How can I make myself less easily provoked?

Pretend to be irritated, and then try to maintain a calm expression. People who try to provoke you like this will secretly rejoice, but they don't know that you just don't want to deal with it. You're going to get addicted.

Why? Train yourself to control your emotions. Further actions of those who irritate you are avoided are avoided.

Avoid the other party finding that you can't be provoked and forced to jump over the wall, the so-called poor Kou Mo chase. Of course, the best way is not to make enemies, but to make him realize that you can't be overwhelmed and use "love" to influence him.

You have your reasons for doing things, and others have other people's reasons, even if you do something wrong, but you will defend yourself in your heart, so people often don't get angry with themselves, and when others do wrong, you can't see the reason and get angry. Any emotion can only be caused by looking at the appearance without investigating the cause, it can also be said to lack empathy, for example, I have read a sentence, people who have experienced wind and rain know how to be more considerate, after all, people may have made the same mistakes as you, and can empathize.

Don't worry if someone else is unintentional, and if someone you don't want to provoke you, just leave it alone. Try to be yourself and make yourself strong so they don't dare mess with you. It is better to compete with like-minded people than to judge the merits with fools.

I don't know how, because I'm a person who is not easily angry, and I don't know what the mechanism of anger is. When I encounter something irritable, I want to observe it quietly, or I simply think that if the other party is provoking, then I must have something wrong with me first, so I don't get angry.

To learn and learn is not the same, persistent? Get involved, experience more, and when your level is high enough, things are not things, and there is only what is the best solution, not to get angry.

1.When Hong regrets that others provoke and provoke anger, most people will feel uncomfortable and want to attack back as soon as possible, but people who are emotionally stable will have a strong judgment ability and can judge whether the other party's emotions have anything to do with themselves.

2.Emotionally stable people are also usually blind because the boundaries are relatively clear, and they don't like to get involved in other people's emotions.

3.So you'll find that emotionally stable people are rarely irritated and have sudden emotions**, which need to be based on having a clear self-awareness and understanding of themselves.

4.You will find that there are very few things that can cause the person to have significant mood swings.

5.I have found that many things in life are actually games with myself, such as controlling emotions, which is actually a reaction of self-control to emotions. It is the process of letting yourself control your behavior, controlling your thoughts, seeing clearly, thinking about the reasons and pros and cons of things, and thinking about how to deal with them at the moment when emotions arise.

Time.

When we have begun to observe our emotions and our child's reactions, what do we do when we resolve not to lose our temper with our child anymore, but are really provoked? Here are three steps we can try:

1. Introspection. Ask yourself, how am I feeling right now? What is my idea for an upgrade? Can I accept my own feelings? And change my mind?

2. Calm your emotions.

Learn to observe yourself, consciously take three to five slow deep breaths, give yourself as much time as possible, and pay attention to adjusting your thoughts when calming down, replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts, not children to make you angry! Anger is your choice, and your choice comes from talking about your thoughts, and it is very important to communicate with your child when you calm down!

3. Empathy.

When you learn empathy, you think, think about your child, his age, this personality, am I asking too much of him? Expecting too much? Is it appropriate for the child's current situation?

Does he need a hug or does he need my nagging and accusations? Or do you need my encouragement and help? What message does his actions send?

When you put yourself in the child's place, try his emotions and thoughts, listen to what he wants to say, and then you tell the child that you understand him!

As long as you start to try these steps, don't slow down and expect to be able to practice well, we should practice and reflect on ourselves more repeatedly, so that your emotional management ability will get better and better!

The most important thing your child should be grateful for is not that you work hard to earn money for him, but that you work hard to learn and change yourself for his growth! Let your child receive a different education from an early age, so that he will become more confident, brave and strong! A child's life is different!

So have you noticed that our own learning and growth is very important?