How can I not live for others?

People who don't live for others don't exist, people as a group life, must exist in a group, big or small, big to the country and society, small to the family, if a person has filial piety, at least for the parents to live well, and which parents do not want their children to revolve around themselves all day long, and eventually have to integrate into another circle of life.

If a person does not have filial piety, he will not be grateful, and a person without gratitude must be a selfish person, a villain, and a villain is often close to disaster.

Here are two examples:

1. What will happen to an apple tree, if you prune, water, and fertilize it every year, and it grows an apple and does not bear fruit? Chop it off.

2. A laying hen, you feed it and raise it, but it doesn't give birth to an egg, what will happen to you, the same reason: kill!

People have to live in a world of gratitude to be happy, sometimes I feel that everyone is sorry for me, and think about it in turn, what have we done for others?

Now the post-80s and post-90s are all only children, pampered since childhood, their parents give too much love, causing them to be self-centered, what is not good is selfishness, a child who always eats sugar, he doesn't feel sweet if you give him honey.

Helping parents with housework is the best way to cultivate gratitude, and then be grateful for all people and things.

If you live for others, it means that you care a lot about the other person's feelings or the other person's control of your joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and you are afraid of offending others. I'm that kind of person, and that's what I realize.

Working hard to earn money and improve social status is the most practical.

Know your own needs and ideals.

<> "Sincere advice not to live for others.

We have been so eager for the waves of fate, only to find out in the end that the most beautiful scenery of life is actually the calmness and calmness of the heart, we have been so eager for the recognition of the outside world, until the end to know that the world is our own, and has nothing to do with others. Mr. Yang Jiang's "100-year-old speech".

When I read this passage, I felt that I had made too much money, an old man's experience and perception in his life, and the perception of a literary master, we saw and realized it at the age of twenty or thirty, and could do it, then our life will enter calm and calm as soon as possible. I hope you also see it, realize it, and do it!

It's true that we don't have that many audiences, and we don't have as many people. We can laugh on a deserted street with a group of friends in the wee hours of the morning, or we can watch the sunset over the city from the shore with hot milk tea on the greenway.

Everyone in the world has different steps, some people cook a table of dishes slowly, and some people rush to the streets and alleys, but what does this prove? Everyone is busy, you are walking your way, no one cares if you have laughed in the rain, no one knows that you have cried on a sunny day!

So, you have a limit to your time, don't live for others. Don't be limited by dogma, don't live in other people's ideas. Don't let other people's opinions sway your inner voice.

Go after your own path, do what you love, be the master of your emotions, and learn to reconcile with yourself. Most importantly, be brave enough to follow your heart and intuition, only your own mind and intuition know what you really think, everything else is secondary.

People, just live this life, let yourself listen to your heart!

Absolutely. Why do you have this kind of thought, it is because there is a problem with our education since childhood, but this is not a problem unique to country Z, you see Japan and South Korea are like this. Very simply, because there are too many people, urbanization will inevitably bring people together in high density, the biggest enemy of people is still people, the more people there are, the greater the friction, in order to maintain social stability, some people must be taught to be lambs, this is the so-called students, the so-called social people slaughtered objects.

If it is not beneficial to the country, why does the state spend so much money on compulsory education? When two tigers fight, one will be injured, and it is better to educate one side to become a lamb. When we are always taught to dedicate ourselves to others, we have to be obligatory, and we don't ask for anything in return for unpaid dedication, and when you grow up, you feel that if you don't dedicate, if you ask for something in return, it's a shameful thing, as if you can't see anyone else.

Actually, this is wrong. Confucius once said that if you repay your grievances with virtue, how can you repay virtue. People like you who have been selfless and dedicated are the greatest harm to "virtue", you have the right to say no, you have the right to be selfish, you have the right not to help anyone, this is your right, but our education only emphasizes "repaying grievances with virtue", which is completely an infringement of your rights.

You don't help others, it's not selfish, it's a legitimate behavior, and others are okay with it. You also have the right to ask for a paid return, and it is natural that you need to be rewarded for helping others, this is not selfishness, but a prerequisite for the normal functioning of society. If it is all gratuitous, then what will you use to repay your "virtue".

A person has a person's way of life, a person has a person's ideals and aspirations, and different people have different life values and pursuits. In fact, in all fairness, looking at a one-way life path, there is no return, although it is long and short. It is not easy for people to live a lifetime, illness is indispensable, old age is inevitable, and death cannot be escaped.

Since we have embarked on the road of life, we must walk well and really live, although we can't ** this miserable world, but we can still live a piece of heaven with our hearts and live ourselves. As one singer said, "Pain is also a kind of abundance, like a sponge, the more holes there are, the more water it absorbs."

Anyone who has walked the road of life that must leave traces, the wonders and strange scenes are different, and all living beings have only one life path with the same opportunity? Not only do they vary in length, but they also vary greatly in content. Man, what is the purpose of living?

Money, status, enjoyment, if so, people tend to become out-of-body, worthless, vulgar. So, what is the purpose of human life? Kindness, thrift, and perseverance, if so, people will have a meaningless and worthy life.

Everyone has their own choices, and life is to work hard to truly appreciate the meaning of life. Whether it is the south, and the north, or abandon fame and fortune, and spend a life in a happy life, a person with this kind of free consciousness and indifferent attitude, in order to enjoy a happy life deeply and enthusiastically. Life is nothing more than a series of "now" accumulation, that is, why not grasp every second, every minute, every moment of your life, fully learn, comprehend, appreciate and move.

Living in the world, we should pursue a perfect and meaningful life, should pursue a tacit life, can not just blindly ask for the understanding and help of others, everyone should dedicate more love and care, with a full pace to complete the road of life should go, although there is no appointment, but we should have a common heart language, to let the world because of our existence and more warm, more love.

It's very difficult to do, people are pushed to follow the flow of life, how to live for themselves, everyone is passive.

Of course you should live for yourself! Life is short for decades, how can you not live for yourself?

The premise of living for oneself is also to think about others.

No ideals? Maybe it's just because your dreams are too big to realize.

No faith, alone?

No desires? It should have been a good feeling to be used by you here. I don't think you're really desireless, but what you want is not small.

Settle with the situation, low self-esteem, autism, self-pity? Can't see the future and don't have hope for it? That's just because you're young and haven't found your own path yet.

In fact, when everyone is young, they want to live for themselves. But in the end, they found that their life was not imprinted on themselves, but was endowed with the ideals and hopes of their parents. And you have such exclamations and feelings now, only because of superficiality.

How do you get through the rest of your life with hope? Then live for your words! For the rest of your life, go to your hope. I'm sure you'll find it. As long as you live. As long as you look for it, you will definitely find it.

However, I remind you to put your heart right before you find your hope. Do what you have to do.

How is the subject now? I had the same problem as you, but I only found this one question post.

Introverts generally care more about other people's opinions, even if they are indifferent, they will want to be recognized by others, you have to think about it, you have relatives, you have to let them live better because of you, this can be used as your motivation to make more worthy friends, and slowly you will find that you become positive and optimistic. And don't stay at home, travel more, go to some playgrounds, or watch movies, you will find that there are many beautiful lives worth your nostalgia, and use your eyes to discover the beauty around you.

Know your strengths, know your hobbies, know your value orientation, and move forward according to your own set goals! Learn more skills, pay hard, and you will reap the rewards!

Live for those you care about. I suggest you watch "Rose Solve Signal" and you will know how funny your thoughts are now.

Get married and have a baby, and you will know how to live and for whom.