Spectator: Reasonable friends, give me some advice

If there is a problem between two people, it is not one person's fault You know that the taste of love is sweet But after a long time, it will become dull This is inevitable You have to learn to accept that there is Don't lose yourself in love Even without his text message Without his ** your life will not be affected This is the best way to protect yourself Maybe it's hard But I hope you can do it And then there is Maybe he's really busy with his work and neglects you You don't blame Don't become sensitive and irritable because of this bad mood This will seriously affect your relationship Now it seems that he can recognize that he has a mistake Although it is a little late, but it can still be forgiven Don't quarrel because of these little things Sad If you can solve it, you can solve it calmly If you can't solve it, it also proves that your fate is exhausted So let go of your mind If you feel that you love him, then your life is happy We are still young Happiness is the most important thing Bless you.

You tell him all these grievances about yourself, and then see how he reacts.

I'm actually like this myself, he used to listen to my friend and tell me about it, if I said I was crying, he would coax me and hug me, but now if I cry, he will only feel annoyed.

I've been watching the TV series "Golden Wedding" recently, I think this is quite real, it's quite useful to watch, it can make us see more different things, and we can understand men better, because there are some things that I think are very important and serious, but they don't think so, they may think it's just a trivial matter, so sometimes we get angry and we are sad just because we can't get along with ourselves, you have to understand, is he a lazy person, if so, then it's normal, My friend has always been lazy, I have always been more active, some things I am angry here, crying a lot, he doesn't know what is wrong with him at all, there is ** wrong. Relax.

Talk to him. I think these shortcomings you mentioned are not only hurtful to your girlfriend, even an ordinary friend will complain, so you can tell him that this is also a flaw in interpersonal relationships and even personality qualities, and I hope he corrects it.

Or maybe he belongs to the kind of person who is very individualistic and values personal space. But after all, you are dating, and he should still consider your feelings. In short, if there is anything dissatisfied, let's pick it out and talk about it, don't wait until the misunderstanding will occur, the complaints will accumulate more and more, and then it will be too late to redeem it.

It's not easy for a man to apologize to you, he should love you, give you a chance, if it's still the same as before, then there's nothing to be nostalgic about.

He's late, and it's really bad to have no credit. But you also said that he seems to have changed, so let's give him a chance. Look at his performance. If you don't behave well, it's never too late to break up.

It should be reminded that the first feeling does not mean a lifelong feeling, so don't be fooled by the first feeling.

There is something wrong with both, he is too busy with work to pay attention to you, don't keep looking for trouble. He's yes too, so if you don't have time, at least hit a **.

The last sentence of the bystander Qing is a fan of the authorities.

Explanation: Outsiders often know the ins and outs of things better than the people involved.

Source: "Romance of the Sui and Tang Dynasties The First Fourth Chapter": It is the authorities who are fascinated, and the bystanders are clear. It is also judged by bystanders, the authorities are confused, the authorities are confused, the observers are clear, the authorities are confused, and the observers must be judged.

Example sentences

1. We must keep in mind the old saying that the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear, and when dealing with anything, we should not ignore the opinions of others.

2. As the saying goes: "The authorities are confused, but the bystanders are clear." "Actually, not all the onlookers are clear.

3. The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear, so it is best to listen to the opinions of third parties.

4. A person who understands himself more than himself is called a character. If the authorities are fascinated and the bystanders are clear, are they still called characters? The characters are all clear by the authorities, and the bystanders are fascinated.

5, as the so-called authorities are fascinated, bystanders are clear, Lin Moyu can see it clearly, but because of the relationship between her and Yang Bufan, although it is the object of blind date, only Lin Moyu knows the reason for the relationship.

6. Why should I be surprised? The authorities are fascinated, and the bystanders are clear, I can still see how deep your affection for the smiling tiger is.

7, Li Tian has a saying that the authorities are obsessed with bystanders, and they must be caught when they should be caught!

The last sentence of the bystander Qing is a fan of the authorities.

The difference between a bystander and an abuser is that the bystander does not personally hit someone, but this practice is not the right choice, and the inaction of the bystander is likely to encourage the arrogance of the abuser and cause the victim to suffer more serious injuries. Therefore, I appeal to everyone, do not be a bystander, at least try to avoid harm, and persuade both parties involved.

