How do I express my desire to get married with my boyfriend?

Xiao Ke persuades you to say directly, maybe you feel embarrassed, and always think that the boy should take the initiative to mention marriage, but if your boyfriend has been together for three years, and you are both of marriageable age, he still does not take the initiative to mention marriage to you, then Xiao Ke suggests that you directly take a night when everyone is in a good mood, and directly tell him that you think you should get married.

You are already twenty-six years old, to be honest, if this is another year, you will be twenty-seven years old, after twenty-seven to be honest, it is a very embarrassing age, you say that you are still young, but in the eyes of others, you are already an older leftover girl, because a girl is really old after twenty-seven, because you are not far from thirty years old.

You are no longer twenty-three or four-year-old, if you are still twenty-three or fourteen years old, then Xiao Ke will not suggest that you wait for your boyfriend to get married, because you still have a year or two to wait, but you have reached the age of late marriage recognized by the state, if you wait any longer, you will really only be selected.

You have to think about it yourself, if you don't mention the matter of marriage, continue to wait, if one day your boyfriend proposes to break up with you, then you are already twenty-seven or eighteen years old at that time, it will take half a year to get out of this relationship, and it will take half a year to find a boyfriend, then you may really be thirty years old when you get married.

In fact, Xiao Ke really wants to say, girl, if you have spent three years of youth on this man, then don't wait any longer, the woman can't afford to wait, if he doesn't marry, don't continue to waste your time, you bring it up directly, don't be embarrassed, after all, they have been together for three years, more than a thousand days and nights, if he still says to wait, then Xiao Ke advises you to break off this relationship quickly, this boy clearly wants to find a home.

The three stages of acquaintance, love, and marriage should be the three necessary stages of love, and they are also the three most beautiful stages.

Acquaintance is the beginning of a relationship, a seed planted, and marriage may be the flower in the relationship, and it is also the most beautiful part, basically every serious relationship is for marriage and having a family.

Marriage is the destination of feelings, and it is also the most important decision in life, so parents hope that their daughters will get married sooner, find a serious relationship, have a good home, and have a happy family. However, there are many boys who do not mention marriage, which makes many girls very distressed.

So, how do you express your desire to get married to your boyfriend?

First of all, you should consider why your boyfriend doesn't mention getting married, whether there is some problem between you or the estrangement has not been resolved. The time of love does not determine the quality of love, some love may be very short, but because two people want to vote, and the other party is honest with each other, the relationship is very harmonious, so they entered the marriage hall early. Although some people have been in love for a long time, there is a lot of friction in the middle, and they have not been resolved, resulting in many conflicts and delays in getting married.

Therefore, when your other half has no intention of getting married, you have to consider whether it is because your relationship is not yet hot, so you delay proposing marriage.

Or, your boyfriend has no intention of getting married at all, and maybe he is not ready and feels that he is not capable of getting married. Because of forming a family, the pressure on the boy is really great, and the boy is the pillar of a family and needs to be able to support the family. Therefore, some boys feel that their abilities have not yet reached the level and cannot give girls a stable life, so they do not consider getting married.

It may also be that the boy has an obstacle to marriage, so he has not mentioned marriage, in this case, you need to have a good communication with the boy, put forward your ideas, there is nothing in the relationship that cannot be solved by communication.

When I express my desire to get married to my boyfriend, I will use three methods:

1. Let parents ask

Take him home, or make an appointment with his parents for dinner. First of all, from the form, there is a kind of posture of forcing the mother-in-law to get married, which makes him pay attention to it in his heart. In addition, the mother-in-law asked directly, the other party will not think it is your meaning, and in this case, the parents can help observe whether he has the intention of getting married.

2. Let your girlfriends help

Let the girlfriends around you, find a place to get together with a few friends, drink some wine, and after everyone has fun, play the game of truth or dare. Girlfriends can ask a few questions: what he likes about you, what is his ideal marriage partner, when he wants to get married, when he is ready to propose to you, etc.

3. Ask directly

The time of love is 3 years, which is relatively long, and the two parties already know each other very well, and it is not embarrassing to ask directly. You can tell me about the marriage urging, you want to get married, and ask the other person what they think. In this way, you don't have to be uncomfortable with speculation, and if the other party has no intention of getting married, you can end it as soon as possible.

If you feel too straightforward, you can also ask indirectly, for example: What kind of marriage do you desire? Do you think you have what it takes to get married? So-and-so has been in love for 5 years and is not married, what do you think? Through this kind of question, test the other party's attitude towards marriage.

After 3 years of love, if you don't get married, you will have financial difficulties, or you don't want to get married at all, or you don't think you are not suitable, you need to know more and not let yourself waste your time in vain.

Grandpa Mao said that love that is not for the purpose of marriage is a hooligan. It's been three years together, and the best youth has been spent on boyfriends, and if you don't get married, it's really a big loss in life.

There are only two reasons why my boyfriend is delayed from mentioning marriage:

The first one is that I want to start a business first and then start a family, and I want to give you a good economy. The second is that I am not sure about your feelings and hesitate to marry you.

But we women can't wait, you know, women mature earlier than men, and they are sensible earlier than men. But the disadvantage is that it will age faster than men, because at the same age, if you don't take good care of it, you will look older than men. Another is that the best age for women to have children is between 25 and 30 years old, and if the age of marriage is relatively late, it will become an advanced maternal age, and it will be more difficult to give birth if you want to have a smooth birth.

