The divorce rate remains high, why does my mother in law become a master of family demolition?

Before marriage, a fantasy has a perfect mother-in-law, a fantasy has a perfect daughter-in-law, and after marriage, I find that it is completely different from what I think, so I try to change each other in my own way, so that the contradictions are one after another, and the difficult ones will only be caught in the middle, I look down on those who force their sons to do it with their daughters-in-law, and I also look down on those who force their husbands to oppose their mothers-in-law. On the one hand, it is a woman who gave birth to herself, which side is wrong, in fact, the two married daughters-in-law do not want to live with their parents-in-law can move out to live, the child grows up, your guardianship responsibility has been fulfilled, you should let go in time, let him fight for his future, and when you are older, the child will do his maintenance responsibility, there is no need to mix together. Of course, it is a blessing for a man to be able to meet a good daughter-in-law and a good mother-in-law to live together and Meimei, and to find a different way to be good for both parties, and the family and everything is prosperous!

Because the mother-in-law is always jealous that her son is good to her daughter-in-law. always likes to meddle in everything in the small family, which leads to constant conflicts between his son and daughter-in-law, so his mother-in-law has become a master of family demolition.

When the mother-in-law of the husband and wife stirring up, she is definitely not smart, and extremely selfish person, she herself stirs up and feels comfortable, but will the son be better in the future, smart people will take care of the overall situation, and would rather endure it themselves, after all, on the one hand, the daughter-in-law is a junior, and it is her child to say that it sounds good, on the other hand, there is no daughter-in-law who takes the initiative to bully her mother-in-law, so most of the daughter-in-law's contradictions are provoked by the unreasonable mother-in-law.

Because the mother-in-law always feels that the daughter-in-law is the one who snatched her son, and the mother-in-law always picks on the various things that the daughter-in-law does, which has an impact on the son's family, it is easy to divorce.

Because of the final result of the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, most of them end in divorce, because of the difference in age and concept, some mothers-in-law are particularly reluctant to let their sons suffer, and always feel that it is a natural thing for daughters-in-law to clean up the house.

The mother-in-law can't let go of her son, her son's marriage is not good, I don't know if the relationship between the husband and wife of the mother-in-law's own family is closer than that of the son? Otherwise, it is natural to be a third party in the son's marriage.

You be a little sheep, she said you pretend. When you were a tiger, she said you were too ruthless. When you go to curry favor, they say you're cheap, and when you live your life, they say you don't care about anything.

It doesn't work, it doesn't. To sum up, as soon as the morning dawns, we have to think about how to deal with everything that happens, and how to carefully analyze and do it. If you don't handle one thing well, you will blame your daughter-in-law.

It's about to explode. Human nature is too complicated. Mother-in-law is not a mother, there is no blood relationship, and it is useless to apologize.

Because there are too many men who can't carry clearly, they prefer to be the son in their mother's arms rather than the husband next to their wife.

Your title is hard to accept. In your concept, mother-in-law is Erha? Still a master of demolition?!

How many cases of divorce can you cite that the divorce of a couple was caused by a mother-in-law?! The divorce rate is high, which may be due to the man, the woman, or the common reason, of course, it is not excluded that there are certain factors involved in the elderly. But do you think this old man who is involved in the marriage of the young couple must be his mother-in-law?

Couldn't it be a mother-in-law? I think the most fundamental reason for the high divorce rate is that people nowadays are overly self-pursuing, material interests and money are supreme, lack of a sense of responsibility and loyalty to the family, and regard marriage and family as child's play. It is really ridiculous and generous to come up with such a sensational problem without analyzing and investigating, and to throw the heavy burden of high divorce rate to my mother-in-law without thinking.

It has nothing to do with the mother-in-law, it is caused by the man's low emotional intelligence and inability to deal with the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A man with high emotional intelligence does not allow the relationship between his wife and mother to ossify to the point of being out of control.

Influenced by Chicken Soup for the Soul, he doesn't bring his grandson, he doesn't have money, he wants to be the boss of the family, and he doesn't have much to say.

Because the mother-in-law thinks that the daughter-in-law should eat her son and drink her son's with the child, and she thinks that you don't take the child when she goes to work.

There are two possibilities, one is that the mother-in-law is rich and doesn't care about another dowry; The second is that the mother-in-law is short of money and wants to squeeze another dowry!

