Why is it that the so called good words sometimes just define your life?

Because there is no empathy in the world, everyone is just influencing your life according to their own ideas.

When we encounter difficulties in life, there will always be some well-wishers around us who persuade us to let go. Everything they say makes sense, but it doesn't get to our hearts.

Everyone's experience is replicable, and no one can truly empathize with another person. I had a quarrel with my daughter-in-law some time ago and went out to drink with friends. My friend persuaded me while drinking

Don't be too serious with your daughter-in-law, you still have to live your life, don't look at your quarrels now, you still have to rely on her when you encounter things in the future. ”

I think what he said makes sense, but I still can't get over it. I don't think it's my fault for this quarrel, but she did something wrong but refused to admit it, and she didn't open the pot and mentioned the messy things I had done before, and she also mentioned the conflict with my mother during the quarrel, which made me a little irritable, and then went out directly.

There are many things in our family that are difficult to read, and there are many things in our family that we can't do it, and I understand what my friend said, and I agree that what he said is right, but I just don't think life should be like this.

Everyone is trying to influence others with their own perspectives and wants to redefine your life. In real life, you will encounter a lot of these things. When you are criticized by the leader, it is obviously not your fault, but some colleagues still advise you to endure it; When you fall out with a friend because of some problem, there is always someone around you who advises you to take a step back, but he has no idea what you have been through; When you have a conflict with a stranger, there are always people who advise you to be tolerant, but no one thinks about how you feel in your heart.

Everyone is just using their own ideas to define other people's behavior, and then want to influence other people's decisions. Such a person can be called a Virgin, or it can be called generosity.

It is precisely because things did not happen to themselves that they judge it this way, and when they encounter these things themselves, they do not think this way.

People may be like this, always trying to export their own values, but there are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, and there can be no two people who are exactly the same.

It's good for us to focus on our own lives and not always try to "say good things" to others.

Because when others are kind to you, it is to make you change your mind and make a new choice, so it is to define your life.

Because a lot of persuasion and persuasion, most of which are not sincere, may draw a circle in your life and prevent you from crossing the line.

Because good words and persuasion are often imprisoning you in your comfort zone, enclosing you in this life, and there is no breakthrough.

That's because good words and persuasions are actually just added to your own life through other people's opinions, and may not be suitable for you.

When encountering uncivilized behavior when picking up the express, I may persuade him to remind him with good words, but I will not intervene too much, because we don't know each other, and we don't have this responsibility and obligation. If you encounter a conflict between someone who you don't want to pay attention to, you may suffer in the end, so more is better than less, I won't trouble myself! If you encounter something similar, you can follow the methods below.

1. Be courageous and not follow the crowd. If you are on the spot, persuade with gentle and gentle language. If you are in other places, you must do the work of persuasion, and your attitude must be soft, so that it is easier to get results.

2. It takes time to change an uncivilized habit, and it also requires the courage of the management department and the support of the public, and there are successful cases in this regard. Drunk driving has become a rat crossing the street, and not setting off fireworks within the outer ring is a good start. We hope that there will be fewer and fewer uncivilized attacks.

3. I think that although this society is very indifferent, there are fewer and fewer people who are brave and brave, it is not that people's hearts are getting colder, but that most of the time we have to learn to protect ourselves, especially with young children around us. We must better protect ourselves in order to ensure the safety of our children, sometimes a kind reminder is enough, and in the face of the premise that safety is not guaranteed, do not act blindly!

If you want to be a civilized person, you must first have a civilized mind. Thoughts are everything. First of all, we should cultivate the thinking of civilized people, read more books about literature, civilized people are generally smart people, and we must enrich ourselves.

The second is to imitate the behavior of civilized people, the tone of speech, and the manner of speech and behavior.

The third is to put into practice and practice more! Add a civilized move every day, and next year today, everyone will be impressed by you, and you must persevere!

Exhortational explanations.

1) [encourage each other] (2) [persuade] persuasion, persuasion, leniency, bad persuasion, detailed explanation (1).Encourage each other. (2).

persuasion; Expostulate. Song Su Shi "Qi Ting" poem 2: "I mourn the fish in the net again, and open my mouth to spit out a slightly wet ......."When we meet, we are not cold and warm, and we are most anxious to persuade each other.

Ding Ling, "The Stool in Qingyun is Hongqiao in a Small Room": The happier they scolded, the higher the laughter of persuasion. Absolute relative".

Words decompose the interpretation of phase phase ā interaction , and the action of behavior comes from both sides: mutual. Equal.

Same. Acquaintance. Legend (俷).

Match. Have. Phase (刵 ).

Dwarfed by. complement each other (the two cooperate with each other, showing the strengths of both parties). The action comes from one side and has a certain object

Believe. Annoying. Ask each other.

Explanation of persuasion persuasion (persuasion) à persuasion , to explain things and make people obey: to persuade. persuasion;

Persuade. Exhortation. Exhortation.

Console. Exhortation. Persuasion (feudal society persuasion is actually a person who has grasped power and intends to be an emperor to be an emperor).

Exhortation: Exhortation. Persuasion.

Persuasion. Persuasion.