Whatever your boyfriend hasn't asked you for yet, it's time to ask him about his plans. See if there is any of you in his plan for the future, and listen to him talk about his ideas.

If it's the first type, you can tell him that people who start a family first and then start a business are in the majority. And the family also wants you to get married as soon as possible, and you are willing to marry him.

If it's the second case, he's not sure if you're the other half he's looking for, and most of the time, he's still waiting, trying to find someone more suitable for him. We can't continue your relationship for the sake of such a person, you have to explain your thoughts, you want to have a home. If he still says let's wait, it's not time to wait, then you might as well choose to break up.

Because what we want is a love that can be entrusted for life, if he is not sure, what will he do when he meets a more suitable one after marriage.

To put it bluntly, unless your boyfriend understands your mind very well, don't bother to explain it tactfully, and tell him your needs directly. It's so hard to put so much effort into it, longing for him to know what you're thinking through your behavior. It's really rare for a boy to be able to fully read a girl now.。。

In fact, the topic of marriage itself is a little sensitive. Have you ever wondered why you've been together for three years and he hasn't ever mentioned marriage to you? Marriage is a matter of course, if two people have been together for a long time, slowly living together, and slowly getting used to the other party's desire to get married, it is a normal thing.

If two people get better and better together, they don't need to be urged by their parents, and they will think that they want to get married.

If he never tells you that he wants to get married, it should be related to his personal factors. Maybe he thinks it's too early to get married, maybe he thinks he's still relatively young, and he should be out there and wait until he gets better before proposing to you. Or, he is uncertain and wants to enjoy his freedom outside of this marriage.

After all, marriage is a matter of two families, and there will be a lot of things involved after getting married.

I mean, before you talk to him about getting married, you should think about why he hasn't proposed to you for so long. Many things can not be solved by proposing, the so-called right medicine, if a man loves his boyfriend very much, he will definitely think about her all the time, and the meaning of the proposal will definitely be obvious. So, if you want to have an explanation from your parents, think about it yourself.

I wish you happiness.

You're a girl, and it's not a good idea for you to come up with it. Do you have any girlfriends around you who are better with you or something? If the three of you are more familiar, you might as well ask your best friend to urge him, but you have to let your best friend make it clear, this is not what you mean, but that she is anxious as a best friend to see that her good friend is twenty-six years old and has no intention of getting married.

Of course, it's best to mention this in front of you, and you can also take the opportunity to observe what he means.

Or one day you take him home and ask your mother to tell him while you are not in front of him, this mother-in-law has spoken, if he really refuses or does not have a valid reason, then I am afraid that he really has other thoughts in his heart. At this time, you have to be more thoughtful, why does he not want to marry you, is he still skeptical about your relationship? Or does he have no idea of marrying you at all?

If he doesn't have any opinions, then your future conversation will be about marriage. His mom and dad will soon be busy with your marriage.

Take the example of your two friends and say that your parents want you to start a family as soon as possible.

This problem seems simple, but there are many possibilities behind it, and it is recommended to deal with it as follows:

1. First of all, communicate frankly why your boyfriend wants to get married, understand the core starting point of marriage, and at the same time, the core objective reasons why you don't want to get married should also be clear.

Because marriage is a very rational thing, it involves factors such as the emotional foundation of the two people, the foundation of life, and the consistency of the three views. If these factors and conditions are met, marriage should be a rational behavior, if not possessed may not be suitable for hasty marriage, when in love two people can be very simple and happy, after marriage is faced with the reality of life, relatives, work, their future children, all intertwined together, when two people do not have the ability and preparation to bear all this, you can slow down a little longer, give each other some time to grow and mature.

Second, if the conditions for marriage are met, you don't want to get married, maybe you need to have a good conversation with yourself, because you don't have a sense of security about marriage, or you don't have the courage to face unhappy times in the future, or you are still a child and don't understand what marriage means. Maybe you just want to be an innocent child all the time, you don't want to grow up, you don't want to face a life where all kinds of relationships are intertwined. If so, then we can go and fix them one by one.

In fact, love is something that anyone can do as an adult, but marriage is relatively suitable for mature people to combine.

3. If you don't love him enough, or if the conditions are not yet ripe in all aspects, then it's a different matter. After all, starting a family is not an easy task, and it is important to love each other, but the economy is even more important. If there is no stable income and no good environment, how can they raise the next generation in the future, and how can they give the next generation and their parents a happy and healthy life?

Therefore, you have to communicate with him more, hoping to get his understanding, you can work together for a few more years, and it is not too late to get married when the conditions are ripe!

For my boyfriend who wants to get married as soon as possible, but I don't want to be euphemistic and want to express my thoughts euphemistically, then I can find some better excuses, such as wanting to focus on my career, starting a career first and then starting a family.

Let's put it bluntly. This shows that you have different ideas, and it is best to communicate in a timely manner and avoid misunderstandings.

I think you can tell him: we are still young, we should stay for a while, and for the time being, let's not think about getting married. Usually if you say this, your boyfriend will understand what you think.

It's okay to calmly tell your boyfriend why you don't want to get married or what you are confused about, or to give him an example of how the best time is when your children are in love.

Communicate with him more about your thoughts, tell him the reasons why you don't want to get married, let him understand you, and talk to your boyfriend about not wanting to get married so early.

You can tell your boyfriend that you want to have a better career development, so you don't want to get married for the time being, otherwise you will be distracted.