marriage registration authority with the divorce agreement, marriage certificate and ID card of both parties and receive the divorce certificate; If one party does not agree or repents of non-performance after signing the divorce agreement, then the divorce shall be filed in the court where the defendant is domiciled, or in the court where the defendant has resided for more than one year, or if the defendant's whereabouts are unknown or imprisonment for more than one year, the divorce may be filed in the court where the plaintiff is located. The first instance is generally 6 months, and the second instance is 3 months. If the court does not leave the first judgment, it can file a new lawsuit after half a year, and the court of the second prosecution should generally rule away.

If the litigation fee for litigation divorce does not involve the division of property, it is generally 50 yuan, and if there is a division of property, the fee shall be paid according to the proportion of the property, which can be referred to the "Litigation Fee Measures".