Mother-in-law's old concept: 1Make your son's home your own. 2.doesn't treat his daughter-in-law as a daughter, but hopes to serve him better than his daughter.

Let the daughter-in-law ask a few questions, if you give thousands to your mother-in-law, will you give thousands to your mother-in-law? If you buy expensive clothes and gifts for your mother-in-law, will you give them to your in-laws, you feel sorry for your parents to raise you, will you feel that it is not easy for your in-laws to raise your husband. If your parents' parents are sick, you will take care of them, and if your in-laws are sick, will you say that you didn't give birth to me and raise me, and take care of you is your son's business.

If you never have a place for your in-laws in your heart, no matter what they do, it will be wrong in the hearts of some daughters-in-law. But I can tell you that you can rightfully divide any property of your husband's family as a daughter-in-law, but in most places, even the best parents' property belongs to their sons.

It's not a mother-in-law, it's mainly because my husband can't figure it out. Because the man wants to be taken care of by the fuck and the warmth of his wife, he stirs the two women together like this, and wants the sugar cane to be sweet. The more thoughts like this, the more you will be separated from your wife!

The ideology of the remnants of feudalism, now that the times have changed, people's thinking must be changed, and we cannot copy the set of feudal society, only by changing the concept and respecting each other, the family relationship will definitely change!

The little woman can't tell the difference, and when she is older, she becomes a mother-in-law, and the following is a little woman who can't tell the weight from the heavy, and when she is older, she becomes a mother-in-law, and the cycle repeats, why not find her own reasons, there are problems.

Divorce is not necessarily because of the relationship between the mother-in-law, how can it be the mother-in-law's reason? Divorce is mostly due to the discord between their fathers, and the mother-in-law should not be the real culprit that caused their divorce, nor is it so powerful.

The mother-in-law is the one who carries the blame for her son, and she knows that her son is Mo Ruo's father and her mother. It is the son's vacillation that is the confidence of the mother-in-law who dares to dismantle the house.

The mother-in-law thinks that marrying a daughter-in-law is the same principle as buying vegetables at the market.

The daughter-in-law who goes to work says that she is ruthless and does not take children, and the daughter-in-law who does not go to work says that she does not make money, and the ideal daughter-in-law in her mother-in-law is to be able to earn money and take care of children, and to provide for her mother-in-law as if she were the Jade Emperor. The son and daughter-in-law quarreled, the son won and the mother-in-law secretly rejoiced, the son lost and the mother-in-law cried and mourned all day long, 80% of the mother-in-law was unclear.

If your in-laws are particularly rich, I can accept that you have more things, but the key is that there are more things to do without money, so I can do it at first.

But my parents' divorce was not broken up by my grandmother, but by my parents' own emotional disagreement. I didn't live with my grandparents since the day I was born, and I grew up with my parents. Who said that divorces are broken up by mothers-in-law, and there are also people who have different feelings and disagree with each other.

My grandparents weren't nosy.

A lot of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is because of the child's business, our mother-in-law thinks that I don't understand anything when I am young, and then what I said is verified to be correct one by one before I want to understand, but she doesn't listen to what I said right, I will be anxious, after all, the child is born by the daughter-in-law, why can't the mother-in-law understand that the child is born to the daughter-in-law.

After verifying what I said to my mother-in-law's original words:

I wonder what you know when you're young.

I didn't listen to my daughter-in-law when I was a daughter-in-law, but now I know and I believe what I told you (my father-in-law).

Probably in the eyes of the mother-in-law of the demolition family, her own son is good, and her daughter-in-law is not worthy of her son at all.

The mother-in-law was angry with her mother-in-law and wanted to get it back in her daughter-in-law, but now society has changed.

Now society is too tolerant. Especially for the third party, causing this situation, I think some leaders should be responsible, TV drama directors are to blame, if the whole society shouts and beats everyone for the phenomenon of bad morals and customs, so that this kind of people have no room to survive, I think the society will be much more harmonious.

There are three main reasons for this:

01. Today's young people are too impulsiveIn fact, people nowadays are too impulsive about marriage and divorce, so the divorce rate will remain high. In the past, people often thought that two people had to be dating for a year or two before they could get married, but now there are many people who get married immediately after two or three months of dating.

