Do you know why people are prone to divorce in middle age?

The midlife crisis has triggered a rethinking of marriage and family. When people reach the age of 35-45, this stage is the stage when people's families and careers continue to develop and make breakthroughs. When people reach middle age, people will have an evaluation of the work and life they are engaged in, and if this evaluation is negative, it will cause a midlife crisis.

When people reflect on their marriage and family situation and find that their current life situation is far from their ideals, and it is not the life state they want at all, it is easy to have the idea of divorce in the confusion of midlife crisis. ‍‍

When we are young, we don't understand love, let alone marriage, we often regard good feelings as love, love as love, and sexual relations as love, so it is easy to make decisions in a daze, and after marriage, we gradually find that we need to pay for our youth and ignorance with an unharmonious and unhappy life. When people reach middle age, their minds are further matured, and when people look back at the marriage they chose at the beginning, they find that the people they have loved for so many years are not human, and they will have the idea of divorce.

The pressure of supporting the elderly and raising children increases people's psychological burden and makes people want to escape. Undoubtedly, the pressure on people in the middle is the heaviest, the old and the young, while taking care of work, taking care of the family, while dealing with external interpersonal relationships, while dealing with internal disputes in the family, that kind of heart is really tired. When people's physical and mental burden reaches a certain level, they will have the idea of escaping reality, and they can't wait to jump out of the marriage that confines their freedom to pursue a carefree life, and the escape psychology makes people have the idea of divorce. ‍‍

When people reach middle age, their children leave home for school and work, and the husband and wife start the "two-person world" again, and the two slowly shift the focus of attention from the children back to each other. The shortcomings and deficiencies of the other party, which had no time to pay attention to before, were suddenly exposed and infinitely magnified, and one party suddenly found "How did you become like this?" The other party said aggrievedly

I've been like this, and I've never seen you bothered before! If you can't realize the problem in time and adjust it in time, the conflict between husband and wife will evolve from "making something out of nothing" to "unbearable", and finally lead to divorce. ‍‍

The double pressure of body and mind makes people feel overwhelmed, and it is easy to complain and blame, leading to emotional rifts. When people are under psychological pressure, they will be easily impetuous, and they will become unpleasant to see everything. In order to vent their dissatisfaction, people tend to vent their emotions by blaming and complaining, and the other party must be dissatisfied and bored because of this, so there is a rift in the relationship. ‍‍

Some couples, love and love are not loved, because love also has a shelf life, from marriage to middle age, two people have been together for a long time, they feel tired of each other, and slowly they don't love, and then go to the extreme, divorce ends.

When in love, the hazy veil is completely lifted, and the real heart, real feelings, and real attitude often make people dare not face it. On the one hand, when we are in love, in order to leave a good impression on each other, we always deliberately beautify ourselves and show each other our best side; On the other hand, the "halo effect" of "in the eyes of the lover" allows us to subjectively beautify each other, and the shortcomings of the other party can also be regarded as advantages. And when two people enter the marriage, they begin to return to their true selves, in the family, people will tear off their "personality masks" and reveal their truest selves, so the other party begins to feel that the other party's "fox tail is exposed", dissatisfaction begins to escalate, and the idea of divorce begins to flash. ‍‍

In fact, many people are unable to be responsible for themselves when they reach middle age, how to talk about being able to fulfill their family responsibilities, and most of the shirking responsibilities is because they want to make an excuse for their inferiority.

I'm afraid that you choose to forgive, but on the other hand, you have a mustard; I'm afraid that my partner will admit his mistake while disconnecting with a third party. In this way, marriage becomes a swamp, pulling people down slowly. It's better to quit simply and use Dou Xiaosan's time and energy to learn, play, and improve, so as to achieve another new self.

You need to know that forgiving others is sometimes letting go of yourself. The women of the past said: I would rather wronged myself than be a dog man and a woman!

Now the woman wants to open it: I would rather be a scumbag and a than wronged myself! Life is not a competition, so why do you have to distinguish between winners and losers?

Just two reasons. One is "there is enough money" and the other is "there is not enough money".

I still don't think I have the same views, and some people just walk and disperse.

It's just that there are too many men, the root cause.

Each other's not cherished. As you see fit.

My husband made me very insecure and incapable, alas.

When people reach middle age, their experience is rich in reality, and in maturity and stability, they re-examine their lives and examine each other.

Life is repeated every day, and men begin to be unwilling when they have money. Don't think he's so different, it's human nature.

Because I am middle-aged, I care more about the resonance of the soul.

Middle-aged women have lost their charm!

For the sake of their own life ideals.

When marital conflicts erupt, the only way to end is divorce. As the saying goes, clothes are not as good as new, people are not as good as old, men must not be confused by the beauties outside. My wife at home worked hard to accompany me to start a self-made business, which is a kind of inseparable love that transcends love.

After the success of ordinary men, there will be a lot of rhetorical cuties outside to pounce on you, but you should know that they are just for money, just ask if you can really have geometry, don't make mistakes for a moment of indulgence, and let yourself end up empty. Don't forget your roots when you have money, and honestly guarding your wife and children is the truth.

