Does married life require forbearance?

How do you live your married life? Some people are competitive, and the husband and wife fight for each other, and some people don't say anything, but they don't survive and fall apart in the end. Most people don't know that after entering married life, we can't just hide it without saying anything, and we shouldn't be competitive and always fighting.

In fact, each of us should always take a little responsibility for our own lives, if it is just one party blindly tolerating there, after all, we will not be able to go to the end. After all, marriage has always been a matter of two people, not one person's forbearance. Most people may feel unconvinced, why should I put up with it, and I have to say what I have!

If you can talk about it, you can talk about it, and if you can't talk about it, you can argue, and if you can't talk about it, it's a big deal to get divorced. Most people will feel that they don't always have to endure anything, who was not raised in the palm of their father's hand, and there is no reason to change their life habits for someone, or for whom to find grievances for themselves, so that they are unhappy. If you happen to have this idea, then sorry, maybe your marriage will not be very harmonious.

In fact, to tell the truth, what kind of hatred and resentment come between husband and wife. Two people can meet in the vast sea of people, and they can love each other and even get married and have children, that is a kind of fate. Maybe you will quarrel with the other person and have conflicts with the other person, but sometimes, if the matter can be passed without much patience, don't quarrel with the other person, don't quarrel with the other person.

Especially men, if you don't look at your wife as a woman in married life, you don't necessarily have how competitive they are, most of the time they quarrel with you and quarrel with you, in fact, they just want you to care about her, women are stupid! If you don't want to talk to them when they are gentle with you, they will choose a more hysterical way to get your attention by making noise. In fact, many times they also understand in their hearts that their way is not right, but most unreasonable women are actually forced out by men.

A woman, but when she marries you, she walks into marriage, she has to face too many things, she has to endure being away from her parents, away from the family she has been used to since childhood, and away from everything she has. Let go of the patterns that they have become accustomed to, to adapt to an unfamiliar family environment, to adapt to your patterns, and most of the time they will not really complain about anything. Only when you can't understand what she has done for you, they will always come out from time to time to complain, and saying a few words does not mean that the woman does not know how to forbear.

Life does not need forbearance, forbearance will make you sick, forbearance means that it is not valued and unbalanced.

Endure the illness and let the life, don't you know that there is a saying called "inch by inch"? Because the other party doesn't understand that gratitude is a problem of the original family, it is even more impossible for you to change him.

But what should I do? I feel like I'm a person myself, and I feel like I'm going to get better and better in the future. I have always believed that my future will be very happy.

Because of his own personality, because of his family when he was a child, I actually know that he is more pessimistic about everything. But he doesn't admit it. It doesn't create any sense of security in itself, her sense of security comes from the outside world.

But who in the outside world can and who has the responsibility to give you a constant sense of security? I wanted to find a time to talk to her, but I knew that if I did, he would definitely have a big fight. It's okay, just like my classmates said.

Men should be bigger-minded, and women are endless patience, can I endure 20 or 30 years? I'm so tired right now. It's not that I'm tired from work, it's because my family life makes me tired, and my heart is tired.

I'm really afraid that under such a high cost of communication, decades later, the money will be earned, but the body is already sick. Because the communication between the two of me is like this, so to be honest, I'm now. I don't have motivation for a lot of things, what about my work, how about my money?

This is the communication between me and you, how much do I do? Now I'm starting to have a lot of negative energy as well. I don't think the values of the two of us are particularly the same.

The ancients said that two people should be right when they get married, but in fact, the right family not only refers to the family, but more importantly, it refers to the thoughts of two people. Should I endure with him like this, or should I do it?

Don't always complain about what you're doing that isn't good enough, or don't complain about the other person always making you compromise. A lot of times, people get along with each other like this, you think you're doing a lot for the other person, but most of the time, when the other person sees what you've done, they will also want to try to do something for you? Married life, in fact, is to use your life to properly endure something!

In marriage, no one is anyone's king, and only by respecting each other and being humble to each other can a marriage be managed well. It's not for you to be a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle, women take advantage of their "softness".

In fact, each of us is a relatively independent individual, most of the time the other party does not owe you anything, but once two men and women use a paper marriage, with a marriage certificate, to bind each other, you should try to learn for each other, to endure some things that you can't bear.

I think it's about respecting each other, not who endures whom.

I haven't endured it, let's not be happy together.

Preface: In life, I think forbearance is not a virtue of marriage, and women do not need to blindly consider forbearance when facing a failed marriage, and forbearance will only blindly condone the violence of their husbands. In the face of domestic violence, women must take up the law to protect themselves, and they cannot always consider that forbearance is the virtue of marriage.

Therefore, blindly indulging each other, indulging each other more and more, will only make the domestic violence wife who quarrels with the other party worse, and it is difficult for the other party to realize the responsibility of marriage to two people. <>

In the face of unhappy marriages, most women will choose forbearance, and the so-called forbearance is more for the sake of children, and they have to choose to be together. Because the age of the child is relatively young, it will cause serious harm to the child when considering divorce, and you don't want the child to live in an incomplete family. Even if there is no love between parents, they will choose to continue to endure together.