In the same way, they are very impulsive about divorce. The two had a fight, had a cold war for three days, and divorced! If there is something that the other party has not done well, divorce!

I regret getting married and divorced! Two people's three views do not agree, divorce! These people may choose to divorce because of some trivial things, and divorce is just a matter of words for them.

They never think that marriage is a big deal, marriage seems to be as simple as buying vegetables in their eyes, two people get married when they see each other, and two people divorce when they don't like each other. They never think about the impact of continuity between marriage and divorce.

02. Changes in the mode of getting along before and after marriageMany couples tend to deliberately hide their shortcomings when they interact before marriage, and only want to show their best side to each other. Especially women, not only will they deliberately hide their shortcomings, but they will also automatically bring a filter to see each other, which is the so-called woman in love is a fool.

But after getting married, the two people have lived together for a long time, and they will slowly find that the other party is not as perfect as they see. All kinds of bad habits and inexplicable tempers will make them feel that the other party has changed? Even the mode of getting along between two people has changed from tolerating each other to picking at each other.

It is precisely because of the change in the mode of getting along that they can no longer feel the happiness when they were in love, they can only feel each other's badness. Slowly, the two people became more and more annoyed and annoyed by each other, so they came to the end of divorce.

In fact, the change of the mode of getting along is really normal, if two people choose to tolerate each other and understand each other, they will slowly be able to adapt to the mode of getting along after marriage. It's just that today's people really don't know how to tolerate, and their gait is willing to tolerate, so they would rather divorce than run in with each other.

03, too self-aware and don't understand what responsibility is Today's people are actually very self-conscious, saying that a good thing is to love themselves more than loving others, and to say that it is unpleasant is selfish and too indifferent. In such a situation, they often think about their own joys, sorrows, and sorrows, without thinking about each other, and without considering the feelings between the two families.

Therefore, in many cases, they are often reluctant to take on some obligations in the family, and only want to have a good time. They even think that marriage should not be something that ties their lives, so they will selectively ignore marriage, but they don't know that this is what causes marriages to fail.

Their irresponsibility and the lack of attention to their marriage will lead to the eventual collapse of the marriage. is like the relationship between Yang Mi and Hawick Lau, one is focused on his career, the other is not dedicated enough to love, and the irresponsibility of the two people has led to the end of the originally happy marriage.

Social prices are too fast, income can't catch up with prices, young people are too impetuous, always want to make quick money, and don't want to work hard, boys have no sense of responsibility, girls advocate material, the same sense of responsibility. After a long period of precipitation, slowly no longer impetuous, and very pragmatic to face life, the society will be stable.

Because women are becoming more and more independent, they have been able to work on their own to earn money to support themselves, and they are no longer willing to become men's accessories. Women nowadays are more self-reliant. There are a lot of men who lack a sense of responsibility these days.

It is still retained in the old thinking that housework should be done by women. Therefore, the concepts of the two parties will be very different, and the views on a problem will be different, and the feelings between the two people will fade over time. Eventually, there will be a divorce.

So now the divorce rate is getting higher and higher.

There has been a big change in thinking now and traditional thinking in the past, when people thought that divorce was a very shameful thing. If you let others know, you will feel like you can't hold your head up, but now it's different. I don't feel that divorce has any bad effects on me.

Women in the past were always attached to their men. The female protagonist is inside and the male protagonist is outside. But nowadays women are also becoming more and more independent, and they can live on their own, so their requirements for men are becoming higher and higher.

In the past, men thought that doing housework was a woman's business, but now the rivers and lakes are a matter of two people, and some men can't accept it for a while. There is also the idea that women do housework. There will definitely be a lot of disagreements between the two parties, because these things will generate some unnecessary quarrels that will affect the feelings between the two people.

Nowadays, there are many single-child families in society, and parents are more pampered. So the tolerance for some things is getting smaller and smaller. A family is one in which two people understand and tolerate each other.

Due to the influence of the family environment, neither person will choose to back down for the other. So it's easier for two people to get into a fight.

A family needs two people to run it together, and if only one person pays, then the family will not last long. If you want a happy family, you must understand each other and consider the problem from the other's point of view. When there is a quarrel, you have to think about taking a step back.

In order to make the family more harmonious.