The presence of bystanders is not a meaningless backdrop for violent behaviour on campus. There is a strong correlation between the type of bystander's attitude and the frequency of bullying by bullies, and the more bystanders who have a coordinated bullying or silent attitude, the more bullying behaviors the bully has; The more bystanders who are anti-bullying, the less bullying the bully will be.

1. The co-perpetrator did not know about it in advance, but assisted the perpetrator in tricking and torturing the victim after the incident.

2. The instigator instigates the perpetrator through certain incendiary language, posture or behavior.

3. Those who stay outside the situation remain neutral and do not intervene in campus violence incidents that are about to occur or are happening.

4. Protectors comfort and help victims, and work to stop violence.

In general perception, it is generally believed that "the authorities are confused and the bystanders are clear", because bystanders can often analyze the ins and outs of the whole matter more comprehensively from the perspective of the situation and the "emperor." On the other hand, because they are in the middle of things, they will wear colored glasses to look at things and people when dealing with them.

Therefore, relatively speaking, bystanders are often labeled as "clear" because they see things more aggressively and are more disturbing. However, this phrase is not entirely applicable in reality. In today's society, where the information network is developing very rapidly, incidents of three people becoming tigers are not uncommon, and false rumors often become a classic summary of people's after-dinner conversations.

Especially since the popularity of the ** career, many ** have joined the ranks of the "title party" and "screenwriter" without hesitation for the sake of popularity and making money, completely ignoring the truth of burning. Therefore, whether the onlooker can understand the origin and development of the matter has become a self-evident phenomenon.

Qing authorities and bystanders: originally referred to people who played and watched chess, and was later used as a metaphor for the parties and bystanders. The parties to the metaphor often think too much about the gains and losses, and look at the problem confused; The onlookers are calm, quiet, and objective, but they can see clearly and comprehensively.

is also a single "fan of the authorities".

The bystanders are clear, and the authorities are confused. This week, Gongzi was originally smart, and after listening to the words of the cangtou, he also felt justified and ashamed of himself. [Explanation] Authority:

people who play chess; Spectator: A person who watches chess. The person concerned was confused by what he encountered, but the onlookers saw it clearly.

Example] Who blames you, it's really a good thing, but no one has said it! It can be seen that "the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear." (Qing Liu Que "The Travels of the Old Remnant" Chapter 13).

Bystander Qing's explanation.

the on-looker is clear-headed;the spectator sees the game best]

For the same thing, the outsider sees the whole thing more comprehensively and clearly than the person concerned As the saying goes: the bystander is lenient and respectful. In the past few years, the girl has looked at it coldly, or there may be a place to add and subtract ,...—Dream of Red Mansions Explained in detail An outsider sees it more clearly than the person concerned.

Dream of Red Mansions Chapter 55: "As the saying goes, the bystander is clear. In the past few years, the girl has looked at it coldly, or there is a place to add and subtract, * The milk has not arrived, and the girl has added or subtracted.

The 26th chapter of the Biography of Heroes of Children and Daughters: "The authorities have always been fascinated, and the bystanders are clear, and my sister thinks about this cautious and cautious inkstone carving bow, isn't it two red decisions set up by nature." Ai Wu "Night Return Preface":

As the saying goes, the authorities are fascinated, and the bystanders are clear, and the work needs to be put forward by someone. ”

Word Breakdown Explanation from the Sidelines Observation Stand by and explain in detail. Extensive observation. "Historical Records· Sima Zhen Bu Three Emperors Benji":

Watching the text of birds and beasts, and the appropriateness of the land, close to the body, far from all things, the beginning of the gossip. Ming Lu Shen's "Suspension of the Record" excerpt continued: "People with lofty ideals, watching and considering, take advantage of the situation.

Qingxun"Explanation of Qing Qing water or other liquids or gases are pure and transparent, without mixed things, as opposed to "turbidity": clear water.

Spring. Clear stream (a clear stream of water, as in "a stream of clear water"; b In the old days, it referred to a scholar who was famous and refused to go along with the powerful. Clear.

Qingbi. Clear. Freshen.

Clearing. Moon white.