In the child's heart, he will also know that his parents' marriage is not happy, and he needs to pretend to be very happy. <>

At any time, parents should consider that most parents are reluctant to consider divorce for the sake of their children. Parents should think that their children are also independent individuals, and parents have the right to choose happiness independently, and if they are unhappy in their married life, they should not blindly tolerate it. Even if the child watches the parents for a long time without any communication and communication, they can realize that there is a problem in the relationship between the parents.

In the face of an unhappy marriage, divorce can be considered in the choice, and the two people should not continue to be deadlocked together for the sake of their children, and two people still have the right to find happiness after letting go. In the face of an unhappy imitation marriage, there is no hope for the future marriage, and young people should chase the good. No matter what age you are, as long as your marriage is unhappy, you should consider divorce, and whether you are looking for the next marriage or not, you must live for yourself.

I don't think so, although forbearance can calm the family for a short time, but after accumulating for a long time, negative emotions are likely to explode.

Personally, I believe that forbearance is not a virtue in marriage, although it will maintain the superficial harmony of husband and wife, it may breed old estrangement and suspicion among the Hui faction, and the distance between the two people will be further and further apart.

No, it is wronging oneself, and at the same time showing one's weakness, which will be trampled on and humiliated by the other party.

No, if you keep tolerating and changing in marriage, it will not make the other party feel satisfied, but will make the relationship become more and more unequal, and you will be hurt in the relationship. In marriage, although you don't need to argue with reason, you should also love yourself well and don't swallow your anger with others. You should express your concept very clearly, you can back down, but you can't always endure it and live a life of obedience.

In that way, I will also fall into an inferiority complex, this relationship, because of the concession of one party, patience will become more and more unequal, even if the relationship is long-lasting, it has no meaning, let alone happiness.

1. Blind forbearance will make the other party gain an inch.

Although there should be mutual humility and tolerance in marriage, this is all mutual, not forever withering and only one party is humble and tolerant, but both parties can understand how to operate in marriage, if only one party blindly tolerates and changes themselves, the other party will never be indifferent, and the party who thinks it is the one who tolerates will do so as a matter of course, and the other party will have to make an inch of progress at the endure, and it will not make the relationship stable for a long time.

2. Blind forbearance will make you feel aggrieved.

In marriage, the most important thing is to obtain happiness and the value of life, if we blindly tremble and guess and tolerate change, swallow each other's anger, and accept it, we will feel that we have lost the value of life and the meaning of life.

Because we can't get happiness from this marriage, we will make this marriage become chicken ribs, and if we keep tolerating it, we will feel very aggrieved, which is quite detrimental to physical and mental health, and it is impossible to make the relationship last for a long time.

3. Tolerance can't change anything.

Many people have the traditional idea that patience is needed in marriage, but for any modern person, patience has a limit. Blindly forbearance will suppress one's body and mind, which is not good for one's physical and mental health, and it will not be good for this marriage. Forbearance is useful if one's own forbearance can be exchanged for the understanding of the other party.

If the other party doesn't understand, they will think that the tolerant party is easy to bully, and the relationship will never last long.

In married life, you can't bear to go back to the cave to talk about it, but you must respect each other and understand each other. Consider the issue of only calling from the perspective of the other party, so that the marriage can go on for a long time.

I think there are several reasons for this:

1.Although a woman is subjected to domestic violence, she does not divorce because she thinks that divorce is a very faceless thing. Her ideology is too conservative and backward, she was obviously beaten, and she still wanted to save face, and lied that she accidentally fell on it.

For this kind of woman, the main reason for not divorcing is to save face.

2.One of the most common reasons for women who have suffered domestic violence but have not divorced is for the sake of their children. Because some men do well in other aspects, especially Xiang Zheng is not bad to his children, but occasionally he will be violent to the female banquet.

The woman will not divorce for the sake of the child, because the divorced child will become the child of a single-parent family, and if she remarries, she is afraid that she will be abused by her stepfather. So thinking about it, a woman would rather be wronged herself than save the family for her children. This kind of woman does not divorce, mainly for the sake of her children.

3.Some women's husbands have successful careers and high incomes, while women themselves have no jobs or very low incomes and have to rely on men financially. And the man is not bad in other aspects, but he will occasionally commit domestic violence against her, so for the sake of the economy, women can only choose to be patient and not divorce.

Therefore, they do not divorce mainly for the sake of the economy.

4.There are women who have been subjected to very serious domestic violence by men for a long time. And this man is not motivated, has no sense of family responsibility, and is almost useless.

It's not good for your own children, and sometimes you even commit domestic violence against your children. The woman is determined to leave this man and is determined to divorce him. But when the divorce came, the man wept bitterly, knelt down and begged the woman, and swore that he would not beat the woman again in the future, and that he would change his ways.

The woman's heart softened when she heard this, coupled with the dissuasion of the family members on the side. The family's ideology is too traditional and conservative, believing that it is better to demolish ten temples than to break a marriage. There has never been a divorce in their family, and if she is divorced, she will not be recognized as a daughter.

Under the persecution of both sides, the woman could only dispel the idea of divorce.