It is everyone's pursuit to have a lover who eventually becomes married, but how many people can really enter marriage because of love? Taking marriage as a springboard and getting married with a transactional mentality, the original goal should have been achieved in middle age, marriage is worthless, and the patience of many years of grievances has also reached the limit, and divorce has become inevitable. In the decades of life, everyone has experienced different life trajectories, and the bitter they have eaten, the sweetness they have tasted, the people they have loved, and the injuries they have suffered are all their own unique marks.

And we rarely ask ourselves, are you happy? How long have you not been happy? Is this the state of life you want to live now?

Are the people around you still loving? Is it right to live like this?

The problem of everything is that we begin to think. Find the answer in the collision with the countless contradictions and conflicts with reality. Those answers make us look at ourselves.

Modern people are economically independent and ideologically independent, and have more conditions and confidence to think. I also began to bravely find my inner self and the happiness I wanted. chose to divorce because it was forced to do so.

I believe that no one wants to go to the last step. But divorce is not necessarily a bad thing. The end of one relationship means the beginning of another.

Divorce, after the two worked hard to run in, they still felt that marriage would restrict each other's lives, and in order to make the husband and wife live a better life, they chose to let this hard-won relationship come to an end.

Because the married life of people in middle age has become very dull, the improvisation of marriage is the most fragile in this time period, and there are many contradictions in middle-aged married life, and the attitude towards marriage is gradually changing, so middle-aged people are more likely to divorce; I think the biggest reason for divorce in middle age is the lack of communication and not knowing what the other party really thinks in their hearts.

This is because when people reach middle age, their feelings have become very flat, so they will divorce. The biggest reason is that two people have feelings, both people hate each other very much, and two people are also very bored with their children's education, so they will divorce.

It should be that the husband and wife have lived for a long time, have understood each other's advantages and disadvantages, and there are problems in the marriage, which will lead to middle-aged divorce. The main reason is that there is an incorrect understanding of marriage, and there are trivial problems in marriage.

In fact, I think that the most important thing for men is that when life becomes nourishing, the psychological pressure will be reduced. You no longer have to take care of your partner's emotions and don't have to face any uncertainty. For women, after reaching middle age, all kinds of family chores fall on their heads, and their husbands also ignore them.

So I gradually gave up on marriage.

Lack of effective communication between couples.

Dissatisfaction with the current living situation is a problem that many middle-aged couples encounter. This dissatisfaction can be divided into material dissatisfaction and spiritual dissatisfaction. In general, couples who are dissatisfied with material problems will complain more about each other because the problem persists in middle age, so it is difficult to find a good solution.

Generally speaking, this situation exists because the husband's income is not high and he cannot meet the needs of his wife. The wife is a bit vain and wants a higher quality of life. The imbalance between supply and demand can lead to mutual complaints in life, which can lead to conflicts between couples.

Husbands and wives do not trust each other.

In life, husband and wife should be one and as partners, they should rely on each other so that they can support half the sky of the family and give their partner a sense of security, and the family is a port. If a middle-aged couple doubts each other and loses trust, the relationship may end. Husbands and wives should have more confidence and less doubt.

They should be given space and freedom to be independent of each other. When they do not know the truth, do not jump to conclusions, let alone speculate, they must face it calmly. <>

Married life is dull and boring.

If the relationship between husband and wife becomes flat, conflicts are likely to arise. Because once both parties find the marriage boring, the love will disappear, which will bring the biggest problem, and the couple will no longer be willing to think from each other's point of view. On such an emotional basis, the two sides cannot create contradictions, nor can they fail to examine contradictions.

For middle-aged couples, there are simply too many things to bear. As wives, we should try to be considerate of our husbands. Let go of the trivial details that can't be changed.

It's best to try to repair each other's feelings. As a last resort, don't make a divorce decision lightly.

After reaching middle age, people have no worries, and their children have been cultivated, and they want to live a free and easy life, and they don't want to wronged themselves anymore. The biggest reason for divorce is that two people are not suitable and don't want to tolerate it anymore.

Because when you reach this age, you usually have a deeper understanding of marriage, and you are prone to a sense of disgust for each other; The biggest reason is economic reasons, emotional discord.

After reaching middle age, the two no longer have any feelings, and the children have grown up, so they don't need to worry about anything, so they choose to divorce. The biggest reason should be that two people have no love.

Because young people are more independent and young people are more open to marital relationships, the number of divorces will increase.

After entering the modern society, we will find that many middle-aged people will choose to divorce on their own initiative, which is not common in the older generation, and the divorce rate of the older generation is also very low. This situation has to do not only with the personality of the young people themselves, but also with the times in which they live. We can't unilaterally criticize young people for divorce, and I think we need to try to understand the motivations of young people for divorce.

1. The first reason is the personality problem of young people. Second, the second reason is the problem of the times in which young people live.

3. The third reason is individual.

Because people nowadays are more open-minded, if they feel that the other party is not suitable for them, they will choose to divorce, which is actually not a bad thing.

This is because everyone is less tolerant, and they are not willing to put up with some things about each other, so they can easily divorce.

Because many people don't want to settle in marriage now, and many people are wronged in marriage, there are more divorced people.